(Part 2) Best medical scissors & shears according to redditors

How exciting! I'm glad that you two get to experience this together for the first time. I'm sure it'll be nice for you two to grow and learn as a pair.

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With both of you just dipping your toes in, and neither of you having significantly more experience than the other, it could be fun to take a quiz or two together as a couple and see what else you might be interested in. If you decide that this is a lifestyle you find really rewarding, there's always more to try out! bdsmtest.org is obviously really centered on BDSM, and mojoupgrade.com will cover more general things as well as kinky topics. If nothing else, I've found that taking these sorts of quizzes with partners opens a great line of communication and sparks interesting conversation. If you're both shy and starting out, MojoUpgrade is really nice because you can both take the quiz separately, and the program will only show you as a couple what interests you have in common.

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It sounds like she's already interested in being tied up, and you're into the idea of bondage, as well. Rope bondage is one of my personal kinky staples, too! I love that with rope, you can be as complex or as simple as you want, and there's always something new to learn. First of all, you want to exercise safety (that goes for anything in kink...). If you're going to tie her up, I suggest tossing a few bucks (really, they're that cheap) on a pair of safety shears. These are different from scissors in that they have a little "lip" that will keep you from cutting her on accident if you ever need to get her out of a tie quickly. I'm pretty sure these are the ones we have... they're like $5.50, and I hope we never have to use them: amazon.com.

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As for the fun parts: I love twistedmonk.com and theduchy.com. They both have a lot of good safety information and information on what you might consider when choosing what exactly to tie her up with. TheDutchy has a wealth of written and video tutorials for just about any tie you can think of! They also have a great page for beginners, so you don't get overwhelmed. Twisted monk has some free intro-level video tutorials, and if you decide that you're both crazy about rope bondage, they sell great, high quality rope.

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I hope that's a good starting point. Please feel free to message with any questions, and remember that the key to a healthy, kinky sex life is open, honest communication between yourself and your partner. You're both new to this, so you're going to want to check in with each other frequently for feedback.

Twisted Monk has a nice set of introductory tutorials about rope-ties, and some booklets. He's a tremendously respected bondage guru, and most importantly gives information about how to do bondage safely and comfortably (for the bound). You can just grab some soft nylon rope from Home Depot and whipstitch or burn the ends to prevent fraying for about $10. Also, don't play with bondage without having a pair of safety/EMT scissors immediately handy for swift extrication.

Amazon maybe? Admittedly I know nothing about suture scissors but 30 seconds of googling turned up these.

https://www.amazon.com/Spencer-Stitch-Scissors-half-quot/dp/B001D1K9Z6

https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=northbent

I have the raptors and I love the quality, but I never take them to work.

• they are heavy and bulky, if wearing these in scrubs they either pull my pants down, or take up my entire top pocket, there is a buckle on it, but I wasn't a fan of using that.
  
  
• No matter what, do to the nature of how I use them, I will need to get a new pair either way (eventually cutting tape and thicker items dulls the scissors
  
  
• I never let this happen to mine, because I didn't bring them much, but I have seen so many people have their own personal scissors taken by someone else, usually by accident in an urgent situation or emergency.
  
  So for the price of the raptors, I bought 10 of the prestige bandage scissors on amazon, here they are, I bought the neon ones to make them stand out
  
  They are not the same quality, but I believe they are roughly as durable considering how they get used. Hope that helps.

2 large male officers in body armor, armed with tazers, batons, pepper spray and guns vs one little lady armed with Bandage Scissors... Kill justified! Case closed! Move along people, nothing to see here but another poor victimised cop.

Sweet! Check out /r/bdsmcommunity and use the search bar! Chances are there's tons of ideas or advice out there for ya.


Here's some cheap as hell rope that is perfect for newbies - just pull up some YouTube videos (like twistedmonk, etc) and have a ball with the basics:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MDTQBYR?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf

Also I always recommend safety sheers for anyone getting into rope. These are cheap and very important for quick release in case something goes wrong unexpectedly: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B006NP15IC?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf

Riding crops from tack shops are hella cheap: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00YLNLTWU/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_SvbRBbN4FEBM0

His belt is even cheaper. ;)

http://www.amazon.com/SUTURE-SCISSORS-Straight-Stitch-Scissors/dp/B004VJ8M7E
These look like what I have. Mine came out of my field minor surgical kit from when I was a Corpsman

Peppermint oil: Tell her to keep it in her nursing bag for stinky situations. Just put a little on a face mask and head into the code brown/purulent wound in a cloud of minty freshness.

Also, I have vinyl grip hemostats and bandage scissors with a cool pattern that I found on Amazon that I get compliments on constantly. And I haven’t lost in 10 years b/c everyone knows that they are mine!!

