Best disability parenting books according to redditors

Hi! I don't think I posted in your old posts, but I'm an Autistic mom of three Autistic kids and have been an active Autistic advocate for over a decade. :) If you need anything at all, my PM's are open. To start, there's a phenomenal book from the Autistic Women's and Non-Binary Network on Amazon called "What every Autistic girl wishes her parents knew" www.amazon.com/What-Every-Autistic-Wishes-Parents/dp/0997504528/ and it's VERY worth the read. :)

Autistic Women's and Non-Binary Network is a great resource: https://awnnetwork.org
Autistic Self Advocacy Network does some good work: https://autisticadvocacy.org
Foundations for Divergent Minds is an organization that uses neurodiversity principles to help parents adapt the environment to suit your kiddo rather than expect your kiddo to adapt to the environment: https://www.divergentminds.org
Onto the blogs that you really should read:

Everyone is going to steer you to ABA. ABA is coercive abusive BS. Here's a comprehensive post about why with links and all the better authors than me to explain: https://madasbirdsblog.wordpress.com/2017/04/25/i-abused-children-and-so-do-you-a-response-to-an-aba-apologist/

That blog link will explain why it doesn't even really work anyways.

Also, if you've discovered that kidlet doesn't make great friends, know that it isn't kidlet. There are actually studies that show that a lot of allistics don't really like us (Autistics) within as little as seconds after meeting us. Depressing but true. https://www.nature.com/articles/srep40700?fbclid=IwAR0M2Z3qTmpLxorT5X-Ja4V1jQ-Z3-wRsgSyAncp9UfYmD-UHbHyitOc3tA

I suppose I may have infodumped enough on a post that's probably not for that. >.> Just want to help. I guess feel free to PM me if you want more? HA! :)

> asking him to buy milk means he naturally took forever to buy a ton of random crap, he needed help putting it all away.

I thought "bet he's got ADHD"

My ex had all 9 symptoms

He also came home very late at night because hyperfocusing at work is way more fun for him than suuuuuper boring housework, no matter what burden it's placing on you.

This vid was interesting

He got (I think) this book - Helping your ADHD Husband in a hilarious attempt to "get me to do all the work" because as usual, he just read the title and made shit up. I read the book faster than he did, it was just horror stories about how women's lives are a nightmare.

And from the sounds of it, your life is a nightmare :( After you watch the vid and take the quiz, it might be a good idea to sit down and go through all the ways his ADHD manifests and makes your life harder, and what it means / how much it hurts you every time he's late, forgetful, unreliable.

We set up clocks, calendars, apps, chiming reminders etc.

He had 14 other mental problems so I had to bail...

But good luck.

I was gonna get this book for my match in MI

This book may interest you

As might this and the links on here

Autistic people who have written autobiographies which include pregnancies and children might be helpful too. I can go and find links if you want, but a few that I can think of on the spot are:

• Laura James
  
• Wenn Lawson - His Amazon page hasn't been update post-transition.

There are a couple of books on Amazon UK.

I Think I Might Be Autistic: A Guide to Autism Spectrum Disorder Diagnosis and Self-Discovery for Adults
https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0989597113/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_SCPIxb4TH3Y4Y

and
Sensory Issues for Adults with Autism Spectrum Disorder
https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1849056617/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_ODPIxbG8DPSRT

Both have kindle versions.

"Nobody sits there and thinks, "I'm not going to use people first language because I want them to realize they're subhuman."" - an ABA-head, if true to Ivar Lovaas's ideas DOES think we're subhuman...

"And nobody thinks, "Damn, they didn't use people first language to me, I'm offended."" - this DID occur early on - and we had to fight that as part of the early activism on and via ANI-L. Back when Jim SInclair wrote "DOn;t mourn for us" in 1993.

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It echoed people trying to tone-police Ian Dury when he was asked to write a song for UN Year of the Disabled in 1981 - so he wrote Spasticus Autisiticus. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKnBgJG9A8E, which was used in the Paralympics - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RI9AI6VAimY

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Have a read of Loud Hands - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00B07AUTI/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

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I was there throughout...

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Im currently have a proffesor that is autistic and has done a lot of research on it.

First, some short pieces of my own writing...

http://neurocosmopolitanism.com/what-is-autism/

http://neurocosmopolitanism.com/throw-away-the-masters-tools-liberating-ourselves-from-the-pathology-paradigm/

http://neurocosmopolitanism.com/autism-and-the-pathology-paradigm/

http://neurocosmopolitanism.com/neurodiversity-some-basic-terms-definitions/

http://neurocosmopolitanism.com/neurotypical-psychotherapists-and-neurodivergent-clients/



Next, some videos...

My friend Steve Silberman, journalist and autism historian:
https://www.ted.com/talks/steve_silberman_the_forgotten_history_of_autism

A 2007 video that was one of the earliest public statements by a nonspeaking autistic activist:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnylM1hI2jc

Spectrum, a 23-minute documentary featuring a few autistic folks including my nonspeaking poet friend Tito and me:
https://www.pbs.org/video/iptv-presents-spectrum-story-mind/

My advice for parents of autistic children:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N6GnPgro5BY



And here are some book recommendations...

