Reddit reviews The Autism Spectrum Guide to Sexuality and Relationships: Understand Yourself and Make Choices that are Right for You

I am afraid that there is no simple answer. Partly you have to reflect upon what you want to get out of one night stands. What appeals to you about them? What do you hope for with them? Do you want more or are you trying to make sense of the one you posted about originally?

Speaking for myself I would not have a one night stand unless I were having some quality communication and connection with the person in question.

The other thing is to develop your knowledge and experience, and for this there are multiple paths that you can explore. Take time, research, reflect, and speak to people with some knowledge and expertise in the area. There are a huge amount of sex educators in USA in particular that specialise in adult human sexuality, many of them have podcasts. I really like Sex Nerd Sandra, she has a very scientific and positive approach to everything she does. I have found it very eye opening to hear about lots of peoples different experiences, and it has led me to think about things differently and experiment in ways I hadn't formely considered.

I tried looking for some stuff for you to read, I am honestly shocked at how little there is for people on the spectrum! A lot of seemed aimed at parents or neurotypicals, BUT I did find a couple that might be of interest to you:

The Autism Spectrum Guide to Sexuality and Relationships

Aspergirls

Sex, Sexuality and the Autism Spectrum

Sex and everything related to sex is one of the hardest things us adults have to deal with, you are very much not alone in seeking out answers, that is why I am here too.

WTF did I just watch. Is this from a series on "how to be normal" for people with autism? Like: https://www.amazon.com/Autism-Spectrum-Guide-Sexuality-Relationships/dp/1849057052