(Part 3) Top products from r/childfree

This was basically me 10 years ago. I come from an ultra religious cult where any sex apart for procreation inside marriage was basically bad. I was extensively abused when my mom discovered I masturbated. I was 19 and there followed several years of painful learning experiences. Cut to the semi happy ending, I'm very happily married and have a healthy and satisfying sex life with my husband.

In regards to your past and it's current affect on your life, I definitely suggest seeking out a qualified mental health professional who can help you learn healthy coping mechanism, process the painful past, and heal. I'll also add that yoga, mediation, and practicing mindfulness have had been super helpful for me.

You can totally choose to not have PIV sex. But it sounds like that might not be what you really want, and your fear of pregnancy is carryingniver to the handjob etc. So as far as your fear of pregnancy, you have every right to go get permanently sterilized if that's what you want. There are resources in this group that can help you find a Dr.

If you want a less permanent option choose some kind of contraception that suits you, and use condoms as well and you'll be very safe. Oral contraceptives work very well for millions of women and are inexpenisve. I personally used them exclusively for several years without condoms as it was a committed relationship. It took me months to truly trust it tho, and I would constantly freak out and do tests to be sure. Oral BC also completely changed my periods, ultimately for the better. But it made them irregular and confusing, hence even more scares.

After a few years I had enough and I told my gyno I wanted an IUD. I was adamant and had my reasons why, so she referred me to an office who did them. I was still on my parents insurance at the time and it was covered completely, minus the office visit. However even kit of pocket its about the cheapest long term solution. I have Skyla, which is similar to Mirena but a bit smaller and lasts 3 years. Overall I love it, because anytime I am worried about pregnancy I can feel my little strings at the tip of my cervix and know I am safe. After the first few months ai quit worrying about pregnancy completely and it amazing. There are other benefits, like no period, ever anymore. And now I can enjoy that because I don't fear pregnancy. It also has a few downsides, but nothing that bad. Mainly doggy style sometimes hurts.

In addition to reliable birth control, you can also become really familiar with your body and learn to know exactly when you are ovulating and when your fertile window is. Do not rely on this alone, ever. But paired with another reliable form, like a properly used condom, it provides a lot of peace of mind. Check out Taking Charge of Your Fertility They have apps that help you track now too. It's fairly simple, and all you need is a normal thermometer.

If you ever want to message me, you're welcome to. I 100% believe you can have a very healthy satisfying sex life!

I've owned about a quarter of these books since high school, and I read two to three books a week, so your math isn't far off! I'd say I'm closer to maybe two thousand books, maybe 2500. I want to get an accurate count at some point! I also want to catalog them so that I can tell what I own without having to call home and have my SO tell me if I've forgotten (I forget pretty often). Just haven't gotten around to doing that yet. But someday!

Ready Player One is set in the near future, in the year 2044. It's a dystopian novel that deals with a virtual reality world. The guy who created the world died, and whoever solves his puzzle gets ownership. The puzzle is solved through a bunch of easter eggs hidden in the world, all of which involve 80's pop-culture and video game references. The first couple of chapters are kind of slow, but by about a quarter of the way in, it just sort of hooks you. I finished most of it in one night before passing it off to the SO. He's not a big reader, but he practically inhaled the book. We've been buying copies from my store when they come in, and just handing them out to friends ever since.

Indy is surprisingly graceful. He corners on a dime! My SO actually nicknamed him "Indy 500" because of his speed, although I'd say the cornering ability is more akin to that of an F1 car. Scott, on the other hand, has some slight brain damage and is pretty derp. He doesn't know how to retract his claws all the way, so they stick to the area rug in the living room as he walks across it. And his tail throws him off balance a lot when he flails it around, so he falls off the furniture when he's excited. Aw, dog! What's his (her?) name? What kind of dog? Also, dog tax.

So jealous of your weather right now! Mid-seventies is perfect. It's been in the forties and fifties this past week. 38º right now, but that's because it's five AM. Sleep is totally important! I don't do mornings. At all. Like, if I'm awake before noon, it's because someone's paying me to be. (Side note: maybe the military isn't the best idea for someone who likes to sleep in late, dude.) Field training should be interesting, if nothing else! Accepted for what?

Pressure cookers can be fun! Slow cookers might be what you're after, in the beginning. Pressure cookers can lead to accidents like this if you're not careful though. Slow cookers don't have, y'know, pressure, so they cook slower (hah, words), but it's the same principle. I've got a slow cooker, but I'm a little nervous to pick up a pressure cooker just in case! Don't want to lose my security deposit on this apartment so spectacularly. XD You should totally ask him! I bet he'd love to teach you. What kind of food does he make?

