(Part 3) Best eating disorder books according to redditors

I'm the father of a 15 year old daughter who has been in AN treatment since she was 9. She's been in individual therapy, iop, partial, residential, and inpatient through a program where I live (not Emily program). It can indeed feel overwhelming. Personally, I found the the most important things to remember were:

1. She's still your daughter. Love her, no matter what
   
   
2. Your daughter is ill. She is not just being stubborn, or rebellious. She needs help.
   
   
3. Her care team has a lot of experience with this. Work with them. Don't be afraid to ask questions.
   
   
4. Look for, and cherish all improvements, no matter how small.
   
   
5. Take care of yourself. It's not a sign of weakness if you need help getting through this yourself
   
   
6. It's not your fault she has an eating disorder
   
   You don't mention which ED she has. These are a couple of books I really liked. Obviously AN-oriented.
   
   Brave Girl Eating: A Family's Struggle with Anorexia - by Harriet Brown
   
   Decoding Anorexa - How Breakthroughs in Science Offer Hope for Eating Disorders by Carrie Arnold
   
   The folks at Emily Program can recommend others. Learn as much as you can.
   
   
   Never give up hope.
   
   
   Feel free to pm me

I'm in recovery from bulimia. It started almost casually in late high school/throughout college. If I felt over full, I'd get rid of it. Simple fix.

Of course over a decade or so it grew in intensity. I moved from, "whoops, ate too much" to planning trips to the buffet specifically to gorge. I loved that empty, in-control feeling after purging. But in the back of my mind I knew it was always wrong. I was sick. That was the simple truth.

I met the man of my dreams and got married and made babies. Back to back pregnancies had me eating whatever without guilt without the ability to purge so of course I gained.

Once I was a homemaker with a baby and toddler and husband gone all day, it was all of a sudden possible again. I began purging.

I knew I needed to change when I had to put the kids in their cribs while I purged in my bathroom because I began greying over every time. I was killing myself. And I didn't want to. The steps to my recovery looked kind of like this:

1. Fess up to this to my loved one. This sickness was fueled by secrecy. It belonged to me and me alone. When I knew I needed to change to live for my kids, I told my husband everything. How I did it, why. My trigger foods/restaurants/situations. I gave him all my secrets so I'd have a battle buddy. He began watching me like a hawk. That was a good thing.
   
   
2. I spoke with my therapist about it. I worked through it with her and talking with a professional helped give me tools for my recovery toolbox.
   
   
3. I used this workbook. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1572243260/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1502445860&sr=8-4&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=bulimia+a+guide+to+recovery&dpPl=1&dpID=41h61TqotxL&ref=plSrch
   
   
4. Step 1 in terms of actual eating was stopping purging. I ate what I wanted but I did not allow myself to purge. I had to live with that sick full feeling if I over ate. This in itself was the first step to regulating to proper portions.
   
   
5. If I felt like I could not control the urge, I'd go tell my battle buddy. He'd walk my through tips from my counselor and encourage me to work through it by walking or shopping or whatever kept me from vomiting one more time.
   
   
6. After a year of simply eating without purging, seeing a counselor, and feeling great about the situation, I began to explore losing the weight gained from having kids and over eating. Again with the support of friends and family, I got started.
   
   
7. Step 2 in eating for weight loss was to log every little thing I ate into My Fitness Pal. Without judgement, without restriction. I was just holding myself accountable. Just. Log.
   
   
8. A funny thing happens when logging your food. You recognize that you can have this one kind of burger versus this other kind and save 200 calories. Or hey! I love both of these soups, but one is 150 cal and the other is 300 so I'll get the lighter! I began making smarter options while I logged....logged....logged. I started to work towards eating less calories.
   
   
9. I found this subreddit and finally understood the science and math in weight loss. THIS was the control over my body and weight I was seeking all along. I plugged in my height/weight/age numbers to get my TDEE and realized that ANY day I ate less than that number I was losing weight. I gave myself a range of calories instead of an exact pinpoint for each day. I began to eat between 1000-1400 calories a day.
   
