Best wellness relaxation products according to redditors
We found 56 Reddit comments discussing the best wellness relaxation products. We ranked the 27 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
1. Hair Scalp Massager, Heeta Shampoo Brush with Soft Silicone Head Massager (Black)
Manual operation. Waterproof, no battery required. Perfect for various hairstyles from thick to thin, short or long, and no matter wet or dry, even to groom hair of your petsTaking shower with this soft shampoo brush makes your hair and scalp cleaner than before. A soft and high-quality hair brush p...
2. Muse: The Brain Sensing Headband,
MEDITATION MADE EASY: Muse is your personal meditation assistant by providing EEG based real-time neurofeedback, allowing you to take the guesswork out of your meditation practiceMUSE WILL GUIDE YOU TO A CALM MIND: Sometimes your mind is calm and sometimes it's active - Muse will teach you to recogn...
3. Wand Massager Handheld with 10 Powerful Speeds 8 Vibration Patterns, PALOQUETH Personal Body Massager for Back Neck Shoulder Sore,Cordless Rechargeable
4. Life-Flo Pure Rosehip Seed Oil | Certified Organic & Cold Pressed | Authentic Rose Hip Oil for Face & Skin Restoration | Dry & Non-Greasy | 1 Ounce
Purely The Best: Cold pressed Rosehip Oil guaranteed to be authentic, natural, pure, & hexane freeFor Face & Skin: With naturally-occurring Vitamin A to help replenish & restore skinGrease Free: Life-Flo Rosehip Seed Oil soaks easily into the skin without leaving a greasy residueOrganic & Potent: Ce...
5. Velocity Massage Wand - Waterproof, Wireless, Powerful Vibration - Personal Therapeutic Massager (Pink)
Waterproof, Body Safe, Premium Silicone Massage Wand.10 Speed Massage Wand - High & Low Steady Speeds with 8 Patterns.Cordless, Rechargeable Therapeutic Back Massager, includes USB and wall charger.11.8" in length & 2" in diameter - Soft head massager with a flexible neck.This Therapeutic Personal M...
6. Personal Wand Massager, 8 Speed, 8 Mode, Purple
Enjoy 8 amazing vibration speeds and pulsation modesPowerful, and easily adjustable speeds with dial-wheelSoft and massage head and flexible neck that bendsPlugs right into the wall, no batteries requiredSturdy TPR head and ABS plastic handle. Designed for 110v outlets
7. DG SPORTS The Best Wire Head Massager
Head massagerSmall enough to take with you anywhereWire head massagerMassage toolsScalp massager
8. Alba Botanica Revitalizing Sea Salt Hawaiian Body Scrub, 14.5 oz.
One 14.5 oz. jar of Alba Botanica Revitalizing Sea Salt Hawaiian Body ScrubPacific sea salts deeply detoxify and exfoliate dry skinNourishing jojoba, macadamia, avocado and sweet almond oils provide hydrationNo parabens, phthalates, harsh sulfates or animal testing100% vegetarian ingredients
9. The BudKit, with BudKups Generation 3.0 Loading Capsules for PAX2 & PAX3. Includes 6 BudKups, Packing System, and Portable Case
Contains 6 BudKups Generation 3.0 made of food-grade stainless steel.BudKups patented design improves air flow. Keeps your PAX cleaner.Includes the Bud Case, a pocket-sized storage solution for your BudKupsAlso includes the Packing System to fill 6 BudKups at once with no messPAX not included.
10. Massage Ball - Spiky for Deep Tissue Back Massage, Foot Massager, Plantar Fasciitis & All Over Body Deep Tissue Muscle Therapy - Your Compact Muscle Roller
11. EROCOME Waterproof 12Frequency Silicone Auto-Heating Love Egg for Women and Couple (2)
12. Construction Cone Stress Reliever
Durable Foam Construction Cone shaped Toy in bright orange and black.Just right to squeeze and relieve stress, build strength, and have fun.Squeezing toys has been shown to relieve stress by redirecting energy and focus to the stress toy.Squeeze it, throw it, catch it! It's easy to have fun with thi...
13. Wand Massager Handheld with 10 Powerful Speeds 8 Vibration Patterns, PALOQUETH Personal Body Massager for Back Neck Shoulder Sore,Cordless Rechargeable
✅ Listen to our customer: "D. Thayer" : Some years ago I was hit by a bicycle, since then whenever I do a lot of bending over (say in yard work) my back starts killing me. Medicine take a while to work and is only temporary. A Few minutes with this along my spine gives me instant and lasting relie...
