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I know this will sound like something you may have tried, but I'd consider taking

Taking friendship beyond social activities? It's hard. It's really hard - and it only gets harder as you get older.

But it's massively possible - and you should try, because it's important.

Since you're highly educated (compared to some), perhaps consider reading up on this area. It's not as crazy as it might sound - psychology and social situations (as much as they're really hard to understand) are pretty well documented, and with some thought and effort, you can massively improve various bits of social skills (it may be hard to introspect and work out what to improve, but perhaps just say "everything" and keep working at it?)

It's not really exactly what you want, but I do recommend reading this book because whilst it may sound irrelevant (and lame?) it's really awesome at helping you understand things like this.

I think I'd suggest that your perception of the problem as 'integration' with the racially English people as just... well, a perception.

My suggestion might be to get involved in some new activities - set yourself some challenges - to do things you've never done before - perhaps try 8 new things in a month? Different activities (ever joined a caving club, taken a cookery class, or learnt to dance salsa, been to yoga?) of course - you probably know this bit really well.

Next try and work out how you can improve the lives of those 'activity partners' - how you can make them happier. Can you offer to teach their children a skill (teach them to code/soldier/codeclub?)? Can you introduce them to some other people they might share interests with? Can you introduce them to another activity that is also fun?

Actually, I said that book might not be relevant - it definitely is. Go read it. :)

Also, if you're ever in sunny (lol!) Manchester feel free to PM me! :D

The biggest thing by far is you will need insurance as part of the rental policy and you will need to make sure your Russian License is valid on the terms of that insurance.

I would pick up a copy of the Highway Code. It's what new drivers in the UK have to learn and take a test on. It will help you get your head around driving on the left.

The gearbox is mirrored, so the stick is on your left and you use your left hand. Different cars use different specific gearboxes but most use a design like this. The pedals on the floor go in the order (from left to right) Clutch, Break, Accelerator. Your left foot is for the Clutch only and your right foot is for the Break and Accelerator pedals.

The exact type of car will depend on what you want. Most rental places offer popular cars - like the Peugeot 208 or Vauxhall Astra. Remember, roads in the UK (especially roads around Truro in Cornwall) are very small by comparison to some other places so I would avoid a large car if you are driving on the left for your first time.

Don't use your mobile phone (even to text) while you drive and don't speed - there are cameras EVERYWHERE and you'll get caught very quickly. Most of the major motorways now have "average speed check" cameras which identify your car as you join the motorway and then again as you leave, then calculate your average speed to determine if you've been speeding. You are (for some bizarre reason) allowed to smoke. Don't have open alcohol containers in the car and if you eat or drink at the wheel you can expect to get pulled over and possibly fined by the police. If you do get stopped by the police be polite to them and just explain you are new to British roads and are sorry. Don't be rude to them and if they ask you for any information like your passport give it to them and don't lie.

Otherwise enjoy it, British roads are very safe and the countryside around Truro in particular is very nice.

19 degrees? You pussy.

For anyone suffering, though, I cannot overstate how fucking amazing these are.

I know they don't look like much, but they're real simple. You dunk one of these bad boys in water, even warm water, and it turns ice cold, and it STAYS ice cold for a good amount of time. If you're like me and you've got very little ventilation in your home and your fan just isn't doing the trick then drape one of those around your shoulders and it feels so good.

Edit: HOLY FRICKIN' CRAP THEY DO A BIG ONE NOW.

Also, for the record; no I am not being paid to push or shill these but it seems like nobody I've talked to has heard about them. They're three for a tenner for goodness' sake, they're re-usable, easy to wash, soft and as cold as yeti balls. Go get 'em.

not knowing much of these books i decided to read the amazon reviews. http://www.amazon.co.uk/Fifty-Shades-Grey-E-James/dp/0099579936/ref=pd_ts_zgc_b_books_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&pf_rd_p=294486607&pf_rd_s=right-3&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_i=266239&pf_rd_m=A3P5ROKL5A1OLE&pf_rd_r=1YM0Q3W0HQN6GM39EQSW

i love me some funny book reviews. And one of the reasons it has sold so well is its so cheap.

One has this book on his desk:

Dangerous Hero: Unmissable new biography of Jeremy Corbyn from our best investigative biographer https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0008299579/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_T9L4DbG2KHBQK




The other talks about some labour members who have compared Israel's actions against Palestinians to the Holocaust.




Whenever I ask what specifically makes Corbyn anti Semitic, they draw blanks.




I don't bother debating it anyway because 1) they're colleagues and it's not a good place to get too political and 2) they're decent blokes and clearly it's not something we'll ever agree on.

