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Can you talk to a therapist?
Also, look into Feeling Good by David Burns. It woke me up to my destructive thoughts and taught me how to redirect my negative thoughts.
Here's a link: http://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-The-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380731762/ref=tmm_pap_title_0
>This was a turning point for me, because I realized how ridiculous it was. From that point on, I started to watch for triggers, and I started to feel for the begging stages of the attacks. If something triggered an attack, I would immediately start thinking, sometimes talking outloud to myself about how I knew a panic attack was starting. As the adrenaline would kick in, I would say things like "ok, here we go...stay calm, stay calm, it's just your mind messing with you, everything will be ok, breathe...breath."
IANAP, but it sounds like you stumbled upon - by yourself - one of the core assumptions of Cognitive Behavior theory.
If I recall correctly, one of the ideas in Dr. Burns' book on the subject - is to log the troubling thoughts ... and then analyze them through a number of cognitive "filters" we all tend to apply. For example, when depression is at its strongest ... people start to convince them that the rest of their lives will be that way. But, it's a ridiculous assumption - because often our lives (up until the depression) were not bad... so why would we automatically assume that every day for the rest of our lives will be bad? It makes no logical sense. Cognitive Behavior therapy teaches you to catch the tricks your mind plays on itself in this way, and start to defuse them. Eventually, you train your brain to immediately defuse them almost as soon as they occur.
Sounds like you were sort of doing that, but via verbalizing it instead. Whatever works. Glad you've recovered...
Here are my 5 best ways to beat anxiety and depression.
1.) Get this book. It's a classic self-help book that's scientifically proven to beat depression. It's the #1 self-help book recommended by doctors in the United States. You can get it for free at your local library
2.) Meditate. Download the free "Insight Timer" meditation app or do YouTube ocean sounds while wearing headphones. It rewires your brain after 6 weeks.
3.) Live in the present moment. When your mind wanders on anxious thoughts, bring it back to the present moment. Over and over again.
4.) Pray and practice a religion. This will benefit you greatly. Start going to religious services.
5.) Exercise 5 days a week. Try to exercise for at least 30 minutes at a time. Something where you build up a sweat.
Good luck and keep in touch.
You are in some bad mental ruts and you probably aren't going to break out of them by yourself.
I always hate to say this but you likely need therapy - cognitive behavioral therapy, which is not the goofy therapy some people think of.
Alternatively I've heard this book is good for this mode of thinking: https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380731762/
I mean, maybe you could get in shape and wear makeup a bit, but you have to know that you're in the mode of thinking an anorexic or a depressive person is in - totally broken away from reality and stuck in a funk of negativity.
Not sure why you think your husband has a fetish but this could potentially be your own self-doubt and self-loathing spilling over into a disgust at your husband for liking you.
Also, If you can't afford a specialist you might check into a few self help therapy books. One that helped me tremendously, your mileage may vary, is Feeling Good by David Burns. (You can find it in .pdf form here if you can't get it in physical form.)
Of course I'm not a specialist and don't know OPs situation. They could benefit more from ACT or some other form of therapy than CBT.
Again, everything you are saying about your job and Alaska is what is making you unhappy. Not your job and Alaska per se, but your views that you expressed in that paragraph.
> I cant afford therapy.
Good news! You can do REBT exercises by yourself. Can you afford to spend $10 on a book that'll teach you how? (The shipping is probably a bit pricey if you're having it sent to Alaska, but it'll still be much cheaper than a therapy session.)
And yeah, I know the title sounds like a bullshit self-help book. It's not. Trust me, the title is by far the worst thing about the book.
Really wish we could just beam subjective experiences into other people. This comes so close.
Definitely agree that people are willing to die for "rational" reasons, which could be viewed form of suicide.
I fall more on the clinical side of the suicide/depression spectrum and believe that psychiatry/psychotherapy has gotten much, much better with the caveat that it does depend greatly on the performing doctor or researcher.
To be frank, I worry that people overthink/philosophize about depression instead of studying it as a science, via experiment. Testing theories around depression out in a compassionate manner is a fantastic goal. Please, please get information about the medical aspects of depression and medical opinions from the last twenty years or so and not from the 50s. The history is seductive and incomplete, and I remind myself constantly to keep reading to get closer to current beliefs. Understanding systemic social problems and biases are more in vogue in medicine than one may suspect from learning about racist, homophobic, sexist people from earlier times.
