(Part 2) Best love & loss books according to redditors

If you are interested in what these lovely humans are doing now:

Avan just released a book called Mixed Feelings

Liz is staring on CW's Dynasty which you can also watch on Netflix. She's also an incredible singer and you can listen to her on her YouTube Channel

Recent books by female authors I've enjoyed:

Your Voice in My Head by Emma Forrest

Burial Rites by Hannah Kent

How I Live Now by Meg Rosoff

Night Film by Marisha Pessl

and... The End of Everything by Megan Abbott

It sounds like you may have some abandonment issues. You might want to pick up a copy of this book. It can be very helpful, even for those people whose relationships haven't ended. Good luck.

The reviews show up on a particular page. They are all five star. Personally I take that with a grain of salt. A grain the size of a truck.

Totally agree, just wish newspapers were more reliable with specific facts like 'lands a book deal'. DM at least lets you comment. My local one doesn't...

I think he's reading from this. Comes up on his stream often. could be wrong tho

>I think making the distinction between a hobbyist poet and the "professional" poet is kind of immature and a little bit of what is wrong with the industrialized poetry of the post-contemporary age.

It is a distinction that has existed for ages. As someone who is interested in great poetry getting into the minds of the people at large, I can't imagine discounting the importance of training and discipline when it comes to the practicing of an art.

And if you think that today's poetry is "stale and unseasoned" I suggests you check out the following four books (only one of which is mine) published just these first few months of 2012 and the poets that wrote them:

With Rough Gods by G.M. Palmer

I Was There For Your Somniloquy by Kelli Anne Noftle

Love, an Index by Rebecca Lindenberg

Olives by A.E. Stallings

Oh your experience resonates, especially the twin flame thing - that's a whole trauma in itself. I'm sorry things are a bit rubbish. Some ideas...

This book quite literally saved me https://www.amazon.com/Self-Care-Self-Aware-Sensitive-Empaths-Intuitives/dp/1452578567/. It is short but awesome.

One commentator suggested get off Facebook, which is in the right direction but perhaps a little extreme. Facebook got palatable for me when I realised that what we show on Facebook isn't reality, it's what we want people to believe is our reality. So just remember - it isn't real, it's but the 1% of our lives we feel looks cool. The 99% which is less impressive - people don't share... so perspective is crucial.

In terms of using your abilities in a constructive way - I managed to do it, but it took me until my mid-40s and an immense amount of pain! But OMG my life is so much better since. I've got a web site documenting a bit of my journey https://thepsychicceo.com.

I'm happy to chat further - PM me on Reddit if desired. I do readings on a part time amateur basis if that's helpful.

Being an empath sucks, but if you pay attention, manage it, and look after yourself - it's a hugely special ability. I feel blessed by it, I hope in time you will too.

Take care...

To add to what's been said, you can look at some cheshbon nefesh tools, like this: http://www.mussarinstitute.org/pdf/accounting_of_the_soul_template.pdf

And you can you a Mussar book like this:
https://www.amazon.com/Every-Day-Holy-Teachings-Practices/dp/1590308107

Also there is this one for every day studying/inspiration/reflection (I'm not Chabad but find it interesting): http://store.kehotonline.com/prodinfo.asp?number=ERE-HAYO.L

Learning about this on my own as well. Has helped me understand myself and the cheater much better (no excuses). These books are also really helping me and are based on attachment as well.

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https://www.amazon.ca/Abandonment-Recovery-Workbook-Guidance-Heartbreak/dp/160868427X

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https://www.amazon.ca/Power-Attachment-Lasting-Intimate-Relationships/dp/1622038258/ref=sr_1_6?keywords=attachment&qid=1558025539&s=books&sr=1-6

Yes. Have to find positive ways to direct anger. There are so many people in need in the world. Direct the frustration to making a difference for them. We are all upset by what happened.

• Let's start LGBTAQ acceptance and support groups in our community. We have one in mine for teens and college students and it has grown so much since its inception. It is a god send for these kids.
  
  
• Let's reach out to those who need basic needs met, such as women and children in temporary home facilities. They may need child care while attending classes, and the facility might need meal donations and workers to help prepare and serve the meals. Also, the facility might need help with small repairs like painting, wall patching, and general housekeeping.
  
  
• Let's encourage and foster relationships with our elderly populations. Reading to a shut in or ill person in hospice (or any assisted living center) will give us the opportunity to learn the wisdom they have spent a life time gathering. Let their forgotten voices be heard.
  
  
• Let's work together to learn why some open-minded people might have supported Trump for president. When we don't understand each other, we can't find common ground. We are all people, we just see the world through different lenses of life experience. You can find common ground with most anyone, I promise. The fear of the unknown about someone can grow into assumptions and stereotypes.
  
  
• Let's use this time for self-reflection and a rally for projecting positivity to those who need our help, instead of talking about cutting people down who believe differently from us. It will help you sort emotions and beliefs and you will come out of this stronger.

Someone should gift them this book. Just for the LOLS.

Recovery Without Religion. There seems to be a slew of information online as well if you do a google search.

It's in here https://www.amazon.co.uk/Psychology-Psychic-David-F-Marks/dp/1573927988

The quote above is an explanation (from Wikipedia article on Uri Geller) of their findings.

I'm sorry you have hate in your heart for whatever happened. I pray you will find forgiveness and can let go and move on. Even Beyonce forgave Jay Z. The only one holding you back is yourself and the hate you possess. It's your choice.

The following book has helped me a ton:

"Moving on: Dump your baggage and make room for the love of your life"

https://www.amazon.com/Moving-Dump-Your-Relationship-Baggage-ebook/dp/B004BKIC8M

Here's a poem of mine from my book Perchance to Dream:

Old
I have lived uncounted days
Resistant to the gaping grave
Resistant to all ill or plague
Lived to such breathtaking age
Ancient when the earth was formed
Older still when life was born
I watched you crawl upon the shore
Change and grow to something more
I gazed upon your petty wars
The woe and wounds and death you scored
Upon the enemies you scorned
I shall be old when you are done
Dead and swallowed by the sun
When every war’s been lost or won
Time’s ticking clock neglects to run
After millennia untold
When all the stars are weak and cold
As the universe begins to fold
I’ll still be here, I’ll still be old


My book is available on Amazon here if you'd like to check it out

(Edited for the sake of formatting and not misspelling Amazon like a moron)

Leaving the Fold

Leaving the Fold: Testimonies of Former Fundamentalists

Losing Faith in Faith: From Preacher to Atheist

Why I Am Not a Muslim

Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships

In Search of the Light: The Adventures of a Parapsychologist

Crazy for God: How I Grew Up as One of the Elect, Helped Found the Religious Right, and Lived to Take All (or Almost All) of It Back

I really hate to plug here, but I wrote a short poetry book for this exact reason. Because most poems are just overly pretentious sounding, or they are instagram style poetry that is just throw away.

Mine is short, sweet, and full of things I actually cared about.

And cheap.

If you check it out I promise you won’t Regret it.

amazon link

Conundrum by Jan (fka James) Morris. (Original cover) Thought about you when I saw this. Hope it helps.