The Real Experts, a short book of autistic writings for parents of autistic kids:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0986183563/

The ABCs of Autism Acceptance, another 101-level book for parents and others:
https://www.amazon.com/ABCs-Autism-Acceptance-Sparrow-Jones/dp/0997297174/

Plankton Dreams, a lovely brief childhood memoir by nonspeaking poet Tito Mukhopadhyay:
https://www.amazon.com/Plankton-Dreams-What-Learned-Special/dp/1785420070/

Diverse Bodies, Diverse Practices, a book on somatics and diversity that includes a chapter by me on autistic embodiment:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1623172888/

Authoring Autism, the definitive scholarly critique of the dominant discourses on autism:
https://www.amazon.com/Authoring-Autism-Rhetoric-Neurological-Queerness/dp/0822370115/

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Here are some resources:

1. An article explaining 3 subtypes of NVLD: http://simonbaruchcurriculum.pbworks.com/f/Non-Verbal%20Learning%20Disabilities.pdf
   
2. A video about the work of Professor Jodene Fine, who discovered the first anatomical evidence in the brain to suggest NVLD as a distinct diagnosis: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGjLPy2pHRg&t=3s
   
3. A video about the differences between NVLD and Asperger's, which are commonly confused: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_JWh3lrscqE&t=273s
   
4. This book by Peter Flom about his experience with NVLD, as well as practical advice for parents, teachers, adults, teens, etc.: https://www.amazon.com/Screwed-somehow-stupid-learning-disability/dp/069261169X

Homeschooling will really help your child as the right therapy will build his self esteem, which will stoke his desire to grow emotionally.

I would suggest that you read the book My Baby Can Dance. While it is not academic i.e. loaded with research, it is filled with real-life experiences of children and families who have benefited from therapy for the child at home. It should answer most of the questions that you have.

Happy holidays :)

WTF did I just watch. Is this from a series on "how to be normal" for people with autism? Like: https://www.amazon.com/Autism-Spectrum-Guide-Sexuality-Relationships/dp/1849057052

I am afraid that there is no simple answer. Partly you have to reflect upon what you want to get out of one night stands. What appeals to you about them? What do you hope for with them? Do you want more or are you trying to make sense of the one you posted about originally?

Speaking for myself I would not have a one night stand unless I were having some quality communication and connection with the person in question.

The other thing is to develop your knowledge and experience, and for this there are multiple paths that you can explore. Take time, research, reflect, and speak to people with some knowledge and expertise in the area. There are a huge amount of sex educators in USA in particular that specialise in adult human sexuality, many of them have podcasts. I really like Sex Nerd Sandra, she has a very scientific and positive approach to everything she does. I have found it very eye opening to hear about lots of peoples different experiences, and it has led me to think about things differently and experiment in ways I hadn't formely considered.

I tried looking for some stuff for you to read, I am honestly shocked at how little there is for people on the spectrum! A lot of seemed aimed at parents or neurotypicals, BUT I did find a couple that might be of interest to you:

The Autism Spectrum Guide to Sexuality and Relationships

Aspergirls

Sex, Sexuality and the Autism Spectrum

Sex and everything related to sex is one of the hardest things us adults have to deal with, you are very much not alone in seeking out answers, that is why I am here too.

The Autism Discussion Page books:
http://www.amazon.com/Discussion-anxiety-behavior-parenting-strategies/dp/1849059950/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1454238422&sr=8-1

http://www.amazon.com/Autism-Discussion-Page-challenges-autism/dp/1849059942/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1454238422&sr=8-2

These are great for understanding autism and some approaches.

I'd never heard of Loud Hands before, but it looks great. Thanks for recommending it! Adding to my list.
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My Child Is Special Needs.. Now What? The Ultimate Understandable Handbook To Advocating For Your Exceptional Child:

https://www.amazon.com/Child-Special-Needs-What-Understandable-ebook/dp/B07NBWJL16

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I haven't read it but this https://www.amazon.com/Autistics-Guide-Dating-Book-Those-ebook/dp/B0032UX9US appears to be written by women with autism.

Also this: https://www.amazon.com/Autism-Spectrum-Guide-Sexuality-Relationships-ebook/dp/B01BCQP8KW/

I used the search term autistic dating. There are many other books, don't know whether the authors are NT or not, or whether they are good about explaining female aspie spouses or not.

I published my ebook on December 31st on Kindle. It was a pretty painless process, but I am no graphic designer and my cover design was basically a royalty free pic with the title and my name written over it using Paint (yes, I'll admit to it). It wasn't horrible although I'll leave that assessment to others by sharing a pic of it:

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/A1PP5sueiBL._SL1500_.jpg

Last weekend, I did a free book giveaway. A lot of work putting that together with publicity, etc., but after it was over, I started work on adding new content to the book. While I was in the process of uploading the review manuscript, I noticed the "Cover Creator" option on Kindle. I looked around for a usable picture on flickr, cropped the image I found, and then tried out various covers. It was INCREDIBLY easy and a lot less frustrating than using something antiquated like Paint. Here's the final redesign:

http://www.amazon.com/Tips-Improving-Child-Autisms-Success-ebook/dp/B00HM1E1BE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1392807844&sr=8-1&keywords=8+tips+for+improving

Anyways, if you're an experienced ebook author then this may be old news and you just wasted the past three minutes of your life. But if you haven't used Cover Creator before, hopefully this information is useful: I could've benefited from knowing about this two months ago. (Yes, it was there two months ago, but NONE of the tutorials on ebook publishing that I read ever mentioned it so I never bothered to try it out.)