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I apologize in advance that I tend to go background then point instead of just straight to the point. Also this is going to be long with tangents because that's the only way I know how to speak. I don't write or think in a linear format.

Hmm. I'm typically the opposite but I no longer have friends (they all faded away). I spend half of my week with my SO and half at home where I live with my parents and pets. I work remotely. I'm almost 30. Also, bare in mind, I have anxious-preoccupied attachment, as I recently learned from the highly recommended book, Attached (Paperback Kindle ).

Warnings aside, I think I can still provide some insight into possibly what night be going on and in my personal experience as a person with an INFJ personality.

She might feel like she needs to invest a lot of time and energy into other people. Maybe that's where she gets her perceived or internal value from. We tend to try to resolve others' issues and keep peace or maintenance/harmony going. She may be externally focused on others to hide from things she doesn't like about herself or hasn't forgiven herself for. She may have a strong "I don't want to miss anything!" feeling/current need. If something means the most to me, I cope by avoiding it. (Eg replying to an important email) I feel like I need to give my subconscious time to process it before I can properly act.

I also have a need to look externally and see what others think and feel about something, anything, before I know my opinion. I feel the need to be "properly informed." Whether that means validation - I'm not crazy, its okay to feel this way or do that. Or, "okay, others think that way. Hmm, not exactly how I feel. That's interesting that I don't agree so now I know."

My thinking happens without me knowing it. I rarely know my thoughts. I am unable (as of yet) to speak my thoughts. I have to write or type them. And then, I don't know them until it's out there.

I am always amazed when someone notices that I'm feeling off. My SO picks up on it right away and is all "what's wrong!?" I don't know at that point or I don't want to get into it for whatever reason. I don't want to say something that comes out inaccurately and then it's a mess. I used to not know when I was stressed unless a friend told me.

I rehearse my thoughts until I can get the best wording. Misunderstandings are the bane of my existence. And if I could have prevented it? That's the worst.

We're prone to perfectionism, especially in ourselves. I have rarely lived up to my own standards but I've come a long way since I was a kid on this. If I disappoint someone or there's an inkling, I am in pieces internally.

We are very good at figuring out others (a good number of those in psychology and social work see INFJs) and are interested in figuring out ourselves but lack the ability to put things into words when it comes to our emotions.

Have you tried emailing her? I suggest that over chat so she has time to process and respond. I'ld be willing to read it over and recommend possible word adjustments if you'ld like. I've had plenty of practice taking what someone writes and turning it into what they might mean. No worries if not though.

I hope this helps! :) I know I branched out a lot. I apologize for that. I hope at least some of it was insightful.

I'll work on a bundle or a list of something later for you and OP. Do me a favor and try to steer clear of the whole "Pickup Artist" communities at this point. It's not a bad place... it seems like they're a group of guys openly trading tips and techniques that work. They often do. But until you have done some important work, you won't be able to separate the signal from the noise, and there's a lot of advice out there that works for everyone, it seems, BUT for ISTPs who just can't pull it off. Once you know some important things about the how, the why and the what, then feel free to poke around there.

Trust me here - I went down that road and I'm still haunted by the embarassment from trying out things I thought were clever things I'd read in some book. I was an "actor" and not my genuine self - and I regret it.

Here's what I want you to do. Grab a piece of paper or a notepad document. This will be private - just for you.

Divide it in two sections.

Section one: write out all the things you're good at. The things you offer to the world. Hobbies, skills, character traits like honesty, integrity, persistence, etc.

Section two: list out all the qualities, interests, and features of your ideal match of a romantic partner. Put stars next to the most important ones.

This will be extremely important later. Do it. Seriously.

I'll see if I can gather some of the most important things I've watched. I had to torrent a lot of them, but I may still be able to pull them up.

Oh, and if you're not particularly good at noticing when someone is attracted to you - you really want to grab a body language book. I actually mod /r/bodylanguage and brought that sub back to life. Check out some work I've done here. My favorite book on the topic is this one It's older, but the study hasn't changed much and it has the best illustrations I've seen - they're better than photos.

By his bootstraps by Robert Heinlein. Not quite a book (at least, I don't think so). But it's pretty good.

The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya series deals quite a bit with time travel (one of the main characters is a time traveller). This particular series comes in Manga, Anime, and Light Novel (book) form. I'm currently reading through the novels.

You might want to look up John Titor. While not a book, it's a fiction originally posted on the early internet as a sort of hoax. The tale has been compiled into several books, and archived on a few websites. I dunno if the book I linked is any good, but I do recommend looking the guy up.

Lastly, I'd recommend Steins;Gate. It's a visual novel / anime. So once again, not really a book. But a visual novel is sort of close. Steins;gate heavily borrows from the John Titor fiction and was actually my first introduction to him.