Yeah, dude, it was a pretty sad thing to watch. The guy stole a book that we paid $100 for, which we priced at $400 (Sex, by Madonna-- unopened, still in the mylar wrapping, and in perfect shape), and he got $20 for it at a pawn shop. I checked online and it doesn't look like the guy has any more convictions after that one (this was in 2013), so there's hope. His defense attorney gave a story about how the guy was abused by his father, made to steal just so he could eat... I don't doubt it. Coming from that sort of background, it's no wonder he'd turn back to theft whenever times were tough.

Jesus, our government sounds kind of like my store. We've spent so much money replacing the broken, leaky AC units that half our computers are still running WinXP while connected to the internet. Thankfully, with PCI compliance, at least they're not the POS terminals! Those are running Win7 and have no internet access. Hooray for F-35s?

Oh man, I've heard so many good things about The Witcher series! I've been meaning to pick them up, I just haven't gotten around to it yet. I'm re-reading Discworld because SO is supposed to start them soon and I want to refresh my memory a bit. Next on my list is The Blood Mirror, by Brent Weeks. It's the fourth book in the Lightbringer series and it's a really well-done fantasy series. You should check out the Night Angel trilogy by the same author; it's good, and it's finished so you don't have to wait.

Holy crap I'm watching DS9 right now too! I'm halfway through season six! The SO and I started watching it together a few months ago, but I've been on leave because of my hysterectomy (I go back on Friday, woo!) so I powered ahead of where he last saw. Been trying to catch him up this past week. We also just finished Stranger Things, which was phenomenal. Highly recommended, especially if you liked The X-Files at all, or suspense-type stuff. After that, I don't quite know what we'll end up watching. Maybe we'll pick up Voyager? Or we might go back and actually finish TNG. I've seen lots of bits and pieces, but we never watched like, full seasons in a row. The SO grew up watching it with his dad, and has the science officer badge tattooed on his chest! I'm trying to catch up to what all he's seen, I guess.

I gotta say, I don't have a problem with this.

"Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid!" is a support group for parents of special needs children (with a focus on autism spectrum and emotional disorders). It was inspired by this book.

All this post is doing is asking people to remember that some of the kids that will be out there on Hallowe'en night will be special needs children. They want to participate, too, and this post is just a reminder to those handing out candy to keep that in mind.

The post doesn't have an obnoxious, entitled tone; it just explains why some kids may behave differently than other kids when they come to your door. IMO, it's a good reminder.

Which is why I'm going to go to my local Dollar Tree and get things like glow sticks and glow-in-the-dark toys to hand out to the kids. :)

>> Real men jog home from their vasectomies! (I took a bus.)

> I've read this from you about 10 times now and I still giggle.

I do tend to repeat myself. Sorry about that. I'm glad you're still enjoying that one.

> Really? I looked this up and I got spouses. Are you sure?

Mouse -> mice. Spouse -> spice.

I am sure it's a joke. And, it's not original on my part. It's from Heinlein.

> Btw, there is a (suspected) finch family nesting in my mom's clothespin bag. When I saw them I thought of you. Noisy little things. Chirping their fool heads off, hopping around the deck, flying all over the place. They are entertaining. I don't know if there are babies yet, but I've seen the adults bringing bugs into the clothespin bag. No tweeting yet, though.

Cool! I hope you get to see the chicks. With birds that small, they grow up fast. You're most likely to see them when they're about the same size as the adults but more drab and fluttering their wings, chirping, and begging for food. Watch for a bit and you'll see the parents feeding them.

If you get to see them younger and featherless in the nest, that's really lucky. I usually don't.

> If I get a pic I'll send it to you.

Cool. Then maybe I can identify them for you.

P.S. The full quote, though I'd like more context but not enough to dig out the book, is:

> Among such people the plural of spouse is spice.

> --Lazurus Long, Time Enough For Love, pg 339

I read a few romance novels awhile back; I think in this one she doesn't get pregnant (she might be pregnant at the end of it... don't take my word for it, maybe give it to a friend and have them read the last chapter to see :-) ).

But it was fun for a first romance novel to read.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Black-Angel-Barbara-Samuel/dp/0061013897

Your Dad is the real MVP!
My mother is a bit traditional in a couple of senses- she tends to frown on the idea of hookups/one night stands and has always advised me to save having sex for someone who loves and treats me fairly. That being said, whilst I've made a few mistakes in regards to my sex life (ie: chosing assholes/mistaking lust or infatuation with love and rushing into things), she's always been supportive and took it upon herself to ensure I had a good understanding of sex and relationships.

In regards to birth control, she actually encouraged me to go on The Pill at 15, moreso because of brutal periods but also as a precaution and had no objections about it. She also encouraged me to get an IUD after I became jaded with the notion of taking pills every day and she provided me with a lot of useful information on the subject.

She gave me this book when I was around 10 years old and going through the hell of precocious puberty and it explained SO MUCH. She was always quick to answer any of my queries so for that, my mom is pretty awesome.

