(Part 2) Best parenting & family books according to redditors
We found 113 Reddit comments discussing the best parenting & family books. We ranked the 45 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.
She wrote a book to brainwash other little kids with this regressive bullshit.
https://www.amazon.com/No-Matter-What-Adrienne-Anzelmo/dp/198498120X/
"What a beautiful story! After my 9 year old read it, I asked if he understood what the book was about. He was quickly able to explain that the child in the story "preferred bright, sparkly clothes, princesses and other things that boys don't typically like, even though he was born a boy. The mom tells them to live how they feel in their heart and mind. I think that's really nice." "
The reason why sexism works is because it's systemic. It is in every aspect of our lives from birth. From the way people - adults and peers- treat us, to the toys we play with, to our education, to the media, to the examples we see and so on. It's incredibly difficult to root out the cause through all this mess, because there are so many varied factors.
While we still break up actives based on gender, there will be under-representation of the other side. And anyone that breaks away from going the direction that they "should" based on how our society defines gender is outcast by both sides. That's a very powerful force.
You asked 2 very different questions: gaming and STEM as a career. While similar, I think that choice of a career has a lot more added on to it.
Women are still the primary caretakers of families and those of us uninterested in taking care of messy little people are still considered wrong by most people. Many still believe that is our sole purpose in life. STEM fields are very well known for their work/life imbalance. That's a big decision for someone too young to really know what they want out of their life.
The 80's (when I grew up) had a series of gender neutral toys for "tinkering." I had all sorts of science kits made up of regular colours that were marketed to both. And yet I still knew from as early as I can remember that professionally those are fields for boys. You can't just fix 1 piece of the puzzle. Going back to gendered toys like we have now certainly isn't going to help though.
I think education plays an extremely large role in it. While teachers may not always actively discourage kids who want to go in certain directions, they aren't actively encouraging it either. Boys are also taught to try harder to learn something, while girls are taught that intelligence is binary - you either get the question right, or you don't. Girls are also taught that you can get through school just fine if you are "good and helpful," regardless if you learn anything.
If you are really interested in this topic, I highly suggest the book Still Failing At Fairness. Everything I said about education is from studies done in that book, which looks at issues for both genders.
Everything else will be personal experience.
I am a game programmer. While I had a very strong aptitude in math and science, not once was I ever encouraged to do anything with it. Instead that was mostly ignored while my headstrong and argumentative attitude was their center point. I started gaming when I was 4 and tinkered with computers through the 80's and 90's, but it never once even occurred to me that it could be a career until I started considering grad school.
Being the only woman (or of a very few) in the room is not welcoming. It's actually rather daunting as you don't know what might happen. The best you can hope for is for just bit of benevolent sexism. Sometimes I have to prove my worth. Other times I'm ignored no matter what I say. While others treat me as a novelty. Sometimes though they do treat me like a person.
It's not entirely fun anytime someone is shocked that I'm a programmer. It's tiring anytime someone decides they need to question my knowledge outside of a job interview. The jaw dropping effect grew tiring years ago.
The impostor syndrome is a common hurdle that I still have to fight through at times.
It is slowly getting better the more we talk about it and the more women enter these fields. I've been lucky enough to not have a lot of really bad experiences and most eventually snap out of it the longer they are around me.
I am a teacher, and Alliebeth offers terrific advice for kids of this nature -- especially about keeping things rigid for her. Some kids have high anxiety from changes in their routine, so the fact that she's acting up on weekends might be a sign of this. The key is to give your daughter plenty of notice for any changes in her schedule -- eg, "(Daughter), this weekend your grandma is coming over for a visit. This Friday, I would like for your to clean your room so that it looks nice for your grandma."
When your daughter starts kindergarten, you might want to send an introductory email to her teacher. Offer a heads-up about what to expect and how you've been dealing with her behavior. Set some goals for the year that are doable but would also reflect substantial growth (eg, for her to be potty-trained and to stop throwing tantrums). You can also include some things your child enjoys, and what she likes and doesn't like teachers to do in a classroom. I highly recommend this because it's important to reinforce expectations at home and school.
For further reading, you might want to check out:
Just so you know, it sounds like you're a very caring parent and have been trying a lot of great options. Don't give up; you'd be amazed how much turnaround a child can have in just a few months -- the key is finding a method that works for you and your child.
What kind of education have you had in child development? Can you ask your director for suggestions of books to read on the subject? (Shaming children as punishment and offering rewards for good behavior are not generally thought to be effective.)