14. PowerDot Smart Muscle Stimulator - DUO - Black - App Controlled Wireless Electrical Muscle Stimulator for iOS and Android - Muscle Therapy Tool for Muscle Performance and Recovery
BLUETOOTH CONNECTIVITY: POWERDOT pods (2 Pods included with DUO Model) connect to the app on your phone via bluetooth. You select the muscle groups you want to target and an impulse is sent to the pods that causes your muscles to activate. It's that simple.FREE TRAINING APP: Choose from many differ...
15. Gaiam Wellbeing Finger Massager Dual-Sided Hand Massage Roller Tool for Circulation, Stress, Arthritis and Hand Pain Relief
FINGER MASSAGER: Increases circulation, reduces stiffness and soothes arthritis and joint pain in your handsDUAL-SIDED: Hand massager features a no slip, easy grip design with two massage optionsINDIVIDUAL FINGER MASSAGE: Side A features two rollers that apply pressure to individual fingers, stimula...
16. TomTom Spark 3 Cardio, GPS Fitness Watch + Heart Rate Monitor (Black, Large)
Heart Rate Monitor: No chest strap needed with a built in heart rate monitor, which allows you to easily see your heart rate at all times throughout the day or while working outGPS Running Watch: Measures time, distance, speed, pace, calories burned, heart rate and live stats on the go. Use the new ...
17. Kama Sutra Intimate Gift Sets & Fun Travel Kits THE GETAWAY KIT (Escape to a romantic paradise with the essential travel kit for lovers.)
THE GETAWAY KIT Escape to a romantic paradise with the essential travel kit for lovers. An assortment of petite sensual treats sized perfectly to meet TSA standards and fit easily into luggage.If you are looking to do a little rekindling, this would be a good Part A of "The Plan". This unique set of...
18. WOVTE Bear Claw Black Telescopic Back Scratcher
UNIQUE BEAR CLAW DESIGN: Not too sharp or dull Rounded Prongs eliminate your itch greatly, avoid direct scratching your back, better protect your skin.EXTENDABLE BACK SCRATCHER: Four sections handle, extends up to 23"/58.42cm long, can easily reach anywhere you need to scratch, retracts to 8.4"/21.3...
19. LiBa Shiatsu Neck & Back Massager Pillow - Shiatsu Massager w/Heated Balls & Car Massager (Black)
ERGONOMICALLY REDESIGNED - Ergonomic U-design back massager fits perfectly against the contoured shape of your neck, lower & upper back, abdomen, calf, and thigh areas. We got tired of massagers that felt awkward around our neck, arms, and legs.HOT STONE MASSAGE - Advanced heating function with smar...
THis will require a bit of an investment, but grab some liquid cialis on the web , restrain her (hopefully with bound tits, because awesome), have her take a full dose of the cialis, then use some kind of vibe on her clit (at least) with her cunt and ass stuffed and force her to cum until she's literally screaming and weeping. That is a good time. I go with knockoff hitachi wand I got off Amazon cheap as shit, a huge doubleheaded dildo and a small butt plug, then use either my under the bed restraint system or a spreader bar. The spreader bar's getting used tonight for that purpose, since I just got new luggage locks for it.
Try the tit deep piercing. It's hot as hell, and chicks can get compulsive with it. There's nothing better than coming home to a chick randomly turning her tits into a pincushion. Along those lines, I also had the idea for a punishment bra- get a cheap bra on cups size too small and then line it with thumbtacks you glue into the cups. I haven't tried that one yet, but the idea's money.
If you're going to do some shopping, ebay's awesome for spreader bars. That's the one I have.
The wand I mentioned is here. That might be the greatest $35 I ever spent.
So I'll admit, I've only ever used Dr Bronner's to wash my hair at their Burning Man foam baths. It made my hair feel like ass, but I'll admit there may have been other factors there, lol. At least it was clean!
