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u/thePloweHorse · 1 pointr/asktrp

The average height in your country is around 178cm +/- 5cm so 183 is tall and 173 is short but you are still young and could probably grow to be 176/177 depending if in the next 4 years you will get enough vitamin D3 + mk7, sleep and excercise.

Go out and get as much sun as you can get, it naturally produces vitamin d3 in your body and summer time is when you make reserves for winter.

Check your vitamin d3 blood level!!!, if you will be deficent ask your doctor to put you on d3 + mk7 supplementation. Your future health, height and weight might depend on it.

Lack if vitamin d3 might even lead to depression.

Not that fat means fat.

Single mom - this is your biggest problem, I need you to read these sources - Mandatory!:

  2. Find the book "No more Mr Nice Guy" it's a short and easy to read book, which you should read! It's for free on the internet, probably even in your native language:

    First of all I recommend that you go into monk mode(read about it here), I read that people are completely shitting over you and even using physical force against you, you need to transfer to a different school to reset your frame, it's completely in pieces and people have less than 0 respect for your mere presence.

    Delete facebook and all social media, change schools - preferably one in a completely different direction than your current school to prevent old "friends" from transferring your bad fame. Don't tell anyone where you are going. This is also mandatory because if you will be going to college with your new friends your shitty image might never be overwritten. Not to mention that the shitty environment will keep you in your poor state of mind like a chain on your leg.

    Secondly you need to interenalize the material here, this means you need to lurk and try and make sense of the new things you will find here. You are still very young and might not understand most of it.

    You need to lift, get a gym membership, read about lifting(how to do this correctly) and lift, after you go to college you can thanks us later for this. It will take a year to two years but after your gains people will automatically give you more respect and your confidence will increase naturally, you will also feel much better. I cannot stress enough how lifting is important.

    Lastly, if you have some fat do this:

    Skip breakfast, don't eat anything untill dinner time, eat a big dinner, wait untill supper, don't eat anything, eat a big supper and don't go to sleep straight after eating, wat a few hours and then go to sleep. Sleep at least 8 hours and go to sleep early. It's called intermittent fasting and can boost your HGH(human growth hormone) up to 2000% of it's initial value.

    Eat only meat and some veggies, don't eat anything that has bread/potatoes/sugar(carbs) in it(meat in bread crumbs, bread, chips, fries etc.).

    Realize that your biggest problem is being raised as a nice guy by your single mom. Don't blame her and don't make an issue for her out of it I don't know why she is single but there may be some redeeming circumstances and she might want the best for you but she can't give it like she could with a father in your house, just focus on improving yourself.

    17, just before senior year is still very early to start working on yourself and reset your social standing, you have very much potential! Some people here start after two divorces at 40 and they smash.

    And after reading my advice, please do not become this:
u/Frigzy · 1 pointr/asktrp

Waking up by Sam Harris is a very interesting read on this subject.

For meditation, I recommend starting by reading this book and to take it from there. Meditation in essence is a technique to help you break through conditioning so don't expect miracles from the start. Master the technique and see from there.

Other than the two resources mentioned above, I would recommend to practice love and compassion towards yourself whenever you're in need of guidance by thinking of the person you love the most. Use visualization to picture that person in your very situation and from there, think of how you would advise that person to act in their best interest. The next step would be to visualize yourself in their position and ask how you would advise yourself (being the person you love the most) to act in your own best interest.

The exercise might seem a bit awkward at first, but it's a way of channeling your deepest sensation of love and using it for your own benefit. Often it makes the right decisions because it keeps your strengths, weaknesses and preferences in mind like no other.

By using meditation to break through conditioning, and combining that with the practice of self love, you're well on your way to reach your true self without actually giving up on real life and join a monastry.

I'm definitely not there yet myself, but at the very least I can say I'm heading in the general direction, which on itself already feels deeply fulfilling. Never hesitate to look deeper!

u/Quaternionz · 2 pointsr/asktrp

Never directly address an issue with a woman like that. You can’t just straight up ask her why she wasn’t down. Did you think she’d tell you why so that it could then fix whatever the problem was? Women don’t function like that. Men like to try solving these problems as if they were logical puzzles, but genuine sexual desire can’t be negotiated logically like that. All you accomplished was coming off like a thirsty beta and torpedoing your chances.

The Desire Dynamic

The kissing during the movie probably failed to escalate to sex because you tried to jump on it too soon. If you’re watching a movie then finish the movie with her. If you stop 20 minutes in then she’s going to feel like sex is more of a priority to you than spending quality time with her.

Make Brain: Sex > Quality Time

Female Brian: Quality Time > Sex

Also, if the movie itself was lame then she could have been in a weird mood due just to that. Women are very sensitive to their moods. Read my post here about how to get a movie lay. It doesn’t map exactly to your situation, but it’ll give you some ideas:

Another thing to remember is that muscularity is a disproportionately huge attraction factor for very young women. They have no conception at all about what qualities make for a good long term partner. They give zero shits about your financial situation or your prospects for future success. They give zero shits about if you have your life together or if you’re going to be a burn out alcoholic. They just want the stereotypically hot muscular guy they see in media.

This changes in their mid 20’s after they’ve had a few failed relationships. At the moment though, just focus on getting totally jacked. If you’re young and you’re dealing with very young girls (23 or younger) then all you need to do is get your bench press weight up to 200lb and wear a skin tight shirt to show off your pecs. That’ll get you laid, guaranteed. You’ll want to be dating 23 year olds (or younger) even into your 30’s, so I can’t stress enough how important lifting is.

Just flat out ignore her mean texts. She’s attention whoring, trying to create drama, and trying to get you to get emotional like a beta. If you give her any attention at all she wins. Just go blackout silent.

Lift and game other girls.

Also, if you haven already read the entirety of The Rational Male blog, then I highly recommend the book versions. It’s the same posts, but arranged in a saner format, and with some useful front matter:

Volume 1

Volume 2

Volume 3

u/gentleViking · 3 pointsr/asktrp

I'm currently in Monk Mode myself. I'm probably only going for at most a 3mo. term at this (Started Dec. 1st). It sounds like you have a good plan. I'm focusing on the following things:

  • Meditating: the best way to re-program your brain IMO ("Wherever you go there you are")
  • Teaching myself Jazz piano
  • Diet (Here's my diet)
  • Fitness (Here's my fitness bible)
  • Career Development (This)
  • Productivity & Time Management (too many books to mention, OP PM me if you want this list)
  • Not watching Porn & Masturbating less frequently (Highly recommended /r/NoFap)
  • No Alcohol

    For learning to cook I highly recommend this book.