You are subjecting yourself to the Sunk-Cost Fallacy and need to realize ALL the potential future fun you can have is subject to being lost.

Intellectually, you may know this, emotionally you may not. the Happiness Hypothesis is a good read on how to help get the rider and the elephant (intellect and emotions) to work better together.

I'm with you on this one. I love my alone time. Sure, I used to party a little when I was younger, but I was always a wallflower and often left before the party ended. Two cool books I highly recommend for any fellow introverts Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto and Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

I love my Moldex sparkplugs... they are very comfy and efficient.

All my friends are Dead is another great one.

http://www.amazon.com/Lies-Lying-Liars-Tell-Them/dp/0452285216

It's a good read. And funny too. The author is now a US senator.

Here's my setup.

Earplugs:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pairs-Howard-Leight-Individually-Wrapped/dp/B00A25JLN0/ref=sr_1_6?keywords=earplugs&qid=1569506316&s=gateway&sr=8-6

Headphones:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bose-QuietComfort-Wireless-Headphones-Cancelling-Black/dp/B0756CYWWD/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=bose+qc35&qid=1569506358&s=gateway&sr=8-2

Use together for max effect. Works a treat!

> can be overwhelmed by loud noises

Slightly offtopic, but have you tried earplugs? I carry them everywhere and it's really helped me cope with social outings that are loud like bars, concerts, and movies.

https://www.amazon.com/Easyoulife-Womens-Credit-Leather-Blocking/dp/B07WMFGZTK/ref=mp_s_a_1_32_sspa?keywords=wallet+with+photo+sleeves&qid=1571409952&sr=8-32-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUExWEQ2SUpPTzE3VjdHJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwODU3NTA2MUJSSloyREE0NzJHUSZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwMTU2MDk4MUY3S000NFg3WU9QNiZ3aWRnZXROYW1lPXNwX3Bob25lX3NlYXJjaF9tdGYmYWN0aW9uPWNsaWNrUmVkaXJlY3QmZG9Ob3RMb2dDbGljaz10cnVl

Maybe this?

http://www.amazon.com/Adults-Board-Want-Live-Too/dp/B00NABTEGC

Counter argument

awww I would get it to go with : https://www.amazon.com/All-My-Friends-Are-Dead/dp/0811874559

It is seriously badass

Also announced that its going to be a Spielberg film, can't wait to see it come to life.

Recommended: God Is Not Great: How Religion Poisons Everything, by Christopher Hitchens

Here is an intro from the author, he also reads the book on Audible,

Christopher Hitchens Explains Why Religion Poisons Everything

For a while Bose were considered the best in terms of noise cancelling prowess, if not in actual sound quality with earlier versions of Bose QuietComfort 35 (Series II) Wireless Headphones, Noise Cancelling with Amazon Alexa - Black https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0756CYWWD/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_vwa3BbK2MK0TC Many people now (including myself) consider Sony to sound better and beat Bose in the effectiveness of noise cancelling. The current model is the Sony WH-1000XM3 Wireless Noise Cancelling Headphones (30 Hours Battery Life, Quick Charge, Gesture Control, Ambient Sound Mode), Black https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07GDR2LYK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_9Aa3BbFVR5M35 however older versions (I own the mk2) are available for around £100 less.
There are also in-ear bud type which have slightly less noise cancelling power but still very effective. I wouldn't spend less than £100 as the quality and effectiveness will be poor but you don't have to spend quite as much as the 2 examples above to drown out the worst of child noise.

Here's a few more for either your awesome library or a baby shower present. ;)

1. [Goodnight Brew: A Parody for Beer People] (http://www.amazon.com/Goodnight-Brew-Parody-Beer-People-ebook/dp/B00NA89JGK/ref=sr_1_8?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416276&sr=1-8&keywords=children%27s+parody)
   
2. [Everybody Dies: A Children's Book for Grown-ups ] (http://www.amazon.com/Everybody-Dies-Childrens-Book-Grown-ups-ebook/dp/B00IRCZDMS/ref=sr_1_11?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416276&sr=1-11&keywords=children%27s+parody)
   
3. [You Have to Fucking Eat] (http://www.amazon.com/Have-Fucking-Owen-Brozman-Mansbach-ebook/dp/B00NWVT16I/ref=sr_1_17?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416304&sr=1-17&keywords=children%27s+parody)
   
4. [Get the F**k to Work: The Severe Habits of Highly Ineffective People] (http://www.amazon.com/Get-Work-Severe-Habits-Ineffective-ebook/dp/B008OWUQO6/ref=pd_sim_b_3?ie=UTF8&refRID=0Q38BNH47NAJR24FFMRR)
   
