(Part 3) Top products from r/TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

Yepp, I didn’t want to get into the various examples of how my mother was like amber but, it’s amazing after being diagnosed with ptsd as well due to my childhood that was like shocking to me... my psychiatrist diagnosed it and pointed out my triggers whereI would start shaking and crying talking about memories, I just always had a drawer in the back of my mind I’d stow them away in. Case in point of how BPD is and how I also related to the Amber/Andrew situation... amber tore down a door with a machete? MY MOM did it with a BUTCHER KNIFE. And I have a scar on my upper arm from where I was holding the door shut absolutely fucking terrified of this monster who, like you said the next day act like it didn’t happen.

Oh and the fun part of bpd, it’s narcissism. I was the only girl, I was competition to her. Once I got to be a teen I was “ugly, no one would ever want me” etc.... then when I was an adult? Those men she’d see hit on me when we would try to go along and go out for a couple drinks? She would return to those bars and sleep with them. Or a guy messaged me on fb and I show her laughing at what a tool they are to think that I would fall for some random messaging me? Oh she slept with them to. The final straw was she slept with a guy I was dating‘s friend and him messaging me she left the bar with said friend. I moved out after that one... There was 4 men in a span of a year she did this.

On my wedding day, she refused to take photos with family, she didn’t say one word to me at the reception, screamed at my dad and my grandma (my dad obviously divorces her) so I stomped up and said she can stop it right now or she leave.... no apology, I just check my phone after she goes to the parking lot telling everyone how she’s gonna kill her self and I find a text from her “to never contact her again”, it’s been a year and it feels so fucking good I obliged on that request.

Edit: idk if you have but read Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder ... it made me cry and say that was me! I couldn’t believe other people understood and experienced the same things.... I have it as a pdf if you want it, I can pm you the pdf of it 💕💕💕💕

Most of the grocery stores I shop at have either the cashier's name or number on the receipt, maybe you can find identifying info that way? I think that filling out a comment card to praise an employee is such a nice thing to do!

It was very sweet & thoughtful of you to give the cashier a kind word directly too. I sometimes think what if nobody else has complemented this person today? It's always nice to hear, especially if someone is going thru rough times.

You could get your grandmother a dressing aid tool like this which will help her to get her socks off and more (there is another aid for putting socks and stockings on and they work really well too)

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0002DL946/_encoding=UTF8?coliid=IBNKKC6IQCTGI&colid=F3N90V7BAOW5

They are the best! I'm a NICU/PICU RN and my son is almost 11, I was kind of a sleep training Nazi (with a pretty rigid schedule/naps from birth to about 3 years, even at 4 years old he didn't nap anymore but I insisted on 1 hour of "quiet time"). I also did the CIO method which I know some people just can not do, but the result is a kid that loves sleep just as much as his dad and I do!! This is what I used-starting at like 3 years old-set for 0730 am and he'd sometimes wake at 0700 but never came out of his room until the light turned! He'd look at books or play quietly in his room until he could get up. https://www.amazon.com/Good-Nite-Lite-900-381/dp/B002N4IN0U/ref=asc_df_B002N4IN0U/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=222189693293&hvpos=1o5&hvnetw=g&hvrand=5398284593935943688&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9030810&hvtargid=pla-362506696483&psc=1

I think for most people some parts are obvious but it would be easier if we all knew it and used it as a playbook. If you’re interested you can find the workbook on Amazon: DBT® Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572307811/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_nhcFDbDRAYEDQ

I went through it as part of treatment for an eating disorder, although less formally than usual. I think traditionally you do a lot of group meetings in a short, intensive period of time. But reading it at my own pace is helpful too.

Edited to add: the interpersonal skills section is essentially exactly like what my company pays good money for someone to come and teach us as “leadership training”

Oh man, yes. I use this on a day to day and then I use the eight greens serum and moisturizer around my period (so like ten days out of the month). The rest of the time, I use Eminence Thermal Spring Whip Moisturizer, 2 Ounce https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002WE9SZ0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_8xA.AbFX5R1PF it’s the best, it’s a cream but not thick or heavy, it’s pretty matte when it’s applied. I love it, swear by it.

I want them all!! 😍 they’re beautiful!

https://imgur.com/a/koEtIuE I’ll try and get one when they’re all out. They’re little knobheads though and only come out properly when they want food. My clowns are spawning at the minute, so ones all rapey and trying to hump the other fish. 😤

Did you enjoy your meaty balls?

Yeah, I just couldn’t read it, you know when you’re sat cringing at it? That was me.

Oh, here’s some AMAZING true crime -

Essex Boys: A Terrifying Expose Of The British Drugs Scene https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1840182857/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_UGr4CbS0FS6G1

Essex Boys, The New Generation https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1845963121/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_iHr4CbCQ20NBZ

Bloggs 19: The Story of the Essex Range Rover Triple Murders https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0751522414/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_AHr4CbE17RWE3

So, read them in Essex Boys, Blogg 19 and then New Gen.

It’s got everything in it. It’s fucking amazing.

