(Part 2) Top products from r/AskMen

Other people here may think this is silly, but I don't.

I totally understand, as I have at one point in my life derived exactly that from sleeping around (never when I was in a relationship tho). It does make a big difference in this area.

There are, however, other ways to obtain self-confidence and self-esteem. This may also sound silly to a lot of people, but one of the things I did was buy a motorcycle, and let me tell you, there's very few things that make me feel like so much of a man as zipping past heavy traffic in the commuter lane, or splitting lanes, reducing my commute time by 50%. Sex does the same thing, especially when I'm being dominant. My current girlfriend likes and encourages me to be dominant in the bedroom, and let me tell you... nothing like finishing inside her (she's on the pill) after I've called all the shots, told her that she's my woman, and done everything I've wanted to do to her. It's extremely validating when, in the moments after, she cuddles up next to me, looking flushed and satisfied, and confident in me as a man. It is possible to obtain part (but not all) of your self-esteem and confidence from one woman alone--you just need to be able to express yourself fully and have her absolutely love it the way my girlfriend does.

Anyhow, it sounds to me like in your current relationship you might not feel comfortable expressing your yourself/your manliness, or may be you're just not comfortable with it at all, even outside of a relationship. It's possible that your girlfriend has issues with expression of yourself/manliness and so you are conditioned away from expressing it. Been there in a previous relationship so I know this can seriously effect your self-esteem and confidence. Talk to her about it--most women "secretly" (or not so secretly) want a partner who's manly and dominant in the bedroom and usually out of the bedroom too.

To save your relationship, you need to find a way to express your manliness in a non-sexual way--whatever way works best for you, be it a motorcycle, sports, power tools, martial arts, or whatever creative and unique way you come up with on your own.

I'd also recommend seeing if you can try being a bit more dominant in the bedroom too, or at least expressing yourself fully and passionately. Once you get comfortable with it, chances are she'll enjoy it too. I'm lucky to have a girlfriend that openly wants me to be dominant in the bedroom--she makes it clear that she wants it so I don't have to worry about offending her. (A lot of women these days..)

Finally you need to determine what being a man means to you... There are two books I'd recommend: Way of the Superior Man (a great book with a stupid title) and Real Men Don't Apologize. The former is somewhat spiritual in nature, the latter appeals to a wider audience. Get the audio books if you need to--I did. Some people may think these books are full of misogyny, but in fact, nothing could be further from the truth. They are more about finding your identity as a man, and part of that, both books emphasize, is respect for women and the light they can bring to our lives.

Addendum: I also wanted to clarify: you cannot get all of your confidence and self-esteem from sleeping with a lot of women. Do this too much and it'll become addictive and ultimately lead to a loss of confidence and self-esteem. (Been there, done that!) You need multiple sources of confidence and self-esteem, sex and feeling desired by other people can only be one of the ways you obtain these things. Otherwise, the pursuit is ultimately fruitless and empty. It seems great at first, but after a while, you'll end up hating yourself far more than you would have otherwise.

This is all advice from a 36 year old male who's never been married and has slept with a lot of women. Trust me, it's not all its cracked up to be.

Female here, but have been in the same boat. Grew up super isolated, so I spent a lot of my 20s on my own and really lonely. Now have several solid friendships, a lot of acquaintances and dating prospects. So, I see myself as a success story. A lot of people on here are saying they’ve given up or feel hopeless, but I’m here to tell you it can change.

That loneliness shit is universal/literally an epidemic at this point. It has a lot to do with how our modern society is structured; hyper-independence is lauded, but actually unnatural. It’s not a reflection on you and your likability or lack there of.

(read “Loneliness - Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection” for more info. It helped me see it wasn’t something inherently wrong with me, but just something everyone experiences. Some people moreso because of practical things like not socialized properly in childhood, lacking skills, etc. It also gives a lot of info of how to get out of the lonely headspace). https://www.amazon.ca/Loneliness-Human-Nature-Social-Connection/dp/0393335283

Also therapy, both individual and group, helped me learn social skills and build connections that got me healthier socially.

(Read “Attached” to learn more about how your style of relating to others may be unhealthy, with guidance on how to improve it.)
https://www.amazon.ca/Attached-Science-Attachment-Find-Keep/dp/1585429139

Basically, a quick recipe is:

1. See the situation as cause and effect, not having anything inherently to do with you as a person or your worth. You’re lonely because of circumstances (that luckily you can control), not because you’re not likeable.
   
   
2. See it as a choice. You’re not helpless. There are things you can do. First, find your blind spots/blocks (with a therapist if you need help seeing them).
   
