(Part 3) Top products from r/OkCupid

Depends on how old you are.

• Middle school: I really enjoyed this, this, and this, but I don't think I can read those books now (29) without cringing a little bit. Especially, Getting Things Done because I already know how to make to do list, but I still flip through all 3 books occastionally.
  
  
• High school: I really enjoyed this, this, and this, but if you're a well adjusted human and responsible adult, then I don't think you'll find a lot of helpful advice from these 6 books so far because it'll be pretty basic information.
  
  
• College: I really enjoyed this, this, and started doing Malcolm Gladwell books. The checklist book helped me get more organized and So Good They Can't Ignore You was helpful starting my career path.
  
• Graduate School: I really enjoyed this, this, and this. I already stopped with most "self help" books and reading more about how to manage my money or books that looked interesting like Stiff.
  
  
• Currently: I'm working on this, this, and this. Now I'm reading mostly for fun, but all three of these books are way out of my league and I have no idea what their talking about, but they're areas of my interest. History and AI.

The problem is many self-help books and well meaning friends will setup the false premise that being "a sorority girl who is extroverted and affectionate" as some sort of ideal you want to shoot for. Nothing could be further than the truth. There's nothing wrong with being "unexcitable" or laconic or "aloof" or "weird" if that's the real you. This book has a good take on the subject:

https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

Instead of feeling bad about who you are, why not hang out with people who are more like you or simply accepting of who you are? Find activities you like that are accepting of people like you and you'll meet someone who is a better fit.

For example, I joined a community orchestra called The Really Terrible Orchestra that was full of misfits and super accepting of everyone. Meetup has groups that cater to introverts. My local area has Bookworms Night Out, for example.

Har de har har to all the comedians replying to you... here are some non-joke answers:

• Dataclysm, by OKCupid founder Christian Rudder
  
• Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar, an advice columnist I happen to love who could teach a lot of OKC users a thing or two
  
• OKCupid A-List gift subscription (you'd have to know their username... could maybe print out a homemade "coupon" for them to redeem with you later if you don't know it)
  
• phone tripod, for taking better profile selfies

I definitely recommend Iball butterfly vibrator!

I used Hitachi vibrator several years ago, it's powerful enough and can last about 2-3 years. But not wireless,Its wire is only 2-3 inch, I felt be pulled when use it, also it's very noisy, I think people in the next room can hear the sound. Also it's heavy than most other sex toys, not waterproof, and easy to get hot after turning on more than ten minutes...

Compared with Hitachi vibrator, iball butterfly vibrator is lighter, powerful enough, wireless, waterproof and quite. It won't get hot when using it. Besides I really love its beautiful butterfly shape. I got it half an year ago, it still works very well.

Iball vibrator link

Hitachi vibrator link

> I...what?

Yeah, I know.

> trying to explain to a friend of mine that I will not have sex with him.

That really shouldn’t require an explanation, and I can’t imagine engaging would ever go well.

> different to that

Are you British?

> (I am intrigued by high functioning schizophrenics, in all honesty, since I am very close to one and all of my information is observed and guesswork and I want to understand better.)

I’m sure there’s something you could read (1, 2, 3).

I'm basing most of my assumptions on attachment theory and I'm fairly certain you and I have similar attachment styles.

They have recommendations in there for anxious attachments and I think specifically for us they recommend getting into self-help and using some form of mindfulness therapy to deal with anxiety. Inner Bonding and Vipassana meditation are what have helped me the most.

I really can't recommend therapy enough though. A good coach helps a lot if you can commit to 6-12 months.

Probably too late to this thread but relevant question:

Has anyone read Ready Player One? A friend recommended it for post-grad school applications fun reading but I made the mistake of starting it 2 days ago when apps are due this Friday and I'm so hooked I'm spending my lunch breaks reading it instead of editing my essays.

I am sooooo obsessed with them. I'm reading "Meet Me in the Bathroom" and it's breaking my heart. But also making me fall in love all over again.

I love reading, it's nice to get back to it. Was that the Starbucks at North and Wells? I'm over in that area every Wednesday for my running thing. It's always so busy. I'm currently reading America's Women which is fascinating and I'm sad I'm nearly done, but I have a biography of Ernest Shackleton next that I am very excited to start.

omg I just read this novel about triplet sisters called Three Wishes by Liane Moriarty and it was hilarious--it opens on their 34th birthday dinner with one sister throwing and imbedding a fondue fork into one of the other sister's pregnant belly--and simultaneously made me desperately wish I had been a triplet and supremely thankful I'm not one haha.

I'd also like to add Quiet. It's a really great book.

I actually like this one much better, but maybe I like drinking a little too much.

How do you know what's on my bookshelf?

Book like that a little, but more serious like Lewis: Flashpoints by George Friedman

This reminds me of my favorite childrens' book, Harold and the Purple Crayon, when he washes up on a desert island so draws himself a picnic with 13 different kinds of pie, eats one piece of each pie, and then draws a porcupine and a moose to finish the rest.

I just started this. I'm kind of in love.

http://www.amazon.com/Know-Youre-Out-There-Humiliations/dp/0307338096

This is the book that got me into the idea of online dating. Definitely light, but contemplative where it should be.

Excuse me for being the voice of reason.

Perhaps more people should jump on the logic train

Where was this type of post last week when I was in B&N looking for a summer read?


Anyways, I picked up Wicked and a collection of seven Jane Austen novels.

I'm going to leave this right here: https://www.amazon.com/4-Hour-Workweek-Escape-Live-Anywhere/dp/0307465357

All that's in the cart are these bath crayons for my kids.

My last purchase was this drunk impulse buy on the recommendation of my dude, this cleansing oil, and the pulp cover version of Neverwhere.