(Part 2) Top products from r/FemdomCommunity

Imagine yourself as a queen and him as a high class pleasure slave who is of course well trained in the sensual arts (that's a given) but also intelligent and quick-witted, and expected to become proficient in any topic of conversation or activity that you might want to enjoy together. He should know exactly how you like your coffee. If your heart's desire is to have a worthy Scrabble opponent, then regardless of how he feels about the game, he better have all the legal 2-letter words memorized by Christmas. If you like a hot bubble bath before or after sex, he should be in charge of keeping the supplies stocked, drawing the water, lighting the candles, fetching your glass of wine, and sitting on the cold tile floor to read to you or provide interesting conversation while you soak. The onus is on him to think of or research interesting discussion topics or questions for your conversation, or to share with you something interesting he learned today. If you like massages, he should watch YouTube videos or check out books from the library until he is on par with a professional. If you love oral and his skills are somewhat lacking, he should be expected to finish reading Ian Kerner's She Comes First by the due date you assign, and there had better be plenty of highlighting and notes in the margins. You get the idea.

Another possibility is erotic hypnosis. Personally, I think /r/shibbysays has some of the best stuff out there. You could either use her stuff for inspiration to make your own recordings (or just get ideas for how to talk during your sessions together), or you could actually play her recordings while he is blindfolded and you act out what she describes. For example, in the first file in the good boy series, which is usually recommended as a starting point, she talks about putting her hand on the guy's shoulders and chest. So when it gets to that part you could actually put your hands where she describes and rub his skin.

She's pretty good about including language that would allow a guy to listen by himself if he wants but also leaves open the possibility that he is in a relationship and is being made to listen to them by his real life domina. One that comes to mind is "Slip into Slave Mode," which says something along the lines of "whenever I, or whoever told you to listen to this recording, says 'slave mode,' you will return to this place." That one also includes a visualization of a weighted blanket slowly covering the guy up from his feet to his head. I for one would love to be cuffed and have my partner slowly unroll a blanket over me while listening to this together. For good measure, maybe rub your pussy in his face when it gets to the part where only his head is uncovered.

If y'all are both comfortable with bringing Shibby into your bedroom, start with the good boy series. Listen to them by yourself before you play them for your man and think about what what position he should be in and what you might do to him while he listens. Next explore the wiki (the indoctrination series is also good) or just browse the subreddit for files that you think might work well for your dynamic. A lot of the files include references to "triggers" established in good boy and indoctrination, so that's why it's usually a good idea to do them first. Some of them involve chastity and orgasm denial, but most are just tease and denial, and it should be pretty easy to avoid the ones you don't want.

I mainly read lesdom erotica, so take with a grain of salt if you're into F/m stuff

Claiming Katy (free online) is pretty excellent (though rather extreme) sadomasochism with a side-helping of service submission. Sophie (protagonist) doesn't deserve Katy and is a terrible dom, but she has actual character growth and becomes better over the course of the story. Expect edge play and not enough negotiation, but... Fuck, it's hot.

At her feet (not free, but worth it for the ebook) is warm, fluffy and wholesome-ish mommy dom/little girl stuff, at least in that it's extremely clear that the two women are totally into each other and their dynamic. It's not really my kink, but I had a smile on my face for most of the time I was reading it. Would recommend based solely on how happy it is.

The Mistress Manual, Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual and [The Art Of Sensual Female Dominance] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0806520892) are all books about Female Dominance in some fashion or another. They are written by women, are quite readable and have overall good stuff going on for all of them. I can't recommend one specifically as an end all be all but I know each of them has good things to offer.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink is also a really great resource but it talks about a huge range of stuff and all of the essays are written by different people. It's not specifically about F/m but a nice general overview of all sorts of kinky activities.

Also, reading them to her in bed is adorable.

So, I don't know if what I have to say is at all helpful, and mostly I wanted to comment because I'm a little jealous at your willingness to server, lately it feels like my "puppy" is just along for the ride...but enough about me.

