(Part 2) Best self esteem books according to redditors
We found 608 Reddit comments discussing the best self esteem books. We ranked the 178 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.
For anyone suffering from depression or mental illness, please know that there is absolutely help out there. Yes, maybe you have tried a lot of medications before, but maybe you’re new to this battle and need a little bit of help. Here are some things that have helped me:
-Friends and family
-seeing my doctor and being open with them about my feelings
-Reading (I’ll link some wonderful books down below).
-Being outside. Whether you’re walking, running, gardening or whatever. Being outside especially during a sunny day is wonderful.
-podcasts: The Hilarious World of Depression is a great podcast to listen to.
-meditation
-Believing in and being consistent with my medication.
-decent diet
-getting enough sleep
Here are some amazing books that have helped me:
Furiously Happy: A Funny Book About Horrible Things https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250077028/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_F6kZAbDERXVNH
Let's Pretend This Never Happened: A Mostly True Memoir https://www.amazon.com/dp/0425261018/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_86kZAb5RJPPGJ
You Are Here: An Owner's Manual for Dangerous Minds https://www.amazon.com/dp/125011988X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_o7kZAb6QVETZH
Here is a link to the authors blog: http://thebloggess.com
Theres a lot of self help involved in mental illness. That’s the only way we survive. We can’t expect someone to be able to fix us. We can only try to understand and be kind to ourselves and know most importantly that depression lies and deceives us.
“Without the dark there isn’t light. Without the pain there is no relief. And I remind myself that I’m lucky to be able to feel such great sorrow, and also such great happiness. I can grab on to each moment of joy and live in those moments because I have seen the bright contrast from dark to light and back again. I am privileged to be able to recognize that the sound of laughter is a blessing and a song, and to realize that the bright hours spent with my family and friends are extraordinary treasures to be saved, because those same moments are a medicine, a balm. Those moments are a promise that life is worth fighting for, and that promise is what pulls me through when depression distorts reality and tries to convince me otherwise.”
Jenny Lawson, Furiously Happy: A Funny Book About Horrible Things
“To all who walk the dark path, and to those who walk in the sunshine but hold out a hand in the darkness to travel beside us: Brighter days are coming. Clearer sight will arrive. And you will arrive too. No, it might not be forever. The bright moments might be for a few days at a time, but hold on for those days. Those days are worth the dark.”
Jenny Lawson, Furiously Happy: A Funny Book About Horrible Things
Some other people who have done similar things:
BBC video about psychologist Rufus May who was diagnosed with schizophrenia and his work with a medical student who was hearing voices: https://vimeo.com/147827258
TED talk by psychologist Eleanor Longden who hears voices: https://youtu.be/syjEN3peCJw
Pacific Standard Magazine article about Professor Nev Jones who has also experienced psychosis. Helpful in revealing struggles students with mental health challenges can experience in academia: https://psmag.com/magazine/the-touch-of-madness-mental-health-schizophrenia
Ahmed Hankir writing about his experience with mental illness while working to become a psychiatrist: https://medium.com/inspire-the-mind/the-wounded-healer-harnessing-the-power-of-the-performing-arts-to-reduce-mental-health-related-cb519eb397cf
Psychologist Pat Deegan talking about carrying the diagnosis of schizophrenia: https://youtu.be/jhK-7DkWaKE
Mark Vonnegut a pediatrician, has written two books about his experience with psychosis. Here is one of them:
https://www.amazon.com/Just-Someone-Without-Mental-Illness/dp/0385343809
Stephen Hinshaw put together an anthology with mental health professionals writing about their personal or family experiences with mental illness: https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Silence-Professionals-Disclose-Experiences/dp/0195320263
A number of people in my psychiatric nurse practitioner program had experienced mental health problems, and at least one faculty member shared about her experience with psychosis and depression. Take care of yourself and go for it!
Here's a free worksheet (pdf) to help one clarify their values from a great book: The Confidence Gap
Worshipful Master means they were the 'president' of the local lodge for at least a year. It's odd that you're being approached after doing something that wasn't a good thing? Really not getting the vibe of what you mean, but I figure that's intentional on your part.
It doesn't sound that strange that people would approach you, especially in a small town. Generally we aren't supposed to recruit at all, but I'd say your experience isn't totally crazy. At least the guys approaching you are good men.
