(Part 3) Top products from r/badroommates

Over the course of the last year I have had 3 morbid examples of bad living situations. I think the universe is telling me something.... like clean up your credit and apply for the IT job you are avoiding because you don't like working with IT guys.... yes I have a degree and the employment background which is why I am avoiding getting back to that career path.

I am considering writing a small saga of bad living situations.

After leaving my mother's house (she had major surgery, recovered, went back to work, then as I was just starting a job) she took her boyfriend's advice to "tinker" with the electrical wiring in the kitchen and massively injured herself ended up in rehab after 2 weeks recovering from burns/being electrocuted and the house had to be partially rebuilt. Mind you this is the second time she has done this.

So I move into a friend's place I have known for 5 years. He's an open-minded free spirited and spiritual air line pilot. He's into shamanic drumming, reiki and what I didn't understand what it actually was "orgasmic massage". I kid you not.

https://www.amazon.com/Mindfuckers-Fascism-Including-Material-Followers/dp/0879320389

One of the main cult leaders chronicaled in the book is Victor Baranco, he taught the 4 hour extended female orgasm to Nicole Deadone. She in turn knew this friend of mine in the 80s when he was stationed in Hawaii as an airforce pilot. Search "Clit cult" on gawker.com

Naturally the friend of mine who is a pilot spent 5 of 7 months pressuring me to move to Sanfrancisco to live at the "One Taste" commune so he can visit regularly. I think he's banned from the place. Needless to say I haven't spoke to him again except to inform him I am blocking his number and to not contact me again.

Next was a house owned by a woman who claimed to be a social worker, a licensed social worker with a bachelors degree.

Neither which was true, she didn't actually live in the house and renting out rooms when she doesn't live there is illegal. I also checked with 8 states if she was licensed as a social worker, then the university she claims to attend isn't offering a masters degree in the field she claimed, so its obvious she is working on her undergrad degree. She mostly rented to people in substance abuse rehab on social security and was looking to get away from that.

Problem was the guy she left in charge of the place was on parole from federal prison who regularly relapses from meth. Methodone by the way is a hell of a drug to help people get their meth addiction under control. It makes them psychotic, and their bowel movements smell like a 4 month old rotting corpse. My bedroom was next to the bathroom and shared a vent. I nearly died from the stench.

The meth head threatened to make my life miserable living there, I recorded it sent it to the landlord and she told me it wasn't legal to record. Well this is a single party consent state, its legal. The meth head also hated the landlord yet wanted to fuck her. The meth head hated all women. Yet the landlord defended the meth head because he was in a large rehab and she volunteered there, hoping that if this guy 13 years into 15 years of parole turned himself around she'd get the credit thus an actual job within the state. Landlord worked in a different stated because she had looked for work for almost 2 years in this state, thus had to actually take any work she could.

I didn't mention there was a Nigerian living there as well who was an investment sales person who wanted me to believe he was the most buff, handsome and richest person I could know. Yet he took public transit like me and rented a room in a house just like me. I know the work he did, its pure commission and that's why his girlfriend and brother was paying his bills.

At least at the last house the landlord demanded neither roommate speak to me because she didn't want to risk me recording more audio of threats.

Now this place. I won't describe it in detail but its all audio recorded and I have photos of the immense shitload of mess the DANCOroommates made all summer long.

I also have court in 2 weeks because the girlfriend of the DANCOroommate is contesting the HRO I have against her. And some fucker applied for a discover card in my former married name (I got a divorce a decade ago) with the current address I live at.

The DANCOroommate had this nuts idea that my ex husband would testify against me at the HRO hearing so they are trying to find him.

Its pretty obvious both of the DANCOroommates are using skip tracing and applying for credit cards in my former married name to commit identity theft/bank fraud (which is the very first criminal conviction for the guy) to ruin me and to find out everything about me.

Not going into detail about the roommate/landlord who is running around bitching at me, because he's just a spoiled brat who won't pay child support even if he has told his father he needs more money to pay that child support, and he gets the money. It just never makes it to the county. I've tried to certified mail my rent payments to him, he won't pick up the certified mail (possibly because he's afraid it might be related to his child support case) and in the last couple days that certified mail was supposed to be returned to me at the house.... The certified mail with the rent hasn't shown up. I think the landlord took it. He has bizarre idea that money orders are like german barabonds and that they cannot be traced nor proven when the money order was purchased/made. So that's going to make him look crazy when I take him to small claims court.

I think I am at the point in my life that it can't get much worse. My divorce was bittersweet, this is absurd.

after I get a my own apartment, change jobs, clean up credit (possibly freeze my credit for a while), I will work on getting a federal job and move out of the mid west entirely. I've been told by a friend who is an attorney from DC (he travels for work, non-profit legal advocacy) that most of what have been through this last few months would be swiftly taken care of by law enforcement and courts. That either one of them would be in jail right now because enforcement is so much better outside of this Midwest hell hole.

The state I live in has to get better about providing affordable housing and enforcing laws. And yeah I am writing a book on this. Fuck it enough of its audio recorded.

