Reddit reviews The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do (A No F*cks Given Guide)

I would say, but you probably won't finish it /s

Oddly enough The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck was a really round-about way of achieving discipline. By building up the practice of saying NO to others, I also built up the ability to say NO to myself ("NO, you don't get five-more-minutes of sleep, you need to get up and work-out")

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The Obstacle Is the Way is another solid one. While a cliffnotes version would be preferable, the gist is akin to JFK's quote "We choose to do these things, not because they are easy, but because they are hard" (paraphrased)

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Personally I find looking at it like a puzzle to solve is sometimes helpful. People do things, and you can't control them. You can try to influence, and some ways work better than others. At the end of the day, if things don't go your way, you still (probably) have a job, and you've learned something for next time. Why sweat it?

Great book OP:

The Life-changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k

It's NOT a parody. It's more an homage to Marie Kondo's brilliance about organizing the physical, translated into organizing the emotional and spiritual.

Sorry, editing because I hit post before I meant to.

You didn't think she cared enough to get off her ass and come there. Good news/bad news... her near death experience slapped the bitch upside the head, in ways that were, of course, profoundly meaningful for her. Not enough to make her respectful, appropriate, or remorseful. Oh, perish the thought!

What happened was that, at the momentous crisis that woulda-coulda-shoulda been her passing... the throngs of morners gathered around her deathbed to weep over her, and thank her, and bless her, and give her attention, damnit did not materialize. Hours and hours went by, days and days... and to her immense shock and anger (Nrage) for much, if not most of that time, the throngs of loving sycophants did not camp out in and around the hospital, praying, day and night.

But, (oh, you poor bastard), you did show up.

And, like any junkie, she would have gitten a fix anywhere, from anyone... but YOU? holy shit BREAKING NO CONTACT??? Oh, Bella... YOU are her particular brand of heroine.

And she wants another hit.

And her reality is completely Twilight Zone... she successfully identified a way to have contact and ... and this is a big one.....

All the effing people who she's been getting Nsupply from in your absence, to her mind, deserted her in her hour of need. Because, even if they actually had been incredibly attentive, giving, and solicitous during her health crisis... to a narc they don't have "lives offstage". Everone else only exists in relation to the Narc. So every minute she experienced, that she didn't have The Entire Supporting Cast surrounding her.... or (gasp) endured alone... she resented the fuck put of. Narcs do not grasp the concept of other people having their own needs, as normal people do when in the hospital and loved ones need to go home, shower, maybe take the trash out or pay bills or do a load of laundry, and can't just sit attentively and adoringly at the bedside.

So... this is all her. This isn't you. Not even for her junkie shakes of coming to you for Nsupply. You did the decent, honorable thing that honored your own Truth... and by resetting the boundary, you are HONORING THAT HIGHER TRUTH. But its sooooo textbook predictable on her part. But, again, that is NOT your responsibility.

I think this might be it...

http://www.amazon.com/The-Life-Changing-Magic-Not-Giving/dp/0316270725

Please read this book! It's improved my life tremendously and it could help you just as much! <3

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The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do (A No Fcks Given Guide)

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I wouldn't want to contribute to the possibility that you will be somewhat paranoid, spiteful, or even just jaded about your brother. You sound pretty darn levelheaded, but I'm just asking you not to file the following comment into those negative buckets.

But these people don't sound like they are capable of appreciating anything you did, and may be just as likely to contrast it negatively with all their favorite premium garbage that they have been inexplicably gifted with. I would expect them to see its lack of designer label. I hope I'm somehow wrong, but in the big picture, it doesn't matter because you are right to cut them.

So yeah you can store the blanket for the time when your nephew (or someone else) is able to appreciate it, just as easily as they can.

This sucks so bad, but you did your best. Your response makes me think of this book which I just stumbled upon.

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The Life Changing Magic of not giving a fu*k

It’s practical,funny ,simple to follow quick read that makes amazing sense! I read it on a flight and came out with a clear mindset of not caring about people and their petty shit


https://www.amazon.com/Life-Changing-Magic-Not-Giving-Spending/dp/0316270725

Read this book.
Seriously.

https://www.amazon.ca/Life-Changing-Magic-Not-Giving-Spending/dp/0316270725

Can I recommend The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do (A No Fcks Given Guide) by Sarah Knight to you. Some simple and sometimes humorous tips to reduce anxiety from giving too many fcks or giving the wrong sort of fcks.

Read this

https://www.amazon.com/Life-Changing-Magic-Not-Giving-Spending/dp/0316270725

And the .co.uk link

Here's the Amazon link for anyone who needs it. :)

I'm actually currently reading a book on not giving a fuck what other people think as well as how to budget my fucks and measure fuck worth against Joy vs Annoy levels.

Pretty great so far. As someone who grew up fat, bullied, deceived and used it turns out I really needed it.

Great for people like me who spend their life trying to make everyone else other than themselves happy.

Yeah, you're getting a rush out of it. I used to debate with people back in the day but I realized one day it was a waste of time.

Here is a good / funny guide to go though when you're about to do something.

http://www.smh.com.au/cqstatic/gmim1c/FckFlowchart.jpg

You have to read the book The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fck to understand the fck budget (or just google it)

https://www.amazon.com/Life-Changing-Magic-Not-Giving-Spending/dp/0316270725

A book I found on this, that helped me a bit. It's draining giving a fuck about everything, save them for the things that do matter.

I bought this book recently. Haven't had a chance to read it yet but when I read the preview on Amazon it seemed like a worthwhile read. Maybe people on this sub would benefit from it. http://www.amazon.com/Life-Changing-Magic-Not-Giving-Spending/dp/0316270725