Really it's both!

I'm usually not much of a fan of "pop-psych" books, but "The Wisdom of Psychopaths" is a very well written and scientifically grounded work dealing with just this: www.amazon.com/The-Wisdom-Psychopaths-Killers-Success/dp/0374291357

tl;dr psychopathy is no longer thought of as a black and white thing that separates serial killers from normal people, it's a spectrum we all fall on and it influences how we deal with difficult situations (both good and bad), the less disturbing stuff phases you the more psychopathic you likely are, but probably not violent or impulsive

Did your comment mention the book titled

An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth: What Going to Space Taught Me About Ingenuity, Determination, and Being Prepared for Anything

that was written by your dad Chris Hadfield

Which can be found here?
http://www.amazon.com/Astronauts-Guide-Life-Earth-Determination/dp/0316253014/

If so I have no idea why anyone would want to remove a comment referencing a book with this description
> Colonel Chris Hadfield has spent decades training as an astronaut and has logged nearly 4000 hours in space. During this time he has broken into a Space Station with a Swiss army knife, disposed of a live snake while piloting a plane, and been temporarily blinded while clinging to the exterior of an orbiting spacecraft. The secret to Col. Hadfield's success-and survival-is an unconventional philosophy he learned at NASA: prepare for the worst-and enjoy every moment of it.

> In An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth, Col. Hadfield takes readers deep into his years of training and space exploration to show how to make the impossible possible. Through eye-opening, entertaining stories filled with the adrenaline of launch, the mesmerizing wonder of spacewalks, and the measured, calm responses mandated by crises, he explains how conventional wisdom can get in the way of achievement-and happiness. His own extraordinary education in space has taught him some counterintuitive lessons: don't visualize success, do care what others think, and always sweat the small stuff.

> You might never be able to build a robot, pilot a spacecraft, make a music video or perform basic surgery in zero gravity like Col. Hadfield. But his vivid and refreshing insights will teach you how to think like an astronaut, and will change, completely, the way you view life on Earth-especially your own."

Steal This Book (1971) is divided into three sections, "Survive!", "Fight!" and "Liberate!". Each section has several sub-chapters.

The section "Fight!" includes chapters on starting an underground press, guerrilla radio, guerrilla television, what to bring to a demonstration that’s expected to be violent, how to make an assortment of home-made bombs, first aid for street fighters, legal advice, how to seek political asylum, guerrilla warfare, gun laws, and identification papers. This section also includes advice on such topics as growing cannabis, living in a commune, and obtaining a free buffalo from the Department of the Interior.

Available here for cheap, or steal it from wherever.

10 Professions That Attract the Most Sociopaths



>7 - Policeman


>The power of life and death on your hip, a badge of authority on your chest, a uniform of distinction, and a really loud siren! Everyone’s familiar with the stereotype of a bad cop — those officers who readily abuse their power, resent the people they are meant to protect, and use cold-hearted superiority to justify their viciousness. It's an unfortunate reality that some of the biggest criminals lurk among those who've sworn to uphold the law.


-psychologist Kevin Dutton

Passion is overrated. Instead do what you're good at and work on your passions on the side. When I was your age I was super passionate about parkour and freerunning, I wanted to open up my own parkour gym and compete on American Ninja Warrior. A couple of years later that passion died and I suddenly became passionate about writing, I wanted to write the next epic space opera. But then that died out and I became passionate about podcasting (which is still my current side-project). But all the while I was working on those passions I was majoring in mechanical engineering, because I've always love science and I knew I was good at it.

I'm not passionate about my job, it's a boring one in electrical utilities, literally the least sexiest industry, but I'm good at it and I know that my job improves the wellbeing of the people in my city. However I use the money that generates to do all sorts of things I actually want to do, like work on my podcast, or go to music fests, donating to charities I believe in, or take a big vacation with friends.