Amazon link:
argyle print hemostats

The first thing you need to cover is SAFETY:

1. For psychological safety, you need to talk to her about what she wants. You said that she likes bondage, but you also said that she's a masochist. How do you know this? Did she say that she is a masochist? A masochist is someone who likes pain, and lots of people like bondage but not pain (or pain but not bondage). Enjoying pain, enjoying being tied up, and enjoying submission are three separate things. Which does she like?
   
   You need to ask her how she wants to be tied up, and for how long. This worksheet might help you figure out what questions to ask. You also need to set up a communication system so that she can tell you if something bothers her. A lot of people use safewords (a system of special code words), but you can also use regular language if you will always stop when she says "no" or "stop." I have to use safewords because I tend to scream obscenities (including no, stop, please don't, etc) when I'm in pain, even if I don't want my partner to stop. Get in the habit of checking in with her to make sure that everything is still okay.
   
   
2. You need to do some research on physical safety. There are a few basic rules for bondage:
   
   

• Never leave a person in bondage alone, even for a second. If a person in bondage is moving you need to be right next to them. Have you seen the way cops walk with someone who has handcuffs on, holding onto their elbow? That isn't just to be rough, it's also to make sure that the person doesn't fall. You need to do that too.
  
  
• Never cut off circulation or damage nerves. You should be able to slip two fingers under a body harness. Nothing should ever change color. You should check on your girlfriend often to make sure that she can move her hands and feet. Ask her to squeeze your hand, then cover her fist and ask her to open it. Ask her to press her feet down onto your hand, then up onto your and. These are tests to make sure that her muscles have enough oxygen and her nerves are transmitting properly. Ask her to tell you if she feels any pain, numbness, coldness, or tingling.
  
  
• Always have a way to get someone out quickly. Clips and velcro are easy to under. For rope, always have a pair of bandage scissors on hand.
  
  You might want to read The New Topping Book and recommend The New Bottoming Book to your girlfriend. They're great primers on kink that have a lot if information on communication, planning, and safety.
  
  Once you have a better idea of how she wants to feel and what activities she wants to do you should post again and we can help you figure out what to buy and how to use it.

Velcro cuffs are good, silk scarves are good, cotton clothes line that you washed once or twice to make it soft is good. Velcro cuffs are probably easiest and softest. Silk scarves are 2nd softest but most difficult, cotton clothes line is the least soft but isn't very difficult to tie.

EDIT: And since you are buying things on amazon, if you ever decide to use rope, get a pair of these surgical shears. There is no risk of cutting skin and they are strong enough to cut rope.

http://www.amazon.com/320NY-Medicut-Shears-Yellow-Adult/dp/B000FBUS74/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1341295343&sr=8-1&keywords=surgical+shears

EDIT 2: Don't forget a safeword! Just in case, that way you won't mistake playful cries for help as actual distress. The most commonly used system is "RED" for total 100% STOP, "YELLOW" for "I'm nearing my limits, please go softer or stop for a while", and some people use "Green" for "I'm all right, you can go faster."

I was a trauma tech for a long time, and this was my best friend. So handy.

Here's a video that offended a bunch of people but I thought it was hysterical as a former med worker. Hope you like it too!

Twisted Monk is a really great resource not only for their how-to vids but also they sell ropes and kits. Different lengths and thicknesses are good for different purposes, which they get into, so once you're more than dabbling you may want to get specific ones for your set. In the meantime, I went with a generic set of ropes. We got this set of ropes from Amazon to start out with as well as safety sheers and a book called Shibari You Can Use.

We tested out a few of the basic ties on our own at first and then each other. Tying a wrist/ankle cuff. Tying wrists together. Just to get used to the mechanics of those basic steps, and also get a feel for how tight is too tight. And then we tried out a basic chest harness after that.

As for toys, at first just a simple blindfold and your hands and mouth is a good place to start. Tease with anticipation, sensations (silky vs course fabrics for example) against her skin, firm vs delicate touch. Is she into spanking? Do some of that. She likes vibrators? Restrain her and give her lots of orgasms with her favorite vibe. Or just tie her up and fuck her. Most importantly, since she doesn't want to go too fast, let her give you some ideas, maybe she can show you some vids or pictures that get her imagination going, and you can ask her to narrate what this or that scene is setting up in her mind.

Also seconding what everyone else said about making sure you establish safewords, and look into aftercare.

I'd suggest some nitrile gloves, clotting powder, Steri-Strips, benzoin compound tincture, 91% isopropyl alcohol in a squirty-container (like an old contact lens solution bottle), more gauze pads (they disappear fast), small scissors, and rolled gauze. Probably some Neosporin, too.

Also, never use hydrogen peroxide, alcohol, or iodine in an open wound. They're for external use only, so be sure to use them around the wound, not in it. To irrigate and clean a laceration or abrasion, use saline solution with a low pressure stream. You can get some expensive but effective shit like this or you can just make your own.

Lastly, perhaps some gauze pads that fold out into relatively large, thin sheets so you can have something resembling a sterile field on which you can place your equipment to prevent additional contaminants from entering the wound.