    For addressing approach anxiety I recommend The Rules of the Game.

    This is an excellent book on habit change. (OP this is how you start to break down those "masturbatory" habits)

    Also, Monk Mode is basically an exercise in stoicism. This book is awesome.

    Since you'll have plenty of time to read here are some other Books I recommend:
    "No More Mr. Nice Guy"
    "Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty"
    "The Talent Code"
    "Man's Search for Meaning"

    Final thoughts OP. 6 months is definitely a worthy goal however studies show that 90 days is usually what it takes to create new habits and routines. You have to be consistent though. Just food for thought.

    (Edit: I suck at formatting)

u/ManChooses · 1 pointr/asktrp

I haven't really given much thought on how TRP is applied to homosexual relations. I've known a couple of homosexual men in my life but I've never really asked them details about how that dynamic works.

Certainly there's a lot that TRP teaches that can help you become a better man for yourself, lots of stuff about new mind frames to shape and better habits to get into. However, TRP is rooted in the realities of the male-female sexual marketplace, which wouldn't apply to you since you don't have to compete in that specific SMP. Then again, if that dynamic still applies to male-male relations where one man takes on a more masculine role in the relationship and the other takes on a more feminine role, then I can see how you can make it apply.

I would definitely start with No More Mr. Nice Guy, this book will give you an excellent starting place. I've been telling a lot of guys to read Rollo Tomassi's Books lately, however, they are very geared towards straight men because he talks specifically about the feminine imperative in the male-female sexual marketplace.

u/TheInkerman · 3 pointsr/asktrp

15 isn't too young, but this community is a bit of 'blowtorch'. A lot of good, helpful resources and advice, a lot of shit, and a lot of angry/upset guys who are trying to redefine themselves.

A better alternative is maybe to show him some of the resources that TRP links to, not necessarily TRP itself.

The Rational Male is a really good resource; the 'best of' posts being a good place for him to start.

Mark Manson's 'Models' is a good book to start with, although I would pair that with 'The Rational Male' book (Manson is just a tad soft on the nature of women IMO, but to be fair he was going for a more mainstream audience). A really good resource, especially for someone as young as he is, is The Book of Pook, arguably the main foundational resource.

I would also tentatively recommend 'Bang' and 'Day Bang' by Roosh V. Now Roosh V is a fuckwit douchebag, but in terms of pickup (which is distinct from TRP) he knows his stuff.

Finally I would suggest Mark Rippetoe's 'Starting Strength' to start him building muscle, or, if he doesn't have access to a gym, a book on bodyweight fitness would be good (there's a subreddit which has recommendations).

u/__NOTORIOUS__ · 34 pointsr/asktrp

> But then they'll always be considering monkeybranching/cheating with alphas if they get the opportunity because they're just settling for the beta.

Plenty of married alpha's. Rollo Tomassi, the father of TRP, is married.

> how the actual fuck do you as a male who wants LTRs and doesn't want to have casual sex "succeed" and not end up a beta bux?

By being alpha entering into a relationship.

>It’s not a numbers game, it’s a non-exclusivity game. The goal isn’t racking up as many women as humanly possible in order to sift through the throng and find that one little golden flower. In fact that’s the key to disaster. There is no Quality Woman, that’s an idealization. Some are better than others of course, but you don’t find the perfect woman, you make the perfect woman. There is no needle in the haystack – that is Scarcity / ONEitis thinking – the point is to mold yourself and any woman who you do exclusively end up with into your own frame. This is a process that should come before you commit to exclusivity, not after. The world is filled with guys forever trying to catch up, control the frame and be the Man they should’ve been long before they entered an LTR. They spend the better part of their LTRs/Marriages trying to prove that they deserve their GF’s / Wife’s respect when they’d have done better in letting her come to that conclusion well before the commitment through a healthy dose of competition anxiety. - Rollo Tomassi

The Rationale Male

>dark triad traits are not long term healthy relationship traits, they're just traits for fucking sluts. Well I don't want that, I want a relationship down the line with a non-slut,

"Dark Triad" traits (or just alpha traits) are attractive to all women, not just sluts. The difference is, sluts lack self-control and self-respect, so they get used by tons of guys and make irrational choices. The lack of self-control is what makes sluts bad investments. Even when they have a good deal (lesser-alpha), they lack the self-control to resist a higher alpha, throwing away their relationships to chase their hypergamy.

You will never be the most alpha. There will always be someone who's better breeding stock than you. You just have to be alpha enough. As you grow old, you'll likely sacrifice your freedom and independence for family and legacy. You won't be as alpha as you once were, or as other 20 somethings are, but you'll have different priorities, and ideally a women who's wise enough to know she's got good deal.

u/TheRedMoss · 6 pointsr/asktrp

This post deserves more insight than I can provide. Hopefully more experienced people will see it.

First: Know that in your position (age, income, etc.) you have options (good ones). If you decide to leave your marriage it sounds like you're in a good place. A part of me would be nervous about letting that deal sit on the table and not taking it. At some point she will realize her future options are diminishing and may revoke the clean getaway offer.

Second: You took a huge step in the right direction finding TRP. There's a lot here that can help you (even in your situation where you're ability to experiment is limited). I'm reading "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi. $10 on Amazon I recommend getting it. It's a compilation of many of his best posts on his blog. He's a married man and has a solid perspective on things.

One of the concepts he covers is re-stimulating "competition anxiety" Basically if you start improving yourself enough to the point that you're getting attention from other women, your wife will feel more inclined to go out of her way to please you. Her imagination (thinking about what you plan to do, the attention you're getting might make to do something with someone) is gold. There's a lot to learn in the book/his posts and I think you'd benefit from it whether you stay or not.

Third: As far as your sexual experience, check out "Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose. It sounds corny but it's a pretty quick read that completely changed my sex life (like humans discovering fire for the first time kind of 'changed').

Best of luck

u/CaptChuckit · 5 pointsr/asktrp

1.) Decide on a work out regiment or martial art to study, hit it hard

2.) Read Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey

3.) Simplify. Eliminate EVERYTHING you can. Reduce your life down to what you can fit in your car.