I highly recommend you check out the book So Good They Can't Ignore you by Cal Newport. The thesis of the book is that people who follow their passion, or end up on a lifelong search for their calling usually end up feeling worse off in their lives than people who build upon their existing strengths. I loved the book because it put so much into perspective for me such as my career, and my happiness. I really wish I read it at your age, and not at 24.

Chapter 2 of his book "Art of the deal": (https://www.amazon.com/Trump-Art-Deal-Donald-J-ebook/dp/B000SEGE6M) talks about 2 sacred imperatives of doing business in America, he lays out 10 of them. Number 8 and 9 are: "Deliver the goods" and "Contain the costs".

One paragraph I liked:

"To this day, if I feel a contractor is overcharging me, I'll pick up the phone, even if it's only for $5000 or $10000, and I'll complain. People say to me, "What are you bothering for over a few bucks?" My answer is that the day I can't pick up the telephone and make a twenty five cent call to save $10000 is the day I'm going to close up shop. "

He goes on to talk about bad contractors who screw you after they are half into a project, and Trump is always quick to make his ultimatums, and if the contractors don't play fair and play ball, then he doesn't hesitate to fire the contractors, rip out the steel, concrete and marble, sell it, and start all over again.

I suggest everyone read chapters 1 and 2 of the book, it makes you believe in the american dream, if only for a moment again. I think he really lays it all out on his recipe for investing a few million dollars into 4.5 billion over 30 years.

In the book you can tell he wrote it, his style hasn't changed much since he wrote it in 1987.

> Statically NA is going to produce the least amount of talents.

That statement only holds under the assumption that each region "spawns" an equal amount of talents per X players. Then the largest region would always produce the most talents.

However, this is not how things work. Infrastructure and motivation are far more deciding than the user base, see pretty much any sport or competition in the world. There are always specific "hotbeds" that produce a disproportionate amount of "talent". If you're interested in this topic I recommend you read The Talent Code.

It's the one by Vicki Robin and Joe Dominguez. Vicki did an update in 2018. Here's a link to the updated version:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0052MD8VO/

I think you should start out doing this after you have eliminated your debt and built up an emergency fund. Do not forget to work out a budget for yourself. Get an idea of where you are spending your money and where you can eliminate nonessentials. However, you should also put money aside to further diversify your holdings - maybe real estate, REITs, something along these lines. You do not want everything tied to just the stock market.

Make a goal for yourself to read some money books, gather info on investing, minimizing risk and maximizing your returns.

If you do not know what to read then I recommend starting with any one of these 3 books:

Your Money or Your Life: http://www.amazon.com/Your-Money-Life-Transforming-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0052MD8VO/ref=tmm_kin_title_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=8-1&qid=1420819430

The four pillars of Investing: http://www.amazon.com/Four-Pillars-Investing-Building-Portfolio-ebook/dp/B0041842TW/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1420819486&sr=8-1&keywords=The+Four+Pillars+of+Investing

MONEY Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom: http://www.amazon.com/MONEY-Master-Game-Financial-Freedom-ebook/dp/B00MZAIU4G/ref=pd_sim_kstore_9?ie=UTF8&refRID=12D5S57JYCVNH5C0FX99

Use the time you have now to start building your nest egg and save muuuch more then 10% a year - something like 50% or higher if you can and you can choose to stop working much sooner then the 67 they have us pegged for.

IMHO, I think "just practice" is probably the worst advice anyone can get. It focuses on process and not on the results. If you practice the wrong things, you only get worse. And how you practice has far more impact than just the hours put in.

For a more indepth look at this topic, I would suggest reading The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle it explores how smart practice far outperforms the "practice till you fall down" approach. Highly recommended.

Your brain also reacts as if it's been poisoned due to a sudden change to balance. Your inner ear which has been out of use for months suddenly kicks in and your body tries to throw up and lie down, similar to being incredibly sea sick! This makes it almost impossible to walk! Source: Chris Hadfield

If you're really truly interested in mastering this hobby and applying yourself to learning it, here's what I would recommend:

1. Define short-term goals. Do you want to learn A, B, and C tricks? Do you want to work on body movement and dance? If you're having a hard time defining this for yourself, look to the spinners you respect and try to figure out what it is about their style you admire and would like to make a part of your own.
   
