(Part 3) Best childrens health books according to redditors
We found 298 Reddit comments discussing the best childrens health books. We ranked the 113 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the products ranked 41-60. You can also go back to the previous section.
Not a guy, so no firsthand experience here, but I wanted to offer a possible resource. This book and this other one are basically a curriculum on self-care before and during puberty - some of it written to the child and some to parents/teachers. It won't all apply to him (some of it is specific to girls or younger kids), so you'd need to read through it first and pick out the parts he needs to see.
I think voice and tone are the main markers of YA, and those are incredibly hard to nail down.
The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time, The Ranger's Apprentice, My Sister's Keeper, Miserere, The Midwife's Apprentice, The Catcher in the Rye, the His Dark Materials trilogy, Ella Enchanted, Catherine, Called Birdy, Fangirl, the Mistborn trilogy, Girls Like Us, various Tamora Pierce books, and Incarceron are all books that could be considered YA in some markets, but not in others (some are marketed up as adult literature, others down as children's books).
If you went solely by "characters being teenagers for most of the book" to define YA, (and even threw in caveats like "coming of age" and "no explicit sex") you'd get titles like Wild Ginger, The Poisonwood Bible, Balzac and the Little Chinese Seamstress, Into the Forest, or The Year of the Flood on the YA shelves, possibly disappointing a lot of people who aren't interested in such a dreary world view and often a pervading sense of melancholy (which is perhaps coming from the slower pace, even if things are happening all the time?).
Endings seem to play a role too: those adult examples were all unhappy ends that could make the characters' entire journey seem pointless. YA doesn't necessarily shy away from the unhappy ending (The Fault in Our Stars, The Girl of Fire and Thorns, and Feed come to mind), but there's always a spark of hope and the books were more upbeat up until that point.
YA doesn't necessarily shy away from cynicism or ennui and/or despair either: there was plenty of that to go around in The Hunger Games, Looking for Alaska, Graceling, Delirium, and The Archived, but those tended to be character traits coming from character voice rather than the tone of the narration itself.
Bonus MG vs YA distinction: Does he liiiiike her and maybe kiss her or marry her or are they dating or secretly lusting?
tl,dr: Gut feeling. I know it when I read it, and I don't always agree with the official designation on the spine.
Isn't your son on the autism spectrum? This book was recommended (I just checked it out from the library to read myself) to me. It may be useful to you (and to help your husband understand why babying him isn't good).
https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Push-Professionals-Spectrum-Successful/dp/1941765203/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1523057302&sr=8-1&keywords=the+loving+push
Some books that I have come across:
I can't really recommend one over any of the others (perhaps other posters can add their recommendations) as there were parts in all of them I found helpful, and other parts I found less helpful. Most of them are available on Kindle so you can have a look at the free samples to get an idea if any of them suit you.
Well, I did, like, you know... read this book?
Admittedly, my feelings did clue me in to the fact that my child is autistic. I knew the moment I held him he was different, so obviously before he received any vaccinations. (Which he has, all of them, and even on the recommended schedule. Vaccines did not cause my child to be autistic. His gene pool shaped who he is, and he is autistic.) Please note that nowhere in this thread have I advocated for people to eschew vaccinations. Quite the opposite, in fact. I simply wish there was more prudence worked into the schedule.
It seems reckless to expose a young child to such an array of harmful elements with one shot, as the cause of any potential adverse reaction cannot be determined. Apart from not being able to appropriately treat the child, how can doctors and researchers work towards reducing risk if they don't know where the risk originated?
People talk about lifespan increasing in recent generations, when it's the rate of infant mortality that has dropped. Babies used to die, and many still do who weren't as fortunate as mine. (One thing: Varicella, I take a different viewpoint - I think there's a socioeconomic element at play there, but... My kids still got it.)
I understand the why behind the schedule: If you've got the kid there in the office, get 'im done, instead of taking the risk the kid might not come back. And I can't say for sure that socioeconomics isn't a factor there as well. Fewer visits to the doctor means fewer days that need to be taken off from work, which is the reality for many parents.
Here is one book I found on Amazon, and this might be the workbook you saw. I don't know anything about either book other than what Amazon says, so look through them to make sure they're right for you. I'd also suggest exploring the Autistic Women and Nonbinary Network
We used this book with my son: Potty Training in 3 Days, we used m&ms as treats, 1 for peeing, 2 for poop. I actually found the log I took the other day... and I gave up after he realized going to the potty and even dripping a little gets him a treat, and he went 28 times in one hour. That was an arm work out! After the 3 days, we explained to him that treats are only for pooping, and after a month switched to stickers.
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We also dealt with some constipation the next week... but once we got over that hump, he started using the potty like a champ. The book is really good and has some great tips.
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One dad tip I'll give you is, replace the toilet seat with the ones that have a kid seat build into them. It makes peeing outside at restaurants and other bathrooms easier.
Need ideas for activities? Need to differentiate? Differentiation in Action is like my freakin' Bible. Go buy this, and use it.
Also, go buy Setting Limits in the Classroom. I read this book between my 2nd and 3rd year of teaching, where I was still struggling to get my classroom management down. I used a lot of these techniques this year, and just got the highest level of proficiency in classroom management on my review. The techniques work!
It's German https://www.amazon.de/dp/3862019500/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_hWhxCbP0GV08M
I have the next two volumes, too. Second (puberty/youth) isn't quite me. Didn't read the third, yet.