4.) Read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi

5.) Eliminate brain fog (quality sleep/foods, cut out excessive drinking/smoking, continue to read, research topics that interest you, listen to podcasts, etc.)

6.) Seek out accessible (local, online, social networks) resources within the music business and wring them for info. Do your fucking research.

7.) Move out. And not down the street, go where they do what you want to do.

8.) Decide to dedicate a serious amount of time to your dream, and how to get there. Treat it like its your goddamn job, or like you're studying it in school, whether you actually end up in school for it or not.

9.) Make a legitimate effort to go out and talk to women. Do so with an experimental emphasis.


I found video journaling hugely effective. It doesn't make much sense at the time, but going back and reviewing them later, you will be glad that you did.

You can do this my friend, don't feel hopeless. No one thing is going to fully activate your potential. It's a mentality shift that you're after, and that takes work. Just be sure to help the newly unplugged as you progress.


EDIT: formatting

u/Terminal-Psychosis · 3 pointsr/asktrp

People that have been using and abusing you will naturally resist you standing up for yourself. This is a sign of progress.

As you learn more, over time, you'll see manipulation attempts for what they are, and be OK with yourself for declining to enter into unfair deals. This has to do with developing healthy boundaries (internal, and external). It is part of becoming an adult (that many don't ever really get too good at).

Once you train people to treat you right, things get easier. It does take time though, and some are just not worth the effort. Fortunately, as we progress and mature, we tend to let people in our lives that are more on our new, higher level. This never stops, and leaving unhelathy relationships behind can be necessary.

Even more necessary is learning to deal with those that we can't so easily leave behind. We have to train ourselves, as well as those around us. Demanding fair treatment, in an assertive way (not passive aggressive games, not aggressive force) is an extremely useful skill.

Here's an excellent book for you:
When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. Smith


> 1. You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.
> 2. You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.
> 3. You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.
> 4. You have the right to change your mind.
> 5. You have the right to make mistakes—and be responsible for them.
> 6. You have the right to say, “I don’t know.”
> 7. You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.
> 8. You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
> 9. You have the right to say, “I don’t understand.”
> 10. You have the right to say, “I don’t care.”

Give it time, and keep reading (especially the main sub sidebar!)

Growing up is a life-long process.

u/RaymondCarversDog · 2 pointsr/asktrp

Good on you for not wanting to waste time. Wish I had that kind of initiative when I was younger. As someone else said, sounds like you've already got plenty lined up.

>Are there any other books I can read?

Of course. Read everything, not just TRP books. Read Dale Carnegie, read Joe Navarro's excellent book on body language, read Day Bang/Rational Male/Models/etc. of course if you haven't, read fiction, lurk some of the other self improvement subs on reddit.

It would also be a great time for you to experiment, discover or improve on some art form that you enjoy. Music, film, art, programming, writing, etc.

u/Opioidus · 1 pointr/asktrp

There is one book that's wonderful for expanding your social circle as a BETA, I have used it to make tens of friends, but you can't initiate conversation without being friendly and you can't be friendly without a minimum amount of submissiveness(smiling, agreeableness, showing a lot of attention and interest in the other person and so on). So the process for me is that I make friends, then I work my way up in their social circle and become the alpha.

Another weakness is that it's written by a womyn, if you care about that sort of thing. But all that aside, it is a wonderful book that can help you make lots of friends even if you are an introverted IT geek. The advice is solid and if you dig through it with a redpill understanding you can avoid the parts that contradict alpha behaviors. It's a very useful book :

There is also an illegal torrent copy if you want to check out the book before paying for it.

u/JackGetsIt · 7 pointsr/asktrp

Money: Watch this over and over, take notes and internalize the information. Read this. Live within your means.

Social Contacts: Fnordsnord covered it. Also read "How to Win Friends and Influence People." Actually take notes, practice what you read and reread. Read this blog post.

Women: You're already on redpill so you're probably pretty set on knowledge there. Read this, this, and this anyway. Internalize, practice, reread.

Life: Two suggestions, 1) Your first reaction to things isn't always the right reaction. 2) Prepare to fail. Skipped a gym visit or missed a lift? Chump = give up. Man = you were prepared for this it doesn't phase you. You're back at it tomorrow. Narrow your life to a few important things and work daily on them. Don't overdo it just plod along. All the greatest achievements in life are done with steady hard work. Read this

Career: Every two-four weeks or so update your resume (keep two versions of your resume, a super long form with absolutely every reference, accomplishments, phone number, address, date, etc and a super short form single page one with all the highlights, make it pretty) and glance for either a higher paying job within your field or a higher status job. Always secure a new job before leaving an old one. If you're still in college or decide to go back, pick a career field that will be in demand when you graduate. Start applying while you are still in school. Read this.

Organization: buy a simple small 2 drawer filing cabinet and manilla folders, put important docs in there. Digitize super important docs. Clean it out every once in a while. Watch this.

Study habits/learning habits: I don't really have time to go into this in any detail but go to everyclass. Take comprehensive notes, ask a shit ton of questions, bounce new things you're learning off people and discuss it as much as possible. Find people that know the material better than you and spend time with them. Take those notes you wrote and get a piece of paper. Draw three columns. Right column is most important info that might be on test/eval, center column is that same info in short hand, left column is a visual representation of the information that might help you daisy chain memorize it. This is my own technique so PM if you'd like more clarification. Turn every assignment in no matter how poor the quality. Last but not least one more time prepare to fail. Talk to your boss or professor if you're slipping; our first impulse is to turn inward and blame yourself and not seek others to help because it looks weak. Like I said your first reaction/feeling isn't always the right one. Prepare to fail. Be antifragile. Good luck; you don't need it if you apply yourself, plan, and work diligently.

Edit: One last thing. Statistically you will live a long time. Think with your future self in mind everyday.

u/i-am-the-prize · 3 pointsr/asktrp an amazing book on assertiveness, more than just inter-gender dynamics. written by a psych who helped peace corp and the VA deal with difficult human interaction scenarios, written decades ago. but hugely helpful for the BP programmed nice guy who needs to understand why it's ESSENTIAL to have boundaries, be assertive and stand up for yourself.

it ties very nicely back into RP but in general is a very much healthy self book without being new-age-y.

required reading.

u/boy_named_su · 14 pointsr/asktrp

You sound a lot like me a couple years ago

Okay, let's get your mental health in order

What is your money situation? Got health insurance?

