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Sexplanations is a great channel and I'm so excited to see Dr. Doe make a video about Disability and Sex. It's a pretty giant overview, but hits a lot of important points that are applicable to CFS. This is a topic that's come up repeatedly on the chat groups and I thought it might be nice to bring here.

I especially liked her clarification that people with disabilities can be gay/straight/bi/poly/trans/asexual/kinky/vanilla/whatever - that sexuality is not defined by disability. As I've gotten to know people from this community (r/cfs) I've met people with many different sexual orientations and preferences.

Dr. Doe also talks about how people with disabilities are often desexualized which is something I certainly found as I got sicker.

And I appreciated her mention that some people fetishize disabilities in a harmful way. When I first started dating post-cfs I found this quite a bit (ick!)

I wish she had talked a little bit more about tactics for us to work around our physical limitations in our love lives. I've found this community very helpful in that area but haven't seen it talked about publicly very much. Perhaps in a future video.

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As an aside, the book that Dr. Doe recommends at 5:50 (The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability) was actually shown to me by someone on here a while back. It's a good book and does a nice job of including energy disabilities. If you're starting to figure out how sexuality/dating/sex works with CFS it's worth checking out.

Links to the book:

• US Amazon
  
• UK Amazon new or used
  
  edit: words brain hard fog GAH

i get all the instructions i need from porn! that's healthy, right? :-p

No but seriously, I haven't really looked into videos, but there is a book i've been meaning to look at called "Enabling Romance" that addresses those sorts of subjects.

Realistically, however, aside from the whole "not walking" thing, I'm pretty mobile out of my chair. I don't suffer any loss of sensation or motor skills in my legs until basically my ankles, so I don't have much limitation as far as moving/positioning my lower half goes.

Deaf Gain by Bauman and Murray for sure.

It's not you. It's the system. https://www.amazon.com/Mad-School-Disability-Corporealities-Discourses/dp/0472051385/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= (haven't read but want to)

Those who are playing politics with the disabled. I could say politicians but there's more than just them.

Right. And those can be turned into economic benefits. For example, from Deaf Gain, they gave examples of a city government specifically hiring deaf police officers to monitor their security camera (with their keen eyes!) and Goodyear and the Firestone specifically hiring deaf workers (with their swift fingers!).

EDIT: For those who are curious about Deaf Gain, here's a good post on it.

I'm not the OP but I am someone with CP himself and I've had to research this sort of thing for myself. I completly agree with her, though the disability does create issues not typically covered in able-bodied resources. The best overview I've read both as a 'how-to' guide and the mental/emotional overlap between sex and disability is The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability. Written by 3 sex educators, two of whom are disabled themselves. I wouldn't pass out the whole book to everyone you teach, but maybe get a copy for yourself and incorporate elements of it in your lessons. http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Sex-Disability-Disabilities/dp/B00FFBGURQ

Well, if you're posting here then you know something about it. A lot of it vaguely mirrors Women's Studies and Critical Race Theory or even Queer Theory. The science of oppression if you will.

Some basic things to look into are issues like People First Language, it's very popular among Social Justice types but it's good to ALSO be familiar with dissenting opinions like that proposed by the National Federation for the Blind.

Also, studying the Disability Rights Movement is pretty key, but you have to watch a lot of early documentation of it really sidelined the contributions of women (Intersectionality ahhhh!!!!). This book was pretty helpful to me.

One of the bigger points of history here has been the creation of the ADA which plays a large role in that legislative definition of disability I mentioned earlier. However, the ADA grew out of the Rehabilitation Act of '73. Nixon tried like hell to gut it but there was a national protest by people with disabilities at government offices across the country which, for its time ended up being one of the longest sit ins in a Federal building that had ever occurred. Of course, the wiki article mentions none of this, but you'll find out all about it in that book I linked above.

Also, understanding the Social Model of Disability is important. Those are some quick things to get you started.

You're welcome! It's not my YouTube but both speakers deal with these topics very well and both are real things that will factor in to his life. If you have any other questions I'm here.

Oh, it's very far off of course- but theirs not much on sex and disability. This book really helped once I got a copy at 17. Even as a nondisabled person this book may help you to know just because he has a disability; he doesn't have to be single forever.

https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Sex-Disability-Disabilities/dp/B00FFBGURQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1492808187&sr=8-1&keywords=the+ultimate+guide+to+sex+and+disability

I don't believe it would bother me. You know what you can do, how to move yourself around etc. As long as you're savvy enough to get creative with body positioning, things would be great.

I have non-visible disabilities, including two muscular skeletal conditions and chronic pain. My back is different and certain things are not possible for me. I'm still learning to accept this, so I picked up this book at my local sex shop. It's called "The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability". https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00FFBGURQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1495272055&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=the+ultimate+guide+to+sex+and+disability&dpPl=1&dpID=41quZKrWieL&ref=plSrch
It's candid, thoughtful, and is written by people who are and/or work with people with disabilities. There is indeed a section about wheelchairs and some tips on positioning and ergonomics. Perhaps you know these tips already, but I thought I would throw it out there!

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