   Is it: a lack of social skills? You can learn those. Tons of psych articles out there.
   
   A lack of confidence? Start building it through changing your thoughts about yourself (cbt, self-coaching, etc). And figure out things that make you happy and do more of them.
   
   A lot of social (and normal) confidence comes from how others treat us, so if you’re not getting a lot of positive feedback from other humans, get a pet that loves the shit out of you, some online pals, or GET A THERAPIST. A good one will make you feel valued and respected and welcome. Those feelings and that long term connection will build our confidence subtly but naturally.
   
   
3. Go out more and do the things. First figure out what you enjoy, and then find social ways to do it. You could see a movie on your own, or start a movie night at your place. You could play games by yourself, or join a league. You could work on your car yourself, or join some enthusiasts club (idk I’m trying to think of dude things). You could take up knitting at home, or go to a knitting circle. Whatever it is.
   
   
4. Mitigate Expectations - don’t go to a non-primarily-social place and hope/try for a best friend. The person behind you in the grocery store probably isn’t looking for that when you guys exchange a quick comment about the line length. Or the cashier probably doesn’t wanna have a three hour convo. But still chat these ppl up (platonically). Make small talk frequently. Just engage in the world/people around you. It builds social confidence and breaks through isolation in quick bursts. But do talk to people more.
   
   And then when in very socially-focussed environments, see if there’s anyone that YOU find interesting (instead of focusing on whether or not they’ll find you interesting) and go talk to them. Aim for having a good convo and maybe being fb friends. Take it from there.
   
   
   You all got this, dude friends. There is legit hope/resources out there to change, both tour mindset and your situation. I believe in you!

For me, my advice comes from my mistakes...

Idle hands really can be the devils workshop. Keep yourself busy. Find things that interest you and keep chipping away at your progress. Find something that you stay hungry about: guitar, sports, gym, reading, hiking ... something that's constructive, gets you around different kinds of people and doesn't give you too much time to think about things.

This is the long game. It's a grind.

Book recommendations:

• He's Just Not Into You
  
  Don't let the title fool you. This book has a lot of wisdom for anyone powering through their insecurities in any relationship.
  
  
• The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck
  
  The author isn't who you'd expect to be writing a self help book but this is a great way to have someone else talk about things that you might not be able to put into words for yourself.
  
  Keep a journal. Get your thoughts and feelings down. This is a great way to come back to how you feel or think about something with fresh eyes as well as some hindsight. Your self awareness and emotional intelligence are what will dictate your success in relationships and your career.
  
  You have to be able to be happy when you're single before you can be happy in a relationship.
  
  Same thing for love; you can't love anyone in a healthy relationship until you love yourself.
  
  Don't Panic. Drink more water. Skip soda. Get exercise.
  
  Good luck.

In no particular order:

• Do the work you were hired for. Learn the way they're teaching you. Once you know in detail how they operate, where the faults and strengths are, that is when you start suggesting how to make changes. But you've got to have that experience first.
  
  
• Complain Up, not Down or Around (i.e. don't complain to your subordinates, nor to your peers). Don't complain to your co-workers. gather your data, develop your argument, and go to the right person. I've seen lots of half-decent workers lose serioius ground because they are constant whiners, and constantly whining to the wrong people.
  
  
• Your work is critical to the success of the entire company. Treat it like that, do it right, and do it well, and it will pay off as it shows through. I wouldn't pay you to do work I didn't need done, even if it seems a bit like busy-work. sometimes cleaning out the stash of busy-work is the single most useful thing a person can do for the other 50 people in the company. Loose ends bog us down.
  
  
• Make a habit of asking good questions. This means you have to learn the subject matter so well that you know what a good question is. it means you have to have insight from other peoples roles. It is one of the joys in my day when I hear one of my people ask me a really excellent question.
  
  
• Try new personal habits. Learn how you learn. Learn how you act. Learn what processes get you the best work done. Learn what motivates you. Learn what you want out of the job. There are a scad of good "business" books that discuss things like this. My current favorite is this.
  
  
• Don't stop learning. Even when you get all the certifications, all the credits, all the merits. I'll assume you choose the industry in you're in, so keep on learning about it. learn it on all levels. Get a hold of the industry rags (a lot of them are free, or fairly cheap), and read them over lunch, no matter how dry and bland they are. I heard something once fairly recently, I have no idea how true it is, so take it with a grain of salt. "an hour of subject matter reading a day will make you an world leading industry expert within 10 years." Who knows. What I do know is that every person in my field whom I respect the shit out of is a constant absorber of the information.
  
