(Part 2) Top products from r/lonely
We found 10 product mentions on r/lonely. We ranked the 29 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.
21. Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think
Sentiment score: 2
Number of reviews: 1
Evidenced Based Material
22. The Lonely American: Drifting Apart in the Twenty-first Century
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
23. No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
No More Mr Nice Guy A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love Sex and Life
24. Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Touchstone Books by Simon & Schuster
25. Basic Writings of Nietzsche (Modern Library Classics)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Modern Library
26. If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?: Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Love Life Forever
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
27. 8 Minute Meditation: Quiet Your Mind. Change Your Life.
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
8 Minute Meditation: Quiet Your Mind, Change Your Life
I wrote a big thing but I wasn't happy with it so deleted it. So here are two things:
Well, that's all I have to say. Best of luck mate.
Innup,
Feels like you could use some time to learn about yourself. Who are you? What do you enjoy? Sounds like you are going to overcommit in the near future (learning + tutoring + volunteering + working + clubs), but are they things you or your mother think you need to do, or things that you truly want to do? Do you feel socially awkward because you're always thinking "I have to make this potential friendship work or I'll never be what my mother wants?"
Did you ever take an Meyers Briggs inventory? It sounds like you have some social anxiety or are a true introvert. If you're uncomfortable in the school environs, do you ever hang out in a quiet coffee shop? Bookstore? Library? Any other places you might be comfortable?
Try this - https://www.16personalities.com/
The question for you to not try to solve is: why does your mother really really want you out there? What emotional desire or need of hers is being fulfilled by your popularity? She's ignoring your own emotional needs in favor of hers.
Setting boundaries with your mother may help the situation, in the long run. Try reading a book on boundaries (like, uhm...Boundaries...https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/0310247454/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1504284879&sr=8-1&keywords=boundaries) and read it.
That's a great question. I'm not a sociologist, but even many researchers will tell you there isn't a single answer for the definitive rise in social isolation. To make some sweeping, general claims, it largely has to do with:
And right! The study you reference might be the General Social Survey from U Chicago. It's really astounding that it's hard to talk about loneliness publicly, considering the former surgeon general labeled it an epidemic. Hard to believe there can still be a stigma about something affecting so many people.
If you're interested in this, two great books I recommend are The Village Effect and The Lonely American. Both have excellent theories and explanations.
I'm not a phsychologist myself, but I think it's good that you already have someone professional who helps you. Maybe you should tell that person that you have the impression that it's not working, and maybe he or she can suggest you something else to try.
I think that continuing this professional treatment is the would be the first thing to do.
Second: I'm myself a bit skeptical about alternative medicine, but it seems that acupuncture can have a stabilising effect on mental health too. Others get good results with homeopathy or applied kinesiology (although this may simple be a placebo effect, but if this placebo effect helps, why not try it out).
Third: Not sure if it's a thing for you: I've myself started with meditation recently. There are meanwhile several studies that show that this can help. It's not easy and the effects are usually very subtle (and may never be very strong), but it might be one component among several. This book helped me to get into this. Apparently there are also specific meditation techniques (and courses on them) to help with anxiety.
> if I were to dissappear I know alot of people would have to adapt because I am always helping everyone,
Consider worrying about yourself for a while instead. This book is often recommended to men that are unsatisfied with their lives and it covers this exactly.
Men today are raised to think IF I help out, IF I'm nice and "follow the rules" then I'll be rewarded. The problem with this, though, is there ends up taking situations where you help everyone with the intention of receiving some reward, when you should be helping because it's rewarding in and of itself.
Try something different. Say NO. "Hey, Jaeg. I got some rock to move, can you come over this Saturday and bring your truck?" "No, sorry, I'm planning on taking Saturday off. Maybe some other time." Take control of your life and do things for yourself.
^I ^should ^re-read ^that ^book ^now ^that ^I ^think ^about ^it.
I send a big hug out to you. *hug* You are not alone in this.
Little changes in your thoughts and actions will build positive momentum. Remember that thoughts are powerful.
Here's a book I found helpful; https://www.amazon.ca/Mind-Over-Mood-First-Changing/dp/0898621283