(Part 3) Best family relationship books according to redditors
We found 374 Reddit comments discussing the best family relationship books. We ranked the 167 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the products ranked 41-60. You can also go back to the previous section.
58. The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed
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So glad that you asked this. I talk about this concept a lot. I never start anything without first understanding that there is a chance that I'm going to fail. Indeed, I prepare for it. It is much healthier to understand that not everything works out and to expect it, so that in the end if things go well you can be pleasantly surprised.
A friend of mine wrote a book called The Gift of Failure which I'd certainly recommend. I barely made it out of highschool and basically failed my way through middle school. I turned out ok in the end though.
Other books, well, there are just too many to write here. My favorite of all time is "Old Man and the Sea". I love Krakauer's "Into the Wild". And think I wrote a few good books along the way as well.
https://www.amazon.com/How-Leave-Your-Husband-Essential-ebook/dp/B00XQLVW7A
And you can download his book, nice https://www.amazon.com/Tamekas-New-Dress-Ronnie-Sidney-ebook/dp/B01HC8JE5Y
In the ideal setup of a stay at home parent, she does much more than just directly raise her children. It’s about turning her house into a home, a warm sanctuary, and keeping it that way, spending time to: care for herself (especially regular exercise), cultivate creative hobbies (such as playing an instrument), arts and culture, further her education in healthy, natural, frugal living, plan/execute the family’s cultural, social, entertainment and educational life, often help manage family finances, practice religious disciplines (if she’s religious), perhaps do some work from home if more income is needed, and also volunteering/being charitable in the neighborhood and community. All these things have a immeasurable positive impact on herself, husband, children and future progeny. And, time available for all these things increases once the children are in school.
This was the general stable pattern for eons until only several decades ago. Your SO is trying to point this out.
Perhaps this reading list can expand your perspective on what it means to be a homemaker. (Sorry if it seems like overkill, I just had all these saved up anyway, and the more voices, the better, IMO.)—
Why I Love Being a Homemaker
No One Asked Me if I Wanted to Be a Homemaker
How to Make the Transition from Worker to Homemaker
The Happy Housewife
Why I Don’t Regret Being a Stay-at-Home Mom
Housewives Without Children: Celebrating Life as a SAHW
The Two-Income Trap: Why Parents Are Choosing To Stay Home
7 Myths of Working Mothers: Why Children and (Most) Careers Just Don't Mix
What an At-Home Parent Is Really Worth
With kids off at school, how I answer “So what do you do all day?”
The Art of Homemaking
Being a Stay-At-Home Parent is a Luxury … For Your Spouse
Seven Habits of Highly Successful Homemakers
The 3 Daily Sacrifices of A Homemaker
Homemaking Help 101
Ten Secrets of Becoming a Perfect Homemaker
Practice Makes Perfect: Homemakers are Made, not Born
What Is It Like To Be a Full-Time Homemaker?
How to be a Successful Homemaker…When You Feel Like You Fail at Keeping House
The Benefits of Habits in Your Homemaking
5 Ways to Grow as a Homemaker
How to Be a Better Homemaker
Are you Feeling Frustrated as a Homemaker?
A homemaker’s real salary
Here's How Much It Would Cost To Replace Your Mom
Finding the Courage to Work as a Homemaker, Housewife, or Stay at Home Wife - Even Without Kids!
Why Feminism Wants to Dismantle the Family
These are the books on my Kindle. I believe I read most of them - some I remember more than others so I may have started them but not finished.
https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B014G6WNIA/ref=kinw_myk_ro_title - This one was great. It told a lot about how he was feeling in the affair and why it was so hard for him to give it up.
https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B001E2NXBQ/ref=kinw_myk_ro_title - I loved this one.
https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B00G1IYIQM/ref=kinw_myk_ro_title - This books helped me with my relationship with my son but it also helped me understand my husband's relationship with his mother and how he was raised. She was overprotective and because of that they never had a great relationship.
https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B01EVXI51W/ref=kinw_myk_ro_title
https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B00QOE1DAW/ref=kinw_myk_ro_title
https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B00APGI85I/ref=kinw_myk_ro_title
I can’t really find detailed descriptions of the individual short stories but I did find a collection of short stories where fathers and sons are at violent odds with each other called Terms of Engagement so it may be one of the stories in there.
I have emotionally closed off parents too and its super frustrating. I've been reading a lot about reparenting yourself. Looking at what you are missing in your life and healing yourself. It's work to do in terms of facing the fact that you didn't have a great childhood, your parents aren't who you want/need them to be, and you might be missing something in your own life because of it. The good news is that you have the power to figure it out and heal yourself. Some books about this and also a Professional can help you work through it, too.
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https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Yourself-Again-Always-Self-Compassion-ebook/dp/B07FP3KW25
Have as much as possible of a complete and stable plan for them ready to be laid out BEFORE you tell him. "May" need to sell the house is not something you want to tell him. Either you're going to sell the house or you aren't.
If it is in any way possible, get as many details of the divorce laid out in advance before telling them. Figure out custody/visitation, where each parent is going to live, etc.