  Good Luck!

Long story short, you need to take his brain space away from his dick and onto other parts of the body.

Ejacutlation is psychosomatic, and there is a trap that's easy to fall into where you're concentrating on not ejaculating, but in so doing, you're bringing all your focus to your dick.

Does he like pain at all? Biting and scratching are a great way to put his mind elsewhere.

Asking him to keep kissing you or touching you can help a lot too.


Another approach is to suggest for him to practice endurance when he masturbates. Try bringing himself to the edge without going over, backing off and repeating for as long as he can. There is a specific muscle (pubocoxygeus) that controls ejactulation, and it can be strengthened in this way and others.

If you want to buy him a great book on controlling his ejaculation you could get him "The Mulitorgasmic man"
http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1370288881&sr=8-1&keywords=multiorgasmic+man

Edit- one last note is that depending on his anatomy, it can help to be a little rough with his dick (a really tight squeeze here and there with the hand) before you actually get in there and start playing nice. That will desensitize it a little bit. YMMV on that one, but i thought it was worth including.

My man - get yourself a safety razor and enjoy all of the luxuries that a single-bladed disposable razor offers without any of the downsides

The blades are so dirt cheap. Like they're 10 cents a piece if you buy it online.

Something like this: https://www.amazon.ca/Edwin-Jagger-Heather-Ladies-Double/dp/B00K6Z1R60/ref=sr_1_27?keywords=safety+razor+short+handle&qid=1567133206&s=gateway&sr=8-27

And blades like this: https://www.amazon.ca/Astra-Superior-Premium-Platinum-Double/dp/B001QY8QXM/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=safety+razor+blades&qid=1567133246&s=gateway&sr=8-5

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The nice thing about a safety razor is when you want to clean out the hair, all you have to do is unscrew the top a few turns and it loosens up and gives you more clearance in-between the blade and the handle - the water washes the hair right out.

I go through about 1 blade a week, so my shaving bill is now literally 40-50 cents per month, and it is way better than disposables.

You don't need to suppress it. You can enjoy watching a beautiful woman, you can appreciate the beauty, the feminine energy, this is what we do. Then we go back to our partner and make her happy the best we can.

https://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-Spiritual-Challenges/dp/1591792576

http://www.westcoastshaving.com/Merkur-Futur-Safety-Razor-Matte-Chrome_p_51.html

Safety razor in the kind of matte finish. I haven't really used another safety razor, but I like it a lot. Nice weight to it.

I can't remember the brush but it was about $40 I think.

http://www.crabtree-evelyn.com/for-him/shave-soap-in-wooden-bowl/801410.html?cgid=for-him

http://www.crabtree-evelyn.com/for-him/after-shave-balm/80143.html?cgid=for-him

I like the Crabtree and Evelyn line called Moroccan Myrrh. It smells nice and I also have the same cologne. Used to be called Nomad, but they changed the name for whatever reason.

The razors are Derby:

https://www.amazon.com/Derby-Extra-Double-Razor-Blades/dp/B004SGKMA0

$8 for 100 of them.

It's like most things. Large initial investment with very minimal upkeep after that.

Witch Hazel is the ingredient: it's a natural plant extract. You can get it at the drugstore, but unscented witch hazel smells a bit funky to some, so I would recommend one of the Thayer's varieties which smells quite pleasant, and also includes aloe vera and vitamin E for extra moisturizing.

If I sound like an infomercial for W_E, it's only because of how pleased I am with DE shaving since making the switch. It's transformed a painful chore into a hobby I enjoy. And if nothing else, you can save a ton of money: the blades I use are currently selling for 11 cents apiece on Amazon and they last about a week (4-5 shaves each). I spent $11 on two years worth of blades - how much did you spend on cartridges?

Wow, thank you for such a comprehensive response! I will give all of these a listen. And I totally second your statement on film/tv soundtracks carrying intense emotional weight, just listen to the soundtrack of Schindler's List (my favorite work of John Williams). I actually just ordered a pair of top-drawer headphones today, and I'm looking forward to experiencing music in a whole new way. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01JP436TS/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 here's the link if you're in the market for a new set of cans! I wish you well in the forthcoming holiday season.

My immediate thought is that if you are self aware enough to recognize these tendencies then you should be mindful enough to stop that behavior. Also, that if you are involved with someone exhibiting that behavior and you speak with them about it, then find that they are not willing to think critically about themselves and how they act then no, you cannot change that person or fix the relationship. You only control yourself and your impact on the relationship.