   
10. It took my 9 months to lose 65 lbs. I ate in my calorie range 90% of the time. I didn't restrict my food choices at all. I didn't go vegan or keto, no crazy rules. I logged everything. If I ate fast food, I made it fit into my day. If I wanted a slice of pizza, I had it. I did start cooking much more at home with lots of clean ingredients. If I went over one day? Whoops. Tomorrow is another shot. Imagine waking up each morning with $1400 newin your bank account. You can spend as much of it as you want on whatever you want. You don't have to spend it all because tomorrow you get more. This is my body's food bank. And logging allows me to track how much of that "money" I've spent so I don't go over. Weigh yourself once a week on the same day at the same time of day naked. Log that number. I also measure once every two weeks. These numbers will give you a great reference point to progress but they're nothing more. They don't state of you're a good person. If you are kind or smart. It's just raw data. Log it into MFP and move on with your day.
    
    
11. I've officially taken away the emotion of weight, of food, of my body. It now lies in the hands of math. Calories in. Calories out. If I want to adjust my size either way, I do it by numbers, not by torturing my body and mind. Find beauty in the science of it all. You can lose weight. It is in your control. There's nothing stopping you from doing so except what you're eating.
    
    
12. Lean into this community here. There are bumps along the way and these fine folks are great support.
    
    I've logged about 580 days now. It's fast, easy. Like keeping tabs on my bank account. I've maintained at my goal weight for almost a year now. If I think back to being wrapped around a cold toilet bowl alone and crying and so fucking disappointed in myself, I wish I could have given that girl the tools I have now: Food diary. CICO. Know your TDEE and deficit range. Move your body because it makes you feel incredible. And the power of baby steps. One day of not purging at a time. One secret unveiled. One moment of loving the imperfect version of me.
    
    Because even now at my goal weight I'm not perfect. I never will be.
    
    And that's okay by me.

I have many! Here are a few:


Gender Failure by Rae Spoon and Ivan Coyote This is the book version of the authors' live show that toured in 2012. They both are nonbinary, and the stories they tell are about that.


Second Son by Ryan Sallans Ryan has been a role model of mine for a long time, so I was really excited to get his book. It's a pretty basic transition memoir, but he has a really great voice.


Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein This one is a classic, and one I wish I had read much sooner! It's a transition memoir, but she also has some awesome discussions about gender in general too. Also, check out The Next Generation which is a collection of the work of trans* writers and artists.

Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg I think everyone should read this. It's a memoir/fiction sort of thing, and gender and transition are shown to be much more complex than in other transition memoirs. This one is quite old though, so maybe your library already has it?

Lastly, I will suggest Red: A Crayon's Story, which is basically the sweetest story about a blue crayon that was given a red wrapper by mistake.

Tabitha Farrar has 2 main tenants of recovery: Nutritional Rehabilitation(eating plenty again and gaining weight as needed) and Neural Rewiring (working to re-wire the pathways in your brain that lead to ED thoughts and behaviors). Often treatment only does that first half- ensure the person is eating and medically stable- which is extremely important, but you end up with a recovered body and a sick mind and you feel like "well great, I look healthy but I still have 99% of my ED thoughts and my brain is definitely not recovered"


She actually has a book that focuses soley on neural rewiring " https://www.amazon.com/Neural-Rewiring-Eating-Disorder-Recovery-ebook/dp/B07SC58CP9 " this could be helpful for working on the mental part and healing your ED mind.


Also, being overweight by bmi doesn't mean you need to lose weight, especially not if you have an ED history. People live full, healthy, beautiful lives while technically overweight. Weight does not determine health. Eating intuitively and being active in a joyful way will improve health and well-being without intentionally changing the number on the scale.

I'm going to recommend the book Overcoming Body Dysmorphic Disorder to you. It has helped so much with my issues and I think it could be helpful to you. Please, if you can afford it, go see a therapist who can do CBT with you. Admitting you need help is not something to be ashamed of, and therapists will not judge you.

> "two whole cakes-lessons from the fat o sphere"
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> That is a book!?

That is two books, actually. Truthfully, "book" might be a generous description - they appear to essentially be collections of blog posts rendered in hard copy, in order to swindle fat people who want reassurance that nothing is wrong with them, that fat is healthy, that they don't have to lose weight, that doctors are bad and wrong about obesity, and so on.

http://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Fat-sphere-Dieting-Declare/dp/0399534970

http://www.amazon.com/Two-Whole-Cakes-Dieting-Learn/dp/1558617930

There were two angles that specifically helped me get a foothold in the whole body acceptance thing: individual stories that didn't feel too preachy and studies/analysis of women's body image on a societal level. Basically, writing that was more practical and useful than fluffy, often grating "Love yourself!" type campaigns.