   
2. Schedule a regular practice. Make an appointment with yourself that you would keep just like an appointment at work. Remember: this is something you're doing for you? Who is more important to keep your promises to in your life than yourself? Doing this will also help keep you from the dreaded "I can't find time to practice" conundrum so many of us wind up in...make times for the things that are important to you.
   
   
3. Create a regular 20-30 minute warmup ritual before you practice. This could be your meditation or a dance warmup, a series of stretches, etc. Pick a piece of music you'll listen to whenever you sit down to do this or have a particular scent of incense you put on. For the spiritual out there, this ritual will help prepare you for the work you're about to do and focus your mind on the task at hand. For the scientific folk out there, this is classical conditioning: you're setting triggers to put your mind into a state of focus and eliminating outside distractions.
   
   
4. Structure your practice around your goals. Want to integrate gunslingers into your flow? Try for one week to get ten spirals and ten meteor weaves every single day, then next week up the ante and practice the transitions between a flower and these moves ten times. Want to work on your dance/flow? Set aside 10-20 minutes to just spin to music and explore the space around you. Some days you'll be on and make lots of progress and some days it'll feel like you're backsliding or hitting your head against the wall. Both are important to the learning process.
   
   
5. Define your overarching goals. What is it you want to do with poi? Do you want to have a fun physical hobby, perform with it, get into the tech world, etc? Figuring out what attracts you to the art will help you focus your energies on practicing those skills that are most in line with what you enjoy. Also be prepared that you may discover something in the course of your practice and experience that changes this dramatically. Reevaluate it every 4-6 months or so.
   
   
6. Learn to love the plateau. We love getting new tricks. We love the excitement of novelty--and it's really bad for us. It teaches us to value the temporary over building in the long-term. Mastery is a lifelong journey where the goal becomes subsumed more and more by the experience of getting there as time goes on. Plateaus are important because they allow you to refine the things you've just learned and polish them into a more beautiful form. It is inevitable that you will spend the majority of your time in the flow arts on a plateau of some sort or another, so the more you make your peace with it early, the easier that journey will become.
   
   
7. Become comfortable with solo practice. All the research we have on mastering skills at this point indicates that it takes thousands of hours of deliberate solo practice to become a virtuoso at a given skill. Spinning with people is fun and you will learn new things, but the majority of the progress you'll make will be on your own. This is harder for some people to adapt to than others, but it is an essential part of the journey (unless, of course, your goal is to become a virtuoso at partner poi ;)
   
   
8. If possible, find a good teacher/coach. A good teacher will push you when you need to be pushed, challenge you in ways you never thought possible, and guide you to becoming the best possible poi spinner that you can become. Sadly, this tends to be a luxury as good teachers in the flow arts world are extremely hard to find, but if you're able to find a good one make every use of their services.
   
   Good luck with your journey! It's been one of the greatest I've embarked on in my adult life :)
   
   Here are some books I would recommend on the topic:
   
   Mastery by George Leonard (talks a lot about mindset and learning to love the plateau)
   
   Talent is Overrated by Geoffrey Colvin (gives a lot of pointers when it comes to deliberate practice)
   
   So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport (lots of counterintuitive but useful info on developing skills)
   
   The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle (lots of great info about what to look for in a good coach/teacher)

Well, forbes basically copied a report by this guy who based his report on this book which lists police officers as #7 from 1-10 of the professions that attract the most "psychopaths" which is defined as:

>a personality disorder that has been variously described as characterized by shallow emotions (in particular reduced fear), stress tolerance, lacking empathy, coldheartedness, lacking guilt, egocentricity, superficial character, manipulativeness, irresponsibility, impulsivity and antisocial behaviors such as parasitic lifestyle and criminality.

Haven't read the book so I can't comment, but I mean... that took 5 minutes of googling. Skepticism is fine, but an unwillingness to do a little research isn't ideal :)

OP.

