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English isn't my 1st language.

Ok so vyvanse is a stimulant. It the little brother of Adderall but you can't abuse it because the neurostimulant isn't in the pills. The pills work as a catalyze for you liver to produce the right amount of neurostimulant for you brain.

So if you have a lot of protein when you take your pills you will get a better boost of energy.

First month are like heaven. Limitless like... until it come to a point where you feel all the secondary effect. Depends on your body but me my skin was so tight, my teeth was sensible and I had to drink a lot of water...

Those effect are not strange to an overdose of amphetamine ... vyvanse is an amphetamine.

I stopped using it because the benefits didn't outweight the drawback.

I was put on concerta since then.

But a pills ain't a magical remedy you need to work on yourself and to understand ADHD.

ADHD is like diabetes ... instead of your blood lacking insuline you're lacking dopamine receptor.

This video will start you on understanding more ADHD/ADD : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LyDliT0GZpE

I recommend reading : Healing ADD form Dr. Daniel G Amen.

But don't purchase is home healing kit it's retarded as fuck. His home healing kit are for stupid mom who put there kids too early on ritatin or think that because her boy's can't stand still and prefer to play videogame they must certainly have adhd.

Get a good psychologist. One that work with other ADHD people. I'm followed by one and it's like my self-development mentor. He's there to help you even if you need to pay him but it will help you. I see him really like on of the only person that I can talk about the struggle that I have with being productive or dealing with emotions. Like this subreddit instead of talking about sexual strategy you talk about self-development)

Clean your lifestyle.

Videogame or everything that come close to instant gratification when you day is just starting it's a no no ... especially at the beginning of your treatment. Your Dopamine is like your willpower. It isn't infinite. An ADHD person don't have a lot of it or can't produce at a faster rate. Everything that is instant gratification is your worst enemy in the long run. As said in the video : You're the most high-tech rocket on the planet earth with the most powerful computer... but you have no fuel. You can't move....


But you will say ( especially under vyvanse ) but dude i'm super productive I found all the info I needed for my paper way faster than before ... or some shit like that... You will start being productive at being unproductive. I was able to teach myself a shitload of thing about dieting/nutrition/fitness ... but I forgot to do my school assignment... I was productive at being unproductive.

What was the most useful to me at that point was getting good grades not reading about nutrition, that can come after I've done my task. It's like taking a shit but not pulling your pants down ... you get thing done ... but not in the logical order.

How do you know you're moving in the right way ?

Be accountable.

Start scheduling your life. Put the big rock 1st etc... This will give you an idea : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VNmIxkyHd8

Be A-C-C-O-U-N-T-A-B-L-E

Ex : I keep a pen&paper log for my gym session ... multiple time I thought I wouldn't need it ... 2-3 day later I found myself skipping gym day. There is something that push me to go back and get stronger in writing down the number I just lifted.

It will develop a good quality that men's of today lack : Rigorousness and discipline.

The think is to have the habits of scheduling your day and start doing what you scheduled when it pop-off on your phone/agenda/computer/what ever. I had the bad habits of scheduling my day but pressing ''snooze'' on the even that keep popping up.

Summary : By scheduling you have more control over your life. More control = less anxiety and less screwing around. We ADHD can't see the consequences in the future. We have a great skill to see the big picture but don't feel it. I'm sure you are like this when you start a team project ... you wait before everything fit in the big picture before starting the 1st step ahaha. 2nd great skill is : You can be overfocused ( on the wrong thing ) and achieve thing faster than everyone else. By scheduling you gain control day by day instead of doing a sprint at the end. Life is a marathon.


2nd worst ennemy : " I don't feel like it"

I still struggle with this one.

You're weapon : you need to trick your brain.

Need to study or start the research for a paper or w/e ... ADHD have a problem with estimating time ... When people ask me how much time it will take me ... I DON'T KNOW ... It will take the time that it will take ...

So to trick my brain I schedule 15min ... yeah just that

What it will do :

• 15min is a short amount of time, it will control your anxiety before doing it because you brain can always say : I will do 15 min and close the book that's it
  
  In 15min you will have time to understand the problem you have in front of you. You will have the good informations to guess how much time it can take you to achieve your task, information that you didn't have prior to that. In 15min your anxiety will rise and plateau. That feeling of not being able to finish something and feeling of being overwhelm by the task will seem much smaller now. You gain control of the #1 survivability skill that your ancestor gave you : Connecting the dots.
  