It basically started when I took a Gender and Society class that had a great unit on body image. I did some more reading on the subject independently after that, and When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies had a big impact on me, since it breaks down lots of possible reasons behind food and weight obsession with an eye toward cultural influence. It's also full of practical strategies for learning how to eat like a healthy person, which I needed quite a lot.

Then there are the personal stories, and those are great for me in blog form to read on the regular. Lesley Kinzel (who writes at xoJane and has a book, Two Whole Cakes) is my personal favorite. Writing like hers and scrolling through plus-size fashion blogs is a kind of exposure therapy for me. I was so afraid of fat for so long, but I can only read/see so many women being simultaneously fat and happy before it sinks in and I have to question my beliefs about weight. As viscerally true as it can feel sometimes, gaining or failing to lose weight won't sentence me to a life of misery. It's a big shift to accept that as true, since that was the root of body image issues for me: fat=miserable and alone. Obviously, it isn't that simple. So I pull that thinking apart and question it hard, and the body positive blogs are really useful for that. But I don't like reading anything that's telling me that I have to feel one way or another, even in the positive "love yourself!" way, so it helps to hear it demonstrated through the experiences of someone else. Way less preachy and more practical.

There's a lot of books out there. There's brain over binge, which is frequently recommended, but I'm also a food-soother and I didn't really find that it helped me overcome my desire to sooth myself that way... because I didn't know how else to sooth! It does help with impulsive binges, though. If your kitkat habit is a more of an impulse than a way of numbing your feelings, Brain Over Binge will probably give you more insight.

Right now I'm reading The Emotional Eater's Repair Manual and I think it's a pretty good start in exploring different ways to soothe. For example, I hadn't really put much thought into "checking in" with myself throughout the day to just see where I am emotionally, but the book touches on how to do it and the benefits. From what I can read, its pretty decent!

If you want something thats maybe less of a self-help book but a look at someone that has overcome the urge to eat their heart out: It Was Me All Along is a fantastic book. Very relatable and I thought it was a great read!

This really hits home. I lived in a similar limbo starting at about age 21. I managed to climb my way into the low end of "not technically underweight," and managed to be mostly high functioning in spite of a vague sense of guilt and constant mental barrages from the eating disorder. Sugary and junk foods were a constant companion for me too; I wrote about this here.

I think what was happening was my brain was still stuck thinking that there was a global famine, even though my body was no longer emaciated. Unfortunately a lot of people recovering from anorexia wind up here - they look better on the outside, but feel just as bad or worse on the inside. It makes it really difficult because everyone thinks you're fine. In reality there's lots more rehabilitation to do - the goal is "mental state improvement," not just "bodily improvement."

I wouldn't discourage anyone from getting help from a pro, but my guess is that you can try to make progress on your own before you reach out. I found this article and this article really helpful for understanding what's going on with this limbo state; I wish I'd read them much earlier. This book has a step-by-step guide for a (full) recovery program, and I found it to be really worth the $10.

Good luck!

Here's my list so far. It's a mix of FTM-specific, general trans, and gender studies books, including essays, memoir, and more academic works. In no particular order:

Gender Trouble by Judith Butler


Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein

Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman


Nina Here Nor There by Nick Krieger

Female Masculinity by Judith Halberstam

Nobody Passes - Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity edited by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore


Whipping Girl by Julia Serano


How Sex Changed: A History of Transexuality in the United States by Joanne Meyerowitz

Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green

Queer Theory, Gender Theory: An Instant Primer by Riki Wilchins

PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality edited by Carol Queen

Genderqueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary edited by Joan Nestle

From the Inside Out: Radical Gender Transformation, FTM and Beyond edited by Morty Diamond

Second Son by Ryan Sallans

Why are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots? by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

and the must-read fiction:

Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg

I'll edit this if I can find any others, I'm probably missing a couple. Been a big non-fiction reading year for me!

EDIT: Edited to add links, and a few more on my wish list I haven't picked up yet.

Letters for my Brothers: Transitional Wisdom in Retrospect edited By Megan M. Rohrer, M.Div. & Zander Keig, M.SW.

That's Revolting!: Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation edited by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men by Lori B. Girshick

Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience by Matt Kailey

The Testosterone Files: My Hormonal and Social Transformation from Female to Male by Max Wolf Valerio

It’s called Overcoming Your Eating Disorder Workbook. It’s blue and gold. I got it off amazon.