I'd really recommend the book 'Is It True What They Say About Freemasonry?' to answer your questions about devil worship, etc. I'll spoil it a bit- none of it's true and most can be traced back to one hoax in the 19th century.
edit: Also, +1 on the username. Still not sure where to put my feet.
The Book of Virtues was one of my go-tos when my son was younger. It draws from all sorts of cultures and different countries, which I really liked. There are some Bible stories in there too, but I didn't mind them being in there since we basically treat the Bible as a work of fiction that is an important part of our cultural history.
I had this fear Sept 11, 2011. It was the 10 year anniversary of 9/11, and it was a Sunday. I didn't tell anyone, we had a very nice worship, and everything was fine. That didn't help my anxiety, which within a year would go through the roof. I had secondary mental trauma that just broke me.
I had to figure out how to be a minister, and how to work through my anxiety. Notice I said "work through." We don't "overcome" mental issues like they are something we can just blow up. We build up skills to deal with it. For me, one of the tools I gained was reading the stories from others on the other side. It helped me see perspective.
I separated myself from the things that were making me anxious for awhile. I know this becomes difficult when the anxiety is directly related to church. I'd ask if they record the worship in some form, and watch or listen the weeks your anxiety is high.
I'd also check out some self-help groups: www.mentalhelp.net/selfhelp. There is also a book that might help:
10 Simple Solutions to Panic
I had great success with the Tower Of Light ritual, which is described in detail in Denning & Phillips's excellent Practical Guide To Spiritual Self-Defense. They prescribe daily use of the exercise for sensitives souls like you. :)
As a practicing magician, I rely on daily use of the Ritual of the Pentagram, adopted for my identification as a Thelemite. A Lesser Banishing Ritual in the morning and a Lesser Invoking Ritual in the evening have worked wonders over time. The ritual is described in clear detail in the article "It's In The Basics: The Pentagram Ritual", from The Black Pearl, vol.1, no.3, on page 14., available for free online from Temple Of Thelema.
A book that I haven't read myself but have seen highly recommended for helping children overcome anxiety is Growing Up Brave. As I understand it, the basic concept is to expose the child to whatever it is they fear in small doses, and then gradually increase the exposure as they build their confidence. But it might have some other helpful strategies for you too.
Yes its possible. I've personally done it. But it can be quite tiring to use said skill.
I personally recommend this book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Drop-Pink-Elephant-Ways-What/dp/1841126373.
It was my ENFJ sister's book, and she's arguably the best at social in my family (too good in fact, why the hell is that? So unfair. lol.)
Also latch on to people groups and learn to feel the atmosphere.
Work smarter, not harder.
Will is a resource that needs to be conserved and used wisely. If you want to quit smoking, but surround yourself with smokers, you're going to waste a lot of willpower.
Read Denning and Philip's guide to psychic self-defense.
https://www.amazon.com/Llewellyn-Practical-Psychic-Self-Defense-Llewelyn/dp/0875421903
Use it to rid your life of the things and people who want to hijack with your will. Then create the context that makes the actions you want to accomplish more convenient.
Also, The Book of Virtues is excellent because it's got all kinds of stories (some of them Bible stories) from different parts of the world that each talk about a different virtue--friendship, loyalty, love, etc. :) I picked a hardback copy up at a library book sale and it was one of the favorite things for me to read to my son when he was little.
I started reading this at my counselor's reccomendation. It wasn't as good as the first book, but as a son of an nMother it may be more up your alley.
If you’re at the stage of looking into comparable websites during your development, check out Helen Fisher’s TedTalk about her research into love and hormones. She designed the test you take when creating an account on Chemistry.com, and I find it to be another really cool way of categorizing people and analyzing what matches work best most of the time. The book The Confidence Code actually talks about mutations in proteins related to some of the hormone traits Fisher describes that I didn’t know about until recently, pretty cool stuff. I hope it helps you in your search!
I’ll try to find the exact video later as I can’t find it right now.
Edit: here is the talk from Helen Fisher, it’s actually a Google talk
Have you looked for a online or inperson temple, teacher or meditation group?
I would suggest this workbook to help:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0393712184/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
If this works for you and you want more information PM me and I can put you in touch with a temple. But I think this workbook will be quite helpful.
Confidence code. FYI, it piggybacks off Lean In so it skews towards professional. Amazon Link
Do you have a kindle account? If not get one and read these books:
When Panic Attacks
Constructive Living
The Confidence Gap
The Dare Response
Just download the samples and see which one resonates with you most that you might like to read. Seriously potently life changing stuff. These have been invaluable techniques for me personally.