  1. Sleep. You gotta get your 8-10 hours. Every night. Quality sleep too. Get a fitbit if you can afford it, the one that tracks sleep quality. Otherwise there are free/cheap apps. Watch you caffeine intake. Eat dinner as early as you can. Take melatonin. Optimize your bedroom for sleep quality if you can (40% humidity, 60-67 F temp, air purifier, blackout curtain). Easy on the booze

  2. Go to the doctor and get blood work: vitamins, minerals, hormones (estradiol too, sounds like your T is fine), inflammatory markers, intestinal parasites. Depression and inflammation are correlated. Depression and testosterone / Vitamin D deficiencies are correlated. FIx deficiencies with food / sunshine if you can, otherwise supplements. Eat real food, the kind that goes bad. Mostly fish/seafood/shellfish and vegetables. Fish has Omega 3, Iodine, and Lithium, all of which are good for your mood

  3. Attitude change. Go get the audio book of Feeling Good by David Burns. it's the intro to Cognitive Behavioual Therapy. Works better than drugs for most people. You can get it free on if you sign up (credit card required but not charge until a month). Then get . Can find audio book on piratebay. It's an intro to Stoicism, a masculine philosophy of life which helps you think through negative emotions

  4. Walk in the daylight / sunshine after lunch every day. It's good for your mood

  5. After all that, after you're feeling better, and want some inspiration for school / exercise, read The War of Art (Pressfield), and Can't Hurt Me (Goggins)

    You can PM me if you need help

    Also, avoid female counselors, they are useless. Find a male CBT therapist if you need one
u/ouselesso · 4 pointsr/asktrp

Pro tip, there is no master guide that will fix your life. Find what works and fits, discard the rest.

You are way too inside your head about your situation. Stop thinking and start doing. I know it sounds like a cliche non-helpful response, but you know what needs to be done.

Next, fix your health and fitness. If you are over weight, fuck running, join a gym and start doing HIIT workouts. Eat clean, cut fast foods out, if you drink soda switch to diet ONLY, up your water intake, start counting calories. Apps like MyFitnessPal help with calorie counting.

Start reading. For you, I would recommend 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' by Robert Glover. Read the side bar, read all related subreddits.

As for your social situation, start going out alone. If you make your life interesting, people will become interested in you. Only you can fix the non-negotiable side of the transaction, up your SMV, up your attitude and outlook.

Counseling or coaching may be an approach for you also. Get what ever tools you need to crush life.

Remember, habits are hard to form. One day at a time.

u/key402 · 3 pointsr/asktrp

You need to read the book titled No More Mr. Nice guy.

Every behavior you've mentioned, this book covers. There is even one chapter that talks about how people with the nice guy syndrome tend to seek out women that have underlying issues, because they think with their love and support they can rehabilitate them.

It sounds like your emotional outbursts are because you are being a nice guy and letting your anger build up when you don't get your way. You need to learn to live for yourself and set expectations with people, so that they know what you want and expect from them.

I used the be in your shoes, and your behavior is the perfect example of why nice guys aren't really even nice. They just hide their intent, and then get angry when things don't go their way.

u/agoodresponse · 3 pointsr/asktrp

Okay, I will tell you some things about me.

First, I ghosted everyone that knew me as a Blue Pill guy. Now, an inherent part of ghosting is being alone. When most people tell you they are independent, it's fucking bullshit. Emerson wrote a great deal on self-reliance.

Here is an essay by Emerson on the subject of self-reliance. It is both a great introduction to his views and how beautifully he writes.

Here is a collection of Emerson's essays. Ignore the 1 star review, which is for the Kindle version of the book, but heed it and buy the physical book instead of the Kindle version.

Emerson was friend and mentor to Thoreau, who wrote the following account of his two-year stay in a cabin near Walden Pond. One of Thoreau's goals was self-sufficiency.

Here is some further reading.

You mention you are going to be a radiographer soon. Now, I have seen said on TRP that some here do not see the point in film, but I fucking love film. Now, there is one film in particular that I think relates to your situation incredibly. That is Ikiru by Akira Kurosawa.
Ikiru is about a Japanese man who, near the end of his life, learns he has a terminal disease. He has, up to that point, wasted his whole life at his government job. Learning of his illness inspires in the main character a will to change, and seeing him undergo that inspires change in those around him. But, and this is another lesson to be learned from the film, we see that the main character's transformation has no lasting effect on those around him. Change has to come from within.

Another film seriously worth watching is Whiplash. I saw it mentioned in this subreddit in passing and am glad I did.

If you want me to elaborate on the things that I didn't, ask. I have a lot more film recommendations, but cannot recommend any more books, as I do not read that much. I don't recommend any music as I would consider most of what I listen to to be blue pill.

u/rpscrote · 1 pointr/asktrp

Lift. Lift. Lift. You need to bulk up.

The good news: at 17 you have steroid levels of testosterone in your system. With proper nutrition and lifting you will pack on muscle like dudes using juice.

This is my favorite method:

Buy this book to learn how to lift, ebook version is $10.

Use this to calculate your diet (set to 1.0g per lb while you are bulking up. Move to 1.2g per lb if you choose to cut fat), I have given you a general plan below but you will have to adjust as your body changes. Use the "Lean Bulk" category. IMO you can add up to 50-75g more carbs on lifting day than the calculator will say because of your age and T levels.

Eat about 150g of protein a day every day, no exceptions. Get 250-300g carbs on workout day, trying to get most of the carbs after you work out. Eat only about 50g fat on workout day, most of it before you work out (unless you do fasted training as per Leangains above. Which I highly recommend if your schedule allows it). On rest days get 75-100g carbs, 100g fat, same 150g protein. Take a multivitamin and Omega-3 supplement. Fats, carbs and proteins are all essential in their own ways, do not think you can cut one out because fad diets say they are bad.

Take pictures of yourself when you start. Then take pictures NO MORE FREQUENTLY than once every 2 weeks, if not once each month. It is important to objectively track your progress. Use Fitocracy or a workout log to track how much you can lift. Weigh yourself at the same time every day, THEN AVERAGE THE NUMBER OVER A 2 WEEK PERIOD. Measure your progress based on BIWEEKLY AVERAGES. Your weight can fluctuate up to 5 pounds in a 24-hour period due to water weight and what you ate one day. Has nothing to do with your real bodyweight.

