(Part 3) Top products from r/amiugly

hush you. Half of being attractive is confidence! Get some you pretty girl you! :P (I'm going to hold any stronger compliments for the next 4 months... :P)

I understand... when I was 17 I wore far too much make-up too. It's easy to confuse excess/over the top with dramatic. Maybe let her practice more on you so she can get better at making-up pale girls! Less is more and using the eyebrow as the stopping point generally looks streetwalker-ish (of course you still looked lovely!) :P (Full Disclosure: I'm the straight boy who works in fashion and the former goth who taught my mother how to apply make-up. Sigh. Anyways Making Faces is great reference for making dramatic the pro way...)

cliques. yes. that is the word I meant. :P

Ok; boxer/dancer/Doctor Who/firefly girl... All I can say is; Nrrrd Girl I don't diserve you.... (Sorry... been holding that in since last night...)

Ok, final breakdown. You are cute. REALLY cute. Pretty/Quirky/Cute to be specific. You will get lots of boys, just relax. You're probably too much one of the guys for your females friends to compliment you (perhaps they are afraid their boyfriend would rather hang with you than go out with them) and as per the guys; you said it yourself:

>I think my school is too small... I go to a professional school... where everyone knows everyone, in every grade.

I guess what I've been saying all along is; Let me know if you're ever 18+, Single, and in NYC! :)

Ok, so, initially, I had a bunch of advice I was going to give, since, as you may or may not know, girls are makeup/hair wizards, but instead, I thought I'd just show you:
http://i.imgur.com/idVkk.jpg

Created using this:
http://www.ivillage.com/virtual-makeover#

You don't need an account, and as their privacy note states, they won't share any pictures with the public unless you create an account/allow them to.

Also, have you thought about joining a running group/club? You have the perfect body type for it and you could meet some new people. If I ever run into you, trust me, I'll say hi and try to be friends. I think it takes a lot of courage to put your picture on the internet and ask people for advice.

If you make changes, do it for you, not for anyone else. Actually, I almost want to edit the hairstyle with that makeover thing again and give you an edgier look that says "hey, I look a little different, and do you know what? I own it, so don't waste your time pitying me, my life is awesome. You'd be lucky to be my friend."

Have you heard of this girl? Perhaps you could try to contact her, more than anyone else here, I think she'd know what you're going through.

Oh, and since you mentioned reading stuff to improve your social skills, I'd recommend starting with this, it really helped me:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Introvert-Advantage-Thrive-Extrovert/dp/0761123695/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1331924861&sr=8-1

That's all I can think of for now, I hope at least some of it was useful!

You are good looking, maybe can change your haircut, but definitely are handsome and will get more handsome as time goes on. What is probably pulling you back right now with the ladies is posture and body language. May I recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723

It gave me great confidence and made me think about what I look like to others. It helped a LOT with the ladies.

you look like you have an iron deficiency...bruising around the eyes. I get it too, I used to be iron deficient. Up your iron-rich foods. (research where to get the most, like leafy greens, etc.) You are gorgeous, though...just go to Clinique and get the little lady to get you some eye cream and a face wash regimen so your skin will glow brighter. Don't be ashamed to do so...chicks dig guys who take care of their bodies/skin. Here's some good books to help you be your best self, gotta do what they say, though...and remember, shyness can be confused with mysterious. Never underestimate the sheer SEXUAL POWER of Mystery.
http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Social-Anxiety-Shyness-Behavioral/dp/0814798748
http://www.social-anxiety.com/selfhelp-book.html

On that subject, have you read this? (Not a critique, cause I love your curls.) Just a recommendation, since that book taught me how to properly care for my hair.

I think you look nice. I second the makeup, though. Just for a level of polish. Most of us need it.

You NEED this book. You look like a very nice "safe" guy that gets put in the friendzone almost instantly.

http://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339

Good Luck.

So this book is meant for something else, but one side effect is that you'll practice methods for self compassion, self esteem, and self confidence.

Except your assertion of them being "awful" is subjective, not grounded in objective fact. Sure there are awful Trump supporters but as you said yourself, you can't hate a whole group of people for the actions of a few. At your age, I was also very set in my ways and thought my views were morally superior to others. As I got older, I realized I knew a fraction of what I thought I did. I recommend reading [this book.] (https://www.amazon.com/Righteous-Mind-Divided-Politics-Religion/dp/0307455777)

I despise Trump and I'm as "Left" as you can get but it's very off putting to see liberals act in such an authoritarian and closed-minded manner.

There’s actually a lot of evidence that suggests that beauty standards for women are universal.

For the most part, there’s gonna be a lot of accordance on expected hip:waist ratio, hair length, and more (for women).

There’s greater variance for dudes, but only because there’s different signaling across cultures for wealth and power —things that are traditionally sought after in mates.

