(Part 3) Top products from r/everymanshouldknow

As others have said, there's no set answer for everyone. Grief is different depending on the survivor's emotional makeup, how they were raised, and the particular relationship they had with the deceased.

One thing to remember is that even the hardest days end. Every day will present a different level of difficulty, but it's just for a day, then you start again tomorrow. Sleep will be invaluable; don't neglect it.

It's probably a bad idea to "just keep yourself busy" and hope that your grief will clear itself up. It's like leaving for work one day and hoping that your house will be clean when you get back. There are things you can do, and should do.

Face your grief head on when you can. Don't avoid the thoughts that pop into your head. Think about them. Turn them over and examine them. Ask yourself why you may feel a certain way. If you're in a situation where you can't give your grandfather the mental time you want to, file it away and deal with it later, preferably before the day ends. Emotions are energy and that energy has to go somewhere. Grief has a lot of energy and you don't want that flying around in your head with no direction.

Be realistic about any guilt that may come up. E.g. when my father died I had to fight not to feel guilty about our relationship, but I constantly reminded myself that the state of our relationship wasn't only decided by me. Remember the good things about the person you've lost, but don't idealize them. Try to have a sense of humor about their shortcomings. If ever there was a time to forgive someone (for your own sake) for their mistakes it's after they die; you can't confront them about it, so you're only holding on to bitterness.

Grieve with someone if you can. Share your grief with other family members if they're willing to be open about their feelings.

Don't be embarrassed about your feelings. You have every right to feel them, and you don't always have control over when they come up. If you need to cry, cry. It's not weakness. Having tender feelings for someone you love is a strength.

I'm very sorry that you can't be with your grandfather anymore. It sucks. It really really sucks. But admit to yourself that you can't be with him. At the proper time remember to say goodbye. It can be very hard when the time comes, but there is a great feeling of relief when you've reached the point when you say, "I love you, but you're not here anymore and I have to let you go."

I highly recommend reading The Grief Recovery Handbbook. It has a lot of very practical, very balanced advice. A friend recommended it when my dad died and I got three chapters in and bought copies for the rest of my family.

I wish you all the best in the days to come. They'll be difficult. But they'll get bright again. I promise.

In terms of good cookbooks which go along with this simplistic but strong theory, I highly recommend Nigel Slater's Real Cooking.

Go easy on him; he's just a kid. He's probably at least read about bears and things in a book. Reading books about wildlife is pretty much the same as wilderness survival. He even saw an opossum once when he was taking out the trash! He's got this! Let him go out in the woods. Nature will take care of him.

I enjoyed this British book called Commando Dad by Neil Sinclair. He was a British Royal Marine so the baby is a "trooper" and the home is a "base" etc. It's a fun way of presenting the basic information.

https://www.amazon.com/Commando-Dad-Training-Manual-Fatherhood/dp/1452127395/ref=sr_1_sc_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1493831881&sr=1-1-spell&keywords=Commondo+dad

I got a kick out of it as my dad was a commando reserve so I'm sure you'll like it as a veteran.

You don't even need jumper cables if you get yourself a quality mini jump starter like this one. These things are small but they jumpstart my diesel truck with ease. Portable tire inflators are also key. I like the JACO one.

Check out the books Emotions Revealed and Telling lies by Dr. Paul Eckman who is an expert in facial expession analysis (main character in the show Lie To Me was loosely based on him). The first book goes into detail about how facial expressions are hardcoded and intrinsically linked to our emotions. It turns out that facial expressions linked to the basic emotions (happy, sad, fear, surprise, anger, contempt and disgust) are universal and by studying the facial expressions connected to these emotions, you can become better at reading people. Also in many cases when people are hiding their emotions they display subconscious cues of how they are actually feeling and sometimes micro expressions. Reading this book and studying it really helped my ability to read people.

The second book is a more thorough study of how lying works on a biological basis and lie detection works, but also discusses why it's really really diffict to do accurately (also describes why polygraph tests are bullshit). Both are great books and definitely worth a read.

Labyrinths and Brothers Karamazov are ridiculously good. Be warned though, Brothers Karamazov vacillates between a slow, ass-dragging chore of a book and the kind of page turner that keeps you up at nights. There were definitely a number of times I wanted to give up on it, but I'm glad I saw it through to the end. It's probably the single most life-changing book I've ever read.

Also, for Borges, you may just want to get his Collected Fictions instead of Labyrinths. It has all of the stories from Labyrinths, plus quite a bit more.

http://www.amazon.com/Collected-Fictions-Jorge-Luis-Borges/dp/0140286802/ref=pd_sim_b_7?ie=UTF8&refRID=1K9VFZHP5VY9QRWN55VT

Kenji is actually a redditor and I would highly recommend picking up his book "The Food Lab", it is fantastic!!

Thank You for Arguing -- It's sort of a Cliff's Notes for rhetoric. Really interesting stuff.

The Definitive Book of Body Language -- If you practice a bit, these tells can really come in handy

It's a good read... http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0060520841?pc_redir=1407570686&robot_redir=1

Follow it up with "Shop Class as Soulcraft". He pretty much picks up a lot from ZataoMM and continues it. He has a follow-up book to SCaS but I haven't read it yet. It's on my list when I have some $$$.

Park tools is a very reputable authority. Here is their book at amazon.com: http://www.amazon.com/Big-Blue-Book-Bicycle-Repair/dp/097655304X

Also, head over to /r/bikewrench

http://www.amazon.com/Gut-Cut-Cook-Processing-Preparing/dp/1440203709/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1417303187&sr=8-1&keywords=gut+it+cut+it+cook+it

This is the gold standard if you want a resource on how to butcher your own deer.

http://www.amazon.com/Cartoon-History-Universe-Volumes-1-7/dp/0385265204

The Bartender's Black Book

https://www.amazon.com/Fowl-Language-Parenting-Brian-Gordon/dp/1449479677

relevant comic about parenting books: http://www.fowllanguagecomics.com/comic/planning-to-have-kids/

Now required reading but any or all of these will make your journey through like a bit less confusing:

• How Real is Real
  
• How To Fail Most Successfully
  
• The Pursuit of Unhappiness

I saw this video over a year ago. I am exactly in the same boat as in never having a gf or sex.

I have been on /r/nofap and /r/seduction for that time and I have tired out with both communities. Especially now that I have been reading Models: Attracting Women through Honesty.

I have been looking at all this PUA junk and other stuff but that book right there cuts through the bullshit and gets to the point. I would go into it more, but I'm on my phone. I highly recommend it.