All your other goals are good, but you need to take the first steps. Lifting is the best first step.

Do not lift every day. This will NOT help you. It will set you back Bodybuilding is 20% lifting, 80% all the things you need to do to allow your body to recover MORE muscle than you burnt up. Lifting every day just burns you out. Recovery time is very important. Slow and steady wins here. If you injure yourself moving too fast, you have to spend weeks unable to lift and unable to move forward.

u/arpex · 2 pointsr/asktrp

Many monk mode books are available as audiobooks on YouTube, or PDF files through torrents.

It's actually great that you're on a low budget for monk mode. Living frugally is a great activity for building a sense of self-efficacy.

Absolute essentials may be:

A notebook to plan, journal, record exercise, etc.

One or two books that you refer back to often enough, or work through slowly (Meditations by Marcus Aurelius comes to mind:

Maybe some camping gear or other stuff that gets you into nature more often. Tent/sleeping bag/lantern/firemaking supplies.

Outside of that, you don't need anything, and tbh, it's monk mode.. monks don't need anything and that's part of the experience. Good luck man!

P.S. second u/Dr_D1amond on supplements

u/scottishredpill · 14 pointsr/asktrp

Agree with the other post, you sound like a troll, however, here are some reading suggestions:

No More Mr Nice Guy book/can get the pdf using google

Married Man Sex Life blog/pdf

These are generally heavily recommended for anyone that wants to take a little more control of their marriage.

The Red Pill Room Blog of a married Red Piller

What you want to look for is "relationship game". Here is the result of the search on Chateau Heartiste.

There are some well known female bloggers that may have useful advice:

Red Pill Wifery

Sunshine Mary

Judgy Bitch

u/Tebulus · 3 pointsr/asktrp

Go read no more nice guy. To them you are producing or not, and if you're not you get let go and I am 99% sure that most of those higher level guys do not think about problems like you and I do. If your story is accurate and you can present your explanation of the facts and how you took initiative because it appeared to you at that time that if you did nothing and played it safe your company could have lost someones salary for a year in one month and potentially multiple months in a row. I have a very difficult time believing that your CFO and or CEO will take that badly especially if you can present it calmly and confidently. If they react poorly and try to scapegoat you then defend yourself with the facts and without emotion. If it doesnt go well be polite and respectful on your way out to your next interview and go tell the story of how you saved a company potentially hundreds of thousands of dollars in fines in a month because you saw an opportunity and took it and didnt give a fuck what your overworked CFO did. Also dont read into shit. You have zero idea what is going on and men do the same thing to women. You are missing information and cannot come to the correct conclusion anyway. Be patient and secure in your existence and practice outcome independence.

u/SisyphosOnTop · 1 pointr/asktrp

Set yourself a goal and then follow up on it mercilessly. Easier said than done.

Man I wish someone told me to read these three books when I was 17:

u/[deleted] · 2 pointsr/asktrp

wow dude, that's not god.

Two comments, quite opposite but you might want to try both:

  1. Go talk with a psychologist. You might have anxiety (insecurity) and/or depression (not satisfied).
  2. I find that is very common with the standard way to set goals, for instance "lose 20 lbs by xmas" which is highly defined in terms of measure and time. Yup that's what everyone tells us to do, in my experience it doesn't work. What works is to pick up a strategy (e.g.: lift using PPL and using MFP to track my macros eating 2,000 calories/day); and therefore the process of following a sound strategy becomes the goal: life every day, eat properly every day, lift with proper form etc.......

    Lastly, bonus comment re:

    > I just feel like I'm in this endless loop, where I constantly berate myself about everything, yet I can't seem to change. I've never been "happy", or I would even say truly satisfied about life at any point. It feels like I'm spinning my wheels and getting nowhere, and I don't know what to do.

    have you tried cleaning your room?

u/banllama · 2 pointsr/asktrp

> Could anybody help me properly handle these thoughts, not only so they go away, but so I can evolve past hating on these dudes, and feel secure enough

The goal is to not make thoughts go away. This is equivalent to cleaning your room by throwing everything under the bed.

People are insecure. People are jealous. It is humanity. What you are asking is not, "how can I stop feeling these feelings?", because that is not the solution. What you are asking is, "how do I control these feelings and prevent them from taking over?"

> I focus on my work, I focus on lifting. And I come home and focus on my interests. I talk to other women and line up dates when my schedule allows. I am staying busy.

You clearly do all the actions TRP says to do but unforunately these don't really help you come to terms with your emotions. They just sweep the problem under the rug.

The answer is mindfulness. Mindfulness is

> a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations,

The key is

> calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings

It turns out, by acknowledging and truly accepting your negative feelings, they stop having control over you. They stop being this mysterious force that constantly prevents you from acting rationally and become nothing more than a hurdle you can easily hop over.

That being said, MINDFULNESS IS FUCKING HARD. It sounds easy. It's not. It's incredibly difficult. I firmly believe that every human who wants to take control of their emotions instead of letting their emotions control them should practice mindfulness.

Here is a good book to get started. It teaches you how to practice mindfulness via meditation.

u/brandor77 · 2 pointsr/asktrp

Starting Strength is the place to start. Dry as hell. Read it all the way through. Start light and simple. Do it right, and you will see results by week 2, I promise. It changed my life.

Take an honest look at your diet. Again, start simple. The best place to begin is to start cutting out "dead" food. If it doesn't resemble what it looked like when it was picked or slaughtered, try getting rid of it. Sugar is your enemy. Alcohol is another one - particularly if you are using it to sedate.

This is a long journey, my friend. Take the time to study, make changes in small steps. One day you won't even recognize the man you are today.

Good luck, brother.

u/handfulofnuts · 3 pointsr/asktrp

Wait, you're "sexfriends," or you're just friends? Here in Japan, "sexfriends" means FWB. As in, you're fucking, with no strings attached.

If that's the case, what's the problem? Bang her, and bang other women too.

If you're just friends and you're not fucking, do what makes you happy. Who cares what she thinks? You want to quit being friends? Then quit being friends. You don't need to give her a reason.

