(Part 4) Top products from r/NoFap

Welcome to the community! I hope you find inspiration here that will help you on your journey.

>My mind would constantly find reasons not to do it, and I would think that it made no sense since a lot of my friends watch porn and have steady erections and regular sex.

Right off the bat I want to point out that our reasoning is extremely cunning and addiction is sneaky as hell. It will think of any excuse to try to get you to engage in this habit that has ZERO positive benefits. You say that all of your friends watch porn and it doesn't affect them negatively. I would venture a guess that they are not even aware of all the ways that porn and masturbation are negatively affecting their lives. I think that anyone who engages in this activity is lying to themselves and it is harmful in some form. Even if the effects they are experiencing are only slightly negative, they are still holding them back in one way or another.

Here are some things that I like to tell those who are new to recovery. Everyone's journey through recovery will be different and different things work for different people. That being said, I think most of the things on this list have the potential to lead those new to this in the right direction.

1. Not thinking in terms of "streaks." I don't even like to use that word anymore. This is a lifestyle change for me. It's up everyone to define their limits, but for me it was clear that porn and masturbation was an addiction in my life. One slip up is failure. I am human and can forgive myself for failing, but my absolute #1 goal is life is no more relapses. I am one hundred percent committed to recovery and will do anything to stay healthy.
   
   
2. Therapy. I just accepted that there were things I wasn't "getting." It took a lot of time to find a therapist I was comfortable enough with to open up to. I spend an entire year just searching therapy sites before making a commitment. I'm happy I found someone who is helping me, but damn if I don't wish I hadn't waited so long. I've lost so much time I could have been progressing. Porn and masturbation addiction are HUGE problems and there are a lot of certified therapists that can help you through recovery. The two things to keep in mind when you choose a therapist are making sure they believe that porn and masturbation addiction is real. The second is that they are not committed to any single recovery method as being "the only way." There are a select few individuals who will connect with everything about a certain method, but most people draw from many different sources for strategies in their recovery. You want your therapist to help you explore different ideas and challenge you.. not to limit you.
   
   
3. Definitive strategies. You need to start living healthy. You need to make positive changes in other areas of yourself. You need to love yourself and take care of yourself. Two things that I have done that have helped me and that I would not be to 34 days without them are... Firstly, making my bedroom a no-technology-zone. No laptops, cellphones, or tv. This is were I would relapse most and I just had to make this change to see any progress. Second thing I did was make a schedule for the next day every night before I go to bed. I am unemployed currently and so free time was a huge trigger for me. It was so easy for me to forget all of the things I had planned for the day and just numb out because I didn't think I had anything to do. Now I am amazed when I am making my schedule at how the past month almost every single day is FILLED with things to do in my life. Here are the basics that I would just neglect because I didn't schedule them into my life: gym and working out, doing dishes, cleaning apartment, reading a book at my favorite coffee shop, getting lunch with a friend, playing a video game with a friend, doing laundry, finishing that project I started last year, picking up some work supplies I need for when I go back to work... etc... There are currently about 50 things that I have completed this past month that I am almost certain would not be finished now or would only still be half done.
   
   
4. Research. There are a lot of books out there that layout specific techniques to beating this addiction that you might have never heard of. Here are my top recommendations:
   
   http://www.sexualcontrol.com/The-Most-Personal-Addiction/
   
   There is a free PDF download on the website. I really like this book because it gives concrete strategies for overcoming porn and masturbation addiction. Read it all with a grain of salt. And approach everything in your initial recovery with skepticism. One of the most important things I have learned is that nearly every system says OUR WAY IS THE ONLY WAY. Seriously. 12 Steps says this. Zychik says it. Patrick Carnes, the leading sex addiction researcher says it. I really honestly think that there is NOT only one way. I am currently using ideas from a bunch of different people in my recovery and many of these things are directly warned against in other programs. If you finish reading and want to discuss any of the topics just message me... I would love to help.
   
   http://www.amazon.com/Healing-Shame-Binds-Recovery-Classics/dp/0757303234
   
   This book is great for exploring yourself and finding acceptance and love within.
   
   http://www.amazon.com/Facing-Shadow-Starting-Relationship-Recovery/dp/0982650523
   
   I'm not a huge fan of Patrick Carnes because he seems to miss a basic idea about recovery that I think is important. But this book really is great for exploring your addiction. I would recommend it in small doses. It is highly interactive and it is sometimes very challenging to work with. This book is best used with the help of a therapist.
   
