Daoism and zen Buddhism helped me a lot.

Don't dismiss this as new age woo, it's whatever you make of it.

Zen creates a mind set that places you beyond yourself, and from there you can become your own puppet master.

Zen keys by Thich Nhat Hanh is really good.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0385475616/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1521050527&sr=1-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=Zen+keys

Besides that I think it's just really important to have the courage to be your own advocate. No one else but you will always be there for you as bleak as that sounds.

You have to begin seeing yourself as your own magnum opus. Your self is your ultimate creation that you continue to develop and refine and all other things extend from that.

Plato likened a person to a republic in the sense that you can be a master of the self or a slave of the self.

When you sprint at max speed your strength is dragging your weakness along. If you keep doing that you'll unify yourself more and more.

If you want the second slice of cake, you mind says no, but the body says yes.

It's that sort of a thing.

Have faith in yourself that you can be as great as you can imagine yourself to be, and any doubt you have is just the lesser man inside of you trying to snuff out the greater man.

All this talk of cope is really toxic because it is blatantly playing on your weaknesses.

I read a lot of philosophy books and random stuff that I thought could be useful. A really powerful book for me was les miserables.

That was referred to by Hugo as his religious masterpiece, only its a view of Christianity that was overriden by fundamentalism. It's Christianity as a philosophy or even better said, the science of subjectivity. There is nothing supernatural but it demonstrates how there is no need.

If you want me to break down the plot I can but I don't wanna ruin it, but it's basically a perspective on spirituality where you realize what's "true" doesn't really matter.

A person who believes something makes it real.

The subjective world is entirely our own creation.

Beyond that I'd say just read everything you're interested in and process it on two different levels.

There is the message of the author, and then a meta analysis where it's essentially just a thought exercise. You can actually learn way more than even the author intended that way and it puts you in a mindset where you are in control of how it shapes you.

Your assumption that everyone is on the take is just wrong. I've lived a long time, met a lot of people in a variety of locations, and the one thing I can tell you for sure is that there are many more good, kind, helpful people of both genders (or all), than bad. Most people just want to get along in their lives, and understand the golden rule, "Treat others how you wish to be treated by them."

The thing is, people live up to our expectations. If you expect people to lie, cheat, steal, those are the people you'll notice and gravitate towards. If you expect them to be decent people who will help if asked--and who will often volunteer without being asked--you'll notice those people.

Yes, people make mistakes. We sometimes mistake our own intentions, or come across situations that change our minds about other people, but that's part of life, which will never quite follow the life scripts I mentioned. And yes, there are those who will use anyone and everyone--but you know them by their actions, not their words. 'Trust, but verify' might be a better approach than 'mistrust everyone.'

This may sound counter-intuitive, but I was once in a relationship I had a hard time letting go of after it ended. I spent my fair share of time wallowing, but eventually knew I had to let go and move on. A book I found, "How to fall out of love," has simple cognitive behavioral exercises that helped me identify and change my own negative thought patterns.

The reverse side of that, of course, is that there are also simple exercises that help you make better choices in pursuing the next relationship. (Google 'cognitive behavioral therapy' for a broader view.)

No one's perfect. We all struggle, even those labelled as 'normies' and 'Chads'--you just haven't seen their struggles because you're focused on your own, and it's easier for you to think, naturally enough, that their life is just easy. It isn't, though.

That's why you got such a kind response from /u/ceDrowRanger. She recognizes that life is hard and you're struggling too.

Good luck to you!

My Hebrew is poor but I studied some to help me understand the Old Testament. It's quite amazing how conceptually different Hebrew is from European languages. I also know Spanish which uses different words than English, but the meanings are almost the same. Not so for Hebrew which means that accurate translation is basically impossible.

I was raised atheist but I am racially jewish which gave me free pass into synagogue. I love the Old Testament but I hate the Talmud, so judaism is not for me.

If you are Christian, I highly recommend this book:

https://www.amazon.com/Brethren-Thinking-Michael-B-Hari/dp/149055730X/

And here is a Mennonite view of separate seating:

http://www.bibleviews.com/separateseating.html

The positive results are obvious:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BRty645Iis8

"called me "cool" today".... and meant it...

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being loved and genuinely respected is a great thing, my friend. it has saved many lives.

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even cured major mental illnesses. it's documented. "A Way out of Madness" is a short book on this topic, with personal long term recovery stories without medication.


https://www.amazon.com/Way-Out-Madness-Diagnosed-Psychiatric/dp/144908348X/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1541487108&sr=1-1

Anyone read this book and if so is it any good?

Size Matters: How Height Affects the Health, Happiness, and Success of Boys - and the Men They Become

>You know better though. There are so many posts here about "normies" coping, when you're the ones making up this black and white nonsense as a cope.

There's a lot of coping here, but this isn't cope. How is an ugly person pointing out how looks are everything 'cope'? Do you even know what ‘cope’ means? “Coping” is characterized by a degree of false optimism.

>Go look at any female who is remotely attractive online and there are plenty of dumb comments from guys.

It's not the same. Male attraction towards attractive women isn't nearly as obsessive. Young men are certainly attracted to hot women, but the attraction isn't nearly as obsessive as sending serial killers love letters or female FBI agents sleeping with ISIS members. A guy just thinks "damn, she's hot" and goes about his day.