Disclaimer, I haven't read this yet but a friend suggested: The Self-Compassion Skills Workbook: A 14-Day Plan to Transform Your Relationship with Yourself
https://www.amazon.com/Growing-Up-Brave-Strategies-Overcome/dp/0316125601/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1503766265&sr=1-1
I've thought about teaching! It's definitely an option if I can't get into grad school. I'm not sure how qualified I would be, but I feel like that's a personal issue, you know? I feel so old and so young and I'm not sure I'm authoritative enough to actually teach people! It would be awesome though.
Psych is SO FREAKING COOL but the science-y parts were way over my head! I've thought about a masters in guidance counseling or something too, since I have a BA instead of a BS. I'm excited that you're going to be out there helping people in ways I can't! I've heard it's a tough (but rewarding!) job. If you haven't read them yet you should check out Just Like Someone Without Mental Illness Only More So: A Memoir and Monkey Mind: A Memoir of Anxiety. Those books completely altered my views on mental illness in a good way!
So as the author of that article: I do hold that I've had reduced procrastination, and that a major part of it seems like it can be traced to meditation and mindfulness practices. That said, at least so far meditation alone hasn't felt like it could fix everything, though it's possible that it would be even more transformative if I was further along the path (I'm around TMI's Stage Five at the moment).
According to procrastination researcher Piers Steel, your motivation for some task is affected positively by your expectancy (how much you believe in your ability to pull it off) and the task's value (how rewarding the task is to do, and what you expect to get out of it). On the other hand, your motivation is reduced by the delay (how distant in time the rewards for doing the task are) and your impulsiveness (which covers both your personal impulsiveness and situational factors that might distract you). [See also](http://lesswrong.com/lw/9wr/my_algorithm_for_beating_procrastination/I feel that meditation has helped me reduce procrastination by decreasing impulsiveness and making my subconscious more aware of what the true value of doing different tasks is.
But my suspicion is that for people who have big problems with procrastination (including some of my past selves), their main problem is with some kind of internal conflict, with different parts of their mind having various deep emotional needs and conflicting ways of achieving them; which may manifest as conflicting evaluations of expectancy and value. TMI says that eventually, meditation will lead to a unification of mind where different parts of your mind become united behind a single goal, and others on this forum may comment on that. But my experience as a Stage 5-meditator is that this seems to be a pretty long process, and I'm not there yet. When it comes to procrastination reduction, what's been more useful for me has been to apply techniques that address internal conflicts more directly.
I described this in my recent post on self-concepts; apparently a big part of what was going on was that I had an unstable self-esteem and kept feeling bad about myself, and a part of my mind wanted to prove myself by being productive and accumulating positive evidence about myself. At the same time, the exact nature of my insecurity was such that no amount of additional evidence that I accumulated was going to fix it; the problem was with some particularly negative memories and ideas that I had about myself, which had to be dealt with first.
In terms of Steel's research, you might describe this as a part of my mind thinking that productivity would have a high value (since it would fix this gaping emotional hole in my mind), whereas another part kept sabotaging my efforts to be productive by assigning the plan of "feel better about yourself by being productive" a low expectancy (as it had correctly previously noticed that this wasn't useful for actually making myself feel better).
It's possible that sufficient practice with meditation could eventually have fixed this, by healing those emotional wounds through a different route; but the techniques that I used fixed the biggest problem much faster.
On the other hand, I do still stick with what I wrote in my original article as well: meditation and mindfulness has also continued to produce major gains in reducing procrastination. Notice that the article you were referring to was written several weeks after I had fixed my self-concept: mindfulness has made it much faster to really take advantage of all the changes that have been happening on their own after I fixed that emotional wound in my mind. And on the other hand as well, I believe that the improved introspective ability that comes from meditation, made it easier for me to be able to apply those techniques which did heal the emotional wound. Both meditation and the techniques for changing self-concepts, have worked better for me together than I expect either would have worked alone.
I described the self-concept tools I used a bit in my self-concept post, and they're described in much more detail in this book (yes I know, the cover doesn't exactly inspire confidence in its contents). You may also want to look at other techniques which aim at fixing internal conflicts directly, such as Gendlin's Focusing, aversion factoring, and Core Transformation. (Necessary caveat: while several of these techniques have been developed by e.g. psychotherapists, there hasn't been very much - and in several cases no -
rigorous scientific research on validating their usefulness. I'm suggesting them because they have been useful to me and other people that I know, but you should give such a recommendation the same skepticism as any other anecdotal evidence. I can't make any promises of whether they will work for you, or whether the cause of your procrastination even is what I think it might be.)