He is right I'm pretty sure. I remember reading in this book that they ran experiments in America where they dropped wallets with pictures in and a return address. I recall there was a big difference in the return rate when the picture of the person in the wallet was the same skin colour as the person who found the wallet.

I don't think anyone is saying it's right, but there have been quite a few studies that show how easy it is to write favouritism towards people of your own race.

If anyone is after a good biography https://www.amazon.co.uk/Darwin-Adrian-Desmond/dp/0140131922/ is really good. I don’t like biography much, but read this when it came out and it was a real page-turner, really accessible and informative

>force some kind of class issue on the word "chav"

Show me a chav that was educated at a public or even a private school. Show me a chav that can trace their ancestry back to the Normans.

It's not forcing a class issue if it is already a class issue and was from the beginning. The chav classification, the wringing of hands about the underclass, the talk of "strivers" and "skivers" is all part of an agenda that came about during the Victorian Era when rural populations relocated en masse to the cities to work in the factories.

Vertical cohesion and identification was necessary to keep society together and thus you had the idea of the respectable and not respectable working class. The "undeserving" would be recognisable to us today as "chavs."

If you want to read all about this and other things you can check out Mid-Victorian Britain 1851-75 by Geoffrey Best

Give that a read when you can.

"I don't know a single person who took part." That's a bit daft, this could mean you are all kinds off things as to never interact with such people, not that you are inherently better than them. I don't know a single person who was on strike recently what does that prove bar I may work in the private sector?

Please read this:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Chavs-Demonization-Working-Owen-Jones/dp/184467696X

Get the Kindle subscription (unless you don't have a Kindle - in which case don't). It's a tenner a month which means it's cheaper than just buying the Saturday edition on it's own. The down side is that the photos are a bit shit but it's more than made up for by the fact that sometimes they let the Kindle version out before the sub-editors have got to grips with it and the whole thing is riddled with hysterical typos and mistakes.

But anyway, I love it - it means you get the paper in the order that you would with the printed version so you end up reading stuff you might not go looking for on the site.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Anarchist-Cookbook-William-Powell/dp/0962303208/ still available from Amazon (at a silly price)

Amazon has this printed one: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/000821154X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_VhjTBb69S6V0H

Do you mean Bertie? I managed to find this

It may well be on the net somewhere, but it's all in this incredibly detailed and unbiased book:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/All-Out-War-Britains-Political/dp/0008215170/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1540993346&sr=8-1&keywords=all+out+war+tim+shipman

Sorry to break it to you it's $17.99 in USD

Can you give an example of what you mean by misbehave, and what ages you are thinking of?

I think maybe sometimes I would use obviously ludicrous threats, like that I would tie them to the roof of the car, or put them on the roof of the house for the night. It was humorous, they knew it was empty, but it did communicate my annoyance or dissatisfaction with their behaviour.

We would rarely use real threats. Occasionally we would remove a child from a situation, for a while we would send them out of the room and ask them to come back in with a different attitude, or with an apology. If one of them hurt another we might leave the room along with the hurt child. But on the whole they are pretty well behaved.

There are a few books I've enjoyed reading:

Alfie Kohn's books: Punished by Rewards, and Unconditional Parenting.

Raising Happy Children

Playful Parenting

D.W. Winnicott's book: The Child, The Family, and the Outside World

Tried to learn Java from a book I've had lying around for a while this weekend. Christ is it dense:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Java-Tutorial-Short-Course-Basics/dp/0134034082/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1449479698&sr=1-2&keywords=java+a+short+course

Got about 100 pages in (of 700), a few interesting examples would be nice...

Try 'Rebels & Redcoats' as a springboard.

Programme.

Book.

All Out War: The Full Story of How Brexit Sank Britain’s Political Class https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0008215170/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_wdRTAbFG8PNZM

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Protection. I haven't heard it reported a lot either, but it's mentioned a few times in 'Apache' by Ed Macey.

It's been a while since I read the book, but on one mission they were hunting a mobile anti-aircraft weapon. They had found it, but faield to destroy it/kill it's operators. When they finally found the other operator they were going into a house. Shortly after the door was closed, kids were chucked out of the house into the courtyard. Due to the British rules, they could not fire on the AA operator as they could not see them, as well as there being civilians in the area, despite knowing exactly where they were.

Cyclecraft (book) is widely thought of as best practice for cycling. It's very well reviewed and it's what the national cycle training scheme is built on. I think you might find the stuff on road positioning useful (this is as excerpt from the '97 edition):

> # Positioning
We have already established that positioning is one of the most important traffic skills for a cyclist to acquire, yet it is precisely here that most cyclists perform badly. Many cyclist fail to position themselves properly because of their fear of traffic, yet ironically, it is this very fear that probably puts them most at risk.