You are definitely not ugly. You have a great profile and a nice face.
BDD is s bitch. Fellow struggler here, so I feel ya.

I read this book called, ["The broken mirror"] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0195167198/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1381246235&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX110_SY165)
by Katherine Phillips over and over and found it very helpful, so you may want to give it a read :-)

I think you're adorable. I think that you may need to work on the flirting. I may recommend these books to try:

http://www.amazon.com/How-Attract-Anyone-Anytime-Anyplace/dp/0452270863/ref=pd_bxgy_b_text_y



http://www.amazon.com/The-Flirting-Bible-Ultimate-Language/dp/1592334210/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_z



I think this may help. It's not your appearance. I'd approach you based on the pictures.

This book made a huge difference for me. Confidence, man. It's all you need.

http://www.amazon.com/How-Succeed-Women-Revised-Updated/dp/0735204357

It sounds as if you might be codependent. I'd suggest reading Codependent No More and starting to look into therapy if you need someone to help you grow. Putting up with these types of relationships isn't good for you, and it's a vicious cycle.

You need to get yourself healthy on your own first before you can find a partner who will treat you well. And you deserve to be treated much better than these assholes have been treating you.

Check out /r/socialskills /r/femalefashionadvice and /r/dating_advice and check out all their sidebar information and FAQs.

Read everything by Dale Carnegie.

Buy one of these https://www.amazon.com/Electric-Epilator-Portable-Painless-Included/dp/B07R1N1N9J/ref=mp_s_a_1_12?keywords=brow+trimmer&qid=1565418841&s=gateway&sr=8-12

http://www.amazon.com/Posture-get-straight-Janice-Novak/dp/0399525009

I think you need this

>I challenge you to go make an instagram account using photos of a slightly above average female and follow some people from your local university, check how many messages you'll get from dudes attempting to sleep with you. In modern society, women are given the choice of men and men are meant to pursue, it's just how society is structured and honestly, I don't have any issues with it.

I don't have to. I've seen the "men" from my sister's Tinder. The men on Tinder are complete dog shit and it took her years to find a guy who didn't want to bang her in the first 2 weeks. You probably wouldn't call it sexist if I started pointing out how men act as well. Obviously things are to be taken by a case by case basis, but stereotypes exist for a reason and it baffles me when people ignore factual evidence just because it doesn't sound nice.

>If you're a male who knows they're attractive or at least average, you shouldn't have any issues with it either, the system is designed for you.

I do have issues with it because everything feels superficial. I hate the concept of attraction. I hate falling prey to biology by only being able to date women I find attractive. I don't like knowing I could be with a girl who wouldn't consider me viable if the bone on my face grew a little differently, and that it applies vice versa as well.

>As for women who respond to the messages of men attempting to sleep with them, I don't think it's very classy, I won't refuse a date with them or not pursue them for a relationship but casual sex has never been a focus of mine and I don't want it to be a focus of my partners at any point.

It disgusts me because I was raised that sex had value to it and you should really save it for someone you think you'd be with. I know that this view is probably retarded, but I'm unable to let go and get over it.

>As the video progresses past that point, it becomes really horrible towards women. The video essentially objectifies women and assumes they all act this way because it's something hard-wired into their biology.

These things are hardwired in our biology. There are studies that people just don't even bother with because it's not "nice". I recommend actually reading books/studies instead of virtue signaling. Here's a great one pertaining to this very subject:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0679763996

Obviously we don't all act a certain way or I would literally be fucking as many women as possible rn as my biology demands.

>I thoroughly disagree with a majority of that video, it's almost complete B.S, uses data which is highly criticized and generalizes women as not humans but robots or predictable objects.

Yeah highly criticized because it's not a nice thing to say. You're also criticized if you mention 13% of people committing over half of violent crime in America. There are tons of variables that come into play which can explain these statistics, but that doesn't matter because just talking about them is "wrong" in modern society. Also where are your sources to any of your claims other than trying to be in the moral right? Most of humanity is pretty predictable or conglomerates wouldn't have their power.

>If I was you, I wouldn't go expressing these opinions in public, keep it to yourself and your close friends. You seem some concrete in your ideas and I won't try to change them but it's highly recommended you keep these thoughts to yourself. I have no issues with you willingly committing suicide, just make sure you don't hurt anyone when you decide to do it.

Lmao I don't need the lecture from someone whose brain isn't even close to being fully developed. I've handled myself quite fine in life. My depression stems from society failing to meet expectations. That's my fault for guzzling the toxic knowledge of the world for a decade and placing my perfectionism on the world. Unfortunately my friends will be hurt by my suicide, but my mom would not be able to handle it so I have to wait for her to die of old age. Or did you mean hurt like physically hurt because incels are the new buzzword and are all considered violent although you're technically incel yourself?