(Part 3) Top products from r/FemdomCommunity

I mainly read lesdom erotica, so take with a grain of salt if you're into F/m stuff

Claiming Katy (free online) is pretty excellent (though rather extreme) sadomasochism with a side-helping of service submission. Sophie (protagonist) doesn't deserve Katy and is a terrible dom, but she has actual character growth and becomes better over the course of the story. Expect edge play and not enough negotiation, but... Fuck, it's hot.

At her feet (not free, but worth it for the ebook) is warm, fluffy and wholesome-ish mommy dom/little girl stuff, at least in that it's extremely clear that the two women are totally into each other and their dynamic. It's not really my kink, but I had a smile on my face for most of the time I was reading it. Would recommend based solely on how happy it is.

The Mistress Manual, Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual and [The Art Of Sensual Female Dominance] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0806520892) are all books about Female Dominance in some fashion or another. They are written by women, are quite readable and have overall good stuff going on for all of them. I can't recommend one specifically as an end all be all but I know each of them has good things to offer.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink is also a really great resource but it talks about a huge range of stuff and all of the essays are written by different people. It's not specifically about F/m but a nice general overview of all sorts of kinky activities.

Also, reading them to her in bed is adorable.

So, I don't know if what I have to say is at all helpful, and mostly I wanted to comment because I'm a little jealous at your willingness to server, lately it feels like my "puppy" is just along for the ride...but enough about me.

As far as being a new dom and books... I read a wide variety of both informational and fantasy books. I think a mix of both gave me many more ideas and options to think about and it was easier for me to pick things I liked that way. BUT The number one thing that helped was getting online and watching/reading information from other doms and subs. Asking questions and so on. I'm sorry I don't have actual book names for you. (If I think of specific ones I will get back to you!)

http://www.amazon.com/The-Mistress-Manual-Female-Dominance/dp/1890159190/ref=cm_lmf_tit_3

http://www.amazon.com/The-Sexually-Dominant-Woman-Beginners/dp/1890159115/ref=cm_lmf_tit_7

http://www.amazon.com/Screw-Roses-Send-Thorns-Sadomasochism/dp/0964596008/ref=cm_lmf_tit_9

Just a few to look into. :) ALL great for just getting started, and learning more about herself, her wants/needs, her sexuality...so on. Good Luck and Kink ON! :D

oh god, please don't use anything that isn't sterile! i bought my sounding kit on amazon this one. the first one that i got had been opened and one of the sounds was rusted but they were super quick about sending me out a new set.

pick yourself up some alcohol swabs for sterilizing prior to use and some sterile lube

sterile sterile sterile!! you do not want a nasty bladder or kidney infection.

you want to start of with whichever sound fits inside of you without being too small. if you start with one that is too small, you could tear your urethra.

have fun!

Most definitely - you're not alone there.

It also looks like this toy is really soft but not dual density?

Finding a firmness that works for you can take a while. It might be worth looking into something that is soft and squishy on the outside and on the end, but firmer in the core and at the base. That could help you manipulate the toy more easily if you use it while sitting up.

Dual densities are expensive, but the pure silicone ones can be sterilized- so it's safe to buy them second hand. I have a vixskin mustang which is ace.

https://www.amazon.com/Vixen-Creations-Mustang-Vixskin-Vanilla/dp/B0026CEDIU

Check out r/usedsextoys

Bought the Erskan trilogy for my subbie a few years ago and he loved it (said it was quite cheesy tho!)...

The Erskan Trilogy blends science-fiction to an erotic journey of dominance and submission. On an undiscovered planet, Alexi Malind, veteran police Ranger, investigates a crime that leads him to experience a female-dominated world where his talents for fighting and sexual pleasure are fully exploited. Alexi's experiences through Erskan culture can be appreciated by those just learning about BDSM or those already experienced in the ways of sex and power. The fast-action, sci-rotic Erskan Trilogy is about conflict, learning, compassion, acceptance, and, ultimately love.