A quick search brought me a few articles on how to heal codependant relationships. I think couples counseling would be the best approach. Learning to curb codependancy in yourself by building self confidence and strong personal boundaries when you are single so that you are able to recognize it in others when you are dating would be the best route.

I haven't read it yet, but I've seen this book Mindset: The New Psychology of Sucess recommended often to build self confidence and this book The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*uck has given me a good taste of what perspective to adopt when you're someone that allows other's wants and needs to come before your own.

Scissors or trimmers. Don't pluck, and don't ignore it. Ear hair is a little more benign, but long nose hair is something everyone will notice and no one will appreciate.

I am unlucky enough to be a very hairy individual. I've been dealing with nose hair since I was 16. I, unfortunately, also have a relatively sensitive nostril cavity, so when I first bought a trimmer it was a nightmare. The trimming sensation was somewhere between ticklish and waterboarding, and flinching only caused hair to get pulled out (see above about not plucking).

I started with mustache scissors--which work very well. The problem with scissors is that you can't get a close cut, so you are back in there weekly. They did help me with my sensitivity, however. After about a year I went back to the trimmer and had far fewer issues. Now I whip that baby out two or three times a month and have clean nostrils in 30 seconds or less.

The Panasonic ER-GN30 was the trimmer of choice when I did my research and I would strongly recommend it. Waterproof for easy cleaning and runs on a single (easy-to-find while travelling) AA battery.

The key to long-lasting trims is to get in the "pockets" of your nostril. There are two: both just inside the opening, one towards the tip of the nose and one towards your teeth. These are easy to miss and will become visible again within days if not trimmed well. Now I can feel when I need a trim as my nose feels "itchy" as hairs have crossed the Maginot line and have started interfering with each other.

I never took advantage of my university gym, but it was an awesome one. I really, really wish I did. You will regret it if you don't use it. There are several paths to take, head over to /r/fitness and check out the side bar. There are programs people have made to cater to entry-level lifts. The one I started on, still on pretty much, is Starting Strength - it's a fantastic book.

I got one for my wife about 3 years ago, and she uses it religiously. Helps her wake up in the morning, but also helps her fall asleep at night. Theres a reverse function where it will also dim at night. We both like to read at night, so when we decide to go to bed, we will just put it on that feature and it will slightly dim over 20 minutes. Best purchase I ever made.

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This is the one I got her:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0093162RM/ref=oh_aui_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

The Phillips HF320 is awesome: https://www.amazon.ca/Philips-HF3520-Wake-Up-Coloured-Simulation/dp/B0093162RM

It's super bright, and has different colours for the sunrise. Definitely a godsend in Winter. This + putting my phone across the room has helped me get out of bed most mornings. It's not like you'll be raring to jump out of bed every morning but it does make waking up easier.

I tried the HF310 which is way cheaper but it wasn't as bright or as nice, so I returned it and managed to get my 320 on facebook classifieds for $60.

Yeah I guess even though we try honesty and communication, it takes two people to be aware of themselves to have a good relationship. I feel like people who are actually considerate about these matters like you, or I or anyone else that views these matters with weight are in the minority.

Just because we are being honest doesn’t mean another person is nor do they know their attachment style. I did read this book, https://www.amazon.com/dp/1585429139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_RQuEDbRPWEEQV

Attached, because I wanted to understand people better and avoid pitfalls, but again, not everyone can communicate. Maybe it’s an age thing, I’m 28 years old, and seems like my dating pool just isn’t quite “there” yet. Like another person here suggested, focus less on dating and instead on the self. Learn to move on from things and not let bad happenings traumatize too much. And most importantly, keep learning and maybe even get there some day. I see too many failed marriages. I want to get it right the first time.

You can get a good one with multiple uses on Amazon for $15.

I got this one 4 months ago and love it! I use it to trim my nostril hairs and tighten up my eyebrows since I have pretty beastly ones.

+1 for safety razors

You want cheap? You want classy?

Get a nice double-edged safety razor. Pick up a box of 100 razor blades for < $8.

I don't have any erection problems but I've been getting into the whole Zen/Tao thing and found this book about multiple make orgasms about a year ago. Also check out prostate orgasms using a Aneros device. The book and the Aneros will change your life.

Most guys have no clue about prostate orgasms but after reading the book and working through it and using the Aneros for about a year I can have orgasm like pleasure for as long as I like. I also don't feel worn out at the end of a session, it's like I've been recharged.