But I'm not surprised it's stripping your hair; it's extremely harsh stuff. I second the recommendation for Cantu shampoo and conditioner; it's lovely and moisturizing but won't weigh your hair down, AND it's like $5 a bottle at the drugstore. As I Am Coconut Co-Wash is also fantastic; I would definitely recommend mixing that into your routine rather than straight-up washing your hair every day. And if you want to keep an ACV rinse in the mix, DPHue makes a nice one that's a little more soothing and less harsh than just straight-up apple cider vinegar. I also love using one of those weird scalp massager things to really be sure I'm getting product to the roots AND stimulating the scalp. (That might be pseudo-scientific woo-woo, but my hair feels cleaner, so it's a win for me.)
I found these products while researching the curly girl method. I also have very fine hair, and using this kind of less-harsh product has made my hair far less frizzy AND I don't get oily as quickly. It sounds like your scalp may be over-producing oil due to dryness, so I highly recommend moisturizing and trying to wash less!
Not the same thing, but this is what I have. It's excellent.
And a link:
The travel version, which looks closer to the style posted here:
I run my fingernails up and down his ribs and hips, especially post sack session. I keep my nails relatively long so it's usually good for some goosebumps raising.
Also no one should underestimate the goosebump power of these thingies
These squishy ones are about 3" tall.
I highly recommend this for the pax... it's made loading, transporting and clean up a breeze. Seriously best thing since sliced bread.
The BudKit with New BudKups Generation 3.0 Loading Capsules for PAX2 & PAX3. Includes Packing System and Portable Case https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07HR1KPF9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_lVpQCbBCAFSZ7
Ocean Salt is an amazing exfoliant. It's pricey (not unusual for LUSH), but I love it. I've started saving Ocean Salt for my face, though, and using Alba Sea Salt Scrub on my body. It's a decent dupe, though it lacks the fine-grain salt of Ocean Salt that gets a really baby-butt smooth finish.
I had a severe case of plantar fasciitis a number of years ago. Here is what I did to get rid of it:
It took me about a year to fully heel (that's how bad it was!) but it has been at least 5 years since it heeled and it hasn't come back. I have no issues running or doing inclines now.
If you're looking for a place to start, try adding a gel or curl cream to your hair before you use the wet brush. This will hopefully give you more consistency and hold. There are a LOT of budget-friendly options - I love Aussie Instant Freeze (available at most grocery stores for something like $4) and this sub often sings the praises of blue LA Looks. I'm also a huge fan of La Bella Lots of Curls gel (a huge bottle for $2).
If you want to try CGM, just know it breaks down into two basic rules: no sulfates, no silicones.
These rules are because 1. Sulfates are incredibly harsh cleansers that damage your hair cuticle and strip your hair of the natural oils that keep it healthy (especially damaging for curly girls, because our hair cuticles are naturally more delicate and the oils at our scalp naturally take longer to work themselves down the hair strand), 2. Most silicones cannot be removed without using sulfates, so if you cut out sulfates but not silicones, you'll get an intense amount of product build-up which feels and looks quite bad.
The easiest way to know if a product is "CG-friendly" (free of silicones and sulfates) is to copy and paste the ingredients into http://www.isitcg.com/.
Learning about CGM can be very confusing at first - before you go out and buy any new products, read read read and read some more until you feel like you have a grasp on how the method works. Also, don't be afraid to break from "strict" CG - if it works for you and your hair, then do it!
That said... you have to ditch the dish soap. Part of the reason your hair is getting so greasy within 18 hours of washing is your scalp is overproducing oil as a result of using dish soap to clean it - the soap completely strips your hair of any natural (healthy!) oils, and your scalp responds by overproducing. I hope that makes sense!
As for scalp issues, I myself have a few spots on my scalp that are prone to itchiness, dandruff, and build-up if I'm not careful, and it's one of the reasons I waited so long to take the plunge into CG. Here are the things that helped for me:
I hope this helps! In my experience, CGM requires a time investment upfront to learn about the method and what products/techniques work for you, but the overall amount of time I spend worrying about my hair is way less and my hair is also way more healthy.
I feel your pain, I've been having dandruff since as long as I can remember, but got worse during my early 20s. I use this one and it really helps not just my flakes, but the gunk that builds up on my scalp.
It's a manual one, not electric and the rubber bristles are soft/firm enough to get a nice massage.
I had a similar problem (to be honest not to the degree you have) and started getting a rash on my arms and legs and was diagnosed with remicade induced eczema. I also now use neutrogena t sal. The dermatologist said to let the t sal sit on my scalp for an hour (you can use a shower cap if you want to roam around the house). What also really helped my scalp was a scalp massager, which I use when washing the shampoo out of my hair. Here’s a link to a $6 one I bought on amazon.