Don't lose sleep over a bitch you used to fuck. Go fuck ten other women and you'll get over it.

u/wakethfkupneo · 2 pointsr/asktrp

>but i cant seem to read people

>if a girl likes me i dont know and it happens a lot

Google "indicators of interest" or "IOI" for short and you'll find plenty of (mostly PUA) indicators to look for. It's a good start.

>BTW any book recommendation?

u/TomilloDanup · 3 pointsr/asktrp

Some time ago I read this book. "What Everybody is Saying" a book on bodylanguage by an ex FBI agent. Here's the link on amazon It was a very fun read.

So now, for fun and practice when I'm surronded by people or talking to someone I pay atention to every detail on their body language, and try to change mine accordingly sometimes to mess with them or ease the interaction.

Try it.

Edit: a word

u/thrwy75479 · 1 pointr/asktrp

If it's a habit, check out The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. The premise is that most of what we do is based on habits, which are part of a feedback loop that involves 3 main steps: 1) cue; 2) routine; and 3) reward.

In your case, with drugs, there may be cue(s)—perhaps social atmosphere, girls, etc.—that fire off neurons telling you to partake in your routine (drugs), which results in a reward of some sort, perhaps dopamine.

With knowledge of your habit loops, you can figure out the cues, change your routine (maybe do exercise), and get the same reward. Repeated over time, it can form new, healthier habits.

If you're having difficulty, or you're addicted, consult a professional.

u/flashbang123 · 1 pointr/asktrp

You need to start somewhere...start chatting with everyone and keep things platonic (guys and girls), then try flirting a little with girls, then when you feel confident and can feel the ebb and flow of conversation, ask a girl out. Everything you do in life is some kind of exercise, the more you do it, the better you will get at it. Rome wasn't built in a day.

Maybe read this or something along these lines.

u/needz · 2 pointsr/asktrp

You should read and internalize 'The Rational Male: Preventative Medicine'. It will help you come to terms with the differing motivations of women at various stages of their lives so that you can make better informed choices about who you allow into your life.

u/Caleb666 · 2 pointsr/asktrp

Well, one way is to do it in baby steps, slowly exposing yourself to things that cause you anxiety. I can recommend Mark Manson's courses which rely on CBT (which has been proven clinically and used by psychologists) and his book Models. Compared to most of the published PUA literature, Mark is intelligent, insightful and his analysis is spot-on.

You can also try reading The Book of Pook (which is free), although it's long-ish and sometimes unclear, it basically echoes a lot of what Manson talks about -- about how changing your mindset and behavior will lead to less anxiety and more success with women (and other people in general).

u/Immuchtooawesome · 2 pointsr/asktrp

I've read multiple chapters of this book and found it to be useful.

I can't give you a definitive answer since body language is mostly an all in one deal. Either you appear confident, or you dont. Try this book for some ideas though.

u/CopperFox3c · 30 pointsr/asktrp

NMMNG is a good starting place, a gentle introduction.

Now you should move on and read the Book of Pook and Jack Donovan's The Way of Men. You should also be learning more TRP theory and applying it IRL. Lift, approach women, find your mission and pursue it, etc.

If you don't wanna fall backward, then it is incumbent that you keep moving forward.

u/SorcererKing · 1 pointr/asktrp

Sober up, hit the gym, then reread remedial books on Game. Develop Outcome Independence. Get a good wingman. Find better things to talk about when you go out.

u/-Tyler_Durden- · 7 pointsr/asktrp

Read the 48 Laws of Power.

This is your work place; you shouldn't be looking for plates there. Think how you can use this guy to accomplish your goals. Ask him for favors you don't really need. Get him bogged down with your busy work. And whatever you do, don't get angry.

u/takls · 1 pointr/asktrp

This I liked, and is something I'm reading currently too.

As for meditation, Osho's book of secrets lists out around 1001 techniques for meditation. But that's a dense read, and I'm exploring the cliche myself.

Btw, what is audible credits?

u/topdog82 · 1 pointr/asktrp

Male 23 last year of university graduating in a Computer Engineering degree
Its basically a cross between a basic book like "Bang" and "The way of men". PUA crossed with some more serious/relevant messages about masculinity and purusing goals

I have been in only one serious LTR. Girl broke my heart. I spent 1 year without touching a woman and wallowing in my own pity because the LTR cheated. I had a serious health issue that kept my bedridden for a long time. Other than that, I am just getting started with TRP and realizing my value in the sexual marketplace. So in short; fairly inexperienced. Just getting started. Thats why I am posting this topic

Well I guess that means I should just keep spinning plates till I get someone valuable. And if not, fuck marraige

u/jm51 · 1 pointr/asktrp

The problem with dysfunctional families is that ALL members of the family have behaviour problems. That includes you.

Some of the shit they call you out on is justified. You are not going to be able to move on until you accept that and make an effort to correct your behaviour.

Get a copy of WISNIFG and practice the techniques.

u/idgaf- · 1 pointr/asktrp

>but oftentimes I fall asleep during my attempts

"Sit with dignity" said Jon Kabat-Zinn in "Wherever You Go, There You Are" which is IMO the second most essential book after Mindfulness in Plain English.

Your back should be up and shoulders back, like you're relaxed but still projecting power.

If you're still sleepy, fix your sleep schedule first.

u/kempff · 2 pointsr/asktrp

I have mommy issues also, but my story is a little different: my mother smothered me, but I also suffer from many of the symptoms you list in your post including psychocyanosis because my emotional needs went unmet in childhood because my mother was using me as a salve upon her ever-breaking heart.

I am currently reading, one of the books in the redpill canon, and /u/verus_mas, it reads like a chillingly incisive and deadly accurate unauthorized biography of me, and it is helping me get over my tendency to be a doormat.

Yes, it's OK to be bluepill. Tolerate your bluepill tendencies for the time being. As you learn more redpill stuff you will come to be disgusted by your bluepill tendencies enough that you will be automatically self-motivated to eliminate them one by one.

And the process will be pleasant and nearly effortless, because you will be merely cooperating with a normal, natural resumption of an interior development that was arrested by your mother's abuse.

EDIT: Stop by the chatroom.

u/mountainbiker178 · 3 pointsr/asktrp

Not enough info.
You'd be better off reading, "what every body is saying", by Dan Navarro.

u/direpellth · 2 pointsr/asktrp

No More Mr Nice Guy.