5. [The Elf on Our Shelf Must Die: A Picture book for adult children] (http://www.amazon.com/Elf-Our-Shelf-Must-Die/dp/1502477289/ref=sr_1_19?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416304&sr=1-19&keywords=children%27s+parody)
   
6. [Pat the Zombie: A Cruel (Adult) Spoof] (http://www.amazon.com/Pat-Zombie-Cruel-Adult-Spoof/dp/1607740362/ref=sr_1_20?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416304&sr=1-20&keywords=children%27s+parody)
   
7. [Jack and Jill Went Up to Kill: A Book of Zombie Nursery Rhymes] (http://www.amazon.com/Jack-Jill-Went-Up-Kill/dp/0062083597/ref=pd_sim_b_2?ie=UTF8&refRID=0HKR7AWG1DVCCRVC3NHN)
   
8. [The Very Hungry Zombie: A Parody] (http://www.amazon.com/The-Very-Hungry-Zombie-Parody/dp/1620871823/ref=pd_sim_b_15?ie=UTF8&refRID=0HKR7AWG1DVCCRVC3NHN)
   
9. [Uncle Shelby's ABZ Book: A Primer for Adults Only] (http://www.amazon.com/Uncle-Shelbys-ABZ-Book-Primer/dp/067121148X/ref=pd_sim_b_84?ie=UTF8&refRID=0HKR7AWG1DVCCRVC3NHN)
   
10. [Dirty Library: Twisted Children's Classics and Folked-Up Fairy Tales ] (http://www.amazon.com/Dirty-Library-Childrens-Classics-Folked-Up-ebook/dp/B00J1JPS9E/ref=sr_1_29?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416335&sr=1-29&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
11. [Furious George Goes Bananas: A Primate Parody] (http://www.amazon.com/Furious-George-Goes-Bananas-Primate/dp/0399254331/ref=sr_1_31?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416335&sr=1-31&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
12. [Where the Mild Things Are: A Very Meek Parody ] (http://www.amazon.com/Where-Mild-Things-Are-Parody/dp/141699551X/ref=sr_1_42?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416363&sr=1-42&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
13. [Shut Up You're Fine: Instructive Poetry for Very, Very Bad Children] (http://www.amazon.com/Shut-Up-Youre-Fine-Instructive/dp/1590201035/ref=sr_1_51?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416385&sr=1-51&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
14. [You Ruined Everything: Dedicated To My Children] (http://www.amazon.com/You-Ruined-Everything-Dedicated-Children-ebook/dp/B0084EZHO8/ref=sr_1_54?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416385&sr=1-54&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
15. [Granny Gruesome: Nursery Rhymes to Terrify Children] (http://www.amazon.com/Granny-Gruesome-Nursery-Terrify-Children-ebook/dp/B005L95X5C/ref=sr_1_55?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416385&sr=1-55&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
16. [My Child Lives in a Dog Crate How to Rear Your Child in 10 Easy Steps] (http://www.amazon.com/Child-Lives-Crate-Rear-Steps-ebook/dp/B008WAKBCM/ref=sr_1_72?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416408&sr=1-72&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
17. [Pete the P.O.'d Postal Worker: A Children's Book for Sick and Twisted Adults] (http://www.amazon.com/Pete-P-O-d-Postal-Worker-Childrens/dp/0963582674/ref=sr_1_77?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416436&sr=1-77&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
18. [Alice's Bloody Adventures in Wonderland] (http://www.amazon.com/Alices-Adventures-Wonderland-Alberto-Contreras/dp/146757855X/ref=sr_1_122?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416526&sr=1-122&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
19. [I Ate All Your Cookies: (and Other Things You Wish You Could Tell Your Kids)] (http://www.amazon.com/Ate-All-Your-Cookies-Things/dp/1402271484/ref=sr_1_148?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416565&sr=1-148&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
20. [Fat Kids Can't Clean Chimneys (The Wicked StepMomster Guides Book 1)] (http://www.amazon.com/Clean-Chimneys-Wicked-StepMomster-Guides-ebook/dp/B00G49FTR0/ref=sr_1_150?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416565&sr=1-150&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
21. [There Was a Young Lady Who Swallowed a Lie] (http://www.amazon.com/There-Was-Young-Lady-Swallowed-ebook/dp/B00CKWD8MI/ref=sr_1_200?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416638&sr=1-200&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
22. [Go the F*** Away] (http://www.amazon.com/Go-F-Away-Books-Nimble/dp/0615513417/ref=sr_1_215?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416657&sr=1-215&keywords=children%27s+parody)
    
23. Bonus: [Chicken Poop for the Soul: Stories to Harden the Heart and Dampen the Spirit] (http://www.amazon.com/Chicken-Poop-Soul-Stories-Harden/dp/0671014420/ref=sr_1_227?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1415416674&sr=1-227&keywords=children%27s+parody)