Hair Scalp Massager, Heeta Scalp... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B076Q6442Z?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
There are prescription strength shampoos dermatologists can prescribe so I’d recommend seeing one.
Best of luck!
In my experience. Those are pointless. You have to be still for your girl to feel the vibration. Get this It's fucking awesome. & they run promo's all the time. Right now there's 20% off lingerie. When I bought it, I got restraints for free.
This is my second purchased and this is primo. Charge lasts a long time and I've had it for over a year now (being used at least 2-3 times a week) and it's still working wonderfully
Velocity Waterproof 10 Speed Silicone Wireless Therapeutic Massager Wand (Pink) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00SBY0N6S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_MEx7ybCNS42SQ
if you want to make a ton of new friends I can't recommend it enough every one will love you, just ask before you start rubbing peoples heads.
also those wire head massagers are pretty amazing
Anyone who's interested, here's the product link.
I've purchased this recently and I've been using it every night. I use the one from Life-Flo, which is nearly $5 for 1 oz of product.
I use it at night, after my moisturizer.
While it is too soon to tell if it has helped with my PIE, it has plumped up my skin. When I wake up, my skin feels smooth, soft, and supple. Zero flakes and adverse reactions.
Have you tried something like this?
Hair Scalp Massager: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B076Q6442Z/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_QE.gDbKMVYSGN
I’ve thought about getting one because I hate my hair snagging on chipping nail polish.
Another sufferer here. I never had it as bad as you, but I was pretty self conscious about it up until high school when I managed to get rid of all the visible patches. I didn't see this recommended so I thought I would mention it. I use a sea salt rub kind like the one here. Not recommending the particular brand or anything.
It can be incredibly painful to use because you're basically scraping all the dried skin off and rubbing salt in the wound, but it works incredibly well. I generally see immediate results and will have the patch completely removed within a week of constant usage. It also stops the spot from itching for a few days after use if can't stand using it every day. I would probably be getting the injections or be close to 40% coverage and miserable if it wasn't for my salt rub and oil rub.
YMMV due to the nature of psoriasis. I've never heard of any treatments that work on everyone.
I use a [scalp massager](Hair Scalp Massager, Heeta Scalp... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B076Q6442Z?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share) when I wash my hair and I leave the ketoconozale shampoo on for about 5 minutes. I don’t put any product on my scalp at all.
I like using baking soda to wash then ACV to rinse. It’s good for flakes and you can add some oil drops to scent the vinegar but it rinses out without smelling on its own. My hair wasn’t as sleek as it had been using conditioner but it was soft and fluffy as fuck. And get one of these scrubbers if you don’t have one already!
Have you tried a scalp scrubber/massager? I bought the one below and love it. I’ve noticed that it helps a lot and I find that I don’t have the itching that I used to have.
Ah yeah. I have a silicone one, the bristles are just further apart/deeper than the one you have: https://www.amazon.com/Massager-Shampoo-Silicon-Tourmaline-Contained/dp/B076Q6442Z
I use Life Flo Rosehip Oil and it's been insanely moisturizing for me (almost greasy if I use more than 2-3 drops). I haven't used their rosehip oil but I've had issues with TO products in the past. Their products honestly just don't do anything for me :/ I would maybe try a different brand of rosehip oil and see if that works. I have oily skin too and I love rosehip oil, but it's never made my skin drier.
hello everyone!! so here is my routine (i’ll admit it’s pretty simple and mostly stolen from others on this subreddit so don’t credit me for this stuff!! just passing it along)
-First of all, this shampoo brush has been a game changer. So my basic understanding is that you really want to get those flakes off your scalp when you shampoo, but you also don’t want to scrub so hard that you scratch your scalp with your sharp nails which is why this brush is perfect. It does a fantastic job of massaging the scalp and just feels amazing. Don’t scrub too hard with it either!!
