(Part 2) Top products from r/widowers
We found 18 product mentions on r/widowers. We ranked the 28 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.
21. How to Survive the Loss of a Love
Sentiment score: 2
Number of reviews: 1
How to Survive the Loss of a Love
Show Reddit reviews22. How to Survive the Loss of a Love
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Great product!
Show Reddit reviews23. The Widower's Toolbox: Repairing Your Life After Losing Your Spouse
Sentiment score: 3
Number of reviews: 1
Show Reddit reviews24. I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal
Sentiment score: 2
Number of reviews: 1
Show Reddit reviews25. This Angel on My Chest (Pitt Drue Heinz Lit Prize)
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
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I totally believe I will see her again. I look for signs of her, and I see them. Of course a skeptic would say that I'm finding meaning where there isn't any. But, that's okay. I don't mind. I believe in the Resurrection.
Last week a ladybug landed on my mouse pad in my office. I like to believe that is my wife checking up on me. Two years ago at this time she was in hospice, and maybe she knows I could use some reassurance. Sometimes I can hear her admonishment, "Maoxiong, why aren't you behaving? You need to pull yourself together." Other times I can hear her saying, "I love you." I don't discount those small events. I can imagine her exasperation when I meet her again: "I tried so hard to give you some signs but you were too numb to notice! Haaaaa!"
I can't speak for anyone else, but yes, I see and feel her presence. It's hard to describe, but it is real.
This book, called "Elsewhere", is a very cute and sweet story. It's not religious but it's hopeful. My mom gave it to me right after my wife died. It's the kind of book a teenager might enjoy, so it's a very easy read.
I like to remind myself that faith and hope and love are all gifts, and I am thankful to be the recipient. I hope everyone can find peace wherever possible.
Great recommendation thanks! On the flip side of the coin, Healing After Loss by Martha Whitmore Hickman is a more esoteric approach. Every day of the year has one quote followed by a one paragraph discussion of the idea. I've never been one for sitting down and reading through a self help book, so this book has fit my reading style. And its a good companion for a "taking a day at a time" approach. And even if one day doesn't resonate, another coming up will.
First of all, this book has been my crutch.
I read from it when I'm stuck.
What it says about holidays:
>Sundays are the worst.
>No doubt about it.
>Holidays are the second-worst.
>Saturday nights aren't much fun either.
>The feelings of separation may feel greater three days, three weeks, 6 months and a year after the loss.
>Schedule particularly comforting activities into these periods of time.
Something else you may find useful from this book that I found useful:
> Be with the pain.
>If you're hurting, admit it.
>To feel pain after loss is:
> Although you may be frightened by it, be with your pain. Feel it. Lean into it. You will not find it bottomless.
>It is an important part of the healing process that you be with the pain, experience the desolation, feel the hurt.
>Don't deny it or cover it or run away from it. Be with it. Hurt for a while.
>See the pain as not hurting, but as healing.
❤❤❤
This is a great group doing excellent work across the country. I am on their advisory board. For an additional reference go here. I've been there and know the journey all to well.
I'm glad to hear that you already have someone you're comfortable with. If I could, I'd like to suggest the following books that have helped me a lot in understanding the unique grief for very young widows:
https://smile.amazon.com/When-Things-Happen-Good-People/dp/1400034728/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
https://smile.amazon.com/Im-Grieving-Fast-Can-Widowers/dp/0882820958/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
https://smile.amazon.com/Wasnt-Ready-Say-Goodbye-Surviving/dp/1402212216/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
My husband died over a year ago for the same reason your wife died. It was also during his sleep. He was only 35. I was left a widow at 35 with a 18 month old baby ( now 3 years old).
I also waited before dating, but it is hard when you are widow with young kid.
I went to therapy right after my husband's death. It helped a lot.
I read a book called this angel on my chest. It is about youth widows, but I think it may apply to widowers.
This is the link:
https://www.amazon.com/This-Angel-Chest-Heinz-Prize/dp/0822944421
Best of luck in this journey.