Reddit reviews Unstuck: Your Guide to the Seven-Stage Journey Out of Depression

No. No you are not. You are not pathetic. You are very seriously depressed, and that is not shameful; it is something that happens, and honestly something that happens to a lot of people. You are reaching out for help, and that isn't pathetic or bad or wrong - in fact, it's a difficult thing for a lot of people to do.

I sincerely doubt that you look the way you think you do. I think you probably are not ugly at all. But beyond that, there is no such thing as "too ugly to be alive". A person's worth is not predicated on their physical appearance.

That said, if you feel the need to get it, facial surgery is always a thing. It can take a while to save up for, but it's something to shoot for.

I know you think that the depression you're feeling will never end, but that's... well, that's the depression talking. All of the things that you're saying are very, very classic depression talk. I know it's cliché here, but are you seeing a therapist? Do you think you might be willing to try it, if not? Have you tried taking an anti-depressant - and do you think you might be willing to try it, if not; or if you have, do you think you might be willing to try a different one? I know that for some people the difference is like night and day - or so my girlfriend puts it, describing the way it is when she's off her anti-depressants vs. when she starts taking them again.

I know it's not a super-quick fix, but I can recommend some books that might be helpful:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Gifts-Imperfection-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1342046759&sr=8-1&keywords=brene+brown+imperfection

http://www.amazon.com/Cognitive-Behavioral-Workbook-Depression-Step-/dp/1608823806/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1342046771&sr=8-1&keywords=workbook+depression

http://www.amazon.com/Unstuck-Guide-Seven-Stage-Journey-Depression/dp/0143115510/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1342046788&sr=8-1&keywords=unstuck

I'm really sorry that things are so hard for you right now. But please, talk to somebody. You can get through this.

Thank you for sharing!

This seems like the right link, but please correct me if I'm wrong: http://www.amazon.com/Unstuck-Guide-Seven-Stage-Journey-Depression/dp/0143115510

Author: James S. Gordon, MD

I can totally identify with "fairly hard core mood swings". At my worst, I am reduced to a sad pile of sobbing depression that can't even lift a fork to put food in my mouth. Just last week I tried to go bowling and all the lanes were full due to it being league night. I immediately turned despondent and went home to go to sleep because I couldn't deal with this disappointment.

My therapist has been very helpful in just being someone who will listen attentively without levying any judgement. Certainly, my wife is also able to do this but I like having someone off of which to bounce my feelings without feeling like I'm weighing her down emotionally.

My therapist approaches things from a holistic perspective which doesn't rely on pharmacological solutions. Rather, she encourages me to exercise and enjoy the benefits of mindful meditation and breathing techniques to help repair the chemical imbalances going on in my brain. It sounds sorta hokey but it really does work (at least it does for me).

At my therapist's suggestion, I'm also reading a book called Unstuck that uses similar tactics and I'm finding it extremely helpful in identifying ways to dig myself out of sudden depression without having to resort to pharmaceuticals.

Yeah, I'm only about 50 pages in and it's only getting better. You can probably find it at a local bookstore or maybe Barnes & Noble. /u/slytheringirl27 also gave the amazon link below, here it is again just in case.

"Unstuck"
https://www.amazon.com/Unstuck-Guide-Seven-Stage-Journey-Depression/dp/0143115510