Get a battery powered nose hair trimmer I like the one with the round trimmer part vs the flat one. Conair and Wahl makes a good one and you can pick them up for $19 or less in CVS or Duane Reade or Walgreens. I tried one of those mechanical hair trimmers and thought I'd pee on myself every time I used it because it was so painful. [This looks like a good one] (https://www.amazon.com/Panasonic-ER-GN30-K-Nose-Hair-Trimmer/dp/B0049LUI9O/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1493174453&sr=1-4&keywords=nose+hair+trimmer) and [this is a toture device] (https://www.amazon.com/KEEPO-Portable-Stainless-Fingernail-Cleaning/dp/B01M69TSFH/ref=sr_1_7_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1493174453&sr=1-7&keywords=nose+hair+trimmer)

>Male orgasm feels a lot like a 3-second sneeze.

FTFY: Male EJACULATION feels a lot like a 3-second sneeze.

If you, however, learn to separate ejaculation from orgasm, you can have "dry orgasms" which can, at best, become full-body orgasms and be far more rewarding / nourishing / interesting / worth striving for rather than merely having a 3-5 second ejaculation.

P.s. Most men will never research this and will just laugh at it and go "fuck this, I wanna cum - none of that tantric newage mumbo-jumbo shit, this is how I roll, can't teach an old dog new tricks" -- and then fight about it.

p.p.s: http://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

Merkur Model 180 Long Handled Safety Razor

Taylor of Old Bond Street Sandalwood Shaving Cream Bowl, 5.3-Ounce

Tweezerman Men's Shaving Brush

100 Astra Superior Premium Platinum Double Edge Safety Razor Blades

And some Jojoba Oil

I used to suck at dating and interpersonal relationships in general, I'm still not the best at it but whatever. What helped me out a bunch was reading some books.

How to win friends and influence people

What every body is saying

Attached

Need nice headphones? Sennheiser's HD598 Cs can be found for $100 (70 with your coupon, wow that's a deal).

At first I thought you were telling the truth and thought you might like this book: http://www.amazon.com/Natural-Harvest-collection-semen-based-recipes/dp/1481227041

But then you TL;DR and I laughed.

Get Starting Strength

It's a really good book and lays out how to get started with the most important weight lifting exercises. Most of what makes the gym scary is being afraid of looking like a dumbass. You can even go late at night if you want, and almost no one will be there.

It's ok if you don't really do much your first couple of times. Just getting in the door will give you more courage for next time.

After going like 3-5 times, you start to want to go so that you can continue whatever weight lifting routine you decide on.

"Starting Strength" by Mark Rippetoe is the book that /r/fitness recommends to everyone. It's like the bible of lifting.

I like these. They're expensive, but are absolutely fantastic. Especially if you do hiking or any other serious activity.

Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. It may not be as accessible to teenagers, but your 18-19 year old's may benefit.

there is no lack of place to do pullups

but I love my Iron Gym for doorway pullups.

$60, This is my go-to funny yet functional birthday gift I've given a few friends. It does both hot/cold.

$36 cold water only version

Edit: My buddy sent me this SFW 13 second video of the $60 unit in action.

Was sitting in my room, just finished a protein shake in a futile attempt in gaining weight about 30 minutes or so earlier. I was hot, trying to relax and cool down. Let one RIP. Dear God, the stench was so heinous it gave me a debilitating and severely nauseating headache and made me throw up, thankfully not before getting to the bathroom.

The other fart I remember best while not actually being mine was my mothers. It was my mother, stepfather, half sister, and I driving to my grandparents house. I dont know wtf she ate or what buf she let it RIP and before long the van is filled with the heinous stench of a rotting skunk and the infamous prank odor, liquid ass. We were all gagging and retching and had to open every window to clear the stench.

The Power of Habit: Why we do what we do in life and business.


In The Power of Habit, award-winning business reporter Charles Duhigg takes us to the thrilling edge of scientific discoveries that explain why habits exist and how they can be changed. Distilling vast amounts of information into engrossing narratives that take us from the boardrooms of Procter & Gamble to the sidelines of the NFL to the front lines of the civil rights movement, Duhigg presents a whole new understanding of human nature and its potential. At its core, The Power of Habit contains an exhilarating argument: The key to exercising regularly, losing weight, being more productive, and achieving success is understanding how habits work. As Duhigg shows, by harnessing this new science, we can transform our businesses, our communities, and our lives.

If it's a money issue, I might recommend him getting a DE safety razor. I bought one for $20 (at an antique mall), and I get 100 blades for $10.

Victorinox 8 Inch Fibrox Pro Chef’s Knife

Spent $45 on it years ago, still works like a charm with occasional sharpening.