I've purchased and used some of the strategies in Rowena Bennett's Book: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Babys-Bottle-feeding-Aversion-Solutions/dp/1976164419
I also found this article helpful: https://www.reflux.org.au/articles/feeding_tips/feed-refusers-strategies-and-options/
FWIW our pediatrician gave us the go ahead to do more solids and just give bottles when baby gets really thirsty, aiming for at least 16 oz. a day and making sure he has 4 wet diapers. She is very happy with his continued weight gain and is not currently worried which is why she was ok with doing more solids as we see fit (he was below 10th percentile at some point and is now steadily in the upper 20s). Our son will cycle through periods of doing great then doing terribly and I have an inkling it has to do with the efficacy of our meds (we are on Omeprazole) as we reach the end of the bottle and the start of a new one.
Does your feeding therapist have any recommendations on what to do? It feels brutal to cycle through a few great weeks and then go right back to how he was before his allergies and reflux were addressed, so I feel your pain.
I am reading a really interesting one right now, written by two Aspies. Here is the link:
https://www.amazon.com/Unwritten-Rules-Social-Relationships-Perspectives-ebook/dp/B071KTJ255/ref=sr_1_3?Adv-Srch-Books-Submit.x=31&Adv-Srch-Books-Submit.y=9&qid=1573232970&refinements=p_27%3ATemple+Grandin%2Cp_20%3AEnglish&s=digital-text&sr=1-3&unfiltered=1
Encopresis? https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MJD7B4O/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Apparently the Denver Early Start Model is showing some good results. We have no therapists here in Western Australia... But I just wanted you to know that there are viable alternatives to ABA out there...
Having said that, my son gets ABA, and what that woman was doing, wasn't ABA. horrid, horrid woman !
Hmmm,... just read the rest of this thread... The ABA that my son gets breaks down each skill into a set of tiny tasks, which he is encouraged to complete using a "No.No.Show" method. So you show him what you want him to do, and then ask him to do it. If he refuses, or does it incorrectly, you say "No" the first two times, and the third time, you show him how to do it again. He gets LOTS of positive praise.
He gives all of his therapists grief the first time he meets them :) He's as stubborn as hell. He's yelled and carried on for twenty minutes or so when he first meets a therapist, to see what he can get away with. None of these beautiful young women has ever raised her voice, moved him involuntarily, or hurt him in any way. Listening to a woman twenty years younger than me singing to my screeching son, to distract him, has brought me to tears. I certainly don't have their patience or dedication.
And at the start of this year he had NO functioning language. He didn't even say "Mum". Now he asks for food and drinks, and to use the computer, and going to his special school (which also uses ABA) he waves to me and says "Bye Mum". ABA has given him that.
I do not deny in any way that ABA has a very dark past. I was actually warned by my providers against Googling for videos as some of them are incredibly distressing. ABA as it is practiced here uses no stronger an adversive than ignoring unwanted behaviour. I would like to stress again that what this awful woman did to your child was NOT ABA and it WAS abusive. Someone who thinks and behaves like that should,not be working with children at all, let alone special needs children..
Anyway, Floortime has some good ideas and the Denver Early Start Model does too. If you look them up on Amazon, you'll be able to get a good idea of what's involved in each method as people put loads of helpful info in the reviews.
Denver Early Start
Floortime
I also found It Takes Two to Talk useful, although its expensive... As well as The Verbal Behaviour Approach which is like a more DIY child-centred approach to Autism.
Lastly I would echo the PP who said "Trust your Mummy Instincts". Trust your Mummy instincts ! Don't be ashamed to hover outside the classroom (out of sight); ask more questions; fight for your child :)
This is a pretty tricky and uncomfortable area for most in the US. (They are either on one side or the other with no middle ground and people who know nothing about it will have very strong opinions one way or another :) ) I think one of the kindest ways I ever read anyone bridging into the subject of possible gluten-intolerance/gut issues was in a GFCF cookbook, maybe this one though I'm not 100% sure it was that one. The authors basically said, "Autism is often only diagnosed as a psychological or psychiatric disorder and if underlying medical causes have not been investigated, well, you can't rule it out - so check for celiac disease" Additionally, researchers have found statistical links between maternal autoimmune disease and autism so they are looking at the possible autoimmune connection. Since there is no single test for autism, I think it's worth keeping an open mind to the possibility that researchers have not quite figured out a few medical causes of autism-like symptoms that might be helped by medical intervention. As far as putting that in front of partner's mom? Only if it happens to come up and only as sort of an "aside" comment. Like, "well, I've heard this info about the autoimmune connection and sometimes misdiagnosis and thought it was really interesting what researchers are finding these days & I would just be so glad if was any help to to you" or something. Maybe?
edit: At lunch I went double checking for some of the interesting research. Here's a nice little one about rates of abnormalities in intestinal barrier in autistics and first-degree relatives. Results "indicate that measuring IPT [intestinal permeability] could help to identify a subgroup of patients with autism who could benefit from a gluten-free diet." Note the word "subgroup" - very important for us all-or-nothing-americans to pay attention to. :) There's a pdf here that's an editorial not a peer reviewed bit of research and seems to be an overview of medical literature relevant to gastrointestinal disorders in autistic children.
I like these ones:
http://www.amazon.com/Newbies-Guide-Positive-Parenting/dp/149046364X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1409235967&sr=8-1&keywords=the+newbie's+guide+to+positive+parenting#
http://www.amazon.com/Positive-Parenting-Action-How--Principles/dp/1490413588/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1409235903&sr=8-1&keywords=positive+parenting+in+action
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000OVLKEA/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?qid=1415501502&sr=8-2&pi=AC_SX110_SY165_QL70
Edit:
Forgot this link
http://www.triplep.net/glo-en/home/
I took some of their classes and loved them!
ASD, ADD and ADHD all have overlap, so that can certainly be a factor. Even if your son (or you) doesn't have a diagnosis, it can't hurt to educate yourself on ASD. This book is often recommended where I am: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Visual-explanation-Psycho-education-ASD/dp/9491337378