As far as being a new dom and books... I read a wide variety of both informational and fantasy books. I think a mix of both gave me many more ideas and options to think about and it was easier for me to pick things I liked that way. BUT The number one thing that helped was getting online and watching/reading information from other doms and subs. Asking questions and so on. I'm sorry I don't have actual book names for you. (If I think of specific ones I will get back to you!)

http://www.amazon.com/The-Mistress-Manual-Female-Dominance/dp/1890159190/ref=cm_lmf_tit_3

http://www.amazon.com/The-Sexually-Dominant-Woman-Beginners/dp/1890159115/ref=cm_lmf_tit_7

http://www.amazon.com/Screw-Roses-Send-Thorns-Sadomasochism/dp/0964596008/ref=cm_lmf_tit_9

Just a few to look into. :) ALL great for just getting started, and learning more about herself, her wants/needs, her sexuality...so on. Good Luck and Kink ON! :D

Nice dynamic you two have :-)

Have you already considered remote (over-the-internet) sex toys, like the Hush? To keep his mind on you, you could assign him some extra tasks, like sending you erotica that he finds arousing (stories, videos, etc.). I think you can find extra ideas on some books, like this one or this one.

Also, a question: which model of chastity cage is he using at the moment?

Amazon will let you self-publish. so will Smashwords, but you'll want to take a look at their content restrictions, because they can be a little tetchy about erotica.

Tomio, who's blog we feature on the sidebar, published a short collection of F/m erotica on amazon that was pretty good.

This is pretty much my story man. A lot of the advice that's been given to you makes sense, and I suggest you read "No More Mr Nice Guy." Take it from someone who your original post described almost to a tee.

http://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339

one, two, and three if you are looking for a relationship shift into the female led side. If you are new to the entire idea you may want to start with something like this. I would recommend staying away from porn on the subject because most are fantasy driven vs reality driven. Dig deep into some of the subreddits on some of the kinks you have discovered and you may find a local subreddit with meetups. You never know, welcome to the journey!

I bought my wife A Key holders handbook and asked her to read it, the condition was although I could ask how the book was I wouldn't look at it or read it.

I think it helped her understand that the dynamic would work in her favor and reassured her that I get pleasure not just from her pleasure but in serving.

I think it's particularly difficult for a vanilla partner to understand sissification especially with the connotation/stigma of what sissy could stem into.

Just popping in that you can get edited and refined versions of Sunstone on Amazon as paperback comics. 5 volumes of Lisa and Ally's story; plus he's started Volume 6 "Mercy" which is the first part of Alan and Anne's relationship. They're interconnected stories and he has plans for two more arcs as well. (Alan was with Ally first so it goes into the past to start with, explaining the Vol 6 cover).

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https://www.amazon.com/Sunstone-6-Stjepan-Sejic/dp/1534310045

If it's domestic skills you're after, maybe a book like this: https://www.amazon.com/Satisfy-Your-Woman-Every-Time/dp/155870714X

A link to my book?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1791982352

I know the fear I've experienced in the idea that someone might 'out' my pet and in the military the consequences could be unthinkable.

One of my nephews did a few tours in Iraq back in the early 2000s. He asked us to send him things like prunes and baby wipes, so it wouldn't be out of place. Sexy postcards with a D/s flare are out there with a little research too.

Would you let us know what you come up with?

The anthology of Femdom/malesub stories published by Cleis Press are terrific. There is one story, "The Mean Girl," by Teresa Noelle Roberts, in Yes, Ma'am which is a go-to favorite of mine.

This one is very obscure, but a few years ago, there was an anthology of dark love stories published, appropriately titled Dark Love. It was another publisher's response to the Hot Blood series, I think. One of the stories is "The Penitent," by John Peyton Cooke, which includes themes of Female Domination, male submission, sexual violence, bondage, punishment, extreme BDSM and torture. The story is so intense that, when I browsed through the book at a Waldenbooks and started reading it, I almost immediately started to sport an embarrassing erection, that I tried my best to hide. Needless to say, I've never forgotten it.