(Part 2) Top products from r/bigdickproblems

Standard disclaimers: Orgasm need not be the goal or end-state of sex; just a pleasant effect sometimes. Per the Hite Report and more-recent studies, around 70% of women won't achieve orgasm through penetration alone. Add to that that most partners are going to be different in some significant way or other (in size, angles, neural pathway/sensitivity, stamina, etc), and you're not gonna find a catch-all solution. That said:

1. Plain ol' missionary. Well, missionary with a slight bolster/wedge under her hips. Depending on your builds, this allows for your pelvis and lower abs to stimulate the clitoris through pressure while you're deep inside. Also allows decent access to the breasts, neck, and ears (good supplemental stimulation areas, for most.) You can lean back slightly with her legs around your waist, or lean forward with her legs over your shoulders to experiment with different angles and see what seems to work best for her and when. Great for 'dialing in' what does it for her. If you have an upward bend, great for g-spot stimulation. Lots of options for control of penetration depth. You're in control of a lot of factors, so great for lasting quite a while if you're doing your kegels and in tune with your orgasm cues.
   
   
2. Girl on top. I especially like this on a sofa where I can sit up. She's in control of stimulation, so it's a great opportunity to see what does it for her if she's not shy. Also: Breasts in your face, and her posterior is perfectly positioned for rubbing and/or other things if you're feeling adventurous. Hard for endurance, for me, since many girls tend to get wildest when I'm needing them to be still to edge off. May be rough on her knees, potential hazard to your shaft if everyone's too excited.
   
   
3. Lazy doggystyle. Like standard, but have her move her legs inside yours, and both lean forward until she's lying on her stomach or over a pillow with you still inside. Great for girls who aren't comfortable with your full length; you get a nice tight squeeze, she gets to not feel impaled, everyone wins.
   
   
4. Freestanding/against a wall. Because it's raw, powerful, and impressive as hell.
   
   Hope some of that was helpful.

Just practice. Nothing seemed to work when I was in college but now I’m in my 30s and it’s easy. I do better with girls in their early 20s than when I was their age.

Also, I’ve read a lot of the books, and this one is by far the best (and most enjoyable to live by): Models: Attract Women Through Honesty https://www.amazon.com/dp/1463750358/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_.Hx-Bb60GWZHB

Pretty clear what happened. Traditionally she would put her heart first and if you didn’t make that sing you wouldn’t get the chance with her body. The alcohol bypassed the heart step to go straight to her body but her heart still isn’t excited.

If you want her for more than her body you’ll need to go back to the detour and make the turn again. Seduction may not be welcome but it sounds like it’s worth a try. Start with something like this book:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0735204357/

I have two, both from Tantus, and I enjoy them from time to time, as does my SO. The type I own are not stretchable, they're rigid silicone, i believe This one here is the one I have. They come in three sizes, and I have the intermediate and advanced, but with your bigger girth I don't know how well that would work.

As far as my experiences, they do give a 'fuller' erection, in that my erection is much veinier and darker because of the extra blood, and feels slightly more girthy. I don't think it has any noticable effect on prolonging the erection, but I think if I wanted to I could continue to have sex after cumming, because it does keep you at least partially erect.

The main benefits are that my orgasms are more intense, lasting longer, and my partner loves the way the cock ring holds my testicles forward, since in doggy style it makes them slap against her in a way she really enjoys.

Exactly as was said below. L-arginine is an amino acid precursor to nitric oxide production to help with vasodilation and bloodflow. I take about 1500mg -3000mg of a L-Arginine and L-Citrulline supplement and have noticed a increase in my flaccid when I take it regularly. You can get some from GNC: http://www.gnc.com/GNC-L-Arginine-L-Citrulline/product.jsp?productId=16655266&cp=3593192.45670826.3593332.12946244.3763395 if there is one near you or order this one from Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Source-Naturals-L-Arginine-L-Citrulline-Tablets-1000mg/dp/B000OEPAI4

I take 3 tablets of that one from amazon per day (when I remember). L-Citrulline is an amino acid that your body uses to make L-arginine naturally so it helps boost your bodies natural production of L-arginine.

I'd also trim your pubes before going on stage naked. Not only will it make your junk look a lot bigger, it also just looks neater than a giant hairy bush. I recommend completely removing any hair on your shaft and sack, and trimming the rest of your pubes as short as you can. That way you will still look manly without hiding any of your penis behind a wall of hair.

Thankfully I don't run into chaffing issues too often, but Paceline Butt'r is the best thing I've found. It is seriously amazing. I go out on 3+ hour rides in spandex and have no worries when I use it. You can pick up small 1 time use packs at most cycling stores.

All you really have to do is rub some on the skin and that's it. Stuff is amazing.

You might want to try Female Condoms.

I use them just like normal condoms, (Take out the ring first) and they work like a charm. If you aren't big enough to use them like that you might still find them enjoyable to use 'as intended'. (Squirt some extra lube in them first.)

Not all of us have the convenience of fitting in Magnum XLs.

Firstly, don't ask me how I ended up on this page...

