(Part 3) Top products from r/TheRedPill

OK, let's keep this simple and focussed. There are apps out there for subscription services, like Headspace or Calm, but I would strongly advise downloading 'Insight Timer' https://insighttimer.com. This is free (there is some paid content for extra ambient sounds or other bells, but those also are extremely cheap, like a couple of dollars, and you don't need to spend anything to get full use of the app), and is an excellent timer, everything you need. But it is much more than that. It also has loads of guided meditations and extra content for free, it tracks your sessions, includes a log for you to make notes, has groups for you to join, ask questions of, or encourage each other. You can't go wrong with this, it is extremely popular, and deserves to be.

If you don't know what it is all about, and don't have a teacher, then I highly suggest getting a copy of a new book called The mind illuminated: A complete meditation guide integrating buddhist wisdom and brain science by Culadasa, Matthew Immergut, and Jeremy Graves (Amazon lists Graves as the author) https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mind-Illuminated-Complete-Meditation-Integrating/dp/0990847705?ie=UTF8&ref_=pe_385721_139497151_TE_item. This will take you step by step through the process from the very beginning to advanced training in vipassana and samatha. You may also like A path with a heart by Jack Kornfield https://www.amazon.co.uk/Path-Heart-Jack-Kornfield/dp/0712657800/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1467744239&sr=1-1&keywords=jack+kornfield+books, an old classic in the field. There are of course books about specific traditions within Buddhism, like those by the Dalai Llama, or Zen Training by Katsuki Sekida https://www.amazon.co.uk/Zen-Training-Philosophy-Katsuki-Sekida-ebook/dp/B007WVNUUW/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1467744277&sr=1-1&keywords=zen+training+methods+and+philosophy, but those first two are very good.

You may want to invest in a Zafu https://bluebanyan.co.uk/meditation-cushions/zafu-cushions-buckwheat.html and Zabuton https://bluebanyan.co.uk/meditation-mats/meditation-mat-flat-mat.html, but many westerners prefer a chair anyway.

Basically, meditation is taking your mind to the gym. Even without all the other benefits (and it does change the structure of your brain), even just the increase in self-discipline and stress reduction makes it very worth while.

To be honest it almost sounds like you are trying to psychologically project the TRP version of a Beta onto him so you can feel better about yourself. Once people develop these broad ideologies they become a hammer and everything begins to look like a nail. fact is you have a few examples of "possible beta" behavior in a very incomplete picture. By your assessment that he is an 8 on the attractiveness scale I think you are viewing him as better looking than yourself. Is there some jealousy involved?

The best thing you can do in not concern yourself with theoretical aspects of the redpill on relationships you only have a small window into. Go fucking workout, eat well, and talk to women you want to fuck, like you already fucked them. The best aspect on TRP, in my opinion, is the self improvement focus.

Get cut, fit and healthy with paleo:
http://www.marksdailyapple.com/

Get ripped without a gym with progressive calisthenics:
http://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Your-Own-Gym/dp/0345528581

Get a hobby and find your passion/motivation!

Good luck, I've done these two things myself with excellent results.

I feel I could have written this - though not quite so well. I was introverted, bookish and non-sporty at school, never had a girlfriend before university, and my self-image was definitely based around beliefs like "I am not the kind of person people find attractive or interesting". After getting to uni and meeting different people, circumstances changed but the beliefs did not - much as you have said.

A while ago, I went over all the times I can remember 'missing signals' - either through being genuinely oblivious or by second-guessing myself - and the number was at least twice the number of girls I've actually had sex with. There were a few 'how on earth did I not pick that up?' situations, and occasionally I have seemed to have gone out of my way to sabotage a situation, looking for any indicator that she wasn't interested.

Once, at the end of term, a girl who I felt might be flirting with me suggested I meet her and her friends for a drink later that night. I went along - the friends left almost immediately after I arrived. She had finished her drink, so I asked her if she wanted another: she said 'no', and I instantly thought 'she doesn't find me attractive'. If I had assumed 'she probably wants out of here and in my bed as soon as possible' I'd have another notch on my bedpost...

That isn't the worst part - after she left, a couple of drunk girls who had been sitting opposite actually called me over and explained that she had obviously been into me, what on earth were you thinking, etc. etc. I'm cringing just thinking of it.

Thinking back on it, I was hardly ever the one who initiated sex even when I did get laid - it was always them coming on to me, or a very gradual build up where I didn't make any bold moves. Logically I should conclude that I must be pretty attractive for them to be pulled in by such terrible game, and in a very intellectualised sense I 'know' I am... The thing is that I don't 'feel' it on an instinctive level. A related point: when actually having sex, I'm fine being rough and dominant with girls I don't really care about - you might say, girls I'm 'questionably attracted to' - but with ones I do I practically freeze up.