Then, honestly its the same-old, same-old "Mommy and Daddy both love you guys SO VERY MUCH, but we don't love each other anymore. Sometimes mom's and dad's fight a lot and decide it is better for them not to be married anymore. That is what your father and I have decided is best for our family, for mom and dad to live apart. You're going to spend X days here with me, and Y days with your father."
Allow them to ask questions, and answer them in an age appropriate way. If you aren't prepared to answer the question, don't be afraid to tell them that you don't know, or that you'll get back to them on that after you think about it.
Pick up a few books from the library about how to talk to kids about divorce, or honestly just google for some articles. Here's a suggestion from Amazon. This google search alone comes up with a ton of good articles about what to say/what not to say. How to answer questions, etc.
I've never read it myself, but I've heard good things about Dad's Behaving Dadly.
It sounds like exactly what you're looking for. From my recollection, it's a collection of essays and stories written by different dads about all sorts of different subjects relating to fatherhood. There's a second book in the series too if you read this one and want more.
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Sorry you missed this one!
If you'd like, I have another free eBook on promo right now here, and if you are still interested in the baby how-to book, you can get a free preview and other free stuff here.
Thank you for asking! It's called How I Escaped Evangelical Hell: A Memoir. It's the story of my life. I was raised by radical evangelical Christian fundamentalists in an abusive environment, and the book shows how my relentless pursuit of a career in video games helped me escape that life and start an awesome new one with a great, fulfilling career. :)
It's not a light read, but it is funny.
I would get her two books (unless you already know the gender):
They are sweet, and funny, and poignant. And hopefully they'll be something she'll enjoy reading (and maybe adding her own rules to) as her pregnancy progresses.
Or a homemade coupon with a gift card to a baby things store: invite her out for a day of lunch, pampering (hair and nails, maybe) and baby things shopping when she can use the gift card, redeemable on a day when the pregnancy is really getting to her and she just needs to feel human again.
There are many books about toxic mother-in-laws such as this one. Find one that appeals to you and apply the principles carefully. This will put you in a stronger position and you'll feel less helpless. Remember, some situations have no cure but you can learn to cope better in time.
I came up with the name but wanted it spelled like Koda...however my wife said Coda because of this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Black-Noses-Coda-Polar-Bear-ebook/dp/B01HOWCVLC
She wanted some type of wintery meaning to his name.
I have been in your shoes being so tired I'm in tears. Except I wasn't pregnant so I can't even imagine how much harder it is for you.
Some breastfed babies and toddlers will sleep just fine after nursing to sleep, maybe waking 1-2 times a night for milk. But some will continue to wake up an excessive amount of times looking for milk. I have friends in real life who are experiencing both scenarios so I think it just depends on the disposition of the child. Bottom line you aren't doing anything wrong.
Night weaning can be a really great solution. My favorite approach to night weaning is the same thing /u/that_cachorro_life mentioned in this comment.
The gentle sleep consultant I worked with called it "Breast Request" and it's very gentle." The goal is to get them to fall asleep without the nipple in their mouth. This changes the sleep association of needing the nipple in their mouth to fall back asleep if they wake up in the night.
>You start to nurse to sleep like normal. Once they are nearly asleep (not fully) you pull the nipple out of their mouth. If they request it again by grabbing for it, relatching or crying you give it back immediately and resume nursing again until they are almost asleep. Then repeat by removing the nipple. Eventually they fall asleep.
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>Eventually the process should get shorter and shorter until you can snuggle to sleep without offering the nipple at all.
I also tried cold turkey night weaning where my husband tended to the baby at night and I left the house and slept somewhere else. He did cry but my husband was there comforting him the whole time. Honestly though the crying was a lot for both of us to handle and after 5 nights of no progress we gave up. Some babies respond well to this though. And I'm mentioning it because yours might respond well if you're not in the house since she's already falling asleep for your mom when you're not there.
Another option that was successful for a friend of mine was to wear long turtle neck sweaters to bed so the milk is just not accessible. She nursed him down and then would just comfort/cuddle him back to sleep telling him the milk is all gone at night. It took about a week and now he SLEEPS THROUGH THE NIGHT. Magic right? This didn't work for us but it worked for her, every kid is different.
One other thing that works for some kids are the weaning story books like Sally Weans from Night Nursing
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Ultimately night weaning didn't work for us at all in any form. I can speculate why but it's not really important for this post. What ended up working was weaning completely. But we did that at 2yrs 3mo. I wouldn't recommend this unless you feel ready to wean. If so I can give you tips.
Good luck, I'm so sorry you're suffering. Reach out if you need to bounce anything off of us!
What happens when you have a Spiritual Love Connection with Someone yet you are already Married? Spiritual Love Self-help.
Self-help - Twin Souls - Twin Flames
That's an awesome philosophy. I wish every workplace was like this.
I'm reading a book by Randall Fields that explains the struggles he had as a ward of the state, being black, and being with an abusive step parent.
This book has examples of not only Fields but people all around him that were affected by today's racism.
TL;DR: Racism today in the American work place (in NYC) does still exist.
Maybe look into this book I've seen it recommended on Reddit before. I downloaded a sample so I haven't been through the whole book, but it seems like different self directed therapy exercises without the need for an actual therapist so you can work through your reasoning for becoming a mother or not.