On a positive note. I have good friends. I have repaired my relationship with my ex husband, my first fiancée (he's a shrink in the prison system, yeah he's had a good laugh at this), I am ready to move forward do some growing up and take steps careerwise and financially. Eventhough I am very good at my job, it doesn't pay well and its been rocky business as my bosses close an unproductive side venture; I was very angry at my bosses for their unfulfilled promises. It drained me, now that I have so much other stuff to be angry with my focus is much more in front of me, not fighting to make right on promises broken. I am much more able to leave things behind me.

I'm usually a side/stomach sleeper as I have sleep apnea, and here's the link. It looks like they increased the price since then, but it's still far cheaper than most mattress stores. I found the best method for shopping online for a mattress is to try some out in a store and find a style and type you like. The one in the link has each of the coils individually wrapped, and my wife and I could get up without waking the other up. I never had any pain with it whatsoever.

Oh my God that is beyond disgusting! I work in healthcare so blood remaining anywhere is like the devil. I would flip out on her for sure. Plus, how in the hell did it get on the freaking wall?! That reminds me of the bathroom scene in Daddy Day Care with the kid being potty trained that simply 'missed'. As for removing the stain, you can try a baking soda/water paste mixture and gently rub it over the stain, or spray peroxide on it.

If you are worried about any sort of bloodborne pathogens (I would be) you can look into getting some healthcare grade disinfecting wipes. Clorox has ones called germicidal wipes that are hospital grade. After taking medical courses for several years (I went through the EMT program and am studying to become a nurse practitioner) I look at all human goo like it's contaminated with Hepatitis, HIV or AIDS. Also if you do end up cleaning it make sure you wear gloves, especially if you get the clorox wipes as they could dry out your hands. Hope this helps a little bit and I'm sorry your roommate is a beast.

Here's a link to them on our trusty Amazon lol:

Clorox Healthcare Bleach Germicidal Wipes

Get a little lock box with a combination lock off Amazon. That’s what I did with my medications. Vaultz is a really good brand and cheap!


Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Vaultz-Locking-Personal-Security-VZ00102-2/dp/B004Q86PNI/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=combination+lock+storage+box&qid=1572362658&s=office-products&sr=1-3

I have that happen too on occassion when my roommate needs to study or games late at night. So I got one of these draft guards for the door. Stops the light from getting in like a charm. You also don't have to remove them since they slide over the floor quite well.

Without knowing what the flags is, I have no opinion. The cleaning sounds like they want you to do all of it. So just stop cleaning up other people's messes.

Would they be agreeable to a kennel like this? Dog Kennel
If not, maybe you can use it in your room as a bedside table.

Try Fos Cam. Run about 50 bucks, can be set up on ethernet or wifi, and you can set it to constantly take pictures, stream video, all sorts of settings for whatever suits your needs. It also has an audio feed in and out, so you can hear through it and talk through. Has very good night vision and ridiculously high sensitivity for the motion sense. You don't need a computer constantly running, and can access the feed from anywhere via laptop, computer, or smartphone. I will try and hunt down a link for you.

Edit: here's the link. Looks like the price went up a bit but they really are incredible. I have 3 of them at work.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0046710G6/ref=redir_mdp_mobile

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B001UFNCHM/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1421640034&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX200_QL40&dpPl=1&dpID=61CBXSOCW4L&ref=plSrch
Link for the lazy. Its awesome BTW.

I recommend something like this. There are much cheaper options available. Few squares of this on your wall and ceiling should do the trick!

I have a sleep disorder and am sensitive to light. The way my bedroom is set up puts me under a skylight as well. (Great at night for stars, terrible past dawn. haha.)

This is the eyemask I have. It is comfortable and molds to my face, but it is thick as hell and no light gets through. You can't change the inconsiderate roomie, but at least something like that might help. :)

Put locks on the plugs so she can't use them.
Plug Lock!

My parents swore by Nature's Miracle when their cat started to go senil and pee everywhere

Prepare some food items with theft detection powder and see whose hands turn blue: https://www.amazon.com/Visible-Stain-Theft-Detection-Powder/dp/B009DMKYIY/ref=pd_cp_194_2?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=ef4dc990-a9ca-4945-ae0b-f8d549198ed6&pf_rd_r=R6CAJ75D2K2FBWST3MMJ&pd_rd_wg=iOEwa&pf_rd_s=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_t=40701&pd_rd_w=vkcjF&pf_rd_i=desktop-dp-sims&pd_rd_r=8431cb5e-f0db-11e8-a029-3b664630e258&pd_rd_i=B009DMKYIY&psc=1&refRID=R6CAJ75D2K2FBWST3MMJ

Or one of theseif you don't like being a plumber... they make different types for different drains.

Buy one of these, and put three thick rubber bands around it. If he continues to take the eggs, tell him to start putting $1 in the carton for every 3 eggs he steals. If it continues to happen, then the issue is more serious than "borrowing" eggs, he'll be going to a lot of effort to be an asshole to you, and then you can have a serious conversation about respect.