I like ex-officios boxer briefs. They're designed for prolonged (read 4-5 days) outdoor wear, so I originally got them for backpacking. I have literally worn one pair for a week at a time and they've kept their shape and haven't started stinking (again, I was backpacking, I don't usually let them fester that long.) I liked them so much that I bought a few more pairs and I wear them most days. Here's the link http://www.amazon.com/ExOfficio-Mens-Give-N-Go-Boxer-Brief/dp/B001M0MN16

thanks, i've been thinking about getting one of those! this one right?

http://www.amazon.com/Merkur-Long-Handled-Safety-Razor/dp/B000NL0T1G/ref=sr_1_2?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1453125614&sr=1-2&keywords=merkur+safety+razor

http://www.amazon.com/Derby-Extra-Double-Razor-Blades/dp/B004SGKMA0/ref=pd_sim_194_31?ie=UTF8&dpID=41z8d0dXyuL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR160%2C160_&refRID=1DGT8KR3R8EHQVEVE736


20 for the razor

20 for 2 100 ct blades

If you were to shave everyday and swtich out the blade. That set up will last you 200 days. If you were to shave every other day, that set up will last you 400 days.

Price wise you cannot beat DA shaving.

Victorinox Fibrox 8-Inch Chef's Knife

A man needs to feed himself, and food preparation is more enjoyable with a sharp knife.

Both sprinkles and semen are very useful in baking.

I installed 2 of these at home, they are great. No idea why USA is the only country I know without them.

https://www.amazon.com/Luxe-Bidet-Neo-320-Non-Electric/dp/B00A0RX2UI/ref=sr_1_6?s=hi&ie=UTF8&qid=1503545437&sr=1-6&keywords=bidet

FYI: the deal is on!

Sennheiser HD 598 Cs for $99.95.

This is a safety razor. What you have is a cartridge razor, which are more expensive to maintain.

For example, I buy these blades, which cost me 0.09$ per blade.

Highly recommend this knife or similar.

Read this book: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 . It'll help you in life in general.

Not 100%, but I believe it was a quote from the author of Men on Strike (who was quoting one of the men she interviewed for this book).

Check out her AMA, I believe it's in there as well.

1. Shower before shaving. The heat and steam will open up your pores.
   
   
2. Get a DE razor. If you have really sensitive skin, the four blades passing over one spot are going to irritate the shit out of it. A cheap one will run you about 15 bucks, shipping included. If you like it, go buy a nice one.
   
   
3. If you're putting any sort of pressure on your face while shaving, you're doing it wrong. Let the sharpness of the blade cut the hairs for you. If the blade isn't cutting the hair without pressure, it's not sharp enough and you need a new one. The aforementioned DE razor is great for this because new blades are approximately the price of dirt.
   
   
4. Get a shaving lotion that is specifically for sensitive skin. My personal favorite is Proraso's Sensitive Skin cream, but you can find something else. When in doubt, get rid of the fragrances.
   
   
5. Wash your face off afterward. Make sure that all of the lather is gone; soap will dry out your face if you leave it on. This goes double for regular shaving cream.

Yeah, usually you want separate razors for your body. This is what I've used
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B078G9BKBW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_IqK5BbSF5VPKK

I have this one. It rests on the top of the frame and pushes on the front. feels pretty sturdy, but I'm not very heavy.

Here in America we've developed technology that attaches right to the bowel.

Luxe Bidet Neo 320 - Self Cleaning Dual Nozzle - Hot and Cold Water Non-Electric Mechanical Bidet Toilet Attachment (blue and white) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00A0RX2UI/ref=cm_sw_r_other_awd_u-pywb93CG6C5

Sure. But so can having the most commonly asked questions and misconceptions explicitly and simply written down.

Thousands and maybe even millions of people start the journey alone every year and they have even less information.

This book describes the important exercises and programming a beginner would need in detail.

I recommend reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.

Waxing nose hairs isn't a good idea - you need those hairs. Get a nose hair trimmer like this, only $13 - https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0049LUI9O/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I think Men On Strike tackles a whole lot of issues we see here - especially around divorce, marriage, and custody.

The Author, Dr. Helen Smith, did an AMA a couple months ago that turned me onto the book. Whether or not you agree with everything she says, she provides some compelling facts.

Where do you think they got those ideas from?

And only makes dishes from this book.

These

Get 'em while they're on sale.

