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No, its from a pop-science book:

http://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Choice-Womans-Decision-Partners/dp/0595092160

That alone doesnt make it true or false, but this isnt peer-reviewed research either.

There were shit ton of reasearch on this and women and men alike put more importance to face than body for long or short term relationships alike:

http://planetearth.nerc.ac.uk/news/story.aspx?id=544&cookieConsent=A

For example here is a good paper on the role of smell which also references some previous research:

http://people.cst.cmich.edu/swans1bj/Herz%20Inzlicht%2002%20matechoice%20smell.pdf

"In one influential study, Buss (1989) compared the self-reports of male and female
mate preferences along various physical and social factors in 37 different countries. Results
demonstrated that good looks were the primary physical criterion in mate choice for both men
and women."


I cant find the best research on this which showed that women usually put facial/physical attractiveness lower on a scale of importance, but if you analyze their choices it turns out for both men and women physical/facial attractiveness was the main factor.



edit: Here is an article on this:

http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2012/01/17/physical-attraction-matters-%E2%80%93-to-women-too/#.VMzmZy5ecjw

Also it turns out people who are more attractive prefer physical attractiveness while choosing a partner, while less attractive people put emphasis on other things as well:

http://www.livescience.com/2307-romance-matters-beautiful.html

After giving this a lot of thought over the years I've come to the conclusion that the key to what we call "confidence" is really satisfaction. Now, what I mean by satisfaction is a complete acceptance and embrace of all the things that are outside of your control, this is a very hard thing to do because it means that you MUST abandon ALL hope that you can ever change these.

Epictetus said it best:

>Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our own actions.

You can ONLY find "confidence" through complete acceptance of these things! you MUST abandon ALL hope, hope that you will grow taller, hope that other people will like you, hope that you will have good fortune. Relinquish this hope from your mind, recognize that you are powerless and thus there is no point in "hoping" or grieving about these thing. Put your mind and efforts into the things you can fully control and be the best you can be, embrace the discipline to be true to yourself! you owe it to yourself, consider this your purpose in life, to be in absolute control of all the things you can control.

Once you realize this you will find satisfaction because you are no longer bound by the things you have no control over!.

I absolutely hate the common fake it till you make it advice! I say do not fake anything, be true to yourself, because only you can and you owe it to yourself, it is your purpose.

Do not waste effort and time being envious of the fortune of others, they may have been blessed by the gods, the universe, whatever, It doesn't matter you have no control over it!. Do not waste effort and time being angry at your misfortune, recognize that the world is not "fair" or "unfair", that the world has no concept of "owing" someone anything, but that the world is absurd and that you must not give up the struggle! you MUST face it because its the only way to live life to the fullest.

Camus says that we must accept that life is devoid of meaning and purpose, but I challenge that assertion. Our purpose is to recognize that which we can control and be masters of everything in our domain, by striving for greatness in these things we will find satisfaction, and no one or anything will ever be able to take that away from you.

Keep in mind that all of this is definitely more easily said that done. This is an incredibly hard thing to do, it will take a lot from you, believe me I am still going through it. There will be relapses and moments of weakness but you must embrace this and keep going.

As a side note I recommend everyone here to read up on stoicism and taoism.

Start here:

http://www.amazon.com/Guide-Good-Life-Ancient-Stoic/dp/0195374614 (I cannot recommend this book enough!)


and here:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Tao-Pooh-Benjamin-Hoff/dp/0140067477


Then move on to the classics: Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus and Lao Zhu.

And finally, whenever you feel like giving up read this: http://www.amazon.com/The-Myth-Sisyphus-Other-Essays/dp/0679733736

>Because OK Cupid is definitely the best measure for dating right?

Uh, yeah. It's the only measure we have.

>I still haven't seen a source.

Since you're too lazy to type a few words into google:

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/

There was even a book published by the guy who founded OKC who talks about dating and dating trends like this:

http://www.amazon.com/Dataclysm-Identity--What-Online-Offline-Selves/dp/0385347391/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1462480969&sr=8-2&keywords=ok+cupid

It's pretty common knowledge at this point. Surprised you haven't heard about this until now.

