Reddit reviews Very Late Diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder): How Seeking a Diagnosis in Adulthood Can Change Your Life

Wow. I think that you need to arrange a time that both of you are calm and rested, and sit down and talk about this. Because the attitude that she displayed to you last evening was appalling.

I would ask her what her actual understanding of Aspergers is. I would not tell her to look things up, but offer specific resources to her. This book may be good: https://www.amazon.com/Diagnosis-Asperger-Syndrome-Spectrum-Disorder-ebook/dp/B00M7D714Q/ref=sr_1_3?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1522764429&sr=1-3&keywords=aspergers+in+adults

I haven't read it, but the reviews are excellent. Because I'm a woman, most of the books/blogs/videos I have used have been about the Asperger experience as a woman.

If you live in an area where there is an Autism Society branch, they will have resources for both of you, too.

But, as we both know, the bottom line is that her attitude can't continue, or you'll end up divorced. And then she'll have no say over your decisions about your daughter, when she's in your care.

I'm sorry that, just a short time after you found that piece that puts the puzzle together, she turned on you. The fact that she's probably afraid of what this means is no excuse. Keep in mind, though, that there is a lot, and I mean a LOT of bullshit online about how uncaring, robotic and other asinine adjectives men on the spectrum are.

If she's found those, resentment is ALMOST understandable.

Just today I came across a book on amazon that is literally about that exact subject.

I don't mind helping you look for resources if you're comfortable sending a PM with your city/town/whatever.

Otherwise, I read this book before seeking therapy. While it's directed at people older than you or I, I found that I related heavily regardless.

@sakoide check this book out. https://www.amazon.com/Diagnosis-Asperger-Syndrome-Spectrum-Disorder-ebook/dp/B00M7D714Q