Thanks for the post, it's given me a great reminder to actually do something about this. I'm already looking into mindfulness meditation as a way of helping out with these and other problems - the main principle of it is to stop obsessing over both the future and the past, and live more 'in the moment'. It seems to be the basis of this book: http://www.amazon.com/Charisma-Myth-Science-Personal-Magnetism/dp/1591845947 which looks like a great resource for TRP.

Watch The Rubin Report on YouTube. Dave Rubin interviewed both Ben Shapiro and Jordan Peterson, as well as MANY of the other names I see posted by others here. He interviews people from different political, social, and economic philosophies. I even fund him on Patreon because his channel is great (and important).

 

If I had to pick three people that made the most dramatic impact on my life in terms of how I think, seek and evaluate evidence, and use reason, these people would be at the top. While the people on my list did not always agree on everything, I do believe that they are/were intellectually honest:

 

Thomas Sowell

• One of many interviews
  
  
• Basic Economics
  
  
• Black Rednecks and White Liberals - this book changed the way I think quite a bit
  
  Carl Sagan (Science-related things aside, he wrote a bit on Philosophy of thought)
  
  
• MUST WATCH - Great excerpt read by him in his book Pale Blue Dot
  
  
• The Demon-Haunted World
  
  Ayn Rand
  
  
• Interview with Mike Wallace
  
  
• The Fountainhead
  
  
• Read Atlas Shrugged after Fountainhead - this book honestly changed my life
  
  I hope that helps! :)

Mindfulness in Plain English In a lot of ways this was like my Red Pill before the Red Pill. To quote:
> “There you are, and you suddenly realize that you are spending your life barely getting by. You keep up a good front. You manage to make ends meet somehow and look okay from the outside. But those periods of desperation, those times when you feel everything caving in on you – you keep those to yourself. Meanwhile, way down under all of that, you just know there has to be a better way to live. A better way to look at the world, a way to touch life more fully. You click into it by chance now and then: you get a good job. You fall in love. You win the game. For a while, things are different. Life takes on a richness and clarity that makes all the bad times and humdrum fade away. The whole texture of your experience changes and you say to yourself. “Okay, now I’ve made it; now I will be happy.” You are left with just a memory – that, and the vague awareness that something is wrong.
You fell that there really is a whole other realm of depth and sensitivity available in life; somehow you are just not seeing it. You wind up feeling cut off. You feel insulated from the sweetness of experience by some sort of sensory cotton. You are not really touching life. You are not “making it” again. Then even the vague awareness fades away, and you are back to the same old reality. The world looks like the usual foul place. It is an emotional roller coaster, and you spend a lot of your time down at the bottom of the ramp yearning for the heights”

>The first statement is what psychologist and author Jack Schafer calls an empathic statement.

His book is amazing and a must read after Dale Carnegie's book.

One of the easiest things I've learned when it came to attraction is simply empathy. Make them feel like you care about them, or make them feel good about themselves.

Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women: Romance Writers on the Appeal of the Romance (New Cultural Studies)

Romance novel are the straight equivalent of porn for women. While a minority of women enjoy porn, a majority loves and consumes romance novels much in the same guilty way men consume porn.

Here the writers (all women) explain how they make their readers tick. Unlike when you ask a woman what she likes, here you get exactly what works.

edit: sorry, not free I guess but worth a read if you can find the book; Amazon has cheap used copies.

Trumps trade policy is actually smart and dead on.

Free trade is not beneficial to 1st world countries that want to make stuff.
1st world companies cannot compete with a penny an hour labor 3rd world companies that have zero trade restrictions to sell to those 1st world customers. OR multi-nat companies that use 3rd world labor to make stuff to sell to 1st world customers (hint: what do the 1st world people do for work)

That's economics 101. Free trade is as crazy as a 3rd party corporation printing a sovereign government's money then charging that country interest on the "loans" that that 3rd party corporation (federal reserve) lends by printing money to give to the government.

see Ha Joon Changs book- bad Samaritans

http://www.amazon.com/Bad-Samaritans-Secret-History-Capitalism/dp/1596915986/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1462382729&sr=8-1&keywords=Ha+Joon+Changs


About how free trade has always been lies and how good governments have a much stronger role in trade and commerce that we think.

take the red pill of business and economics.

First of all, I would like to state that before mentioning my additions that books should be thought of like classes in college. Yes, you need the basic knowledge to go do what you're going to do, but you also need to get off your ass and apply it.

Without further ado, here are my recommendations in addition to what was mentioned.

Pimp by Iceberg Slim (Robert Beck). It's a nice introduction to the psychology of gaming women on top of an interesting exploration of race, gender and intersectionality. It's smarter than it's rep.

The Mystery Method by Mystery (Erik von Markovik). It's not a great book, but it gives you immediate actionable steps to apply immediately. Then, once you read the theory and get experience, you can apply what you learned.