All four of those are excellent time travel stories. I'm not sure if any of them are translated into spanish though. I'd imagine By his bootstraps and the Haruhi series should be translated (considering both are fairly popular). The Titor stuff is probably not translated. Though Steins;Gate may or may not be.

There's also a nice big list on this wikipedia page.

I'm not all that big into reading (I used to be when I was a kid though), so I apologize for my half-answer.

Finally, while not Time Travel related in the slightest, I also heavily recommend The Phantom Tollbooth. Though this one has a lot of language play and might be difficult to understand/translate if you aren't that familiar with english.

Most of my media consumption is Anime and Movies. If you'd like suggestions for those, I could provide plenty.

I'm glad you took to liking Musashi so much. You'd probably love this biography about him. I did in just a couple days- and it inspired the post that I made. In response to your question, Bodhidharma - the founder of Zen (and alleged founder of Shaolin) seems like an assured ISTP to me. He was a wandering/cave dwelling loner too, as you'll see on that page, spending years staring at the wall to get to the bottom of things. I admire the guy- and so did Musashi - here is a painting he did of him. Searches seem to have INTPs claiming him (disclaimer: they claim everyone) but I don't buy it. (Shaolin, that attitude, and that face!) Anyway, Zen in general seems like a very ISTP concept- but don't you go conceptualizing on me or you'll miss the point of Zen, and get whacked by Zen Master Lin-Chi- who seems like he was an ISTP as well. Probably the most iconoclastic ancient Zen Master there is- He's the guy who said "If you meet a buddha, kill him." He took to whacking or shouting at his pupils whenever they started thinking or speaking conceptually. Reading about those incidents is about as hilarious as Diogenes. (put them together and you've got a Marx Brothers situation) I'd recommend reading what Bodhidharma, Lin-Chi, and others have to say- but ironically it's a whole lot of 'STOP READING, STOP THINKING, AND START LIVING- YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED'. (so either get with the program or read them anyway) But to be clear, I've found that self reliance/assurance/discipline really is all up to ourselves. I sincerely think ISTPs seem to deeply understand that more than most other types.

The guys over at /r/skoolies would love to help you! There are also a ton of books on conversion. :)

Here are a couple, though they can be kind of expensive.

Camper Van Conversion

[Build Your Own Dream Camper Van for less than $1000]
(http://www.amazon.com/Build-Your-Dream-Camper-%C3%BA1000/dp/1845845242/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_z)

My Minicamper Conversion

How to Convert Volkswagen Bus or Van to Camper

VW Camper - The Inside Story: A Guide to VW Camping Conversions and Interiors

I also suggest browsing /r/shoestring and /r/onebag for minimizing purposes.

Not very related, but...

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Drop-Pink-Elephant-Ways-What/dp/1841126373

Read this if you want PR skills. My ENFJ sister recommended to me, and it helped me in uni. Because we have a lot of good ideas, this book helps to convey and convince people. You'd be surprised how many people would find our ideas helpful.

Pick me! Pick me! I'm INTJ and have an ISTP wife. We've been married for 7 years. We generally get along GREAT. It is very cerebral at times. Occasionally getting on each other's nerves. The great thing about my wife is that she has "short term memory". Though she may get cross with me she's right as rain in the morning.

The single best advice I can give you is to read this book. https://www.amazon.com/His-Needs-Her-Building-Affair-Proof/dp/0800719387

I learned of it when having trouble with my first wife. The book was so damn good.

Here is the website. http://www.marriagebuilders.com

Don't focus on the MBTI stuff.

Though my ISTP wife has trouble expressing her feelings, it's great that there are ZERO games. She's direct. My intuition often makes me more "feeling". I know she cares deeply for me, but has trouble expressing it. Don't be too put off by that. Look at her actions. These are action people when it comes to feelings.

Well you could go down the rabbit hole and start with reading Gifts Differing by Myers-Briggs and Psychological Types by Carl Jung but you're probably not gonna wanna do that and probably just watch some Youtube videos about what it means to be a badass, thrill-seeking, motorcycle riding, handyman, fix-all-things mechanic.

This was where I got it from. Good read, VERY descriptive explanations. He gives information on childhood experiences that can promote a specific enneagram. He also gives very detailed patterns of behavior you could expect in just about every mood you could think of. In the back, there are the "cheat sheets;" they are a lot more complex than the simplification above.

I tried to get into meditating once. The practice of it was never really my thing. I don't know, just always felt like I was just sitting there wasting time that could be spent better elsewhere. I really got off on the thought aspect of it though. A lot of Buddhist teachings are more about how to kill your ego and stuff like that. I recommend checking out The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. It starts out with a story from when he was a child and saw his teacher talk someone through death for the first time; really heavy stuff.