Here’s the link: Overcoming Your Eating Disorder

Sounds like a textbook case of Body Dysmorphic Disorder (I got my M.D. from the Internet School of Medicine). But, in all seriousness, I think therapy could be fruitful for you - cognitive-behavioral is supposed to be most effective for BDD but I suppose it all depends on if you can find a good therapist. I'd check out some body image resources and see what your reaction is to a psychological approach, e.g., Feeling Good About the Way You Look or The Broken Mirror.

You should find a therapist that does Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, the gold standard for psychotherapy, especially for BED. You can also start with a good CBT book, such as this one. I have that book, and love it. It is not especially about BED, but the skills it teaches can definitely help with BED. There are other ones especially for BED, like this one, which I don't know anything about.

Either those CBT books, and others, can be used alongside a therapist, and they may have more to recommend.

I got a lot of help from Geneen Roth's book on emotional eating. At one point in her journey through compulsive overeating and other eating disorders she decided to stop dieting and literally eat what she wanted, but also really paying attention to what she really wanted and how she felt before, during and after.

I did that. For several years I just ate what I wanted, but paid attention to how I felt. Just like Geneen Roth, I got a little fatter at first. But I also started making some major changes in my life. I realized that I was exhausted. I went to the doctor. I got treated for an underlying health issue. I began to be able to recognize the difference between being tired, hungry, bored or maybe a little nutrient deprived. So I lost some weight without even really trying.

Then I found keto. And the good news is that I could really do keto well. I could tell when I was getting low on electrolytes (actually just ate a pickle for that very reason) or dehydrated or maybe needed to look at adding a bit more fat. I do use myfitnesspal off and on to make sure that I am on track.

I think that it would be very possible to do keto and do mindful eating at the same time. There are some good always/sometimes/never lists of keto foods that might be helpful if you aren't wanting to track macros or calories or really even track anything.

My personal experience (while using myfitnesspal) is that it is very difficult for me personally to go over 30g of carb if I stick to low carb foods (including lower carb veg and fruits like raspberries) if I drop dairy and artificial sweeteners. That is my personal experience, YMMV. It's mainly because I can't make my fav keto bakery items and coffee drinks that can sometimes get a little out of hand (I'm looking at you almond flour and heavy cream). And I think I have better satiety with meat, veg and fruit. And I won't eat large amounts of fruit without sweetener. I am tiny woman (under 5 feet) that has a slower metabolism than average and typically eat under 1200 calories a day. I don't think most people would need to have the same restrictions that I do to do well on lazy keto.

I have found that keto keeps my blood sugar more stable which has REALLY helped with cravings.

Here is the first Geneen Roth book I read. I think it is her most popular. Been around for about 20 years.

http://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Hungry-Heart-Experience-Compulsive/dp/0452270839/ref=la_B000APDO9O_1_5/185-2542681-4004641?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1463429219&sr=1-5

Edit to add: I also realized (from doing the Geneen Roth mindful stuff) that life is too short for crappy meals. I live large on keto. Crab cakes, steaks in butter, cheesecake, garlic pork roast with ratatouille, bbq chicken and ribs, pulled pork, chocolate truffles (disclaimer - I am chocolatier by trade). Right now I am snacking on a bag of those parmesan cheese crisps. At $3.99 a bag, they are more expensive than Doritos, but I am soooo worth it.

First of all, congratulations on taking healthy and positive steps in your life. 49 pounds lost is excellent!

I want to throw something out there that I haven't really seen on Reddit. I'm a 27 year old woman who's had weight and food issues since I was about 8 or 9. My biggest problems haven't been a lack of self-control or willpower. Contrary to what a lot of people say, for some people--myself included, willpower is just not the key to permanently losing weight. Again, for some people, it's really about why we eat, what we eat, and how we eat.

This might be presumptuous, since I don't know where the root of your weight and weight loss lies. Maybe you have no food weirdness, maybe your metabolism's changed, whatever. But if for you, food and weight are a way to confront (or more accurately, avoid confronting) more personal issues, I would highly, highly recommend these two books:

• Fat Is A Feminist Issue, by Susie Orbach
  
  
  
• Feeding the Hungry Heart, by Geneen Roth
  
  
  Even if you don't have issues with compulsive or emotional eating, reading one or both of these books can be really instrumental in understanding why some people, particularly women, become overweight. Orbach's book in particular really shone a light on why I eat the way I do.
  