   Hope I've helped in some small way. Remember that you are stronger that this. You have the power within to make the correct choice. You have just been misguided by a fucked up society that worships sex and porn in a truly disturbing way. You are on the path to enlightenment. You are better than all of that garbage porn. I believe you have the power to change. It's obvious from your post that you want to change.
   
   Best of luck on your journey and never give up on trying. One day something you read will click and you will get this devil off your back.

I personally think that you should appreciate women's beauty, however I feel that catcalling would be unnecessary i didn't see any approach done "right", i actually feel that people, specially men should learn some social dynamics specially towards talking to the opposite sex, and by this i don't mean learn pick up and fuck as many girls as possible and shit like that, but because I feel that its important to be able to connect with women in a way. I feel that a lot of rapes, and sexual frustration, and probably prostitution is because men want an easy way out, and don't want to put in the work to approach women, and now you could even go online dating if you don't like it but i think that men become more aware of how to deal with this certain situation, I am working on myself to be able to approach a girl and give her a genuine compliment and to mean it because I say it and say it because I mean it, not to get attention that just because by catcalling people I 'prove im manly' they come off as needy and shit.

Although I feel that people, specially women, if you learned some pick up or rather some more sociability they see that as ungenuine and even more chumpy, but the counter argument i would say is they are not being genuine either, they use make up and they are manipulating their appearance to look more attractive and in a way is manipulating me to think better of them, I am against some of the principles of pick up but the dating science isn't wrong, but its on the right path. I personally think that, like in my case, if you know you suck with women, and you don't want to be in a path of crappiness and neediness, via using prostitution to get laid or roofing people to get laid or rather rape girls, or vast usage of porn, I would say that its good.

I personally would recommend reading Models by Mark Manson because the book is really fucking awesome and it would make you a better man, and perhaps reading the 'further reading' books from that book help you understand the mating system of humans, and to become a better man. I think the book itself is actually really good because it states more than just to get laid is to find quality women to be fullfillled and be more happier with women, and in a way is actually attacking the dating science in a way by attacking The Mystery Method which all pick up could be summed up by that single book. In a way I would recommend both and take the best from both because neither of them is 'wrong' but niether one of them is 'right'. I do agree with Manson's idea of confidence and working in yourself more than in women and being sexualy fulllfilled doesn't require large amounts of women, while I also agree with Mystery's focus on competence vs. confidence because he says that you can't quantify confidence and rather focus on number of approaches and really statistics because that shows competence and successful competence breeds confidence eventually but in a way Manson's idea is better, because he is coming from a place of abundance of women and general happiness, is like saying being 'good' with women is something you are and not do and your looks, money demographics and ect does matter in the equation, over mystery's idea which is coming from neediness, because he refers as girls having 'high value' and by that you are infering that you aren't enough for her so you have to in a way manipulate yourself into making her thinking you are 'good enough' so that it doesn't matter if you look like a fucking troll no matter what if your 'game' is 'tight' it doesn't matter what even if the girl is married or anything really, she will sleep with you and that isn't the case, because mysetery uses a lot of indirect and 'fool proof' tactics that are more convoluted than just expressing your intent and if it doesn't work out move on asap, I'd say that take the best they both are right, and both concepts are correct but im leaning more the natural no scripts type of things and just being freeforming it.
I'd recommend both people getting those two books and they will change your life or at least make you think better and be more aware of how to flirt better. And perhaps reading Double your Dating by David DeAngelo, this one focuses more on dating girls and setting up and getting exposure to women over, is focused on both competence and confidence, and in a more natural way. I'd say get them, you can torrent them if you are so cheap, but defenitely read up on them and see what comes out of it.

So defenitely get Models by mark manson and Mystery Method because you can get a really clear picture on the subject of picking up women, and Double your Dating by David D just the simple ebook don't dig too much into it.

other books, I heard of them, and read some reviews on amazon and they seem to have really good reviews but I haven't gotten them or read them but they seem legit too.

Bang by roosh V

Day bang by roosh v

The manual by W. Anton

the Natural by richard la ruina

Get inside her by Marni Kinrys

they all seem like good resources to start and move on from there... and work on specific sticking point, but i'd say don't believe everything use them as guidelines and not as rules, and take them with a pinch of salt. the reason for this was because when I read the Mystery Method, it was well argued and every contingency is planned for, that I couldn't really find fault with the method, And so I believed all the "high value" bullshit that i fucking felt that i needed to one up everybody and that isn't the case, i was able to rescue myself from that mindset by Models, and I really thought it was genuine and it doesn't rely on too much bullshit and is more natural there is no one upping bullshit. I am not preching seduction community but i feel men should know what they are doing, specially if they suck like me, and be just more aware of things.