  When the hunter saw the footprint on the grass he connected the dots between seeing the footprint but not seeing the prey, and estimating that there was something there and it's now gone. You're brain connected the dots from previous experience and future outcomes and came up with prediction... what we call instinct/guts in some case.
  
  When you start nothing you're in an illusion of control. You can't have feedback if you're not doing the actions and it's much simpler to imagine the outcomes. That is where procrastination gain is power, in the illusion of control. Much simpler to learn about stupid shit on reddit than to learn what you saw in class. The same "pathway of neurone" (By that I'm illustrating the fact that you brain gain the same satisfaction, you're brain is always developing himself) are used but one give greater outcomes than the other.
  
  You become stronger by Feedback Analysis Further reading on that : Managing Oneself by Peter f. Drucker
  
  
  BUT BE CAREFUL !!!
  
  Do not become Rigid ... this is where discipline come into play.
  
  Rigidity in a lifestyle come from having your standard way to high. You need to hit the ball before scoring home-run.
  
  What do you do if you didn't start where you needed to start ? You reschedule in the hopes that the next time you will feel better and be more prepare or you try to use the rest of the time you schedule and try to use it as much as you can ?
  
  I struggled with that and I still do but I have a better control over it.
  
  I found myself skipping gym session because I didn't feel I would be able to do my Strength Set and after my Hypertrophy set ... so I didn't go to the gym...
  
  One is better than zero.
  
  Now when I feel exhausted or my anxiety is too high I say to myself : OK just go there and do your Strength set and call it off. So I go there do my set and.... magically my brain is in the right mood and I finish what I needed to do ! MAGIC ... not just science.
  
  Note : The program I'm using is 5/3/1 from JimWendler.
  
  In summary : Once your task is scheduled but you don't feel like it or there is an ''emergency'', Try to at least start something or do the One thing that give you the best outcomes. In my exemple : Strength is what build muscle, hypertrophy are just for aesthetic so I needed to at least do my strength set. Lower your standard so you don't feel overwhelm but the anxiety and start ASAP the task you needed to do.
  
  I lost my line of thought will post this for now and come with everything I feel is missing.
  
  I tried to write for an ADHD person and for a normal person. My english isn't perfect but everything seem fine.
  
  TL:DR : Hey you weaktards there isn't a TL;DR. Feel the pain of reading a wall of text or maybe you're just not that interested in learning more about ADHD and you can go back touching yourself over GW or liking Cat picture over imgur.
  

You are turning things around. One of the biggest mistakes we make as human beings is to wait or hope for an outside confirmation so that we may love ourselves. This might work for those who are 'lucky', but in the end they are even worse off because they start believing this trick actually makes them happy.

Truth is it doesn't. It only satisfies their ego, which leaves their inner selves permanently at a loss. A deep unfulfillable void that they do not understand and try to fill with external validation.

True happiness comes from tapping into your inner self and its capacity for love. All human beings have an endless source of love stored within themselves. It is once you love yourself regardless of any external factor that you will be able to truly exploit this resource and love not only yourself, but your life and everything (including other people in it).

The fact that nothing really matters comes to its true strengths through this notion. Not even your own external appearance matters, so don't let it impact your self love. The only thing impacting your self love should be you.

This book might be of use to you. http://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassion-Psychotherapy-Mindfulness-Based-Practices-Transformation/dp/0393711005/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1451060574&sr=1-3&keywords=self+compassion

Also meditation can help to work away your judgement of reality and become more present in the moment. This will help with breaking through conditioning and accessing your inner self.

Think of any one person in your life whom you love the most. Now imagine if you would love yourself and life like that. It might seem impossible, but it isn't. It's a way of living.

I'm currently in Monk Mode myself. I'm probably only going for at most a 3mo. term at this (Started Dec. 1st). It sounds like you have a good plan. I'm focusing on the following things:

• Meditating: the best way to re-program your brain IMO ("Wherever you go there you are")
  
• Teaching myself Jazz piano
  
• Diet (Here's my diet)
  
• Fitness (Here's my fitness bible)
  
• Career Development (This)
  
• Productivity & Time Management (too many books to mention, OP PM me if you want this list)
  
• Not watching Porn & Masturbating less frequently (Highly recommended /r/NoFap)
  
• No Alcohol
  
  For learning to cook I highly recommend this book.
  
  For addressing approach anxiety I recommend The Rules of the Game.
  
  This is an excellent book on habit change. (OP this is how you start to break down those "masturbatory" habits)
  
  Also, Monk Mode is basically an exercise in stoicism. This book is awesome.
  