  Sometimes being fat isn't simply a matter of eating junk food and being lazy. I mean, yeah, that's part of it, but I get the impression that for you, weight is a deeply personal and emotional issue. If you want to keep the weight off, you'll need to realize that, whether you weigh 282 lbs. or 233 lbs. or 133 lbs., you are always the same person. You're not "better" or "worse." Healthier and more comfortable, sure. But you're still you. :)

Yeah, it does seem pricey. :( But it might be an option for the future.

Do you have access to a therapist? Maybe it would help to talk to someone about this issue and body acceptance. And I've heard good things about this book.

My nutritionist recommended Embody by Connie Sobczak. It REALLY helped me begin to let go of achieving the "perfect" body. I honestly give it credit for the amount of progress I've made regarding having a healthier outlook on eating/exercising.

https://www.amazon.com/embody-Learning-Unique-quiet-critical/dp/0936077808

Hi! I'm not sure if this is what you're looking for, but I want to recommend a recipe book written by a dietician and a woman in recovery. I haven't read it myself but it has great reviews. :)

https://www.amazon.com/Food-Eat-hopeful-disorder-recovery/dp/1480083461

It is a thing and there's way more to it than just putting the donuts down. For me Paleo diet is amazing. There is overeaters Anonymous type books that have helped some people.

OA style book

Lots of different books on Amazon. Workbooks etc.

The Overcoming Bulimia Workbook: Your Comprehensive Step-by-Step Guide to Recovery (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)

Twelve Steps For Overeaters: An Interpretation Of The Twelve Steps Of Overeaters Anonymous

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Ideally, your treatment team gave you dietary guidelines and you are still working with a therapist and/or nutritionist who can help you set ups meal plans.

Hopefully helpful links:

How to eat.

Recovery meal plan

Food to eat --just double recipes, and Drop the diet by the same people.

Process of recovery.

Adding more calories

Thanks for the kind words.

I would heartily reccomend that you educate yourself on metabolic damage.

The best source I've found on this, bar none, has been Matt Stone from 180degree health.

I was on board with you the first couple of times we went through recovery. Up those calories slowly and let your body acclimate.

The problem is that your body won't fix metabolic damage like that.

Here are a couple of articles that you will, undoubtedly find difficult, but have been instrumental in helping my wife overcome her ED:

I need how many calories ?!?!?

and

MinnieMaue guide to recovery

Additionally, the #1 thing you can do is find support. Your chances of successful recovery without significant repalse are over 1000% better (not made up) with stable support. I understand that it's terribly frightening and difficult to talk with friends or family about this, but you really could use someone in your corner. Someone who can help you differentiate between the times the ED is talking to you and when you're actually talking to yourself.

I'm that for my wife and I can tell you that I really didn't truly understand or appreciate what she was going through until I read Brave Girl Eating by harriet brown. I understand you're a university student and money may be tight, so if you want a copy and can't afford one, PM me and my wife and I will be happy to send you a copy :)

I'm not going to post how many calories my wife had to consume publically because I think she frequents this sub (and I'm not going to post what she eats NOW, after reversing metabolic damage), but feel free to PM me for details about her recovery process, what we went through, pitfalls we experienced, and anything else you'd like to know.

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Also, the single best thing you can do for yourself today is to throw away your scales. Any and all of them, body weight scale, food scale, the works. There is nothing that is so destructively triggering as someone with an ED looking at numbers on a scale. Remember, those numbers are meaningless. If they made a scale that read "Healthy" instead of having 3 digits, I'd be all for it. But until then, chuck them!

Can I recommend a self-help book?
It's simple, well explained, with little exercises you can do. Your fiance loves you, clearly, and I'm sure you'd get their support working through this book together.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/0273724908/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1474386200&sr=8-1&pi=SY200_QL40&keywords=brilliant+cognitive+behavioural+therapy

Exactly. There is a really good book on it called Almost Anorexic (and a lot of articles about it). It makes many people feel that they need to get extremely sick until they deserve to get help, and some people die in the process.