> a link to a pop science book on Amazon.

b-b-b-b- but but but but...If it's a science book available on Amazon, it has to be empirically accurate, right?

http://www.amazon.com/Dianetics-Modern-Science-Mental-English/dp/140314446X/ref=la_B000AP9H6S_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1370807032&sr=1-1


EDIT: OP. I think I know what your issue is. You're being controlled by fear. I have the solution though. Here ya go fella...enjoy the sweet bliss of surrender
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQxt9kSY0jU

I love the Madeline books..."and the shortest one was Madeline." plus, she's super tough. here

Read the damn book!

Don't be put off by the title, it's not about becoming douchy, pickup crap or something like that, it's about restoring your self-worth, acknowledging your 'helper' status and ditching it, and focusing on you again..

It's really a great read!

>Since I LOVE the son I don't have, I would never do something like that to him.

Do I have a book for you! David Benatar "Better Never to Have Been: The Harm of Coming into Existence."

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01GM5LS3E/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1540272714&sr=8-3&keywords=shoe+lifts&dpPl=1&dpID=51XC1EAahDL&ref=plSrch

Edit: these are just the ones I use. I picked them literally because they showed up first on Amazon and had the editor choice thing, so I'm there's better options out there. I've grown used to them, but they aren't as comfortable as my shoes would be without them. They are ergonomic though, so I think it's fine.

Assuming for a moment I do have lots of time and not enough friends... what does that have to do with anything I've said? Does it make anything less true? Maybe you should read a book. :P

The Mongols recorded a first-hand account of the man and what he was like and the thought processes behind his tactics. It includes descriptions of what he looked like. He was tall. I read this book. You can too, if you want: https://www.amazon.com/Secret-History-Mongols-Origin-Chingis/dp/0887272991

I get not wanting to back down, but this is just kinda silly.

Maybe there isn't, I haven't looked much. Guess I want shoes lift with a pair of shoes that adds 1".

I'd get 3" added to my height with these 2" shoe lifts

heres her book

heres a short news story on her writing her book and her experiences

https://smile.amazon.com/Narcissism-Epidemic-Living-Age-Entitlement/dp/1416575995/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1468438534&sr=8-1&keywords=the+narcissism+epidemic

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01GM5LS3E/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_bP2PCbF64Q1X9

https://smile.amazon.com/Amazon-Essentials-Classic-Fit-Wrinkle-Resistant-Flat-Front/dp/B06XW32SC3?sa-no-redirect=1&th=1&psc=1

https://smile.amazon.com/Buttoned-Down-Relaxed-Front-Non-Iron/dp/B077KVT2GG/ref=cts_ap_2_afe


https://smile.amazon.com/Goodthreads-Mens-5-Pocket-Chino-Pant/dp/B01JQV6HDW/ref=cts_ap_2_afe


here you go! search related products too

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limb_lengthening_methods

http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Tall-Instant-Shoe-Lifts/dp/B00BTHPKDA

It's actually a "fixable" thing(as you say). So is your mental illness if you go see a shrink, Christie.

Learn some history. It's not "all in their heads".

www.halfasian.org

http://www.zakkeith.com/articles,blogs,forums/anti-Chinese-persecution-in-the-USA-history-timeline.htm

http://www.zakkeith.com/articles,blogs,forums/chinese-in-britain-history-timeline.htm

http://www.zakkeith.com/articles,blogs,forums/hollywood-asian-stereotypes.htm

http://www.zakkeith.com/articles,blogs,forums/not-racist-just-goofy-squint-eye-faces.htm

http://www.kulturemedia.org/

 

Cambodia

http://www.amazon.com/Sideshow-Kissinger-Nixon-Destruction-Cambodia/dp/0671835254/

 

Laos

Hiding America’s War Crimes in Laos | http://thiscantbehappening.net/node/2715

 

Vietnam

● http://www.amazon.com/Kill-Anything-That-Moves-American/dp/1250045061/

● http://www.amazon.com/Phoenix-Program-Americas-Forbidden-Bookshelf-ebook/dp/B00KGMIW6Q/

 

Korea

http://www.amazon.com/Hidden-History-Korean-1950-1951-Nonconformist/dp/0316817708/

 

Philippines

http://www.amazon.com/Benevolent-Assimilation-American-Philippines-1899-1903/dp/0300030819/

 

China

● China’s Rise, Fall, and Re-Emergence as a Global Power | http://dissidentvoice.org/2012/03/chinas-rise-fall-and-re-emergence-as-a-global-power/

● USA’s warfare against China ½ | http://www.voltairenet.org/article177063.html

 

India

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2012/apr/23/british-empire-crimes-ignore-atrocities