  
  Since you'll have plenty of time to read here are some other Books I recommend:
  "No More Mr. Nice Guy"
  "Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty"
  "The Talent Code"
  "Man's Search for Meaning"
  "Flow"
  
  Final thoughts OP. 6 months is definitely a worthy goal however studies show that 90 days is usually what it takes to create new habits and routines. You have to be consistent though. Just food for thought.
  
  
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Happy Birthday, you're now a man.

• Congratulate yourself, you have shown resilience, motive, and self-respect
  
• Read Bad Childhood, Good Life
  
• Make your bed daily
  
• Go to bed, and get out of bed at the same time daily
  
• Take up a team sport (Meetup)
  
• Walk 3 miles min daily
  
• Hang out with positive, driven, friends (Meetup if none)
  
• Don't complain: write down 10 potential solutions for each complaint, pick the easiest most direct step to improve your situation
  
• Diet: Visualise soda, fast food, and sugary foods as 'the opposition' trying to fuck you over, don't give in
  
• Environment: remove/ignore/minimise what doesn't serve you in your progress, only let in what does
  
• Forgive and move on: you are a man now, be mentally independent
  

Okay, I will tell you some things about me.

First, I ghosted everyone that knew me as a Blue Pill guy. Now, an inherent part of ghosting is being alone. When most people tell you they are independent, it's fucking bullshit. Emerson wrote a great deal on self-reliance.

Here is an essay by Emerson on the subject of self-reliance. It is both a great introduction to his views and how beautifully he writes.
http://www.emersoncentral.com/selfreliance.htm

Here is a collection of Emerson's essays. Ignore the 1 star review, which is for the Kindle version of the book, but heed it and buy the physical book instead of the Kindle version.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1598530844/

Emerson was friend and mentor to Thoreau, who wrote the following account of his two-year stay in a cabin near Walden Pond. One of Thoreau's goals was self-sufficiency.
http://www.amazon.com/Walden-A-Fully-Annotated-Edition/dp/0300104669

Here is some further reading.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0762415339/
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1492777862/
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0199291152/
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0802150926/

You mention you are going to be a radiographer soon. Now, I have seen said on TRP that some here do not see the point in film, but I fucking love film. Now, there is one film in particular that I think relates to your situation incredibly. That is Ikiru by Akira Kurosawa.

http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/ikiru/
Ikiru is about a Japanese man who, near the end of his life, learns he has a terminal disease. He has, up to that point, wasted his whole life at his government job. Learning of his illness inspires in the main character a will to change, and seeing him undergo that inspires change in those around him. But, and this is another lesson to be learned from the film, we see that the main character's transformation has no lasting effect on those around him. Change has to come from within.

Another film seriously worth watching is Whiplash. I saw it mentioned in this subreddit in passing and am glad I did.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=7d_jQycdQGo

If you want me to elaborate on the things that I didn't, ask. I have a lot more film recommendations, but cannot recommend any more books, as I do not read that much. I don't recommend any music as I would consider most of what I listen to to be blue pill.

I really feel for you. I recommend self help books. (Sorry) one called are you the one for me (https://www.amazon.com/Are-You-One-Me-Avoiding/dp/0440215757)is good but you might think it's "blue pill shit" (my husband is 46, 10 yrs older than me and he says all the time if he hadn't met me he would still be single, I feel the same about him, your post struck a chord with me) I hope you find someone, if not I'm sure you can be happy other ways. Good luck!

Books that I highly recommend for improving social interactions:

The Magic of Rapport

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Interaction Ritual

Diet is about 80% of the equation. Eat a paleo/keto diet, it will be good for both of you.

Also, running doesn't really help much. Intense weight training is what causes certain hormones to be released which change the metabolism and add calorie-burning muscle.

Definitely get her to read this book, it explains the whole exercise aspect with modern-day medical knowlege.

holidays, birthdays, etc...

Here is a book I recommend: https://www.amazon.com/Battle-Hymn-Tiger-Mother-Chua/dp/0143120581

Have you ever seen one of those Indian guys riding their elephants?

That's you.

Seriously, I think this metaphor goes a long way to understand what's going on in the mind.

You are that little guy (the neocortex, i.e. your rational mind), sitting on top of this huge elephant (your limbic system, i.e. your emotions and automatic behaviors), trying to ride it and tell it where to go.

What happens when the elephant goes crazy? What can you do about it? Well, not much, really. The elephant is much bigger, and much stronger than you. And hitting a scared elephant with a stick probably isn't very productive.

Interestingly you used the word "mindful" there. Don't know if you're aware of it, but ... "mindfulness" is actually a thing. Generally it's associated with a certain type of meditation (which I recommend in any case), but there's another aspect to it which is very helpful here.