People do often take early scientific/medical theories way too fucking seriously and impart their own biases into the interpretations of results. And yet, medicine itself has gotten a lot better at not doing that! Thank you, philosophy and critical theory!
The main author of the book The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure, Greg Lukianoff, went through an intense suicidal patch and recommended several books about cognitive-behavioral therapy that I've started digging into and have really liked. I'll throw in a recommendation as well of a book by the psychologist Susan Heitler that is softer in tone than the other books and also more focused on relationships due to her main role as a marriage counselor.
I'm currently reading The Worry Cure and feel like I'm looking in a mirror—spot on descriptions of my anxious thought processes. I waited so long to see a doctor due to having less intense, more chronic anxiety and depression and that oh-so-masculine trait of wanting to solve it myself (along with procrastination). Lexapro and now these books have helped immensely. Self-help is a hell of a drug.
I would strongly recommend seeing if you can find a psychologist in your area that does cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Ask your doctor/counselor for recommendations, search online, etc.
In the mean time I'd also recommend you pick up a copy of one of David Burns books on CBT. If you're anything like me, you may have to force yourself to do some of the exercises, but it's definitely worth it.
Age: Over 60. Severe "drop" in "self worth estimation" @ 25.
First off, free advice is worth what you pay for it. With that said, please allow me to suggest some reading that may help your mental state, semi-permanently, if you learn well. This book was recommednded to my by my therapist. I despise self-help books. This one is different. Dr. Burns has made it easy to find negative thought patterns you didn't even know you were using, teaches the power of (sometimes the power of the absence of certain words: ie, (paraphrasing) "Someone who goes around saying to themselves frequently "I should do this, or I should start doing that...as living a "shouldy" kind of life... OK, he's no Mitch Hedberg, but he is effective at showing you how to re-arrange your attitude, how you address yourself and situations as they arise. He teaches how to deal with anxiety and I attribute my getting off anti-depressants within a year to this work. It's been in print for twenty years, so it's almost definitely at the library.
Being panicky about money won't help. Keep track of the total you owe your parents. It will make you feel better to keep a running total on which you can plan to make payments to them later.
Do you have a one-year plan? That's an outline of what you expect, what your goals are, ideas, hopes, a bit like a business plan, but of course more personal. Go over a calendar imagining the year ahead, jotting down notes on big events, expectations, and have a goal for the end of the year. Now goals can change, ideas can be modified, but if you don't have a plan, you don't have a direction, you're rudderless.
And when your one-year is done, build a five-year.
If I were young and (relatively) strong, and desperate* for money, I would approach the local businesses and ask them if they have any work they've been having a hard time getting done. Tell them you work cheap. You may end up washing grease traps at 2 AM in some greasy spoon, but there might just be money out there you don't expect. How desperate are you. People can sense the "starving-needy" sometimes, if it's real. So go with it. Just don't get creepy, heh.
Hope some of this is helpful, I know the book works, Bon Chance!
I'm 35years old and have recently been diagnosed with mild sleep apnea ~10 AHI. I've bought an auto CPAP and have been on treatment for around one week. I feel better so far although I'll need months to quantify the improvement.
Prior to this I was on a 1 month trial where I couldn't identify how crucial CPAP was until the trial ended (which I've been told is common for mild sufferers). It was around 2 months without treatment between the end of the trial and when I bought the machine a week ago.
Like you I suffered from chronic fatigue, anxiety, depression, memory issues, brain fog etc. After treatment it was clear to me that many of the fears I had were based on cognitive patterns developed while under the effect of a physiological anxiety and depression.
So in plain english, things aren't likely to be as bad as you perceive them to be. I'm not trying to downplay the potential need for rehabilitation because now that I'm on CPAP I intend to create a brain rehabilitation plan that includes the items below.
For you in particular I would do the following:
Beyond all this I think its important to just do the best you can with the resources and knowledge you have available and not beat yourself up for what might have been and things beyond your control.
edit: broken links the bane of my life
If depression and anxiety are the root of your issues, try reading this book, man: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David Burns
It has been a huge help in my life and I got it for two other people who also tell me it had a big impact on them.
so you have no health insurance? That's a difficult spot.
If you can't afford therapy or medication, you can try self help. This book called "Feeling Good" is basically a guide on how to do Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. (CBT) The truth is that most therapists who teach CBT meet with you once every couple weeks and have you do exercises at home. Then they make sure you're on the right track.
The only downside to doing it by yourself is that there is no one to make sure you're on track. You could find yourself off in the weeds not sure what you're doing wrong with the book. That said, I read it myself and found it very helpful.