INITIAL SHAMPOO TREATMENT (2-3 weeks)
Okay so pretty much i’m alternating between three different shampoos:
Okay so, although I really want to nuke the shit out of my scalp, I know it’s not smart in the long term so i’m going to translation into a new routine pretty soon. The only new product i’ll be adding to my routine is:
I’ll update if it changes but as of right now my projected routine will be:
-Tuesday: Dr. Eddie’s Daily Shampoo
-Wednesday: Dr. Eddie’s Medicated Shampoo
-Thursday: Dr. Eddie’s Daily Shampoo
-Friday: Dr. Eddie’s Medicated Shampoo
-Saturday; Dr. Eddie’s Daily Shampoo
I’m hoping even to only do this routine for just a bit if my sebderm is fully in control. My IDEAL routine will eventually be:
-Monday: Nizoral/T-gel (Switching back and forth between these)
-Tuesday: No Shampoo
-Wednesday: Dr. Eddie’s Medicated shampoo
-Thursday: Dr. Eddie’s Daily shampoo
-Friday: No shampoo
-Saturday: Dr. Eddie’s Daily shampoo
-Sunday: Dr. Eddie’s Medicated shampoo
Hope this helps! My sebderm and shedding isn’t completely gone yet, but it’s DRAMATICALLY improved. I honestly almost want to cry tears of joy when I run my hands through my hair without a BUNCH of hairs on my hands afterward. I’m also going to experimenting with tea tree oil on my scalp soon to retain moisture. DO NOT SLEEP ON THE SHAMPOO BRUSH!!! Let me know if ya have any questions!
I also just want to mention that this has been after a long journey of seeing several doctors who didn’t have a clue how to help, dermatologists who claimed to know how to help, and hair transplant specialists that had to assure me I most likely did not have male pattern baldness when I was freaking out that I might. Don’t give up! Treat your scalp well and eat well! Also avoid hairloss subreddits lol even if your hairloss IS genetic lol
Hope this helps at least one person; for anyone with stupid thick hair this shampoo brush is amazing for cleaning your scalp
I’m not entirely CG anymore.
I have fine, relatively thin hair that’s porous (color treated; however, I chopped most of the dead stuff earlier this year, well before discovering that my hair wasn’t “frizzy wavey straight”). It’s about to the bottom of my shoulder blades/a little higher, depending how much curl it’s feelin’ that day.
My routine is definitely a work in progress (and open to CC and recommendations, noting I’m a non-paid working student that’s broke as a US American joke), but goes something like this:
I haven’t had my hair actually dyed since May (y’kno, MONIES) or cut. It could certainly use a trim, but it’s not bad considering it’s been three months.
Every two weeks, I use a clarifying sulphate shampoo (VO5 kiwi Lomé currently, snagged from Dollar Tree). I usually lather up twice, and I use my shampoo brush (this one, definitely recommend ) to scrub the roots gently.
I follow that up with a mix of this Texture ID masque (noting its a little strong for my hair type) and Arctic Fox color depositing conditioner. I let that sit ~1-2 hours, sometimes overnight if I’m feelin’ it. The rest is mentioned below, sans the additional washing portion.
My “every day” routine is I try to only wet it once every 2-3 days, dependent upon how nasty it feels in this heat.
I like this Shea Moisture low-poo every 2-3 washes (I do some form of washing every time I wet my hair).
Otherwise, I’ll use either this protein-enhanced VO5 conditioner or Suave clarifying conditioner to cowash. Unless my hair feels like seaweed, I follow up with a non-CG friendly OGX tea tree conditioner (honestly purchased on smell alone, but gives the BEST slip). I’ll brush through my hair with a wet brush and generally try to rinse everything out so it doesn’t weigh it down. I’ve been experimenting with herbal essence mousse - but I found the day I tried to only use mousse, I used HALF of a bottle of V05 conditioner to detangle and I was still shredding my hair apart. I’ve been experimenting with it just at the roots.
After it’s rinsed, while in the shower, I spray down my wet hair with the Renpure leave in spray and brush it through to keep it in 1 clump. With my hair dripping wet, I add an emulsified palm full ofLA Looks Sports Gel and plop as long as I want. Sometimes I try to diffuse, but I try to wash it at night and plop overnight.
Then I just SOTC when it’s dry and go about my business.
Edit: I meant to add, I think this spray balances out excessive moisture for my waves if cowash with some protein, but my hair digs protein!
Here is what you are experiencing:
For those who cannot afford outside help,
I suggest meditation daily. I do it, and it is very helpful.
I learned to do it using the Muse:
Once you have become proficient, you are welcome to sell the headband here on the sub.