You could up your budget a little and get the one I got. It also has a hot water hookup and it has a second nozzle, a "women's" nozzle.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00A0RX2UI/

the Power of Habit

Read this book. It will give you insight into why you do what you and how to change them.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/081298160X?pc_redir=1405564689&robot_redir=1

Attached

The Way Of The Supperior Man

And more!

This motherfucker

Source 1

Source 2

I've read the article.

Get a decent chef's knife. I have this one and it has never let me down https://www.amazon.com/Victorinox-Fibrox-45520-Frustration-Packaging/dp/B008M5U1C2

This is my bench


Pullup bar


EZ Curl bar


Tricep bar


Tricep pull down rope

Dip station

Consider getting him one of these because it was cheap and relevant as the conversations have been going:

https://www.amazon.com/Iron-Gym-Total-Upper-Workout/dp/B001EJMS6K

Much cheaper on EBay IIRC

Just ask Santa then, little boy.

Get this stink spray from amazon and don’t tell anyone. Spray in his room. He’ll clean everything.

Liquid Ass https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000OCEWGW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_YY5IDbFRYEAV5

No but to each his own bro.

I suggest this book if you want to explore even farther...

http://www.amazon.com/Natural-Harvest-collection-semen-based-recipes/dp/1481227041

This bad boy was worth every dollar. If you are going to get one, opt for one with the warm water option.

"Is it true they took clippings of God's beard and made them into dick armor?"

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B001M0MN16/ref=pd_aw_sim_468_1?ie=UTF8&dpID=41367s13h1L&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL100_SR100%2C100_&refRID=0FV36BQQAVNZXHW94DD0

Have you tried this one?

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B078G9BKBW/ref=dp_ob_neva_mobile

My 7100 took a dump on me and I was thinking about the 3100 you posted but apparently the one above is the new version?

I was actually looking at some of these alarm clocks a couple nights ago & found some different models: $131 and
$200.

Spray some Liquid Ass on his stinky pile of clothes and under his bed.

I bet it will be enough to get him to clean his crap up.

Few points:

• Gold Bond
  
• Regular showers when you have a chance. Hygiene is key. Make sure you give the area a chance to breath and dry off when you're home. Free-ballin' in gym shorts at home is a good plan.
  
• ExOfficio Boxer Briefs are the greatest things I've found to prevent chaffing and other groin issues. They breath so much better than UnderArmor and prevent chaffing much better than cotton. Plus these don't ride up on me like cotton boxer briefs.
  
• Be in lean shape. I went from 6'1" 235lb of very muscular to 200lbs of more lean (both in shape) but since my legs got smaller there was no friction problems. If you're fat it's going to be even worse.

They used to sell a trimmer in the BodyGroom line (I think that’s what it’s called) that has tiny metal spheres on the tip of the blades so it doesn’t catch the skin on your balls. It’s a game changer. You barely have to worry about it.

edit: Picture for reference and Amazon link.

No worries man, everyone starts somewhere. I was a swimmer, when I started lifting everything was outta whack for me too. I recommend reading Starting Strength if you're looking for info on muscle groups, proper exercise motions and stuff!

Liquid Ass https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000OCEWGW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_wY9IDb8C8MXYB

I know its a “how to motivate” part but you should try using this. Make his room smell bad to him and he will clean.

Funny you should ask....

> So as it stands today, there are large numbers of middle-class men who were upstanding citizens, who were subjected to divorce against their will, had their children taken from them, pay alimony masked as child support that is so high that many of them have to live out of their cars or with their relatives, and after job loss from economic conditions, are imprisoned simply for running out of money.

> If 10-30% of American men are under conditions where 70% or more of their income is taken from them under threat of prison, these men have no incentive to start new businesses or invent new technologies or processes. Having 10-30% of men disincentivized this way cannot be good for the economy, and is definitely a contributor to current economic malaise, not to mention a 21st-century version of slavery.

See also, Men On Strike:

> American society has become anti-male. Men are sensing the backlash and are consciously and unconsciously going “on strike.” They are dropping out of college, leaving the workforce and avoiding marriage and fatherhood at alarming rates. The trend is so pronounced that a number of books have been written about this “man-child” phenomenon, concluding that men have taken a vacation from responsibility simply because they can. But why should men participate in a system that seems to be increasingly stacked against them?

> As Men on Strike demonstrates, men aren’t dropping out because they are stuck in arrested development. They are instead acting rationally in response to the lack of incentives society offers them to be responsible fathers, husbands and providers. In addition, men are going on strike, either consciously or unconsciously, because they do not want to be injured by the myriad of laws, attitudes and hostility against them for the crime of happening to be male in the twenty-first century. Men are starting to fight back against the backlash. Men on Strike explains their battle cry.

tl;dr: Men are responding to the signals women (via society) are sending them.