It's one of the most, if not the most recommended book to read in TRP. You would have definitely run into it in sidebar school at some point.

It's worth buying, but if you don't feel like doing so, I'm sure there's a torrent of ways for you to find it elsewhere.

u/ilikesquash2 · 3 pointsr/asktrp

read "No More Mr.Nice Guy - DR. Robert Glover"

In it he explains "The opposite of crazy is still crazy."
Let me help illustrate that like this, Take a guy who meticulously washes his car, freaks out about a small piece of dirt, Crazy. Now the opposite of that guy is A person who never cleans their car and has it filled with garbage like a hoarder, also CRAZY. So long story short, If you are a nice guy, being an asshole will not help you.

Good Luck out there!

u/Epicureanist · 1 pointr/asktrp

If you stopped reaching out to these people would they contact you? Do these guys invite you out to parties, outings, etc? If you had to move would they care? If you died would they say anything other than "he was nice"?

As of right now these guys are no longer your friends. They are acquaintances. "Can you get me the pipe?" "Rack my weights will you mate?". No should be your answer.

Stop trying to please everyone. Stop trying to be their friend. It doesn't matter what people of think of you. Disregard what they say:

"Why're you being such an asshole mate?" will be a common response. Ignore it; do not argue or reason with them. Your response should be along the lines of: "You can do it yourself" or "You have arms". Stay calm and frank, no debate of any sort.

Regarding the school project, what is your Professor's policy? Some Professor's would listen to you and deduct points from your group member's grades.

Appeal to Professor's emotions: "I wrote all of the paper, my group members were unhelpful. I'm fine with this, but it's unfair to my other classmates who worked hard to get the same grade as these guys who think the course is a joke."

No More Mr. Nice Guy

u/favours_of_the_moon · 7 pointsr/asktrp

48 Laws of Power. Or as I call it, "The Pedantic Sociopath." lol

Short version:

Full version:

I think this might be the full version in PDF, but I'm not sure:

u/Buzz-Kill-Joy · 5 pointsr/asktrp

Seconded. I would also just add his book “12 rules for life” and his lecture series “Personality and its transformation

u/ImRasputin · 6 pointsr/asktrp

Marcus Aurelius - Meditations

Also add him as historical figure, man was as close to stoic as you can be.

u/IronJohnKwando · 4 pointsr/asktrp

r/niceguys is that way

srs man. Read this book.

u/vicious_armbar · 3 pointsr/asktrp

Electrical or Mechanical engineering for a 4 year degree. Law school, dental school, or medical school if you don't mind being in school for longer. You should read the book worthless by Aaron Clarey.

u/RedPill-BlackLotus · 8 pointsr/asktrp

Always have to spoon feed this shit into you faggots.

When I say no I feel guilty

No more mister nice guy

I hope you have abbs.

u/TogiBear · 1 pointr/asktrp

The Rational Male.

If you're still unsure, check the comments to see what other people think.

u/throw162534 · 1 pointr/asktrp

Local library might be worth checking out.

I prefer to buy paperbacks so I can fill up my bookcase. Girls are always impressed when they see it because it seems like nobody reads anymore.

**Off topic but Mediations by Aurelius is $1.00 right now. I picked it up last week because I was sick of reading it on my Galaxy.

u/SirKolbath · 2 pointsr/asktrp

1: Read the sidebar.

2: Lift.

3: Meditate. Use the app "Calm" in the Android market, or find another such guided meditation app.

Do this for three months. When you finish reading the sidebar and accompanying material such as suggested books, start over and read it all again. (In three months you should have time to read it all twice.)

At the end of that three months:

4: Start working on game. Read Day Bang by Roosh V.

Approach 140 girls in one week with the express intention of getting rejected when you ask for their number. Try to find creative ways to get shot down. (I once threw a pinecone at a girl and when she looked at me in shock I said, "Hey, can I have your phone number?") This will inoculate you to rejection.

Do these steps and you'll be surprised how your life turns around. PM me if you need help with any one of them.

u/Sad_Sleeper · 2 pointsr/asktrp

I guess it is this one.

have to download it and read it. I am having a problem with that.

u/Sepean · 2 pointsr/asktrp

I'm a practicing stoic. I regularly practice negative visualization where I meditate on horrible things happening, like a car accident where my kids are thrown around in the car, then crying and bleeding out while I'm trapped and can't help them.

It puts all the other trivial shit in my life into perspective. If you want peace of mind and outcome independence, it is a great tool. And without fear clouding your thinking you make better decisions too.

I strongly recommend this book

u/2comment · 1 pointr/asktrp

Buy a little gold or silver (I think silver is cheaper in comparison) in form of coins, not certificates. Do not buy them all in one place because faking is a problem (China). Test them. Buy slowly over time. I'd say eventually 3-5% net worth. Hide them well, in several spots (not just in bank safe deposits though some can go there) and disguise them. This is less an investment and more of portable reserve in case paper money goes to shit. Several thousand fiat currencies have gone this way, the USD/Euro/etc will be no exception, only question is when.

>Paper money eventually returns to its intrinsic value – zero

— Voltaire

The rest I would split between stocks and real estate. Rental properties are a good steady income. Stocks are growth but also a huge gamble and it can go to shit at any time. Any investment will have pitfalls, and the pitfalls will be different. That's why you want to diversify, if the stock market goes to shit, you want something that can ride it out. If real estate goes to shit, you can fall on your stocks. Etc. There are several other options (bonds) and right now the stock market is very overheated imo, particularly the myriad of web/tech stocks with P/E over 60, but Idk much about those other markets.

When you buy into things, do it at a steady pace to avoid massive peaks (although you can miss the dips too, unfortunately) and average out your buy-in.

This is Warren Buffett's favorite book, old but good to read.

I wouldn't say don't listen to anything by Tim Ferris but take everything he says with a huge grain of salt. He hasn't had a 4h work week in his life. He works very hard from what I heard, but what he works hard at is selling people dreams. Specifically that you can have it all.

Live modestly.

u/dr_warlock · 8 pointsr/asktrp

The whole entrepeneur from armchair-sitting and pondering ideas million dollar business from nothing fantasy is bullshit. Ideas and creativity dont pop out of thin air (usually), they come from experience. Most people that start businesses have a skill they've practiced in the field or even as a hobby for years. Unfortunately, the past generation has been sitting idle in the daycare-prison for 12years and comes out with no skills whatsoever. No apprenticeships, no internships, no self-teaching or family social circle to mentor them.