Perhaps i'd also reccomend
Gifts of Imperfection by Breene Brown since this book really digs somewhat on the self acceptance/self worth/self esteem part and what pick up artist would call 'inner game' ...
I'd say pick whatever books you want to BUT STOP reading too much into it, i became too paranoid and wanted to read every book on pick up out there and that is not the case guys, hope i helped.

TLDR--read books, become aware, know better, don't be a creep but don't be chump either, get informed guys know your shit,

Hello everyone.
I’m on day 17 of my streak (the longest in a long time) and I’ve experienced some small but very positive changes in my life already.
I want to achieve a longer streak. So, since I am a competitive person, I figured out that if I could turn NoFap into a challenge, I will try harder and probably have longer streaks. I have 2 Amazon gift cards sitting in my inbox that I haven’t redeemed yet: a 30$ one and a 50$ one and I’m ready to use them for my challenge.


Rules:

• Rule#1: Choose one of the gift cards (30$ or 50$)
  
• Rule#2: If you relapse, you send me half the amount of the gift card chosen (15$ or 25$)
  
• Rule#3: If I relapse, I send you the entire amount depending on your initial choice.
  
• Rule#4: Be honest to yourself and to me. This challenge is dependent on trust: you might relapse and still not send your part of the bet, and I would never know. I am personally 100% serious and honest about it: I could’ve redeemed my gift cards right now and bought anything I wanted. But this time I’m serious: I will try to do anything I can to stop relapsing; anything I can to change my life.
  So PLEASE be honest and take the decision to keep your word as gentlemen do before signing to this challenge.
  
  N.B: I can only do this challenge with 2 people obviously and will send them both the gift cards if I relapse. So, the first person to PM me which gift card challenge he wants to get in and his email address (for the exchange of gift cards once a relapse occurs) in each category (30$ and 50$) will be selected.
  
  Here’s the link to purchase your 15$ or 25$ gift card: https://www.amazon.com/Amazon-Amazon-com-eGift-Cards/dp/BT00DC6QU4
  Looking forward to “compete” with 2 honest gentlemen willing to change their lives.
  
  EDIT: Both the 50$ and 30$ gift card slots are taken. I'm keeping this post in case anyone here would like to copy this idea and apply it with someone else in hope that we all get rid of this habit and live a new life.

I used to struggle with masturbating in the middle of the night when I was half asleep. I started taking melatonin (a higher dose than what is currently sold in pharmacies, and an effective formulation with no additives that can counteract the active ingredient-- I use and love this brand, which will appear expensive, but that bottle will last you for the next six months), and now have gone on 56 and 22 day streaks since.


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Both times I have broken the positive trend, I hadn't gone to the bathroom in the previous 18 hours, and so I think constipation puts pressure on the prostate, which then releases the pressure by a wet dream or half asleep MO.

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To be less constipated, I'd recommend eating much smaller portions of meat and processed foods, and much higher proportions of raw fruits and vegetables. I'd also recommend trying to eat early in the evening. It'll benefit all aspects of your health, too. I agree with /u/luluon that avoiding water in the hours before bed (give at least 3.5 hours) is a good idea. Make sure you are hydrated by drinking a lot of water throughout the day-- I start my days with two 16 oz glasses of fresh lemon water (1/2 lemon in each), and then 16 oz of fresh, pure celery juice (which will benefit your digestion among other things as well-- happy to answer any questions you may have about it).


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As for your SO, can you just keep an extra pair of underwear in the bathroom and then go change? How would your SO know it wasn't just that you had to go to the bathroom?

I realized I needed more discipline in the gym, so I found this suggestion from someone over in /r/fitness: Jim Stoppani's 6 Week Shortcut to Shred. I've basically been doing that for the past month minus the cardio in between sets because I'm already skinny. I have also started working out with a buddy so that we can hold each other accountable. If you are struggling to gain weight check out /r/gainit. I honestly don't pay super close attention to what I eat, I just try my best to eat healthy, and lots of it. I do suggest getting some protein powder, I'd say that's probably the most important thing to supplement. I use the chocolate Gold Standard by Optimum Nutrition. I also throw in some peanut butter because its a really cheap source of calories, and sometimes a banana. I try to have at least two shakes a day; one right when waking, and one after my workout. I also bought this and highly recommend it. Seriously, whenever I felt the urge I would do pull ups/push ups.