I recommend this book to start: https://www.amazon.com/Positive-Discipline-Classroom-Cooperation-Responsibility/dp/0770436579
Absolutely:
Living With Intensity: Understanding the Sensitivity, Excitability, and the Emotional Development of Gifted Children, Adolescents and Adults
Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students: Helping Kids Cope with Explosive Feelings
Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnoses of Gifted Children and Adults: ADHD, Bipolar, OCD, Asperger's, Depression, and Other Disorders
If your daughter also exhibits anxiety symptoms (mine sure does, and it's often tied in to giftedness because their little heads can think of things they're not emotionally ready to handle) there's also:
Freeing Your Child from Anxiety
Helping Your Anxious Child: A Step-by-Step Guide for Parents
And for executive function deficits, there's:
Coaching Students with Executive Skills Deficits
Smart but Scattered: The Revolutionary "Executive Skills" Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential
First of all, I'd recommend to be prepared for the culture shock. That is so much more important than actually learning facts, those come along naturally eventually. I work as a hosting coordinator for a big non-profit exchange organization and a lot of our exchange students end up having troubles because they assumed they were prepared - when really, they weren't. I'd recommend reading something like "The Exchange Student's Survival Kit" by Bettina Hansel, which is not focused on Germany per se, but rather all the troubles dealing with entering a different culture. Secondly, literature about German culture would be helpful (maybe something like this) to prepare for traditions and some of the weird habits we have (such as mixing our fruit juices with sparkling water ;)).
Edit: No nazi jokes. Old people get offended. Young people have heard them all and will get annoyed. No one finds them funny.
https://www.amazon.com/Separating-School-State-Liberate-Americas-ebook/dp/B00BWB6QK4
https://www.amazon.com/Weapons-Mass-Instruction-Schoolteachers-Compulsory-ebook/dp/B0097DE6XI/
https://www.amazon.com/Dumbing-Down-Curriculum-Compulsory-Schooling-ebook/dp/B0097CYWW4
She wrote something of a fascist manifesto called, "Don't Take My Lemonade Stand - An American Philosophy by Janie Johnson, American Citizen."
The cover is nuts.
Freedom is not just for the unmarried. Many families are doing this. Here are a few examples (some provide resources/support systems for digital nomads with families):
There are also a couple of good books on this from people who are doing it, [Vagabonding with Kids] (https://www.amazon.com/Vagabonding-Kids-Uncensored-Awkward-Raucous/dp/1612549144/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ll1&tag=battleforthew-20) from the terrific AK Turner and [Choose Life: The Tools, Tricks, and Hacks of Long-Term Family Travellers, Worldschoolers and Digital Nomads] (https://www.amazon.com/Choose-Life-Long-Term-Travellers-Worldschoolers/dp/1549955780//ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ll1&tag=battleforthew-20) from Daniel Prince.
Hope this is helpful and good luck with getting free!
I'm still really new at this, so I'm trying to communicate intelligently about concepts that I'm still figuring out. Normally at this point, I would just say that I don't know anything and stop talking, but I also know how hard it is to find anyone to talk to, so I'm going to keep muddling through.
My son hasn't even started public education, so my basis for information is based off of things I've learned in the past few months. I was able to attend a presentation by Jim Delisle last fall and ended up buying and reading his book and I loved it. I also bought this but haven't read it yet, and I think its focus is specifically on the US school system and might be useful for this exact issue -- meaning what is legally required and what/how we should advocate.
I think that gifted services can vary widely, even within a school district. I know in my state (CO) there was legislation passed just in 2008, but I'm not exactly sure what it changed. At the panel where I met our district coordinator, there were other coordinators from 6-7 local school districts, and they talked about what gifted meant in their districts. Some (but not all!) had pull-out programs, where kids would leave the classroom during the regular day and work alone or in a gifted group on special projects or subjects. I found out recently from a teacher that there are a couple students in our future school who are identified gifted but receiving no services at all, and their parents haven't done anything about it yet.
Specifically to your situation, my opinion (not worth much) is that if your daughter can be tested to confirm her high intelligence, maybe that would help determine how the school should best handle your daughter. For some reason, I assumed she was receiving special ed services, but that was only based on the description as twice exceptional, not anything you actually said. I know even less (nothing) about special ed and IEPs, but I would imagine those plans are more specifically designed for the purpose of "meeting intellectual needs", as we've called it. I don't think gifted-only kids don't get the same level of rigor attached to their education.