You don't have to justify shit. Its your business, its your time, and its your life!

Tell them, look we both want your bookkeeping to be accurate. It is clear in the past there have been challenges, and we/I are no longer the right firm to support you.

XXXX will be our last invoice.

Thank you and good luck.


Do this by phone, and send the discussion points by email! You can walk away. They may not pay your last invoice, but consider that bad karma on them.


If you need a pep yourself up a bit more go read this: https://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-Second-ebook-dp-B005K0AYH4/dp/B005K0AYH4/ref=mt_kindle?_encoding=UTF8&me=&qid=

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Personally I like how /u/aphex732 worded his response, try that too.

Off the top of my head, in no particular order:

The Undercover Economist: Easily the best of those "Economics in everyday life - books"

The Blank Slate: Steven Pinker on the nature/nurture debate. This really opened my eyes on questions like "Why are the same people who fight against abortion for the death penalty", for example.

Complications: This and his second book, Better, gave me an incredible insight into medicine.

Why we get sick: Very good explanation of the defence mechanisms our bodies have and why treating symptoms can be a very bad idea.

How to read a book: An absolute classic. Turns out I've been doing it wrong all those years.

The Art of Strategy: Game Theory, applied to everyday situations. Always treats a topic like Nash equilibrium, Brinkmanship etc. theoretically and then goes into many examples.

A Random Walk Down Wall-Street: Made me see the stock market completely differently.

The Myth of the Rational Voter: The shortcomings of democracy.

The White Man's Burden: Fantastic account of the problems faced by the third world today, and why it is so hard to change them.

Yeeeeow nice post man.

If you're a bit of a reader, I think you'd like the following books:

Drive: http://www.amazon.com/Drive-Surprising-Truth-About-Motivates/dp/1594484805

Talks about where human motivation stems from. People are mislead by thinking that extrinsic rewards are the no. 1 motivator for people (e.g. money). However most studies are starting to show that intrinsically motivated people are the most productive and successful.

Talent code - http://www.amazon.com/Talent-Code-Greatness-Born-Grown/dp/055380684X/ref=pd_sim_14_6?ie=UTF8&dpID=41MunW5Js4L&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL320_SR216%2C320_&refRID=168Q5YDYYGJGSE9QPMCJ

The practicing mind - http://www.amazon.com/Practicing-Mind-Developing-Discipline-Challenge/dp/1608680908/ref=pd_sim_14_17?ie=UTF8&dpID=41xIyq0O4wL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR100%2C160_&refRID=097CJ40FQXQ88KG5TDAS

Both of these books are great for instilling the fact that greatness isn't bestowed upon someone, it takes years and dedicated practice cultivate a valuable skill.

If you'd like these books, send me a PM because I have the PDF/Audiobook of them.

Here's a whole book about this kind of stuff. I wouldn't say it's more evolved, it's just a strategy that can emerge in populations, and it's a strategy less likely to prove successful and stable over time, so while it can be a great strategy for a run of short terms gains, if broadly adopted, the strategy destroys the environment from which agents who would employ it can extract gains for themselves at all.

You hit on something really important. Axelrod demonstrates that part of what sustains cooperation is repeat interactions in populations. When there's a low enough chance of repeat interaction, then a "cheating" behavior can seem rational. It's rational in a narrow sense (if all you want are short terms gains), but it's less rational in another sense -- that if enough people do it then the collective adoption of that behavior destroys the very environment from which cheaters extract gains. In other words, by behaving in that way, over time, you won't be able to behave that way anymore AND the environment you'll find yourself in will be less stable and predictable (two things you need if you want any hope for making plans for the future).

The cool news is that once cooperation takes hold and some threshold proportion of the population it has "a ratchet", as Axelrod puts it. Cooperation is robust once it gets going. Nevertheless, groups of agents (a society) can develop conditions under which the robustness of cooperation can be challenged (too many people cheating, low repeat encounters, too many people fear for the end of the world) such that it can fail.