There's a great book by David D Burns called Feeling Good. Check it out. You can do your own CBT, but I think having a coach (AKA therapist) is worthwhile too, especially when you're getting started.
Another one I can recommend, using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, is The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris.
Whereas CBT is about monitoring your thinking and weeding out unhelpful thought habits, ACT argues that this can be pretty damn mentally exhausting, and that another approach is to notice those thoughts, and just let them pass through your head without feeling the need to accept them OR weed them out. It's still about being aware of what you're thinking and the resulting emotional responses, but more "give zero fucks" approach, which might work better if you're already at the bottom of a mental hole.
Because no one has said it yet: You could very well benefit from seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist. I suffered from depression for years, and seeing a psychiatrist and beginning a regiment of wellbutrin and cognitive behavioral therapy was very helpful to me.
I think that cognitive behavioral therapy would be particularly beneficial to you because of the second point you raised. You're describing irrational, harmful, negative thought patterns that you need to teach yourself to recognize and address.
Buy this book: http://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380731762/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1449721256&amp;sr=1-3&amp;keywords=feeling+good+hand+book
It will benefit you greatly to read this.
As for exercising, whether or not there's a class available, you should definitely continue to do it. Exercise is good for your mood.
In addition to the Buddhist advice given here, you may consider looking into doing some CBT (cognitive behavior therapy) or ACT (Acceptance or Commitment Therapy) to work with your anger directly so that you can untangle unskillful thinking and behavior patterns that may be stuck.
You can either work in professional setting or do the work on your own. Here are two resources that I found extremely helpful:
Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns
Change Your Thinking by Dr. Sarah Edelman
Treat yourself gently and give yourself time to process and the anger will subside in time. Good luck.
I recomend "feeling good" by david burns MD https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380731762/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1567778593&sr=8-1 I only read like the first chapter and it really helped improve my mood.
>The root of the problem has come from self realization that every individual is, in fact, alone. Everything is done for the individuals enjoyment... so what’s the point of being here if you’re not enjoying anything?
This part here was an important realization to me, the solution that I found out is that I should find what I enjoy and performs those activities to my own lonely enjoyment. this may involve others or just me.
>Also, everything is really pointless. You go to a pointless school to get a pointless job to get pointless money to feed your pointless family until you pointlessly die. The only “point” is fulfillment. If it isn’t fulfilling, there is NO point.
>Bottom line is I feel like I let everyone down. I feel generally alone and have almost no friends, my girlfriend is changing and I don’t like it. I am lost and I think I’ve reached checkmate.
Here you answer your first part, you should look towards fulfilling yourself you will always let someone down with every choice you make. the important thing is not letting yourself down. going to the left will disappoint the people that wanted to go right. picking chicken for dinner will disappoint the beef manufacturers, wearing a skirt will disappoint the pant makers. if whatever you do will disappoint someone, then why does that someone has to be yourself? it should be someone else.
Reading the book helped me change my perspective when I was doing unpleasant activities. Whenever I have to be in an uncomfortable situation I just choose to focus on the things I want and try to get some enjoyment out of it. for my general life I just realized that I should focus on my own and I have started dedicating things to myself, I went to the gym and set some goals for myself. I have disappointed some people along the way but I am doing what I want and I certainly feel better for it.
My solution was not perfect but I am happier than before.
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D Burns
I'm new to the Phenibut, but have had ~15 years of experience with depression and anxiety along with all the side effects they bring.
I've taken all kinds of anti-depressants, benzos, supplements, herbal remedies, you name it. By far the best and only long term solution is not drinking alcohol at all, diet, and exercise along with getting enough sleep. There is no cure for depression, it's a constant battle, but you can win it. As for diet, cut out sugar and processed foods, especially refined grains. 80% of your calories should come from fruits and vegetables, mostly vegetables. The rest should come from good fats(omegas) and a little bit of animal protein. Get at least an hour of exercise 4 times a week including cardio as well as strength training.
Cognitive behavioral therapy helps as well. It's basically retraining your thought pattern to not harp on the negative thoughts and learn to manage them. A good book for this is felling good. If you read the book and do the exercises it really helps.
From my limited experience with phenibut, I don't think it's a good solution to depression or anxiety.
But if you do need a crutch, I've found Kratom to be a very good for short term relief. It's great for anxiety, depression, pain, energy and sleep.
Best of luck.