(Part 2) Top products from r/adultsurvivors
We found 31 product mentions on r/adultsurvivors. We ranked the 41 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.
21. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
22. Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
23. Rewire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic, and Worry
Sentiment score: 2
Number of reviews: 1
24. Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
25. The Courage to Heal Workbook: A Guide for Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
The Courage to Heal Workbook: For Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
26. The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, 20th Anniversary Edition
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
27. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
The Body Keeps the Score Brain Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma
28. The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment (Norton Professional Books (Hardcover))
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
W W Norton Company
29. The Gift of Fear: And Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Great product!
30. Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
31. Don't Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
32. Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
Bantam
33. Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse Workbook: Practical Exercises For Working On Problems Resulting From Childhood Abuse (Practical Companion to Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
34. Don't Tell: The Sexual Abuse of Boys, Second Edition
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
36. The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
37. Self-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
38. McMafia: A Journey Through the Global Criminal Underworld
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
Sorry that you are going through this. I think that every survivor goes through this while healing. It's part of the process. It's a great opportunity to reach out for support and learn from others experiences.
Were you able to identify the trigger? That may be helpful if you can. I suggest that you find a copy of the book "Rewire Your Anxious Brain" (https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B00QG5SW58/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1) It helps to identify where your anxiety is coming from in the brain and the book gives good advice on how to deal with it.
I often saw my progress in healing as climbing a mountain. There will be days when you make great progress and some when you back slide. There will be days when you need to rest and recuperate too. There's a beautiful valley on the other side and an awesome view from the top.
Keep reaching out for support and be gentle with yourself.
http://www.amazon.com/Body-Remembers-Psychophysiology-Treatment-Professional/dp/0393703274/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1458805403&sr=8-1&keywords=the+body+remembers
http://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Childhood-Sexual-Abuse-Practical/dp/1555612253/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1458805422&sr=1-1&keywords=surviving+childhood+sexual+abuse
http://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Childhood-Sexual-Abuse-Workbook/dp/1555612903/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1458805422&sr=1-2&keywords=surviving+childhood+sexual+abuse (workbook that goes with the above)
These three books have been absolutely invaluable to me as a placeholder for therapy. In fact, when I was in an intensive-outpatient day program specifically for sexual trauma, 90% of the therapy was directly out of the first book. When I could no longer afford to attend, I just went out and bought it myself.
I'm not trying to push that its better than therapy but I completely understand where you guys are at and to be honest if it's not the right time, then it's not the right time, and nothing good comes of forcing yourself before you're ready or before being sure that you will have time to open pandora's box, in a sense...at least it feels that way, anyway.
You sound very loving and supporting to be there with your girlfriend through this, and I hope you both can get some peace asap. Sending yall the best of thoughts.
I find it works best when it's a million tiny changes, that slowly, slowly add up to a healthier life. It takes a while, bit it's so, so worth it.
Catering to my situation (right now I'm healing my child aged 4-14), I re-decorated my room to have more kid-stuff in it. I got a stuffed animal that I cuddle, I got a little princess crown I wear alone, I'm giong to the salon sometimes to paint my nails purple. I basically am giving her free reign to have a happy little girly life that she always wanted. She feels safe to be who she really is. Eventually I'm going to get a little barbie doll or something for her so she has something to play with.
In terms of healing my adult self (I'm mid-20s), I have a lot of social anxiety, and I'm a waitress which is probably dumb haha, but i like the co-workers. Even if I feel like i say something super stupid, or I'm REALLY awkward (which I always am), I just remind myself that it's not my fault for being terrified of people, and that it's okay that I push people away and act a little cold because that is what kept me safe as a child.
So that was a long explanation lol, but it's little itty bitty steps and eventually you'll start to have tiny habits that are self loving and not self harming, and they're really fun to do!
Maybe talk to your therapist (or on here) about ways you self harm, and then talk about more healthy ways you can get through tough times.
I zone out on watching that tv show Friends for a few hours a day. I don't really know why... something about the show zones me out of life and I stop having as many panic attacks. Literally if I feel like I'm falling into a trigger I'll re-run an episode in my head... It's weird I'm aware, and i'm literally addicted to it... but it works for me so... sweet.
a good explanation of this is this book: https://www.amazon.ca/Courage-Heal-Workbook-Survivors-Sexual/dp/0060964375
She has a chapter dedicated to making unhealthy punishments just altered into healthy alternatives.
Hi and welcome if you’re new here.
You said you’ve been in therapy for 7 years I believe. I did a lot too and I was ok for some time until I saw a very triggering documentary in February. I think sometimes we just encounter something in life that opens our wound. And it takes time for a new scar to grow over it. Be kind to yourself and extra gentle while you’re in this period. Be patient with yourself.
Surround yourself if you can with empathetic people who value and support you.
I think talking about it in a safe place with safe people helps us cope. It takes away some of the stigma.
This will sound dumb, but try telling yourself some positive affirmations right before you fall asleep, and when you wake up. That can help disrupt the rumination soundtrack a lot of us have playing in our heads.
Rumination is damaging, and it reinforces trauma.
You were asking about books in an earlier comment thread. Lots of people have good things to say about this one although I haven’t read it yet. But it’s on my list.
The Body Keeps The Score
For males who might be reading, I’m finishing up this, and it’s been helpful Joining Forces: Empowering Male Survivors To Thrive
I think you CAN detect them, at least sometimes. I do. There are certain characteristics that my "spidey senses" pick up on that I feel in my gut.
I'd suggest the book [The Gift of Fear: And Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence](http:// https://www.amazon.com/dp/0440226198/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_eiY3Db87WATP1)
I recommend this book
For men, specifically, I'd recommend:
Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew
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Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse by Mic Hunter
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Don't Tell: The Sexual Abuse of Boys by Michel Dorais
Your family sexually abused you. She violated your body, your boundaries. She ignored your protests. She gaslighted you. She mocked you. As an adult, she failed to protect you. This is not okay, not then, not now, not ever. That is sexual abuse, and it was wrong of her to do. I am very sorry you had to go through this. I am angry for you.
Went through a similar experience with my family, and you’re not alone. Feeling like you’re gross, dirty, nauseated, silenced... it’s sadly all too common with sexual abuse survivors. I’m sorry. I went through EMDR & therapy to work through my trauma which has helped a lot, so I’d def suggest that. Also try to get your hands on this book and this book . <3