(Part 3) Top products from r/StraightPegging

For the best beginner experience, the dildo needs to have an adequate insertable length and a comfortable diameter. I advise strongly against pegging kits I've seen from otherwise great brands; they are a waste of money and can provide a bad first time pegging experience. Why? Dildo is too short at 4-inches and harness is flimsy (straps don't provide a snug fit low enough on her pubis bone which you need for control). I've been pegging for 15 years and have taken many pegging v-cards. My number one recommendation for a dildo is the Vixen Creations Mistress Dildo. You can find it on Amazon for $42. The best reasonably priced harness I have used as of late is the U Strap Avalon Jock Style Strap on Harness also available on Amazon for around $30. I have suggestions on how to improve the harness out of the box if you go with this one. DM for those. I suggest water-based for pegging because silicone lube ruins silicone toys and lube gets all over the giver's hands making them very slick. The giver needs her hands free and clear to guide the dildo. I keep a damp black washcloth by me at all times when pegging to deal with excess lube on my hands. I use Wet Light Liquid Water-Based (also available from Amazon at about $8) All USD. I can give you reasons why all of the above are my tried and trues for budget friendly pegging but this would make the post long. Wishing you and your pegging princess happy pegging. Welcome to the #peggingrevolution. :)

Lube: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00CPQUP3E/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_image_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1

Didlo (link is to a glitter dildo, but they come in black too): https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00L06BDYK/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Harness: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00R6WVV2Q/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s01?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Wife wears an 18-20



We have this one. it is her current favorite.

We have the Tomboi which is comfy for her, I don’t find it as sexy, but she has good control.

We also have this one. I find this one very sexy, but it’s not as soft and comfortable.

And we have this one I do not recommend this one however, as my wife said it felt too much like wearing hiking gear.

Firmness is fine, but width on a soft dildo beats a thinner hard dildo any day of the week.


I recommend the Outlaw by Vixen, its large, yes, but it is also deliciously soft and fills me up as it pounds my prostate just right. Plus she can slip in in DEEEEP and that's a whole nother amazing feeling once you build up to it.


https://www.amazon.com/Vixen-Creations-Outlaw-Vixskin-Caramel/dp/B0026CN4OY/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8&th=1

Yes, bondage is great for getting into that headspace.

Spreader bars are great.

We have a chain hanging from our ceiling, which she can chain me to, similar to the way in the photo on this book cover

This is fun And it keeps your legs held up so she can fuck you good in missionary

We have this, but have only used it on her so far

another type of sling we have

Our bed is one that has lots of places that can be used as tie down points. So rope is always something that works really well. You just have to be careful with ropes. You need to learn the proper knots- knots that will hold good, but can't cinch up accidentally and cut off circulation. Lots of good tutorials on youtube.

Sure man - I'll even do a follow-up comment when I have a chance to talk to him about it (he's out with the kid right now).

I know that he did a workbook, here's the link to the one he chose, I think per recommendation from the counselor: https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Way-Workbook-Depression-Emotional/dp/1462508146/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=cbt+workbook+for+anxiety+8+weeks&qid=1567360748&s=gateway&sr=8-5

He not only went through and did every exercise in order, he went through it a second time with a good friend. Per him, this one was most effective.

Here's another book he read, to directly deal with panic attacks (to be fair, he gave this one mixed reviews): https://www.amazon.com/Worry-Trick-Brain-Tricks-Expecting/dp/1626253188/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=the+worry+cure&qid=1567360943&s=gateway&sr=8-5

He used meditation a LOT - mostly apps on his phone, the usual ones that you've probably heard of - and for a while did meditation every single day. He still does meditation from time to time when things get overwhelming.

Lastly but not leastly, he went on a very low dose of Lexapro. He's calm enough now that I wonder sometimes if he still needs the meds, but frankly, it's his body his business and for all I know the meds are what is making the calmness happen! ^^; I do think it's important to note that he's never had to use a higher dose, and I think the techniques he learned which halted the spiral.