Good luck!
I highly recommend this book, and bear with me:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004KPM1N0/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Valerie Young titled this book so it's directed at women, but it clearly applies to men as well. She's clear about that throughout the book. Please don't let "women" scare you off. It scared me off for months and I'm a woman.
This has helped me to identify some of the self-destructive behaviors I have that tie into impostor syndrome. I knew some of them were not the best behaviors, but didn't realize how they were tied up in that persistent feeling of anxiety. I'm not perfect at controlling all of them all the time (I'm particularly bad about over preparing), but being cognizant of these behaviors has helped me.
I also found being casual exceptionally triggering for impostor syndrome because of the circumstances in which I left an earlier job. Is there any way that you can keep looking for a more permanent position? I got to go permanent and while I still break into a cold sweat every time someone questions something I've done, and now I only have low-level panic attacks about half of the time someone goes to see my boss.
Also, I like to write down specific times and places I feel inadequate and review them periodically (oddly, not as triggering as it sounds). It helped me identify subjects and people that made me feel useless.
I'd read a blog post that said the classic Burberry was just canvas and not even waterproof, and it's $2k! I was a bit startled to realize that it wasn't even practical for the weather. It doesn't mean I still don't WANT one but realistically if I'm going to spend that much money it would have to be something that has more use than a dry day, and living in the PNW that's 2 months of the year. They have other regular raincoats with removable lining, detachable hoods, etc. and they are half the price which helps but I'm a cheapskate.
The London Fog coat is supposedly comparable in style to the useful Burberry. I went on a hunt last Wednesday to try on the LF coat and ended up liking it. But they didn't have the one I wanted, which is this one with the removable lining and detachable hood. Anyway, I hope it fits ok. My concern is how the arms will fit with the liner in it. I don't want to size up since it'll then be too big everywhere else. We'll see what happens!
As for the book, it's The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It. It's a pretty good read and I see myself in so much of it. I don't know how it'll impact me in the long-run, particularly since I have to actually do some soul searching and implementing what is said (and clearly procrastination is a huge thing since I'm on Reddit when I should be working on my giant list of things to do).
The magic of thinking big
[how to win friends and influence people] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B004U7G81O/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?qid=1421001053&sr=8-2&pi=AC_SX110_SY165_QL70)
go for no
the slight edge
psychocybernetics
Words that work
Just Like Someone Without Mental Illness Only More So by Mark Vonnegut
I recently found a book called “Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.”
My mother is a Borderline Personality. I’ve come a looooooong way in therapy, and have read both of Peg Streep’s books (Mean Mothers and Daughter Detox: Recovering from An Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your Life) but this book has still helped me to see how insidious the psychological abuse was.
The hardest part of healing from this type of abuse is finding all those ugly seeds that were planted in your young, child’s mind. You can’t challenge/confront an idea if you’re not even conscious of having the idea. It’s what keeps so many people trapped/stuck, either with the abuser or at a point of trying to heal but being unable to go farther and not understanding why.
Dominate by David De Las Morenas.
I'll admit that the book looks like a classic -dude does self improvement seminars then sails away on a yacht that you see in movies type deal-, but it's really good. It provides you with tactics to improve certain ares of your life then gives proven examples of where they have worked with some of history's most famous men.
For my classes, I've drawn inspiration and material from various materials. Two that come to mind are Jack Canfield's Key to Living the Law of Attraction (http://amzn.com/0757306586) and The Daily Book of Positive Quotations (http://amzn.com/1577491742). I'll look in my notes later as well as check my book shelf to see what other sources I've been using. Hope those two help!
What is this, 1980s redux?
I recommend checking out this article and seeing if anything resonates with you:
http://steveandreas.com/Articles/building.html
If you do find some resonance there, I recommend the whole book, here:
https://smile.amazon.com/Transforming-Your-Self-Becoming-Want-ebook/dp/B009Y5HS7K?sa-no-redirect=1
I've been using "The Self-Compassion Skills Workbook" after I heard the author, Tim Desmond, talking about self-compassion on a podcast. They also have FREE audio exercises to go with it/use on their own on his website.
Check out "How to be an Attractive Man" http://amzn.com/B0056A5CG6
Things you can do to make panic attacks better (sorry for the wall of text!)