The Red Queen by Matt Ridley. This should be read with the next book to up your fundamentals in evo-psych.

Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan. Written as a critique of the first book, these two will give you some deeper theory of evo-psych.

I travel and move a lot for my job, my hotel budget isn't such that I can stay at places stocked with a great gym too often, so I'm a fan of body exercises and minimal lightweight equipment.

I like this book, because it has a decent smartphone app and is cheap. Once you get advanced, also look into Convict Conditioning and gymnastic program like GymnasticBodies or the like (GB tends to be expensive and heavy on the upsell, there should be a cheaper series with the same stuff in it).

https://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808

https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1539842520&sr=1-1&keywords=a+new+earth

I'm not here preaching spirituality, but sometimes as a man what is true for the woman is also what is true for the nature of life. This is a powerful method of holding frame and stoicism which can work anywhere. Actually what got me interested in it was when Eckhart tolle described the pain body as responsible for a lot of the irrational behaviour of women and the failure of most relationships.

He also excellently described the way egos work.

I would like to recommend Jeff Olson’s The Slight Edge on the compound effects of little choices and small steps in life. Here’s a quote from it:

“The truth is, what you do matters. What you do today matters. What you do every day matters. Successful people just do the things that seem to make no difference in the act of doing them and they do them over and over and over until the compound effect kicks in.”

There’s also a nice video review of the book:
https://youtu.be/bi7yB7wH3to

I would suggest to do 3 things before you dive into any philosophy books.

The first is enroll and take the Coursera Learning to Learn course(it's free). The second is to read Mortimer J. Adler's How to read a book, and the third is to read Susan Wise Bauer's The Well Educated Mind.

After finishing those, pick up a general history of philosophy book, and dive into the primary sources, starting with the early philosophers, such as Plato and Aristotle, and branching off into any branch of philosophy that interest you.

The /r philosophy subreddit can be a useful tool in learning where to go once you start, I suggest a couple 'where to begin' searches to get a reading list.

Dangerous Men, Adventurous Women

Read this. Explains appeal of romance lit. Rife with RP truths.

> You disbelieve that monogamy created the social stability that was conducive to economic growth?

No, I don't. Agriculture and advanced weapons systems in warfare was far more important than fucking one woman for the rest of your life.

>Wow. Read just about any book on the subject; ie: http://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Civilization-Monogamy-Made-Human/dp/1621572013 .

I find arguments that rely on claims about how people lived in prehistoric times singularly unpersuasive. The simple fact is that we have no data about the details of family life nor sexual mores in prehistoric times, and any claims about such are pure speculation.

>Any gains from polygamy are eroded by the conflicts they create.

Yeah, because monogamy has been conflict free historically. I think you are mistaking marriage(which was historically more about property exchange and not raising children, e.g. married fathers where once not-required to support bastard children) with monogamy. There is simply no proof that the one woman/one man dynamic has ever advanced civilization. Monogamy may have never been the cause of civilization , but rather more likely that the success of dominant cultures, which have monogamous values, causes more monogamy within that culture's civilization and the same thing can be said of polygamous cultures.

I strongly recommend Dr. Leonard Sax's book "Boys Adrift."

http://www.amazon.com/Boys-Adrift-Epidemic-Unmotivated-Underachieving/dp/0465072100

Especially for any fathers here, concerned about these excellent points raised by JayGatsbyFan.

Amazon.com links provided:

1 The Slight Edge

2 Mastery

3 The 4-Hour Workweek

4 The Art of Power

5 Thinking, Fast, and Slow

6 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

7 The Power of Now

8 The Power of Habit

9 Whatcha Gonna Do with That Duck?

10 The 48 Laws of Power

11 Your True Home

12 Ego Is the Enemy

13 The 4 Hour Body

14 The UltraMind Solution

15 The Dip

You disbelieve that monogamy created the social stability that was conducive to economic growth? Wow. Read just about any book on the subject; ie: http://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Civilization-Monogamy-Made-Human/dp/1621572013 . Any gains from polygamy are eroded by the conflicts they create.

> There’s a massive fallacy in thinking that just because you read something means you understood it.

https://www.amazon.com/How-Read-Book-Intelligent-Touchstone/dp/0671212095

There are 3 reasons about this:

a) For a huge segment of the population, the act of reading a whole book is an accomplishment in itself. Once you've done such an epic thing, how can you tell yourself that now you have to actually go and understand what you were reading? :D

b) Just like breathing, just because you can, doesn't mean you're good at it. But it feels trivial so it's easy to assume that you have the skill, when if fact you don't.

c) Some people read without the intention of understanding, but for other reasons, such as pleasure or peer pressure.

I'll close off with my favorite phrase that pisses off people: "50% of humans have a below average IQ".

The recommendations from other Red Pillers are pretty good so far, let me add some things that are a little bit different.