Last, CBD... do you mean cannabis, or controlled behavioral therapy? We have not done marijuana since The Incident and likely never will again ^^; I think some of what he worked through was controlled behavioral therapy.... but I'll ask him tonight :)

Make some time for yourself. Plenty of time. Get a bottle of lube and a smaller size dildo. (Not a hard vibrator) cover your bed with towels. Slowly start to play with yourself. Find what feels good. Keep a slow pace. Remember that your exploring. After sometime, your going to feel a warm comfort come over you. Your going to want to speed up. Go into the shower and continue picking up the pace. It might get messy. (I suggest buying bidet)you can use it before, during and after. You will feel an orgasm build. It will be like no other. Don't force it. If you get there, congratulations. If you don't, try again in a couple of days. Once you get more comfortable with your body, start involving your wife again.

We've found that the Fun Factory Boosty, while being a butt plug by design, is actually great in this situation for vaginal insertion. The inner shape can fit snugly and press against her g-spot, while the outer "tongue" provides a nice soft bit of silicone for her clit to grind against.

It works really well!!

I can recommend this: Vaultz Storage

It’s like it’s meant for adult toys. Discreet, holds quite a bit, combination locks (no “where did I put that key?”), handles on each end and soft pads on the underside, so it easily slides in under the bed and away from curious looks.

Here are a few links for harnesses and dildos. Hope it helps.

https://www.amazon.com/Sportsheets-Divine-Diva-Plus-Strap/dp/B001UJS37C

https://www.amazon.com/SpareParts-HardWear-Joque-Double-Harness/dp/B002DWGVDI/ref=sr_1_1_s_it?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1519924713&sr=1-1&keywords=spareparts%2Bjoque%2Bharness&th=1

https://www.myspare.com/product/sasha

Strapless dildos but still need a harness for stability

https://us.funfactory.com/en/vibrators/sharevibe/

https://vixen-creations.myshopify.com/collections/vixskin/products/vixen-nexus?variant=40943604176

https://vixen-creations.myshopify.com/collections/original-formula/products/nexus-junior?variant=1663683908

https://vixen-creations.myshopify.com/collections/original-formula/products/nexus-senior?variant=1662979908

It takes some time but you’ll get use to it. Just need to learn to relax a little and tell the wife not quite so hard and fast. Slow grinding action and do not pull all the way out. Do you feel like the length or the girth is giving you problems?

My wife doesn’t give me much of a warm up. I use my butt plug to get things ready for her. No fingers or anything else. She starts out with the Vixskin Slim in a slow grinding motion until she’s worked her way into my ass hard and fast. Never pulling completely out, then she switches. Over to an off-brand dildo that she got at a local bookstore that is 2” x 8”. She says it makes me squirm more, but she breaks me in the same way she does with the Vixskin Slim. If she feels I haven’t had enough, but she’s getting a little tired. Then it is onto a hand-held medium Falcon Manrammer. She never pulls quite all the way out so that air is pushed in. But you’ll feel well used once she is done.

I bought one on amazon.Unfortunately couldnt find to send the link.After digging further,Happy to share
https://www.amazon.com/Pipedream-Fetish-Fantasy-Double-Delight/dp/B002HRENMK

Works for both of us !!

Maybe try working with a toy like this to work your way up to fisting.

Ignite Goose with Suction Probe,... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JGN7UFA?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

And, is this a good option?

https://www.amazon.com/Carrington-Farms-Organic-Virgin-Coconut/dp/B00CPZPYLS/ref=sr_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1474068205&sr=8-3&keywords=coconut%2Boil&th=1

This was my challenge until recently. I managed to get the head in: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JGN7VUO

I'm okay that the 18" dildo doesn't fit all the way in. It's not flared and I don't want it to get lost.

In the past I have taken coconut oil and melted it. Then took a silicone ice tray...the ones than make cylindrical cubes to put in water bottles...filled them up and stuck them in the freezer. When the need arises just grab one and slip it in and it will melt and lubricate. That coupled with Sliquid Silk....you should have zero issues.

https://www.amazon.com/Elbee-Silicone-Bottles-Release-Sticks/dp/B00NO1Y3UA/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1549472458&sr=8-3&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=Elbee+Home+Silicone+Ice+Stick+Mold&dpPl=1&dpID=41iECCj1qTL&ref=plSrch