I've had panic attacks on and off for over 20 years, so I hope some of this gives you some relief/help. :)
As you know.. panic attacks are the release of adrenaline. If you don't 'feed' the panic/ dwell on it /add to it. The adrenaline and other hormones making you feel like crap will dissipate in about 20-40 minutes.
Medications. If anxiety attacks are interfering with your quality of life... it's time to talk to your doctor about some kind of medication to help with that. Some of the popular choices...(keep in mind that everything works differently for everyone)
And finally... -whew!- sorry for the wall of text again... Some websites that might help you...
Anxiety Centre - a really good resource for explaining the physical side of anxiety and how to cope with it. They also offer peer support for a fee.
Anxiety Tribe - Live chat and forums for anxiety sufferers.
No More Panic - A UK site that offers live chat and forums as well.
I'm working through this book and I've found, in trying to help, I've actually been doing a lot of things wrong.
https://www.amazon.com/Growing-Up-Brave-Strategies-Overcome/dp/0316125601
Hey,
I love to talk but it wasn't always this way. I would highly recommend just practicing. I have found the following books to be really useful aids in my learning to be a better conversationalist:
Here are some really basic tips for getting people to talk.
As for you last point about 'I actually don't know what to bring up to even trigger a question about myself.'. There is a great quote :
> “No man would listen to you talk if he didn't know it was his turn next.”
You should get away from this notion. I try to not talk too much about myself, you want to show interest in them rather than trying to impress them with yourself. They will naturally ask you questions when they think of them, try not to focus on steering the conversion to a interest of yours. Another big point is, if you find a common interest, don't let them know instantly with a 'ME TO!'. Keep quiet, ask them about it and at some point drop a few subtle hints that you know of the subject. They will be much more impressed that you share an interest but don't feel compelled to scream it instantly.
I hope this helps a little :)
Well thats fucked. All eight.
1. Shut down all emotional expression
If your child expresses anger, sadness, or fear be sure to make fun of them, tell them not to feel, and dismiss their emotions.
*Nmom's ultra creepy neighbor who is the same age as my mom asked me out on a date 7 years ago, with 5 different versions of the offer.
Yeah in that order
*He has leered at me for years and expects me to communicate with him while he stares at my breasts, or even sneaks up on me when I am in Nmom's yard and his hands swing past my butt to get my attention.
2. Set inconsistent rules
Never talk openly about your expectations for your child’s behavior. Keep your child guessing about what you expect from him or her — and make sure you change the rules constantly.
3. Ask your child to solve your problems
Share all of your worries, concerns, and relationship problems on a daily basis. Ask them for advice and act helpless in the face of solving your own adult concerns about work, money, relationships — and especially sex.
Nmom blames me for her boyfriend never leaving his wife. Or her losing responsibilities at work like making hiring and firing decisions. Its always my fault.
4. Put down your child’s other parent
Never show affection to your spouse or partner in front of your child and criticize your partner daily. Alternate between being cold and rejecting of your spouse, and fighting and screaming in front of your child. Threaten divorce on a regular basis so your child will live in a state of chronic anxiety.
Nmom showed affection to my dad, when she wanted something, like a $3000 curio antique She threatened divorce several times a week since I was 5 to 18 years.
5. Punish independence and separation
Whether your child is two, twelve, or eighteen years old, alternate between crying hysterically and totally dismissing them when they express thoughts, feelings, or desires that differ from your own.
If they show any signs of wanting to explore new things, meet new people, or express any thought or emotion that is different from your, respond by saying dramatically, “How could you do this to me?”
She doesn't want me in her house, yet she doesn't want me to live independently in a home that is in proper repair with a landlord that doesn't walk into my apartment unannounced to go through my personal papers and belongings. She dismisses my anxiety about this invasion of privacy and says its not important. Of course she didn't want me to go to college, or live more than 5 miles from her.... Thats now.
As a child I wasn't allowed to have opinions or observations different than hers. If I dared mention anything that she found to be different than what she would think or speak it was inappropriate.
6. Base your self-worth on your child’s performance
if I succeed or do something well, she has misjudged my abilities. Which cannot happen. I must fail or she hasn't assessed my abilities in life correctly and she is never wrong.
7. Get in the middle of your child’s relationships
Called my ex husband the first year we were married to talk my husband into divorcing me and either talk me into an abortion or give the baby to her once its born. Naturally my baby was stillborn and she gave me no support, didn't discuss it except to ask if I had fucked up the delivery. Then Nmom's boyfriend calls to encourage my then husband to convert to Christianity or the Nboyfriend will report my then husband to the INS.