Sperm Wars

The Mating Mind

Dangerous Passion or just about anything from David M. Buss.

> Wow, once I saw this book was banned here in the U.S., I had to get it just to see why and, wow. The author has brought up things that men hardly think about in relation to the women in their lives. Of course any feminist-minded female or puzzy whipped male would disagree due to their personal experiences or beliefs, but Chinweizu has very, very valid and strong points that readers of both sexes have to consider if they are honest about themselves and the environment we live in. After all, you have to wonder why this little book was banned and by whom. I'll leave you with one of the quotes form the book, "Men may rule the world, but women rule the men that rule the world"...and that was before feminism.

Enjoy.

I'm currently reading "The book: On the taboo of knowing who you are" by Alan Watts, very similar stuff and pretty easy to understand. Good stuff so far. From the inside fap: A witty attack on the illusion that the self is a separate ego that confronts a universe of alien physical objects.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Book-Taboo-Against-Knowing/dp/0679723005

Are you talking about this one

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0679723005/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1478196119&sr=8-3&pi=SL75_QL70&keywords=The+book

By Allan Watts?
I discovered it yesterday and its going to arrive in a couple of days. Glad To hear I’m not wasting my time with it.

The Intelligence Rift:

Bell Curve: Intelligence and Class Structure in American Life by Richard J. Herrnstein and Charles Murray

On Civilization:

Collapse: How Societies Choose to Fail or Survive by Jared Diamond

Gums, Germs & Steel: A short history of everybody for the last 13,000 years by Jared Diamond

The Fate of Empires and Search for Survival by Sir John Bagot Glubb

I recommend this book to those who are thinking the same questions, how to get what you want without causing harm.

http://www.amazon.com/King-Warrior-Magician-Lover-Rediscovering/dp/0062506064

Bonus redpill: https://www.amazon.com/Creature-Jekyll-Island-Federal-Reserve/dp/091298645X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1518294645&sr=8-1&keywords=the+creature+from+jekyll+island

> Requesting the equivalent of 5x5 or starting strength, for meditation.

[The Mind Illuminated, Culadasa (aka, John Yates)] (https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Illuminated-Complete-Meditation-Integrating/dp/0990847705)

A good book I've read recently about understanding your self was King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. Really helped me understand what was missing/imbalanced in my personality.

The trick is recognising what is a "friend signal" and what is a "foe signal".

A chin up nod with a "what's up" after unwavering eye contact could definitely be seen as a foe signal. A better way to disarm people after making eye contact is with an "eyebrow flash".

Most humans instinctively do this when our gazes meet with someone we like or have no beef with. We do this half second raise of our eyebrows before we break eye contact. It's a universal signal which conveys: "I've got not quarrel with you, I'm your friend and am just acknowledging your existence." without having any submissive implications like bowing your head and gazing down.

Just start watching people as you make eye contact (especially male coworkers) you will notice that 9 times out of 10, you get this eyebrow flash. If you don't, it indicates that they probably don't like you or are nervous and see you as some kind of threat.

source

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Anatomy of Female Power by Chinweizu - PDF here.

Europeans were able to conquer so much of the world due to agriculture (which drives the economy, which in turn leads to a drive in culture).

You should read this: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Guns-Germs-Steel-history-everybody/dp/0099302780/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1420227829&sr=8-1&keywords=jared+diamond

http://www.amazon.com/The-Charisma-Myth-Personal-Magnetism/dp/1591845947

http://www.amazon.com/Atlas-Shrugged-Ayn-Rand/dp/0451191145

Mindfulness in Plain English.

Start here for an understanding. The rest you can do in your own mind.

>how this world is actually running

When you get on THAT level, almost every bit of public information is misdirection or propaganda. Powertalk. Nearly everything you learned about US and world history or economics is to keep you patriotic and complacent. It's all about power and control.

Where might one start, if interested in that red pill? Positivemoney is a start. Austrian economics is another. A couple of books are good. All Wars Are Bankers Wars is compelling.

The list goes on and on, long enough to make you feel like a conspiracy nutjob. Which is why it works so well.

Nobody said 100% closed trade was ideal. The overwhelming majority of wealthy countries adopted a 3rd way of development economics to get out of poverty. They used tariffs, protectionism, subsidies, etc. to develop their economy at the expense of importers. i.e. the US had tariffs as high as 30-40% during the height of their GDP growth. Japan, for example, had a really shitty auto industry, but their ministry of trade kept bailing out Toyota and imposed import quotas on US car manufacturers until Toyota was finally competent. It's called the infant industry argument.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T5-ojv5-b3U

http://www.amazon.com/Bad-Samaritans-Secret-History-Capitalism/dp/1596915986/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1427765176&sr=8-1&keywords=bad+samaritan

Not sure if its the one he's referencing, but check out.

Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men