There's a reason even the hottest women in the world aren't treated with the same amount of obsession as your typical high school girl treats, say, Justin Bieber. You won’t find a man spending day and night thinking about Beyonce or Kim Kardashian. Moreover, men tend to not remain with criminal, psychotic women even if she is attractive. "Don't stick your dick in crazy" has no female analogue.

All in all, women are truly the shallow sex, because they are routinely willing to abrogate any moral principles they claim to have to get Chad cock.

>being a woman for most of recorded history sucked.

Not really. Women have actually had it easier than men for most of recorded history. Substantially easier, in fact. Read this book.

> Yeah, if you're actually really ugly (and a lot of you most certainly aren't) it's unfair and it sucks. Just like being born in sub Sahara Africa sucks, or being born basically anyone before 1960 or so often sucked, or being a woman for most of recorded history sucked.
>Life generally fucking sucks, welcome to reality

Notice how the attitude towards social injustice changes when incels are on the receiving end. Suddenly, you people become all nihilistic. “The world is unfair. Just deal with it”. You would never say that to any other marginalized group. Suddenly, when the conversation is about male virgins, the typical hypocritical progressive (tm) Reddit user reverts to effectively far-right talking points about the cruelty of reality.

There are some things that work outside the scope of evolution/natural selection. I recommend everyone to read 'The Evolution of Beauty.'

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3391426/

https://www.theverge.com/2017/5/19/15659294/richard-prum-evolution-beauty-biology-darwin-interview

Those two links above are also worth reading.

Models: Attract Women Through Honesty

By Mark Manson

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The results had a p<0.05 so they are statistically significant.



The study has a citation index of 90 so it's been peer-reviewed.









Related links:






https://www.amazon.com/Blindsight-Peter-Watts/dp/0765319640



https://thebrainbank.scienceblog.com/2015/10/10/whats-going-on-in-your-head-the-science-behind-our-inner-voice/

They are supersized books with better quality paper and shit not a bad price either. the problem is only the first volume is out which has books 1,2,3, volume 2 with 4,5,6 comes out in a few months

https://www.amazon.com/Berserk-Deluxe-1-Kentaro-Miura/dp/1506711987/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2HKJZ4UHL2EER&keywords=berserk+deluxe&qid=1555733043&s=gateway&sprefix=berserk+delux%2Caps%2C371&sr=8-2

> actually falling for "women are pure, they want to cuddle not fuck" meme

BAD INCEL, CUCK IQ

>Book of leftist journalist Daniel Bergner summarizes the work of a series of sexologists studies on humans & similar animals & tops it with personal anecdotes which conclude that "women want sex just as much as men do, and that sexual drive is mostly NOT sustained by emotional intimacy and safety." Bergner's research suggests that women's sexual craving makes them even less well-suited for monogamy than men.

https://www.amazon.com/What-Do-Women-Want-Adventures/dp/0061906085

>From American Psychological Association, "men significantly underestimate women's sexual desires especially in relationships"

http://psycnet.apa.org/record/2016-22171-006

> "When reporting sex, men & women disgaree on what constitutes sex… women do not consider fellatio, cunnilingus, and manual stimulation of a partner's genitals, whereas men did". Another BlackPill truth. When asking women about previous sex, multiply it by 3 and keep in mind they only count vaginal (and maybe anal)

Proof that women only have desire for Chad whereas cuck men suffer from lacking sex
> husbands want a 50% increase in sex whereas wives are satisfied

> Nearly 30% of the unfaithful husbands had multiple extramarital partners, compared to only 5% of the unfaithful wives. (sex is for chad whereas chads fuck anyone)

> People who were in a committed relationship who want to have sex but aren't having sex, consisted almost entirely of men & only 2% of women reported that issue

> "Among 20-year-olds who aren't in a committed relationship or dating for less than 2 years found no noticeable gender difference in sexual desire." To me, that says women got bored of fucking a man, needs to ride the cock carrousel.

Study at http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1207/S15327957PSPR0503_5

My question is why would she do that. What would she gain, attention? To be fair there probably is a bunch of beta cucks still defending her. There was literally no evidence, let alone a backstory behind her allegation. There was no substance at all ! Just a statement that a bitch made out of irrationality that simps blindly accepted

Unfortunately, with these kinds of books out there it's only gonna get worse

COPE, french women fucked nazis (and married them) and then after they lost they fucked americans (and also married them).

Yeah some were raped but a lot of them wanted to have sex and marry victorious chads.


EDIT:
WW2:
Italy
During the campaign of 1943-1945, there were more than 10,000 marriages between Italian women and American soldiers

French - can't find source how many there are two books about American-French marriage

https://www.amazon.com/French-War-Brides-Mademoiselle-American/dp/0984004335/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1507726255&sr=8-2&keywords=hilary+kaiser

https://www.amazon.com/WWII-Voices-American-French-Married/dp/1475285884/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1507726255&sr=8-1&keywords=hilary+kaiser

Korean War
6,423 Korean women married U.S. military personnel as war brides during and immediately after the Korean War.

Vietnam War
8,040 Vietnamese women came to the United States as war brides between 1964 and 1975.[24]