I know how hard it can be to gain weight. I graduated high school at around 120lbs. I've gained since then and my normal weight was low 140s naturally. I still lose a few pounds if I don't eat properly for a day or two which is really frustrating. That routine is pretty strenuous. If you want something that requires less time check out starting strength in /r/fitness. It's basically squats, deadlifts, and bench press. I also started working out legs, which I never did before, and I think that has helped me a lot. All in all I spend probably an hour in the gym 5 days a week.. So I'm there frequently, and luckily I'm at a point in my life where I'm able to take an hour out of each day to do this. Let me know if there is any other way I can help or elaborate on. Feel free to pm me if need be.

We're under no obligation to be the same person we were yesterday"

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Hello, traveller!

I've read Models by Mark Manson, but haven't gotten to "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" yet.

During my journey here, I read 2 additional books that may be good for you since they stemmed from some of those teachings


No more mr. Nice guy (Glover)

The road less traveled (Peck).


I was also having issues with an obstacle but reading your post made me realise what i have overlooked and may be beneficial in aiding me in my own journey as well.

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate it.

The Road Less Traveled gets into this quite a bit. I just started reading it, but I think a lot of what's in it could really apply to the fapstronauts around here. It really stresses discipline and independence as key elements to contentedness.

Sex is so overrated anyway, isn't it? It's just a thing that happens, you have a good time, and then it ends, then you're right where you started except maybe a little bit more attached to your partner. Then eventually you and your partner will fall out of love and there will be pain, and depending on the level of dependence you have on each other, you may actually take steps backwards in life by the time it ends. I guess it's all well and good if you're happy by yourself, but that only happens once you're able to give up on trying to find a partner.

I am a 20 year old guy and I find myself in a similiar situation. I've always been anxious with women and find it hard to keep my cool. I just began reading a book though, and from reading the first few chapters alone, I view the world in a completely different perspective and my anxiety has actually improved. At work last week I applied some of the principles the book taught me, and I was so surprised at how effective they were. Next thing I know, I have a 22 year old girl flirting with me, complimenting my physique and asking if I'm single etc. It was surreal.

I urge you, read this book - https://www.amazon.com/Manual-What-Women-Want-Give/dp/1456494554 - it's not a PUA book of any sorts. Read all of the discussion on Amazon, it's pretty good and insightful. I promise, this'll at least get you closer to your goal.

It's difficult because it's an environmental cue that has become strongly reinforced over time, but which you can't avoid. I would recommend going to sleep early (in bed by 10pm), setting an alarm, and getting up as soon as you wake up in the morning. Do this for a while, and you will decondition the association to the point of extinction.

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Anything that helps you sleep more deeply and wake up feeling more rested and clear and less groggy will help. I'd avoid blue light from electronics and lights in the hour before bed, take melatonin (that will seem expensive, but it's the best brand and will last you for half a year. also, don't be afraid of taking 20mg even though most doses are 3 to 5mg-- you don't become dependent on it and those lower doses aren't effective. I take 40 mg sometimes), meditate before bed (headspace has a good guided meditation to help you fall asleep), don't drink water in the hours before bed, and don't go back to sleep once you wake up in the morning after a decent amount of sleep (this will make you oversleep and become groggy).

If you're having a really hard time about it, look into sexual addiction.

• Read some Patrick Carnes books (http://www.amazon.com/Facing-Shadow-Starting-Relationship-Recovery/dp/0982650523 ).
  
• Join a Sexaholics Anonymous, Sex Addicts Anonymous or Prodigals International Group. Each group has its differences, so research and figure the one that works for you.
  
• Put porn blockers (k9 web protection) or covenant eyes, for example, on your devices and send the reports to someone who will know you and your problems and keep you accountable. Dont bring them with you to bed or wherever you act out.
  
• Just like another poster said: If you're looking at P its already over, you're toast. Set up boundaries 2 steps before that.
  
• Read books and watch youtube about addictions: My favorite is Gabor Mate
  
• Exercise away the energy you'll gain
  
• Find ways to reward yourself for progress

Everyone falls somewhere on the Introvert to Extrovert scale (To very broadly summarize, introverted tends to mean you enjoy quieter things, less excitement, smaller social groups, etc. and extroverted tends to mean the opposite). You might be more naturally towards the introverted side.