Secondly, consider reading up on the family planning method. I know it sounds scary and unreliable, but planned parenthood itself publishes stats declaring condoms are a mere 2% more reliable than the pull out method.
(http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm ; http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/condom-10187.htm).

Moreover, studies evidence an even smaller gap in effectiveness between the methods.
(http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Economy/sex-study-pull-withdrawal-method-rivals-condoms-birth/story?id=7688558).

Long story short, if you're in a monogamous relationship where you openly communicate with your partner (which it sounds like you are) the natural method might be a great option for you and your girl. Not only is it not significantly more or less reliable than condoms, but it means you don't have to wear one at all if you aren't worried about STIs. What's more, your girl doesn't have to suffer from a lack of sex drive and inability to control mood swings due to consumption of artificial hormones. And wait, I know you're worried about having to pull out every time, but you don't have to.

This is the book that got me practicing (and explains how to track when you can avoid having to pull out).: http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Fertility-Anniversary-Edition/dp/0060881909/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1393901477&sr=8-2&keywords=family+planning+thermometer.

I was worried about the commitment of taking my temperature everyday, but since it's not the 1970's anymore we can rely on ovulation kits to prove ovulation instead of taking temperatures every morning. Along with simple (and free) apps like iPeriod, you're girl can track what's going on in her body quickly and easily.

I'm not saying you should do it, but it's probably cheaper than designing a custom condom.. just saying

I would try tantric. There can be a lot of physical difficulty brought about by pregnancy that can be dealt with through gentle purposeful “cool” sex. There is a lot in the practice around difficult pain both physical and emotional during sex that is discussed and dealt with.

Give the following books a read for a primer before you do anything rash, both are good. It may give you a frame work for intimacy to work from.

Happy to talk details via DM if desired.

Tantric Orgasm for Women

Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation

It may never be the same, and that may be a good thing.

I order from Amazon from this specific item in a 30 pack ( I don't think this will help you order in the UK though. ): http://amzn.com/B00014UIO8

From Weldun Solutions (free shipping).The ones I have in my hand right now say "The Female Health Company" and marked with Chicago, London and Malaysia.

Not sure where you're getting your width on the FC2 condoms? Care to share? I've actually found it a bit hard to get details on them in general. I can't say I know where to order specific brands from.

• The Swinging Paradigm: An Evaluation of the Marital and Sexual Satisfaction of Swingers, Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality
  
  
• Today's Alternative Marriage Styles: The Case of Swingers, Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality
  
  
• Permission To Cheat: Ethnography of a Swingers’ Convention, Sexuality & Culture
  
  
• From Fantasy to Reality: A Grounded Theory of Experiences in the Swinging Lifestyle, Archives of Sexual Behavior
  
  
• Can Swingers Have a Happy Marriage? Yes, but don't count on swinging to save a bad one, Psychology Today
  
  
• Are Swingers Freaky and Deviant The evolution of consensual non-monogamy in America, Psychology Today
  
  
• Swinging in America: Love, Sex, and Marriage in the 21st Century, by Curtis R. Bergstrand
  
  
• Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships, by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha
  

Boxer-briefs or trunks with enough support.

I personally use Calvin Klein Men's Steel Micro Low Rise Trunk. They have plenty of support (for both your penis/testicles and butt) and they contain everything very neatly. I don't personally consider myself very big, however I am usually 4-5" flaccid. Them being low rise trunks is just a personal preference, I don't like "long" underwear.

If you like the trunks, I've also used Calvin Klein's CK One Micro Low Rise Trunk before, however the pouch was nowhere near big enough for me, and the leg openings were a bit too tight.

Might be a good idea to buy a single pair first to see what you like, and what's most comfortable for you. I made the mistake of buying 3 in one go. I still use the CK One's, but strictly as backup when my Steel Micro's are in need of a wash.

It’s okay- I appreciate smartassery.

(Update: using your advanced search techniques, I was able to find it on Amazon )

The Joy of Sex: The Ultimate Revised Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307587789/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_KblGDbG46SBHQ

For measuring girth, I recommend something like this it's much more accurate

Excellent choice, same ones I use, but I just order them

https://www.amazon.com/LifeStyles-SKYN-LARGE-Condoms-condoms/dp/B00C350E2Y/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1524239189&sr=8-1&keywords=skyn+large

I originally bought them here: https://www.aliexpress.com/item/33022415177.html?spm=a2g0s.9042311.0.0.27424c4d7Sqr4a

My last order was from Amazon for a premium, but with 1 day delivery: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07V5SFPPJ/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Done!

http://www.amazon.com/Design-Sense-Generic-Weener-Kleener/dp/B000SPHPWI

https://www.amazon.com/BigMouth-Inc-Size-Matters-Coffee/dp/B06XDBYF5H/ref=sr_1_1?s=home-garden&ie=UTF8&qid=1508767881&sr=1-1&keywords=bigmouth+size+matters+mug

We are all pencil size in some way

Congrats. But IMO Magnums smell awful and feel worse. Try https://www.amazon.com/LifeStyles-SKYN-LARGE-Condoms-condoms/dp/B00C350E2Y/ref=sr_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472970586&sr=8-3&keywords=skyn