Reddit reviews Bobby and Mandee's Good Touch/Bad Touch: Children's Safety Book

Your gut instincts are usually right when it comes to stuff like this. I think she is definitely a pedophile and definitely a threat. Is your SIL worried about what happened? Because she should be. Can you talk to her about it?

Here is a link to a good article about teaching kids about good touch/bad touch: http://b-inspiredmama.com/10-tips-for-teaching-kids-about-good/

And the book (Check out the "Customers also bought" section for others if this one isn't your style):
http://www.amazon.com/Bobby-Mandees-Good-Touch-Bad/dp/1935274546

You can call CPS on your SILs behalf, and they can make your MIL move out...but your SIL and BIL would have to put her out of the house immediately, and there is a chance the kids would be removed into foster care until an investigation could be completed no matter what they do. I know that's a scary thing, so I would recommend talking to your SIL and asking how she feels about what her son has said and letting her know you will support her if she wants to stand up to MIL, but that whatever happens, MIL MUST be put out of the house, immediately. Hopefully she will be concerned enough about her kids that she will listen. She is MIL's daughter? If she won't listen, talk to her husband and appeal to him. If they both don't listen, their kids could always tell a teacher or someone at school, and they are mandated reporters (hint hint). Meanwhile, you're also probably right about your own husband not wanting to deal with past trauma. The only thing I know to do for that is therapy, if you can get him to go. It's such a delicate issue, though, so I will defer to others who may have more knowledge about how to handle that.

I think it's curiosity, though definitely crosses personal boundaries.

Have you discussed asking permission?

Maybe get a book for children about our bodies.

And these books may be helpful.

http://www.amazon.com/Its-Body-Uncomfortable-Childrens-prevention/dp/0943990033

http://www.amazon.com/Your-Belongs-Cornelia-Maude-Spelman/dp/0807594733

http://www.amazon.com/Personal-Space-Camp-Julia-Cook/dp/1931636877

http://www.amazon.com/Bobby-Mandees-Good-Touch-Bad/dp/1935274546

There are others on Amazon.

I just really don't know what else to say.