Best divorce & seoaration family law books according to redditors
We found 28 Reddit comments discussing the best divorce & seoaration family law books. We ranked the 8 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
First, let me say that I am sorry for your misfortune. But rest assured, it is temporary - keep reminding yourself of that.
The best scenario is for you and your husband to tell your son together. He will be confused and any loss he feels might not show up until later - and even then, it could show up repeatedly.
Here is the gist of what he needs to know.
I have had clients say, "Is it that simple?" The answer is yes, it is. If you were facing an issue like cancer or bankruptcy, chances are you would tailor the message for your child to match their age level and so as not to alarm them. Same thing here.
By the way, I cannot emphasize enough #3. Children are very sensitive to this as they are immature (they are children, after all) and start thinking if only they were better, Mommy and Daddy would not be getting a divorce. You and your husband can help by attending a parenting for divorced parents together, or just you go if he is not willing. Remember, divorce is the death of a marriage, but it is NOT the death of a family - there are just new dynamics that have to be learned. You and your husband need to learn now how to co-parent your son. And yes, one may be better at it than the other - but you can only be responsible for yourself.
Now, that does not mean your child won't still be confused. And sad. That is normal. If those feelings start manifesting in destructive behavior (e.g., bed wetting, inattention at school, trouble sleeping), find someone qualified to help him. But for now, don't get too concerned. Divorce is not a light-hearted matter, but it is also not a time for your child to cue off your stress. Keep his routine going as much as possible (for you it's just Taco Tuesday, while for him it is something he takes very seriously) so he can see that change can come into his life but it does not mean the end of the world.
Hang in there, Mom! And remember, divorce cannot keep you from your job as mother.
Best regards,
Stephanie A. Richer
Co-author of "California Divorce: Plain and Simple"
I did it myself in MA for a whopping $250 with 2 kids in the mix.
We both agreed on everything including custody, financial support etc.
Did it all without lawyers.. just a lot of reading..
The most important thing is the separation agreement which will contain custody information. You need to get that right. The more detailed the better. (Mine was 32 pages) There are tons of examples out there and the best resource for me was this book:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/1413320678/ref=cm_sw_su_dp
And for the general process:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/1413317138/ref=cm_sw_su_dp
It can be done, its a lot of paperwork that will need to be on the correct paper (colors, weight, acid free archival etc)
Feel free to PM me if needed, I may not be familiar with CA.. but I can point you in the right direction if needed.
There's a book out called The Successful Divorce that details your rights in Alabama. https://www.amazon.com/More-Successful-Divorce-Alabama/dp/0965927385?SubscriptionId=AKIAILSHYYTFIVPWUY6Q&tag=duckduckgo-ffab-20&linkCode=xm2&camp=2025&creative=165953&creativeASIN=0965927385
I don't know where you are but in Michigan you only need to pay the fees. I got this book from a bookstore and it had all the forms in it. (can't remember what filing fees were). This only works if you actually get along and agree on everything (which we did)
http://www.amazon.com/Michigan-Divorce-Book-Uncontested-Attorney/dp/0936343117
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> That puts the burden of proof on finding those others on you! This is basic debate. This is high school level shit!
May be I need to come back and debate after I have had sleep then.
Chew on this. It supports what I had to say.
http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/dv.html
http://www.amazon.com/Divorced-Justice-Children-Divorce-Lawyers/dp/0060391847
There's a book about it.
Have you tried contacting his old law partners?
Barandes appears to be still practicing (http://nearyous.com/b22000522/2123081717-gerald-barandes-law-office-new-york-city-1-212-308-1717.html)
He also worked with Irving I. Erdheim and Michael F. Erdheim at one point, may be worth asking the too.
Edit: It also looks like he wrote at least two books on divorce law, maybe try those publishers too?