http://www.amazon.com/Stars-Antrana-Erskan-Trilogy-Books/dp/1934625000

This. There are some amazing ones on amazon for fairly cheap, and the difference in quality of shave is night and day. I bought this one back in November and its still working great. And its gone down in price since I bought it, its now under 20 dollars. Panasonic Electric Shaver for Women, ES2207P, Close Curves Electronic Shaver, 3-Blade Cordless Electric Razor and Pop-Up Trimmer, Wet or Dry Shaver Operation https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0018A32XS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_r-HUCb53RRKY5

Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment is a great book on CBT.

one, two, and three if you are looking for a relationship shift into the female led side. If you are new to the entire idea you may want to start with something like this. I would recommend staying away from porn on the subject because most are fantasy driven vs reality driven. Dig deep into some of the subreddits on some of the kinks you have discovered and you may find a local subreddit with meetups. You never know, welcome to the journey!

I bought my wife A Key holders handbook and asked her to read it, the condition was although I could ask how the book was I wouldn't look at it or read it.

I think it helped her understand that the dynamic would work in her favor and reassured her that I get pleasure not just from her pleasure but in serving.

I think it's particularly difficult for a vanilla partner to understand sissification especially with the connotation/stigma of what sissy could stem into.

Just popping in that you can get edited and refined versions of Sunstone on Amazon as paperback comics. 5 volumes of Lisa and Ally's story; plus he's started Volume 6 "Mercy" which is the first part of Alan and Anne's relationship. They're interconnected stories and he has plans for two more arcs as well. (Alan was with Ally first so it goes into the past to start with, explaining the Vol 6 cover).

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https://www.amazon.com/Sunstone-6-Stjepan-Sejic/dp/1534310045

Sportsheets Bare As You Dare Strap-On Harness Dildo https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000AOOBPG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_JOiOAbZYQZH2M

This works pretty well, and it's not super expensive.

Here is the list of parts with links (from canada so amazon.ca, but shouldn't be too hard to find the same parts)

- Wooden stool

- Fishing rod holder

- 4 eye-bolts (2 for the hands, two for the feet), cause it wouldn't be as fun if the sub could get away ;)

- 2 L-brackets and a wooden board (I just went with some scrap baseboard I had) (to secure the fishing rod holder under the seat (will need a few bolt and screws for this)

- Magic wand (got mind off pink cherry since they often have 40% off sales so it ended up being quite inexpensive

- Short period repeat cycle timer (This is what brings the constant tease and denial aspect)

- Speed controller (I went with an inline fan/duct one, it's the exact same thing than the one branded for the magic wand, but less expensive)

- Magic wand attachment

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Took about 20 minutes to make. If you already have the magic wand, it's not too expensive of a project. The timer is the most expensive part, but it's totally worth the investment.

If it's domestic skills you're after, maybe a book like this: https://www.amazon.com/Satisfy-Your-Woman-Every-Time/dp/155870714X

A link to my book?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1791982352

adjustable dumbbells - they take up very little room

http://www.amazon.com/Bowflex-SelectTech-Adjustable-Dumbbells-Pair/dp/B001ARYU58

The CB-3000 is pretty nice. It has different size rings and spacers, so you can dial it in to be a good fit. It can be hard to clean for long-term use, but that'll be a challenge with all plastic cages. I got a knockoff one for cheap once that shattered completely one night. Didn't cut me or anything - just broke.

I know the fear I've experienced in the idea that someone might 'out' my pet and in the military the consequences could be unthinkable.

One of my nephews did a few tours in Iraq back in the early 2000s. He asked us to send him things like prunes and baby wipes, so it wouldn't be out of place. Sexy postcards with a D/s flare are out there with a little research too.

Would you let us know what you come up with?

The anthology of Femdom/malesub stories published by Cleis Press are terrific. There is one story, "The Mean Girl," by Teresa Noelle Roberts, in Yes, Ma'am which is a go-to favorite of mine.

This one is very obscure, but a few years ago, there was an anthology of dark love stories published, appropriately titled Dark Love. It was another publisher's response to the Hot Blood series, I think. One of the stories is "The Penitent," by John Peyton Cooke, which includes themes of Female Domination, male submission, sexual violence, bondage, punishment, extreme BDSM and torture. The story is so intense that, when I browsed through the book at a Waldenbooks and started reading it, I almost immediately started to sport an embarrassing erection, that I tried my best to hide. Needless to say, I've never forgotten it.