Once you’ve read them, I’ll send you the ‘apparent truth’, you just have to get caught up in the he said/she said first.

So sorry I didn’t reply sooner - I was watching Eurovision... https://imgur.com/a/s7n2cOl

https://www.mamanatural.com/goldfish-recipe/

If you wanna make them yourself there's lots of recipes online -this is the one I used and everyone loved them but full disclosure I didn't taste any because I don't eat dairy


And I used these cookie cutters they're really cute & cheap


https://www.amazon.com/Ateco-7025-Cutters-Assorted-Stainless/dp/B000KEYCL4/ref=sr_1_9?ie=UTF8&qid=1536766144&sr=8-9&keywords=goldfish+cookie+cutter

I wonder if he even realizes he does it or if it’s just habit at this point. This sounds weird, but can you get him to wear something like this so that he can’t get his finger in his nose and he immediately realizes what he’s doing when he tries?

Deep bath overflow drain cover <- I have the same problem, this thingabobber helps get that extra few inches of water depth.

But for real, our shower is in constant use and too grody for me to ever feel up to cleaning it and soaking. I dream of one day having a separate Japanese soaking tub because they're shorter in length but deeper. I want everything but my nose and eyes covered so I can soak like a damn alligator.

It does! Amazon

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000GX31F2/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apa_i_D0TVDbMZ4ABKD

Flaxen blonde - 30D

My suggestion is noise reducing earplugs combined with a noise machine cranked up as loud as you can stand it after you put the earplugs in. I have an autoimmune disease too and I fall apart without enough sleep and I have noisy neighbors. I also take an herb called Kava-Kava before I go to bed. I put some links below.

These are the earplugs I use:

https://www.amazon.com/Protection-Cancelling-Disposable-Earplugs-Hearing/dp/B000NP79YM/ref=pd_sim_121_5/146-1759191-5600303?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B000NP79YM&pd_rd_r=6206ee51-7940-11e9-ab53-6922a0711ce1&pd_rd_w=sWoOV&pd_rd_wg=4XV0S&pf_rd_p=90485860-83e9-4fd9-b838-b28a9b7fda30&pf_rd_r=849HY7APCNYQY9E4RZ6D&psc=1&refRID=849HY7APCNYQY9E4RZ6D

This is the Kava-Kava I take:

https://www.amazon.com/Kava/dp/B0035MOOPC/ref=pd_sim_121_5/146-1759191-5600303?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B0035MOOPC&pd_rd_r=99f29347-7940-11e9-b98b-a55320510026&pd_rd_w=RruYS&pd_rd_wg=8BhFD&pf_rd_p=90485860-83e9-4fd9-b838-b28a9b7fda30&pf_rd_r=7NHKKKZEP3JJETVGPNKG&psc=1&refRID=7NHKKKZEP3JJETVGPNKG

You don't need Amazon Fresh to order food on Amazon. And really, she shouldn't be stocking up on too many fresh things that might need cooking. She could have stocked up on:

Peanut Butter

Bread

Chips

Fruit Cups

Juice

And that's just a small selection. And yeah some of the prices are above what they normally are, but that's the premium she should pay since she had the means to do it the normal way before she got into trouble.

The coloring books! They are SO terrible!

Maci and Taylor's Wedding

Kail's Hustle and Heart

This is a boring answer, but the price is crazy because it's an old out of print edition now only available through 3rd party sellers, who are notorious for jacking up prices on books like these.

A new edition (different cover, publisher, ISBN) is available here at the low, low price of Still Too Much for Debz OG's Bullshit: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1682615340/

Dude...everyone (including Dr. Drew) is scared shitless of Ambien. It's not any other adult's place to corral her like she's some helpless child. She's a violent raging criminal who causes people to [walk on eggshells] (https://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/1572246901) around her. Rightfully so. Even the law can't force meds on an adult who refuses to take them so I fail to see how this is Maci's fault/responsibility even 0.0001%.

This is the most meaningless, vague statement any PR person has ever released. Maci & Amber are not IRL friends. Amber is a scary bully & nobody wants her wrath. They are co-workers & Maci's probably trying to avoid conflict or bodily harm by staying on her "good" side (whatever that is).

I am highly read up and researched on trauma bonds because I am trying to break the one I am addicted to with my abusive STBXH. I physically wanted to be with him after we had the ugliest divorce, custody and criminal battles. I had to find out what the fuck my problem was and trauma bonds is it. J+D parallel our lives in a lot of ways so let me list the reasons why it’s so strong (from the amazing book The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships

1. When there are repetitive cycles of abuse
   
   
2. When the victim and the victimizer believe in their own uniqueness
   
   
3. When high intensity is mistaken for intimacy
   
   
4. When there is confusion about love
   
   
5. When there are increasing amounts of fear
   
   
6. When children are faced with terror
   
   
7. When there is a history of abuse
   
   
8. When exploitation endures over time
   
   
9. When the community family or social structure reacts in the extremes
   
   
10. When there is a familiar role and script to be fulfilled
    
    
11. When victims and victimizers switch roles of rescue and abuse