Best teen & young adult maturing books according to redditors
We found 11 Reddit comments discussing the best teen & young adult maturing books. We ranked the 5 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
We found 11 Reddit comments discussing the best teen & young adult maturing books. We ranked the 5 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
Have a grown-up style conversation with her about it. I hate to burst your bubble, but she isn't a baby anymore. Some girls start menstruating as early as her age. She's probably noticed boys, and has thought about her body in different ways than before.
Explain to her that you know what her friend searched and you want to be able to make sure that she doesn't have any misconceptions or questions.
Side note: IMO, the best book out there for puberty info is My Body, My Self. Here's an amazon link.
Get him a book and discuss it together. Note the second half of that sentence - this doesn't get you off the hook from talking to him, but gives you a place to start and some idea of age-appropriate language. It's Perfectly Normal is widely recognized as one of the best sex ed books out there (and does cover masturbation); if you want something for boys specifically, you could try the Boy's Guide to Becoming a Teen or The Body Book for Boys (not completely sure if they both cover masturbation so you might want to read some reviews first).
Having said that, I'm wondering why Mom wants you to be the one to have this conversation in the first place? Do you have a relationship with him such that he would feel comfortable talking about such personal stuff with you? Otherwise I would probably suggest that she bring it up with him first, and then you can mention that if he has any questions he'd feel more comfortable asking another guy, that you'd be happy to chat with him too.
Usborne Books & More has a wonderful book called "What's Happening to Me?" There is a book for girls and a book for boys.
https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Happening-Me-Susan-Meredith/dp/0794512674
No idea if it's really comparable, but I was given this. There's a version for girls also.
I can't recommend either of them specifically, but I definitely think this was more comfortable to everyone involved than one big "the talk". Not that we never talked about any of this stuff (especially "Wear a condom, stupid!"), but it's a lot less intimidating to read a book on your own and on your own time, than try to talk about it with the two people you most want to imagine never have sex, even though your very existence is evidence to the contrary.
Sounds to me like you handled it well. Does she have any "appropriate" sources to consult when she is curious? Our daughter has these books:
We read them with her, and they are in her room so she can look at them on her own if she wants.
> it’s still not allowed at her age
I just read some study about how drug talks with kids are more effective when parents explain the why behind things, so make sure you are doing this. I'd probably say something about how porn is a completely unrealistic portrayal of adult sexuality, and how since she is just learning, it can teach her things that are not true, and that could make it harder for her to good meaningful relationships later in life.
Oh man, I was totally going to recommend this book but I thought it wasn't around anymore. My mom is a nurse, so she had no problem telling me how things were, but most of my friends were given a copy of The Care and Keeping of You at one point or another.
This one was popular too: https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Happening-Body-Book-Girls/dp/1557044449/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1205158158&sr=1-1
http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Happening-Body-Book-Boys/dp/1557044473/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1333597071&sr=8-5
My parents handed me this book and said "here, read this". My mom even asked my 4th grade teacher if I could read it in class @_@
It was pretty ridiculous, but I was by far the most educated kid throughout elementary school :P
The point is that parents should educate their children. Children need to be educated and they aren't being. It's not irrelevant, because it's a fucking problem. It's not happening where it should. Websites like makelovenotporn.com can be better resources than the others. Many of the resources parents use to educate their kids about sex are clinical and useless. They do not address the questions kids actually have about sex. Note, I was given What's Happening to My Body Which while very helpful regarding puberty, did not answer most of my questions about sex. Scarleteen is a great resource, and I'm sure there are others, but I can not possibly understand why adding another resource is going to somehow negatively impact the amount of available education.
Also, I'm acting of freewill if I drink nothing but koolaid because it is all my parents keep in the house, it doesn't mean that if I knew apple juice existed I wouldn't like it better.
"Let's start with what you know."
I'm going to remember that for my own kids, brilliant idea. My parents kinda deflected it when I first asked, so when I was 11 they gave me this book. It was really useful. There's a version for girls as well.