The idea is to learn how to simply observe what your elephant is doing. Instead of hitting it with sticks every time it gets scared and freaks out and does something stupid, try to learn what triggers those states. Learn how your elephant works, and then you can learn how to ride it.

For example, there are probably certain specific things that trigger the bitch behavior in you. The unproductive thing is to beat yourself up over this or - even worse - feeling like a victim of some thing or another. You're of course free to do that, but it won't get you anywhere. The productive thing, on the other hand, is to accept that this is the way things happen, this is reality. Observe what your elephant is doing, that it freaks out in this or that situation. Notice it, remember it. Learn how the sequence goes. "This happens, then that emotion comes up, then those thoughts come up, then I do this, then I feel like shit and then I feel bad about feeling like shit." There are patterns that work in similar ways every time. Patterns that have probably worked at one point or another (most of them come from childhood, like for example feeling intentionally bad in order to emotionally blackmail your parents into buying you stuff) that your elephant is still clinging to, but aren't useful any more. You need to know those pattern. Don't judge them morally (don't beat the elephant with sticks!), judge them simply on a basis of "helpful" or "unhelpful". Don't feel bad about anything, this is unproductive. Simply observe that you do and learn how the sequence goes.

Over time, you'll become better at this. You'll notice situations as they unfold, and you'll learn where exactly the process goes wrong. For example, you'll notice something like "wait a minute ... this emotion right here is me preparing for punishment I receive for disagreeing; however, I'm not in a situation anymore where I am exposed to punishment, so this emotion, albeit probably useful at one point, isn't useful to me anymore and I can let it go."

It's quite a process, but that's how you can learn how to ride your elephant, at least from what I can tell. If that's helpful to you I suggest looking up mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and developmental psychology (I find this book very helpful in particular).

You might like this book.

https://www.amazon.com/10-Happier-Self-Help-Actually-Works/dp/0062265431

This film has a protagonist you might relate too.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0087980/

You know what they say, you need 10,000 hours to be an expert. There are no shortcuts to glory. The iron doesn't lie.

SORRY! Typo. It's Outer, lol -- http://www.amazon.com/Taming-Your-Outer-Child-Self-Defeating/dp/0345514483

Neurosis and Human Growth by Karen Horney

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0385483937/ref=mp_s_a_1_19?ie=UTF8&qid=1525781342

Classical Narcissistic trait. Read this book to educate yourself, for ebook version click here.

https://www.amazon.com/Mastery-Robert-Greene/dp/014312417X


Mastery-Robert Greene

Actually all of his books remind me of TRP for real. The Art of Seduction is fucking legit.

Wear a 7-11 shirt

When things get heated say the following words.

"I am Allah's humble messenger for he speaks through me."

"The Djin have gotten your tong mother, I understand these are not your words"

Nobody wants to argue with a religious person.

i find that studying buddhism helps in this area. specifically, this book https://www.amazon.com/Fundamental-Wisdom-Middle-Way-lamadhyamakak/dp/0195093364

this will allow you to not fall into the trap of equating conditions with an object or an object with conditions, which is based in our innate misunderstanding of reality.

Well I gave you a link. I suppose it flew over your head because:

> requires the neural network itself to grow

That's not how a brain works. Where did you hear about a neural network, because you seem a little confused about what a neural network is. A neural network is a computer model based on how a brain might form ideas. It is not a human brain.

When you say "Brain cells are like that to network & become able to recognize faces, etc." (sic) it's hard to tell what you are saying because you are so inarticulate. I suppose you are trying to make some statement on how neural pathways are formed?

Your statement doesn't take into account how hormones like adrenaline, testosterone or estrogen influence the formation of neural pathways. It doesn't talk about dopaminergic projections that control the formation of neural pathways based on pre-existing inherited structure.

Neural pathways are guided by the design of the brain itself. For example Brocca's area in the brain is where the human brain conjugates language. In your simplistic statement -there would be no need for the brain to compartmentalize because apparently there is no pre-existing influence of genes on brain development.

I've provided several links now.

> where have YOU been getting your information from?

I already gave you several links. It's obvious that you don't know anything about this. So here's several books that you should read before you show your general ignorance of the topic:

http://www.amazon.com/Human-Brain-Book-Rita-Carter/dp/1465416021/

http://www.amazon.com/Evolution-Human-Behavior-Darwinian-Perspectives/dp/0262533049


http://www.amazon.com/Not-Genes-Alone-Transformed-Evolution/dp/0226712125/