Entry level "PhD-level jobs" outside of academia are few and far between in Neuroscience, but consistency and planning will land you something eventually:

Start here: [Versatile PhD] (http://versatilephd.com/), [SfN Neurojobs] (http://neurojobs.sfn.org/jobs), ["So what are you gonna do with that?" Book] (http://www.amazon.com/What-Are-Going-With-That/dp/0374526214), [A PhD is not enough! Book] (http://www.amazon.com/PhD-Is-Not-Enough-Survival/dp/0465022227).

Also [www.indeed.com] is probably the best job hunting site I have found out there.

My first piece of advice:
Start job hunting and making connections now. "PhD-level jobs" are hard to find and you will have to lower your expectations a bit, especially on your first job. While long term, the degree can be a huge advantage, that is not the case immediately after grad school and you will need to be flexible.

As you explore, you will see some immediate career options are:

Adjuncting with the hope to land a faculty position at a Community College, academic scientist, medical scientist (at a hospital lab), medical devices, teaching high-school, government (NIH, NIMH etc.), science writing (grants, journals, editing etc.), learning code/stat programs (R, Python, SAS, SQL, MATLAB etc.) and taking those quant skills into 'big data', or going the more typical pharma industry route.
Consulting is another popular option, but they typically like people with some industry experience (I've seen on average 10-15 years).

The pay varies wildly on all of these, but if you are looking for the biggest bang for your buck that lines up with your (hopefully still present) passion for Neuroscience...

The pharmaceutical industry would be a great place where a Neuro PhD could thrive. From my colleagues in Neuroscience who eventually got some type of industry job, two truths rang through before they made the transition:

1. Either they had their foot in something before/during gradschool which is why they were getting a PhD in the first place (the minority).
   
2. Post-doc and then industry (the majority).
   
   Unfortunately, a post-doc is almost unavoidable based on today's job market. I've seen people taking industry post-docs, which are competitive, but lead to the nice jobs and salaries you believe your degree entitles you to.
   However, there are several who took academic post-docs and bought themselves time, experience, and a bloodlust for a good job, which eventually landed them something that was 70k+ in industry and they can work up from there.
   
   Point is, there are options out there. The key is persistence, research, flexibility, and of course: networking.
   
   

So I found that article's "solutions" pretty useless (wow, watch my diet? Get more sleep? Why didn't I think of that?), but it raises a really good issue about how we're very overscheduled. Right now I'm working full time, studying full time, and I have a toddler. I also have a few hobbies that take up about 5-10 hours of my week. It's a pretty busy life but I wouldn't have it any other way. Here's my advice based purely on what works for me:

1. I don't make to do lists, they're discouraging and depressing. The urgent stuff is in my head already because it's urgent, and I keep a set routine so I learn to associate Wednesday nights with laundry, Tuesday nights with taking dinner snacks for class, etc. Everything else probably isn't important enough to remember.
   
   
2. I say no a lot. To social functions, out of state weddings that would suck a lot of time and money, movie night on the couch when I have some major stuff to get done tonight...it's all short term gains for long term pain, e.g. more work on the other end. I also say no to endless conversations about how everything is soooo stressful omg. It's become acceptable to just talk about this stuff without being solution focused at all. I know you're stressed and hurting. So let's do something together to help you feel relief. I don't want to just complain.
   
   
3. I say yes a lot. I say yes to my own time, my own wellbeing, to help from my spouse, and my own health. Time for myself, by myself, is never time wasted. I love to feel connected to my body so I say yes to massages, hikes, and exercise. I love to learn and I get bored/depressed if I don't learn something new, so I say yes to classes or activities as much as I can. I love to wear fun clothes so I say yes to sewing things and thrift stores. What keeps me happy makes my family happy.
   
   
4. I schedule my social life. I have a standing lunch date with a friend once a week. I make it a goal to make two other social engagements a month. It's enough but not too much.
   