There isn't necessarily anything wrong with that. You just like different things, and feel energized from different activities. I tend to be more on the introverted side too, and I found a lot of comfort in a book I read recently: https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

Great post! But as an introvert, I'm going to have to take issue with you saying "so called 'introvert'."
Introversion is an aspect of human personality that is recognized by science. When you use the phrase "so called' it implies that you are suggesting that there is no such thing as an introvert. Because we live in a society that worships the extrovert and holds extroverts up as the ideal, I feel that I need to defend the introvert. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. It is not a character flaw.
Your point is correct, though. Introverts still need social interaction. I loved your post and I"m probably nit-picking here, but I just wanted to point out this part on introverts. There is a great book on introverts called Quiet by Susan Cain: https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1479132222&sr=8-1&keywords=quiet
Info on introverts: https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/beautiful-minds/the-real-science-of-introversion-and-the-rest-of-personality/

• Quitting my job at factory and starting freelance career and later we plan to start own CG studio
  
• Building a portfolio and learning to be better 3D artist
  
• Drawing
  
• Plan to start sculpting soon to become character artist
  
• Once I quit my job start running, working out and improve my flexibility
  
• Studying to get a driver license
  
• Meditating
  
• Reading Breaking the Cycle and No More Mr. Nice Guy
  
• Plan to learn Krav Maga and first aid
  
• Once my life will start to settle down I will start working on my shyness, becoming more social and looking for a girlfriend
  
  

This is going to be a real challenge. i seriously recommend reading The Power of Habit (http://www.amazon.com/The-Power-Habit-What-Business/dp/1400069289/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1371689543&sr=8-1&keywords=habit). It's a great book and will help with both of your goals.

• Start going for long walks daily
  
• Look into hiking (perhaps getting into /r/BarefootHiking)
  
• Start working out
  
• Begin reading, either fiction that's interesting, or non fiction to learn or improve yourself. I highly recommend The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
  
• Pick up a second part time job (or get one if you don't have.)
  
• Start working on new skills that have always been of interest you you (great to have for future jobs, and working towards becoming freelance)
  
• Meditate
  
• Serve/help others - volunteer time for causes and events (also good for connections)
  
  I can't even get to half that stuff I'm so occupied. You should not be 'bored' because if you're bored, you're doing lit wrong.

Jeez, dude...

That is just horrible. I should have done that calculation myself years ago. I am 24, too. This is so fucked up. Although my estimated average per day is probably a little lower (something like 1 hour maybe; starting age 13). That is still roughly 4000 hours total.

4 THOUSAND hours!!

I recall reading about the estimated 10,000 hours pf practice needed to reach Mastery in pretty much any field. To think that I could be halfway to being a Master in something awesome. Not just proficient, mind you. I am talking about really mastering a certain skill. (cf. R. Greene, 2013)

For someone who likes to deal with numbers, this is just scary as fuck.
More people need to make this calculation. Huge motivation! Thank you man, this helped a lot.

Every man here should read The Way of the Superior Man. It's a spiritual guide to mastering the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire.

Oh yea, those are also great recommendations.

By the way Mark just released a new book that's pretty fucking awesome. I haven't finished it yet but so far it is basically a compilation of all of his ideas.

https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/0062457713/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1483378133&sr=8-1&keywords=the+subtle+art+of+not+giving+a+f---+mark+manson

you might like to read this

and you might like to cross post here - https://www.reddit.com/r/SEXAA/?

You're not alone.

I found relief through working the 12 steps from my sex addiction. I pray you can find your way to peace.

For me it was surrendering to my sexuality to my Higher Power.
Ive been sober for just over eight months - I don't think that would have been possible for me without the fellowship of fellow addicts.

It took me a long time to come to terms with that label and that my behaviour was unhealthy, but I figure, just because my drug of choice is a chemical released in my brain doesn't make me less of an addict.

I carry my meth lab around in my skull.

"Only downvote things that are abusive and/or off-topic."

>This man is similar to the mold that grows on the backside of a toilet which has not been cleaned in years.

How respectful of you.

>I'm not trying to diss the fellow, that's just what he is.

So you give yourself an excuse to diss him because he is supposedly dissing himself? I swear I've heard the same argument come from homophobes.

This is why I downvoted you, and the final straw of why I'm unsubscribing from this sub.