I strongly recommend https://www.amazon.com/Littlest-Teddy-Helen-Exley-Giftbooks/dp/1846342627 it will inspire you even more :)
Lost my mum to cancer last year and i was 22. We knew she wasnt well but we were told she would be fine and then out of nowhere told she has 1 week.
One thing that stuck with me was that at the time i felt okay, like i made my peace with it. You will think you’ll be fine and then as soon as it happens you’ll be a mess. Understandably so.
Hardest thing for me emotionally was understanding that life goes on, for you and everyone else. People wont know how to comfort you to begin with and sooner rather than later they are back to normal. It was hard to accept that. I felt angry at everyone, envious and sad because of this.
You are always going to have regrets. So don’t worry about how you spend your last time with her, just make sure its enjoyable for you both.
The memories you have do fade, make sure to write down notes or videos or make a photo album together. Get her to tell you about them and write notes on the back.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/My-Life-Journal-Memories-Thoughts/dp/1907563016
I have a book of my mum like this, it is a memoire of her life, she spoke and i wrote down. It has prompts and sometimes you fill in the blanks. Have a shop around but this is now my most valued possession. I have a different one to this one but it captures their life story. I plan to read this to my children one day.
Anyone who is interested in this topic should check out some of Michael Gurian's work on the benefits of gender-segregated learning and mentoring in prepubescent years.
I'm pretty damn liberal, but I think it's a shame that men teaching boys in a male-only setting is increasingly demonized--particularly with so many absentee or incarcerated fathers and with so many boys growing up with single mothers.
Game on? Maybe not play on.
Game On. http://www.amazon.com/Game-On-All-American-Champions-Children/dp/1933060468
Google "Education Consultants Shanghai" or whatever city you're in: "Education Consultants Chengdu." You might get lucky to find a company looking and willing to train you. If you have the time and a bit of money saved up, get an IEC certification. It's an "Independent Education Consultant Certificate," and you can do them online or in-person. It's just a step in the direction. I'll admit that many people in the field have master's degrees.
A quick google showed me [some] (http://www.smartshanghai.com/jobs/education/13265) different companies in China, for example. I have no idea about those companies, so please don't consider this an endorsement of them. Go and find them on linked in. It's always better to apply to a company than a job board.
Check out some of the professional groups like HECA and IACAC. Join facebook groups and look around at job sites. Read a few books like "Harvard Schmarvard" and "College Match."
Looking for the job is great, but you should also know what you're expected to do when you get the job.
Buy the FISKE guide and familiarize yourself with colleges and universities in the US. If I asked you name 3 great engineering schools and 3 mid-tier engineering schools, could you do it? What are the top 3 schools for music performance, top 3 for music engineering, etc...
Also, check out /r/ApplyingToCollege and /r/ApplyingToCollegeINTL
https://www.amazon.com/First-Year-Homeschooling-Your-Child/dp/0761527885. This is a good one that shows different styles of a week of homeschooling. I will help you decide what style is good for you.
Hi! Congrats on starting your new career :) I was in the same boat as you; graduated with a Chem degree and have ended up teaching most every science content (bio, physics, chem, and physical science) in the HS level.
Regarding subject specific resources, hopefully your school provides you with curriculum so that you can know what you need to review/look up--I know I spent a lot of time reviewing biology content when I had to teach that class since I was rusty on it. For a decent content review book, I found this book at Costco last year but they sell it on Amazon:
[Help Your Kids With Science] (http://www.amazon.com/Help-Your-Kids-Science-Publishing/dp/0756692687/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1406088680&sr=8-1&keywords=help+your+kids+with+science)
I actually use the book sometimes with my Sped students or when if a class needs some quick review. It's pretty thorough with nice pictures.
This book is about using Science Notebooks in class... I spent a lot of time in grad school/student teaching using notebooks so I felt I had a good grasp on them, but this book provided a few good ideas. It is a little pricey though.
[Teaching Science With Interactive Notebooks] (http://www.amazon.com/Teaching-Science-With-Interactive-Notebooks/dp/1412954037/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1406089065&sr=8-3&keywords=science+notebook)
If you need any first day advice or anything like that, feel free to PM me!
Girls naturally are good with fine motor skills while boys are naturally good with gross motor skills. So with young children boys will prefer to throw or kick a ball while girls will prefer to sit and color in small spaces.
Of course this is a wide generalization as you get the girl who loves to kick and throw a ball and the boy who loves to sew. But you can say, "It's just the way they are made."
Homeschooling Boys
Oh and I bought a copy