8. Expect your child to live your unfulfilled dreams
I am very good looking. I know it. My Nmom's youngest sister was homecoming queen twice and won 19 beauty pageants in a row, then was demoted to second place in the 20th pageant cause its not fair that one girl win 20 times in a row.
*Nmom told me when I was 14 to join beauty pageants and compete as a figure skater (7 Years of lessons) or I could go off to a girls school. She ended up dumping me off a teen homeless shelter when I was 15 years old. She made good on that threat. I refuse to lower myself to a living doll.
Yeah Mommy Dearest is the epitome of evil.
I have been reading http://www.amazon.com/Mean-Mothers-Overcoming-Legacy-Hurt/dp/0061651362
Mean MOther's by Peg Streep. Not all the situations relate to my experience, but its an amazing read and its helping me get through an exceedingly difficult period in my life.
Edit: fuck this formating. I need to get of the puter and get some late lunch.
While, we are listing recommendations, here are other good resources:
www.versatilephd.com (you need to be affiliated with a subscribing university; many US research universities have subscriptions)
"So What are You going to do with that?" Finding careers outside of academia (book)
Moving on: Essays on the Aftermath of Leaving Academia (this is an ebook made by the people at How to Leave Academia).
All excellent books. I have personally met each author and they are amazing men that live what they write.
Of course, good ole Dale Carnegie's book in How to Win Friends & Influence people comes to mind, but his book lacks the tenacity and ferocity needed to succeed. It's lessons are excellent, but often it's too nice.
https://www.amazon.com/Psychic-Self-Defense-Instruction-Protecting-Paranormal/dp/1578635098/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1467394408&sr=8-1&keywords=psychic+self+defense
https://www.amazon.com/Llewellyn-Practical-Psychic-Self-Defense-Llewelyn/dp/0875421903/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1467394408&sr=8-4&keywords=psychic+self+defense
These are two classics that I like. I think they're a good buy and helpful and they basically describe what I do. Some of what I do is personal, related to religious training. I don't want to get into that. These offer a decent foundation. Both of them are pretty old but good to start with I think.
There are a bunch of "post-ac" blogs (although they tend to be humanities phds, so that's unfortunate) but it's nice to read about them. There is also a kindle book that came out about this very topic.
You Are Here for quirky, light-hearted color days. Rosanes for serious color days. Mhm!
Yeah, it's nice that there's ways to get testing supplies for so cheap!
https://www.amazon.com/dp/125011988X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_Vnt-ybK80NBY8 That's the one I ordered, I can't wait for it to arrive.
[The Magic of Thinking Big] (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00NGZIR92/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1) So simple, but great for the right mindset
People make all sorts of claims about who does, or doesn't have the 33d degree of the Scottish Rite of Freemasonry.
MPH did have the 33d degree as noted by the Grand Archivist and Principal Historian of the Supreme Council AASR-SJ.
I remember "Looking Out for Number One" being a very popular boomer self-help book in the 70s (and a fairly popular BTO song :)). It was about 25% as likely to be on a thirtysomething's bookshelf as "Jonathan Livingston Seagull". Never forget that narcisstic turtle on the cover.
As cheesy as it is, this book helps me to recognize something positive each day.
Everybody is different, but for me, when I was in the thick of grief, I found it helpful adjust my perspective and try to see my life from afar like somebody less fortunate see it. I would remind myself that I have a safe place to sleep, enough to eat, indoor plumbing and electricity. That when many people lay down and dream, these are the things they dream about because they aren't lucky enough to have them. I found appreciating the simplest of comforts in my everyday life allowed me to start finding joy in things again.
I hope at least one of these responses helps you find peace. I truly feel for you. Best of luck, and sincere, long-distance hugs from a random internet stranger.
I read in a book called the confidence code that men typically apply for jobs when they think they meet around 60% of the qualifications, and women typically apply for jobs when they think they meet around 95% of the qualifications. If you are female and applied for the position, this could mean you are lots more qualified than you think.
https://www.amazon.com/Confidence-Code-Science-Self-Assurance-What-Should/dp/006223062X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1502140324&sr=8-1&keywords=the+confidence+code+for+women
Best of luck at the interview!
Read this book; The Magic of Thinking Big, and do as it says.