Clearly, you are extrapolating far too much about a person from a single image, only to carry out your own narrative about masturbation being inherently bad. I'm well aware that "not judging" somebody is effectively impossible but we can at least take steps to THINK about what we say before we say it. And by submitting your comment you're continuing the culture of religious fanaticism that this subreddit has decayed into. This is not 17th century Puritan New England and doesn't have to be. Just because we find masturbation as unhealthy for our personal well-being doesn't mean the rest of the world shouldn't do it.

To continue the religion metaphor, this subreddit is a giant circle jerk over the Your Brain On Porn series like Christian Fundamentalists obsess over the Bible. /r/NoFap offers few other venues for help although there are many out there like Carnes, Collins, Keystone Center and similar in-patient programs, and simply studying human sexuality to gain a better understanding of it. A peek at what the scientific data have to say about our particular issues can tell us why we're going through what we are rather than what to do about it. I may not believe in free will, but I’m a firm believer that knowledge changes perspective, and perspective changes absolutely everything. Once you have that, you don’t need anyone else’s advice.

Meanwhile, I've seen posts and comments here hyping up ridiculous claims of pseudo-scientific "energy" that you get from not masturbating. You will not save the world or cure cancer and glorifying and idolizing each other like this is a disservice to what the actual science suggests.

I'm also sick of the "only doing it for attention" meme. Just because he has your attention doesn't mean he's after it. People labeled as attention grabbers often are simply expressing their individual differences for the sake of fun yet people like you and Flatbar hammer him down as a bent nail rebelling against conformity.

Furthermore, the rampant sexism in this sub from men thinking they deserve women after so many days without masturbating is sickening. Posts and comments in /r/nofap have simplified women into false dichotomies and ridiculed them for enticing the supposed male brain, blaming women for fapstronauts' own problems.

All this and more has continued despite being called out many times since I first subscribed a year-and-a-half ago yet the moderators have done effectively nothing to curtail it besides listing various rules on the sidebar and rarely enforcing them. This has gone so far down hill that /r/nofapcirclejerk has sprouted into existence. When a circlejerk of a sub appears you know the original sub has decayed. Not to mention citing SAA as a worthwhile alternative is just as off the line since the 12-step program has effectively a zero success rate as most people who attempt it fail to find success and it continues to discriminate against non-believers.

Goodbye, /r/NoFap

Hey you should now totally get a door chin-up bar to complete your determination.

Buy this : http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0008GOGI8/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?qid=1463533254&sr=8-2&pi=SL75_QL70&keywords=lap+counter


It helps a lot

I would recommend this book:

http://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-ebook/dp/B004A8ZWM4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1381114755&sr=8-1&keywords=way+of+the+superior+man

It seems that your comment contains 1 or more links that are hard to tap for mobile users.
I will extend those so they're easier for our sausage fingers to click!


Here is link number 1 - Previous text "DBT"



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http://www.amazon.com/Love-Yourself-Like-Your-Depends/dp/1478121734

It's worth a read.

https://www.amazon.com/Awaken-Giant-Within-Immediate-Emotional/dp/0671791540

Read that book it changed my life.
Dont identify your personality with that porns,thats not you.
See it as an problem in one of your behaviors which you have to solve.
Start thinking posivitly,do things which increase your quality in life.
I believe in you and know,that you beat this SHIT!

May the streak last forever

Yea, I can't remember the name of the book. Just kidding, one google search found it..

But the example they gave was of someone biting their nails, and they gave this girl a notecard. And every time she wanted to bite her nails, she was supposed to mark the notecard. But what you said about triggers is true because I remember them trying to get her to realize what sensations, restlessness, nervous, itchy fingers, whatever it was that she felt that then led her to bite her nails. When she felt those things, she was supposed to mark the card.

The idea I guess is that habits are so ingrained in us (I think they're part of the reptilian brain, whatever that one is called, the one near the brain stem I think), that it is easier to change some part of the habit loop than try to eliminate the whole thing in one fell swoop.

Here is the desktop version of your link

> "Awakening the giant" by Tony Robertson

Awaken The Giant Within by Tony Robbins

Mastery?

https://www.amazon.com/Mastery-Robert-Greene/dp/014312417X

http://www.amazon.com/Love-Yourself-Like-Your-Depends/dp/1478121734/ref=la_B0086HMAIY_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1421109828&sr=1-1

Sigh.... you have a lot to learn brother.

https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy-ebook/dp/B004C438CW

You probably have Histrionic Personality Disorder. I would know this because I went through similar and have had to work on similar symptoms. It's very treatable, especially because you were abused so much later on (11-15). DBT (link to book) was made for that. Besides that book, there are also therapists who specialize in DBT as well as other methods.