   
5. I spend more money than I would like to. Right now time is my most precious resource, whereas I can always make more money (maybe not enough but hey). I love eating healthy but it takes so long to prepare, so I buy exactly what I want for lunch each day and don't feel bad about the expense. I cook a big meal once a week and I bake once a week and that's it, everything else is pre-bought. I miss cooking and baking but right now, it's something I choose to say no to.
   
   
6. I don't care about what other moms do. I've worked on a crisis line long enough that I know everyone is fighting their own battles, no matter how perfect their life seems to be. I get jealous sometimes but I also know my own limits. Some moms prioritize something like exercise whereas others might prioritize time to read or be creative. It's their life. None of your business.
   
   
7. I take the long view. We've all heard the phrase that the days are short but the years are long, so it helps me de-stress to think about why I'm doing this parenting thing: because watching her grow is amazing. Because I made her. Because she learns something new every day. It's not about a cute nursery or after school classes, it's about having the privilege to oversee this little human's life. And that makes me fine with a messy kitchen or weird stain on the carpet again.
   
   
8. I recommend the book Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less to learn how to focus on what's really meaningful to you. It's not about motherhood but almost all of the anecdotes are relatable for anyone who just has too much going on. We've fallen into a trap of believing busy = productive and productive = good, so we need to break that line of thought.

/u/ColChrisHadfield aka Chris Hadfield wrote a rather wonderful book called "An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth" detailing his life experience in becoming an astronaut, and being an astronaut. It was actually really eye-opening.

If you happen to see this Mr. Hadfield, thank you for helping bring more awareness to space exploration. And I loved hearing Space Oddity in space.

My two favorite books which introduce economic thinking are Armchair Economist and The Undercover Economist. They're quick reads, they're jargon free, and actually teach some of the thinking. Unlike the pop-econ books (Freakonomics and its ilk), which are simply about strange results from research (some of Landsburg's later books suffer from this problem). For an introduction to behavioral economics, you can't do better than Predictably Irrational.

For substance, textbooks are probably best unless you have a carefully chosen list of academic articles. Wooldridge for Econometrics, Mankiw for introductory macro, and Nicholson for introductory micro (Krugman's micro book is fine too). Mankiw writes my favorite econ textbooks. For game theory, I used an older version of Watson's textbook, and it was fine, but I don't know how other game theory books stack up.

If textbooks are a bit much, but you still want a substantive book, the first chapter of Thomas Sowell's introduction is very good, the rest is decent repetition. If you want a some discussion of discredited economic theories that are still trotted out regularly (like trickle down), Zombie Economics is a really fun read.

http://www.amazon.com/Astronauts-Guide-Life-Earth-Determination/dp/0316253014

I shudder to think how many people have wasted their lives forever chasing their "passion".

I'd strongly recommend reading: https://www.amazon.com/Good-They-Cant-Ignore-You-ebook/dp/B0076DDBJ6

if you can find a copy at your library.

That said, honestly if you're finding it boring as an undegraduate.. Stop studying it. UNLESS you can do some work experience & find you enjoy it. Plenty of subject matter areas where the undergraduate academic side is not remotely representative of the day to day reality. That's a double edged sword that can cut both ways, some people live the university student part, but not the actual work.

Honestly if I were in your shoes & I didn't have any dependents, I'd:

1. put my studies on hold
   
   
2. Get a full time job with a hard end date. 3 or 6 months, no matter what
   
   
3. Find some interesting low cost locations with waterfalls to jump off and waves to surf & go
   
   
   There is never an easier time in your life for this sort of travel. Have some amazing experiences, rough it (so even suburban middle class will seem like incredible luxury), do a lot of soul searching & then worry about the academia & career stuff later. Set hard deadlines that you're only going to go for X months / years, so you don't end up a 30 something beach hobo (or do, it's your life, maybe you'll be incredibly happy with a shack in the dunes) & give it a shot.
   
   Right now it sounds as if you want to achieve some magical passionate paid employment to fund adventures later, when there is never going to be an easier time to have an adventure than now.