I also suggest you start Yoga. Once you learn the breathing techniques, and to focus on your body..that will become very helpful in daily stressful situations.
Other then that, it just takes time. I had this problem for several years, and I had the therapeutic support and all the bells and whistles.
There's a lot of good advice in this thread, but there's one thing I'd like to add. You mentioned foreplay and sex, as though they're separate. The purpose of oral and fingering/hand stuff is not to get her vagina ready for a penis, it's to feel good. Because it's sex as well. PIV (penis in vagina) sex is not the only thing that counts as "real sex", ANY genital contact is sex. Oral sex is sex. Using your hands to get each other off is sex.
Since PIV is hurting her, maybe don't do it for a while. Have sex for awhile using just your hands and mouth, figure out how to make each other relax and orgasm, then, when you feel like you both are 100% comfortable and in tune with each other's bodies, THEN try PIV again.
Also, buy a body wand. This one is $31 and body safe waterproof silicone. Sex with a vibrator is so rad. It can feel good for both of you, like once you two are having comfortable PIV sex, having her hold a vibrator on her clitoris during PIV is a game changer (my gf and I use a strap on but it's a similar act lol), and it feels good for both people.
yeah, im also on an antifungal which is helping so far.
Diet change was the most drastic first step to feeling better. Cut all sugar including most fruit/commercial dairy/and most carbs. Sounds hard, but considering the alternatives, it is not. I believe a different approach may be needed for women, however, as there are hormonal complications and different diet needs.
Secondly ,get a FIR sauna. I got this one on amazon for $200 and it offers amazing relief to my joint and acute nerve pain. Also helped my wife with her sciatica:
oh and one of those massagers helps a lot for me at least too. I have extremely tight muscles and inflamed joints.
Best drunk purchase I've ever made. https://www.amazon.com/WOVTE-Bear-Black-Telescopic-Scratcher/dp/B018EBNSBO/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=hp
Neurofeedback can help her a lot, so perhaps finding a good therapist for her locally. Short of that, perhaps you might try this:
Not sure if it works well, but I know that neurofeedback in general works miracles for people with anxiety disorder.
For something cheaper (and without as much research, which falls into the more alternative medicine category but works wonders), I recommend my clients try this DVD for relaxation:
With the new update phone sync issue is resolved. I got this for 10.5K during sale
Link : TomTom Spark 3 Cardio GPS Multisport Fitness Watch (Black, Large) https://www.amazon.in/dp/B01HZPJRBU/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_rH5VAb8Q0V8SJ
[This is the one I use] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B006MMOVOQ)
> I can tell you that I have a shoebox full of vibrators that while they feel nice, will never get me off. They all claim to be amazing and awesome and super-powerful and guaranteed to get you off.
Well sure but that's also true of the brand name sex toys as well, though.
> That’s a design vs cost issue. There’s a correlation between the Hitachi’s success rate and it’s size/the fact that it plugs into a wall/you can hear it from down the block.
Right I just want one where the manufacturer has copied the hatachi. So plugs into the wall, same size and dimensions, preferably same everything. I don't even want one of the rechargeable/cordless versions of the hitachi because I've had bad experiences with battery life in this category of product.
I'd like a wired version of this, it's reviews are actually a bit higher than the magic wand. https://www.amazon.com/Massager-Handheld-Vibration-PALOQUETH-Rechargeable/dp/B01N9SL7BA/
definitely invite him to do it with you. Also, I'm not bragging, but I have a suitcase full of toys to use with my girlfriends. It's not a competition between him and a dildo, you can have a dildo and still have all the sex in the world with him. I'd recommend the hitachi wand. There are cheaper generic versions on amazon that are really easy for him to use on you. This doesn't sound like it's going well. It sounds like he can't do work, school, and a gf at the same time and it seems like the gf is the thing he's jettisoning.
http://www.amazon.com/Wand-Essentials-Speed-Mode-Purple/dp/B005JE9F9E/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1344462115&amp;sr=8-6&amp;keywords=hitachi+magic+wand this should do it.
This one pretty cool. Multiple settings, cordless and my likes it.
Velocity Massage Wand - Waterproof, Wireless, Powerful Vibration
Personal Therapeutic Massager
Vibrators aren't really THAT quiet to be honest. But maybe under a blanket that will help.
Here are my suggestions.... the first two are small and can be discreet. the last one is not that loud and its pure heaven :)