My ED therapist recommended this book to me:

The Emotional Eater's Repair Manual: A Practical Mind-Body-Spirit Guide for Putting an End to Overeating and Dieting Paperback – November 6, 2012
by Julie M. Simon (Author)

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1608681513/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apis_1510884380982

seen this book?

https://www.amazon.com/Big-Skinny-How-Changed-Fattitude/dp/0345504046/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1510105119&sr=8-6&keywords=carol+lay

I'm right there with you on all that. Touching, measuring, over-grooming, staring in mirrors waiting for something to change, avoiding mirrors, looking up options for surgery, before/after photos, obsession with aesthetics, noticing every tiny detail and change in my appearance especially age-related changes. BDD is more stubborn than OCD. Read The Broken Mirror. 75% of patients report suicidal ideation related to BDD and one quarter will attempt suicide at some point. It requires higher doses of SSRIs to treat.

To me it seems on the border between OCD and schizophrenia and it's common for patients to be completely delusional about their appearance. I would not wish this disorder on my worst enemy because your face and body are with you everywhere you go and when it gets really bad you don't want to go anywhere or be seen by anyone. Reflective surfaces, distorted mirrors, bad lighting reinforce the obsessions. How do you get away from all that? Aging is painful as it is, but with BDD it can have devastating psychological consequences. Do you tend to get stuck in mirrors?

People aren't born anxious, it's definitely a response to some kind of trauma. At some point when you were very young you probably had an unpleasant experience that you weren't able to deal with emotionally, and anxiety is your brain's way of trying to protect you from the perceived threat.

If you've had the same therapist for years and you don't think you've made much progress then perhaps it's time to try someone else? It sounds like your current therapist doesn't have much faith in their methods either :/

You should definitely look into CBT if you haven't already. I found this book to be good: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Brilliant-Cognitive-Behavioural-Therapy-Lifeskills/dp/0273724908

THE BIG SKINNY by Carol Lay.

https://smile.amazon.com/Big-Skinny-How-Changed-Fattitude/dp/0345504046/ref=sr_1_6?keywords=carol+lay&qid=1567362136&s=gateway&sr=8-6

If you want to use a book as a jumping off point (because seeing a psychologist will help more) the "Feeling good about the way you look" book has the most reputable author who would be the best authority of cognitive behavioral therapy. This is as a psychology student in training and not someone who has read the books and can speak from experience. I would also look into these:
http://www.amazon.com/Living-Your-Body-Other-Things-ebook/dp/B00HMFL1IQ/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1421641211&sr=8-2&keywords=act+for+body+dysmorphic+disorder&pebp=1421641242762&peasin=B00HMFL1IQ
http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Body-Dysmorphic-Disorder-Behavioral/dp/1608821498/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1421641211&sr=8-1&keywords=act+for+body+dysmorphic+disorder&pebp=1421641288919&peasin=1608821498

Processed food addiction : foundations, assessment, and recovery | Ifland, Joan; Marcus, Marianne T.; Preuss, Harry G | download

https://b-ok.cc/book/3580526/eb0096
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> Obesity and eating disorders have stubbornly refused to respond to treatment since the 1990’s. This book organizes the evidence for a possible answer, i.e., that the problem could be one of addiction to processed foods. In a Processed Food Addiction (PFA) model, concepts of abstinence, cue-avoidance, acceptance of lapses, and consequences all play a role in long-term recovery. Application of these concepts could provide new tools to health professionals and significantly improve outcomes.
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> This book describes PFA recovery concepts in detail. The material bridges the research into practical steps that health professionals can employ in their practices. It contains an evidence-based chapter on concepts of abstinence from processed foods. It rigorously describes PFA pathology according to the DSM 5 Addiction Diagnostic Criteria. It applies the Addiction Severity Index to PFA so that health practitioners can orient themselves to diagnosing and assessing PFA. It contains ground-breaking insight into how to approach PFA in children.
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> Because the book is evidence-based, practitioners can gain the confidence to put the controversy about food addiction to rest. Practitioners can begin to identify and effectively help their clients who are addicted to processed foods. This is a breakthrough volume in a field that could benefit from new approaches.

Processed Food Addiction: Foundations, Assessment, and Recovery - Kindle edition by Joan Ifland, Marianne T. Marcus, Harry G. Preuss. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

https://www.amazon.com/Processed-Food-Addiction-Foundations-Assessment-ebook-dp-B078RMYPBY/dp/B078RMYPBY/

Almost Anorexic. Sounds really good. I think self-help books are excellent for people (like myself) who are wired to work on themselves that way.