>There are two basic objectives of proper road positioning:


> to increase your margin of safety in relation to actual and potential danger by riding where you can obtain the best view, where you can best be seen by others and your movements predicted, and where you may deter movements by others which could be dangerous to yourself;



> to allow you to ride as direct a route as possible, conserving your energy and making control of the bicycle as simple as possible.

> Good road positioning is not about keeping you out of the path of other traffic as much as possible. Contrary to popular belief, this is not necessarily the best way to maximise your safety.

> Many cyclist, and probably the majority of the public at large, dread riding in close proximity to other traffic, because of the fear of being hit from behind. In fact, this type of collision is one of the least likely, accounting for no more than 5% of cycle-car casualties - and many of these are as a result of the cyclist swerving carelessly into traffic. Whilst no method of cycling is completely safe, you should not have to worry too much about rear hist if you cycle competently.

> On the other hand, riding where traffic can see you clearly is likely to reduce your chances of having one of the much more common types of collision, which occur during turning or crossing manoeuvres. More collisions happen because drivers cannot see a cyclist or cannot anticipate the actions of the cyclist than because they do see but fail to take notice.

>An important rule of road sharing is that no one should unnecessarily impede the passage of anyone else. However, you are quite justified in restricting the movements of other vehicles where this is important in protecting yourself, and you should not hesitate to do so when necessary.

>Motorists primarily give their attention to that part of the highway where there is risk to themselves: they are not nearly so good a noticing anything outside their path. This zone of maximum surveillance is often very narrow, especially at higher speeds - it does not extend to much more than the moving traffic lane that the driver is following, plus the moving traffic lanes that are most likely to conflict with the driver's own movement. For you to be safest as a cyclist, you should ride within this zone of maximum surveillance, not outside it.

> To understand positioning, you have to understand the cocept of a moving traffic lane - that part of the carriageway along which through traffic normally moves. It is away from the area occupied by parked vehicles and other obstructions, and dose not necessarily coincide with any markings on the surface. On a free-flowing road where markings are present, the moving traffic lanes are typically centred on the marked lanes, but do not embrace their full width.

>Away from junctions, you should ride in one of two standar positions (see Figure blah), according to circumstances. The primary riding position is in the centre of the leftmost moving traffic lane for the direction in which you wish to travel. Here you will be well within the zone of maximum surveillance of both following drivers and those who might cross your path, and you will have the best two-way visibility of side roads and other features along the road. The road surface will usually be flatter here than it is nearer the edge, with fewer pot-holes and other problems, and this will afford easier control of your cycle. You should be able to maintain the straightest and fastest course without the need to deviate at side roads.

>The primary riding position should therefore be your normal riding position when you can keep up with traffic, when you need to emphasise your presence to traffic ahead, or when you need to prevent following drivers from passing you dangerously.
It is often the best position, too, on roads where there is no following traffic and on multi-lane roads where the traffic flow is light.

>Because the primary riding position can result in some inconvenience to following drivers, it is reasonable to ride further to the left when this could help others, as long as your own safety is not thereby impaired. At these times you should adopt the secondary riding position, which is about 1 metre (3 feet) to the left of the moving traffic lane if the road is wide, but not closer than 0.5 metres (1. feet) to the edge of any road. Riding closer to the edge would leave you with no room for manoeuvre in the event of an emergency, whilst increasing the need to make unpredictable movements which could lead to a crash. You might also have to endure the discomfort and possible danger of drain covers, edge damage and the debris which tends to collect at the side of the road - and there is no reason why you should have a less comfortable journey than others. Riding too close to the edge can also make you difficult to see for drivers coming out of side roads and drives.

>Only on long streaches of road where there are no side roads, drives or other entrances and you are travelling very slowly (perhaps up a hill) should you allow yourself to ride further to the left than the secondary riding position, but always keep at least 0,5 metres (1.5 feet) from the edge. Conversely, if you are travelling fast, keep further out.

Well, no. If you make claims without evidence then why should somebody believe you? What then, makes you any different than those who claim to be abducted by aliens? Or women who intentionally falsify rape claims to either protect their reputation or get revenge for a one-night stand?

As sad and frustrating as the case may be, people lie, and the criminal justice system has to account for that by relying on hard evidence. And after reading books about the fallability of memory (like this ) and the money people are paid by the media for 'shocking revelations' and exclusives, then it makes me take these allegations with a grain of salt.