I used to be very big on "positive thinking" stuff, even to the very extremes like "Law of Attraction" and similar utter pseudoscience. Wishful thinking self-help books, etc, you get the idea.

I've read two books this year that have completely turned around my whole philosophy in life:

Mark Manson's "The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*uck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life"

Oliver Burkeman's "The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking"

I've read countless self-help books and 98% of them are more or less the same... But not these two. They compliment each other perfectly eve though written by different authors who don't know each other.

It's hard to explain, really. Basically, it's not that positive thinking itself is bad. It's the way most of us tend to see life itself and the meaning and goals of life. Most of us are taught to avoid pain and hardship and seek "happiness", which is usually defined as the same as pleasure. We're told that "bad emotions" are bad and we should avoid them as much as possible, while the ideal goal of life is to feel "happy" as much as possible. This approach is flawed and unrealistic in many ways. For one, this is actually putting a significant pressure on people to feel happy, especially those involved in this "positivity" movement. Oliver Burkeman included a great quote from someone, which I think sums this up perfectly:

> "The moment you ask yourself whether you're happy, you cease to be [happy]". The harder we try to chase happiness, the more unreachable it seems. The attitude of "not trying to be happy", aka the counterintuitive approach, is something both books explore, just in different ways. Manson's book goes a bit further to propose what I thought was an absolutely awesome theory on pain in life. Here's the quote that sums it up:

> “Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame. Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain. In contrast, if you’re able to not give a fuck about the pain, you become unstoppable."

You can't avoid pain in life, it's part of life. Constantly trying to run away from it or avoid it is itself a negative experience. But you can try and choose what kind of pain you want to experience in life, and that's a good way to determine what you want to do with your life. Most people advise to choose a job based on what you want to be doing, aka imagine the positives of that job. Manson advises to imagine the negative parts of that job and choose the job the negatives of which, aka the pains, you would mind the least, or could even enjoy, that's a much better predictor of how much you're going to like that job in the end. It's the same with problems in life in general - everybody thinks they want a problem-free life, but the truth is that if we stop having problems, then we just start inventing them, because we're naturally set on having some problems and challenges to solve, it's hardwired into us because in the past we certainly had lots of problems to solve, constantly. The idea is to choose what problems in life you want to solve.

Both books talk about failure a lot, how it sucks that failure has deemed to be unacceptable in society, and how useful it actually is - not just as a tool to learn from our mistakes, but there's a certain sort of beauty and power in failure, in the way that it shows us "naked", strips everything down to the bare bottom.

They also talk about death, and how constantly having death in the back of our minds is actually not depressing or unhealthy but a better way to live. Another great quote from Manson's book:

> death is the light by which the shadow of all of life’s meaning is measured.

Burkeman's book also has a chapter, it tells about his journey to a crime-ridden town in Mexico that has this interesting religion of Santa Muerte (kind of a version of Virgin Mary worship where she's portrayed as a "dead lady" and you give her offerings to protect you from death in dangerous situations, she's very popular with drug dealers and crime gangs but also regular people in poor towns and villages). That guy is pretty badass, he went to various places like a very poor slum in Nairobi and a town in Mexico that was considered so dangerous he couldn't even find a guide to show him the way, and tried a several day's long meditation retreat while having zero experience with meditation before. He's also met with one New Age guru and a couple who practiced Stoicism. Generally he went into it with a pretty skeptical attitude and while he didn't become zealous about Buddhism, Stoicism or any of those, according to him he still took a lot from it and that's how he's built this philosophy. A few other chapters also offer some interesting "counterintuitive" views and ideas, like how goal setting (or more like, being very goal-oriented) is harmful, or how too much positive thinking in the US made the society less safe, etc. Also has a great explanation of the concept of hedonic treadmill.

Manson's book also has some other great and interesting ideas, like how we shouldn't be so focused on being unique and exceptional because few of us really are, how to take responsibility for everything in your life (and explaining how it's different from believing that everything is your fault and constantly beating yourself up, which is not good) and avoiding victimhood mentality, how we shouldn't be so focused about always being right and just accept that we're wrong about a lot of things a lot of the time and this has benefits.

I don't think I explained it very well. It's kind of a mix of Buddhism, Stoicism, Memento Mori, "positive negativity/negative positivity?" (Burkeman's book had a term for it but I forgot) and, I'm not sure, some good ol' humility and accountability, etc. I really can't recommend those books enough. They literally made me see the world in a completely different perspective.