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I recommend Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg; it's a general guide on how to communicate effectively without getting personal/attacked.
Thank you! It's nice to know somebody put in the work to read the damn thing!
I totally feel your frustration. Even so, I've actually had some success convincing people to back off the hate and even change their views in interpersonal conversations. It's not easy to face that stuff online, and it's even more difficult in meatspace, but I've found that the best way to confront it is by using nonviolent communication principles. If your interlocutor gets too rowdy, that's sometimes even more persuasive than good arguments to any surrounding audience. The disparity from their aggravated behavior and your own calm, empathetic demeanor becomes inescapably stark, and most people don't really want to align themselves with someone they see is acting unfairly and erraticaly. And there's power in numbers.
Changing minds on a larger scale though...that's unfortunately a longer, more difficult process. But don't get too discouraged! Change is absolutely possible. It's already happening.
I've lived the things you speak of.
I highly recommend checking out Nonviolent Communication. I haven't read all of it yet, but I've started putting it into practice, and I saw immediate results.
It's all about expressing yourself in a clear event-feeling-need-request framework that leaves very little room for misunderstanding while not coming off as an aggressor; maintaining the goal of getting your own needs met.
It felt a little awkward at first, but man has it been working for me.
I wish you luck. Take responsibility where you can reasonably do so, and lead by example.
I was just going to suggest Non-Violent Communication! I definitely recommend getting the book, it really lays out communication in a very simple and direct way so that you can get to the heart of the problem rather than beating around the bush.
I also hear Taking the War Out of Our Words is pretty good as well, though it only comes in paperback.
You can download the Kindle App for desktop for free and read on your PC/laptop/phone, etc.
I would also like to emphasize that toxic masculinity is a set of attitudes and behaviors that are maladaptive and harmful to self and others, not a set personality type. Learning to open up and communicate clearly is a skill that everyone can learn regardless of gender, so there is definitely hope!
I've been in QA for about three years - started out in Support, kept getting stuck with the "weird" tickets, got better at troubleshooting and bug hunting, and eventually started doing testing with the dev team. Working at very small startups helped speed this process up tremendously. I'm now working at a ~500 person company (huuuuuge from my perspective, I'm used to a dozen coworkers, tops!) and learned Selenium/Capybara automated tests about a year ago.
I haven't found any quality-related books that have interested me, and most of the technical resources I've found have just been whatever pops up on Google/Stack Overflow. I am also subscribed to this subreddit, and /r/qualityassurance, but they're both pretty low-traffic, and I wish more articles were shared here. If there are any blog posts that have resonated with you, I'd love to take a look as well!
The best thing I've done for myself, technically, was re-writing our automated UI test suite in POM. This ended up saving me hours of work a few months later when we added a bunch of new features, and I just had to copy-paste a few things to test for them. This is a good overview:
https://www.guru99.com/page-object-model-pom-page-factory-in-selenium-ultimate-guide.html
Because of how much grief this saved me, I continue to evangelize for it!
I can, however, recommend some management/team/soft skills/business-y books! I'm not in love with my current company, so I end up reading a lot of these to keep myself sane and motivated. Here are some of the ones I've liked the best:
A lot of these are available in libraries too, and I've made a habit of checking them out there, and buying them if I really like them.
I hope this helps!
www.cnvc.org
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00805DNUQ/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B014OISVU4/ref=tmm_kin_title_0?ie=UTF8&qid=1486839545&sr=8-1
All by Marshall Rosenberg
Non-violent communication is about connection, and stopping the making of demands of others, and of yourself.
It's truly a remarkable book, pretty short, and not at all cheesy like the name makes it seem. amz link
Nonviolent communication. [Marshall Rosenberg's book] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B014OISVU4?keywords=nonviolent%20communication%20by%20marshall%20rosenberg&qid=1451852812&ref_=sr_1_1&s=digital-text&sr=1-1) would be a simple and cheap place to start, and may be plenty for your situation.
no problem! let me explain, but first do some research about the 5 love languages, it seems to me that the way you show love is through physical affection, maybe you can explain it to her and also find out why she doesn't like it?
but about the nonviolent communication thing, well sure it's just a book so you need to do all the work, but it offers a new perspective. i used to get angry at people all the time, thinking that they are doing things to hurt me, taking things personally and that made me really mad and hurt, this book changed my views on the situations, to not focus on me, but to try to listen to what the other person is trying to tell me, like for instance if i schedule going out with a friend and that friend cancels at the last moment that would have made me super sad and even mad, but now i understand it has nothing to do with me, maybe their anxiety prevented them from going out, maybe they are going through some other stuff. also during arguments we tend to take things personally, and say things in a way that just creates more hurt, the book can help you learn how to say things in a better way for both people, so that you can convey what you're trying to say in a clearer and less violent approach.
even if you don't want to read the book, take a look at the sample, or even the reviews on amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships-ebook/dp/B014OISVU4/ref=tmm_kin_title_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
There's a whole book
or just make a post-it with Observe, feelings, needs, make request
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