Im gonna guess you're in highschool. This means you know nothing about the real world, have no capital, and have no skill set. Get the skills first, then worry about a business. Do you need a university degree to do this? Absolutely not. Can university help you? Absolutely, but you gotta know how to navigate it academically and financially.


Go read Aaron Clarey's book "Worthless" and check out videos on his youtube channel regarding school, degrees (liberal arts, business management), and academia for more information. Mandatory.

u/long-lostfriend · 2 pointsr/asktrp

Student loan debt hanging over your head is comparable to divorce rape.

Most university degrees these days are worthless.

Unless your chosen career path absolutely requires it, learn the skills somewhere cheaper and get to work sooner.

u/visibleinvisible · 3 pointsr/asktrp

> I dress well now, almost have the body I want, make close to 95,000 a year, but obviously still need to improve in order to be able to attract women.

You may not attract women of the calibre you desire, but I have no doubt that you attract women. If you perceive yourself a solid 7, you expect HB7s and HB8s -- which is perfectly reasonable. If you perceive yourself a 5 (even if you really are a 7), the HB7s and HB8s will intuit the disparity and disparage you accordingly.

>More frustratingly, I am beginning to realize how really important raw physical attractiveness is.

This is your insecurity speaking. You are wrong, wrong, wrong. If I may say so, your self-confidence is absolute shit. Who did what to you that made you so self-loathing?

I infer from your comments that you need this book more than life itself:

u/R3ginal · 9 pointsr/asktrp

Forget marriage counselling: anyone who is red pill will tell you that it is bullshit. Marriage counselling is what women do to "tick a box" before they file for divorce, just so they can say (to themselves, to their friends/family, to the judge) that they "tried". DO NOT go to marriage counselling. Save your time and money.


You NEED to read these ASAP:


This book is referred to as "The Red Pill Bible".


Asking your wife for marriage counselling? Crying and screaming in front of her and the kids? Begging her for forgiveness? Saying things like “She is my one and only” and “I’ve always loved her and I always will”? You need stop this nonsense and focus on becoming a MAN. The fact that you did or said any of this is evidence of your childish, feminized mindset. You need to first understand masculinity, and then you need to work on becoming masculine.


Please, you NEED to learn the foundational, basic stuff first. You need to change yourself; build yourself from the ground-up anew. Otherwise, no one-time advice that we give about specific situations will do anything for you.


Ok, now let me at least focus on something specific here.

That “uhh... sure” you heard? Let's be honest, you don't even have to be red-pilled to understand what's going on here. You're still a biological man, and as a biological man, you have certain instincts that are hard-wired into your brain. I think the fact that you asked what it means is evidence that there's something, a feeling in your gut or a voice in the back of your mind, telling you that something about that interaction and her response was not "right". This may not make sense to you at the moment, which is why I keep telling you to learn the basics ASAP, but women do NOT respect, are NOT attracted to, and are NOT aroused by vulnerability in men - they see it as weakness. Your begging her for forgiveness (even if you did act like a child) and asking her to go to marriage counselling is a supreme act of weakness on your part - especially after you already displayed supreme weakness when you broke-down before. All you just did was further solidify in her mind that you're a weak man. Women DO NOT want to associate with weak men, and they CERTAINLY do NOT want to be married to one or be saddled with the offspring of a weak man. That “uhh... sure” was her being disgusted with you.


You need to understand that you've obviously been raised in a blue-pill way. No one has even taught you what masculinity is, how men should act, women's nature or how to interact with them. Your actions are evidence of this.


I'm not saying you should be a domineering asshole who abuses his wife or other women - that is absolutely NOT what the red pill is about, and absolutely NOT what we advocate for here. The red pill is about masculinity (real masculinity - not the feminized nonsense you hear about in mainstream media), and that is what it teaches and what we discuss in the red pill community.


When you're reading those books, focus on the parts about "making yourself your own mental point of origin", self-improvement, and applying what's known as "dread". The fact of the matter is that your recent actions, as well as your financial state, has caused your wife to lose respect for you; you are no longer the man she married in her eyes. You need to build yourself back up - not for her, but for yourself. If this marriage ends, and there's a good chance it will, it makes NO DIFFERENCE to what you need to do moving forward from now. You need to learn the basic/foundational red pill material, internalize it, and work on yourself (go to the gym, eat healthy, work on your financial situation, read books, etc.).

u/jjj2576 · 0 pointsr/asktrp

Sure. I can give you some links. Want me to fuck your girl for you too, you lazy fucking queef?

Here’s the link that you get for being too much of a fag to look at the Sidebar,

Here’s a link that you get because you are too autistic to research things yourself. I wonder if you’re also too poor to actually afford it. You like sucking fat cocks— you can make money that way to buy this thing.

Here’s a link that you get because you are a fag.

u/boydeer · 5 pointsr/asktrp

feminism has pushed to increase the rights of women and decrease the rights of men. as political activists, they have tried to lighten the burden of proof on rape accusations. they have fought to keep false rape accusations unpunished. when a man is accused of rape, feminists pressure universities to kick him out, he ends up in the news, loses his scholarship, and then they find out it's false. nothing happens to the woman.

i personally believe this is bad for honest men (because they can be the victim of a false rape and it can ruin their life), and it's bad for honest women (because an honest man has to be more wary of her), and it's bad for rape victims (because people are less likely to believe them, since it's taboo to scrutinize the attacks, and anyone in law enforcement knows that not all accusations are true).

as a man, it was harder to get into school, harder to get financial aid. when i had an altercation with a woman, it was my fault. this is all from feminist political activism.

when i go to get a job, they have quotas for women. when i interact with a woman at work, if she feels uncomfortable, she can jeopardize my career. this is bad for women, too, because if i am ever in a position to hire a man or a woman, i will hire the one that is less likely to sue me or one of my employees.

it goes on and on. i am just giving examples off the top of my head, and they may be fringe examples, but it's harder to explain the insidious social conditioning.

since you came here for clarification, i would suggest poring through the rational male by rollo tomassi. it is much maligned by feminists, and it's poorly formatted. it's not an academic work of art, but it definitely made a strong impression on me.