Just how familiar are you with "fighting games mechanics"? Do you understand the term footsies and what that entails? Do you understand the difference between chains, links, and cancels? Do you understand the importance of space control and stage position?

Looking at your post history, I see that you come from playing MKX for about 8 months -- footsies is not a huge part of that game. The neutral in MK tends to be very brief before both players are on top of each other trading strings. There is a lot more nuance to both getting inside and keeping someone out in SF. In MK there are a ton of hard counters where the situation is generally "IF THEY DO X, DO Y". SF has a lot more flexibility in timing and options. The mix ups once people are inside aren't as silly and straight up 50/50s as they are about proper conditioning to break someone's guard, not just hoping they miss a tough guess.

To answer your final question:

>So what tips do you guys have for me and what should i practice either than combos? For my character and the game in general?

I'd say pick up USF4 and start playing Ryu. I would read the above link to the footsies handbook so you have a greater understanding of what's happening under the hood of the game. I would personally advise picking up /u/gootecks book called "Simplifying Street Fighter" -- a $5 investment for material that is explicitly designed around using SF4 as a preparation tool to get you ready for SFV.

As a final note: You should understand that you might be "familiar" with fighting game mechanics, but you probably don't know as much as you think you do. Try to stay modest and be open to learning new info. In my opinion MK is a lot more simple and straight forward of a game. Get inside, trade strings, go for mix up strings that are typically unsafe on block or pressure strings that are safer on block to try and frame trap and set up different strings. There's just more to SF. Combo timing is more difficult, keeping people out can be more difficult, getting inside is more difficult, all because the answer is never so simple as "I'll just teleport when he fireballs" or "I'll just use my f2 kombat kombo to go from mid screen to immediately in his face." Here is a huge list of resources that will also be helpful in learning the game.

Good luck.

Here's a little bit about the book and a link for the lazy:
An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth: What Going to Space Taught Me About Ingenuity, Determination, and Being Prepared for Anything

Colonel Chris Hadfield has spent decades training as an astronaut and has logged nearly 4000 hours in space. During this time he has broken into a Space Station with a Swiss army knife, disposed of a live snake while piloting a plane, and been temporarily blinded while clinging to the exterior of an orbiting spacecraft. The secret to Col. Hadfield's success-and survival-is an unconventional philosophy he learned at NASA: prepare for the worst-and enjoy every moment of it.

In An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth, Col. Hadfield takes readers deep into his years of training and space exploration to show how to make the impossible possible. Through eye-opening, entertaining stories filled with the adrenaline of launch, the mesmerizing wonder of spacewalks, and the measured, calm responses mandated by crises, he explains how conventional wisdom can get in the way of achievement-and happiness. His own extraordinary education in space has taught him some counterintuitive lessons: don't visualize success, do care what others think, and always sweat the small stuff.

You might never be able to build a robot, pilot a spacecraft, make a music video or perform basic surgery in zero gravity like Col. Hadfield. But his vivid and refreshing insights will teach you how to think like an astronaut, and will change, completely, the way you view life on Earth-especially your own.

An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth

"Colonel Chris Hadfield has spent decades training as an astronaut and has logged nearly 4000 hours in space. During this time he has broken into a Space Station with a Swiss army knife, disposed of a live snake while piloting a plane, and been temporarily blinded while clinging to the exterior of an orbiting spacecraft. The secret to Col. Hadfield's success-and survival-is an unconventional philosophy he learned at NASA: prepare for the worst-and enjoy every moment of it."

I read this book and absolutely loved it. It was easy to read, inspiring, and very informative. It's the first book I've ever given to another person just so they could enjoy because I wanted them to.

> looks to me like you're spunking away a minimum wage salary worth of discretionary spending, while you owe £10k.

I wouldn't have used quite such strong language, but IMO this is the reality OP has to face.

I bet he's spending money on crap because he hates his job so much.

Your Money or Your Life might be worth a read.

IMO OP needs to have a bit of a "moment of enlightenment" about what he wants in life - just a few months, as you say, of sorting himself out would turn everything around.

It feels to like he's spending money because of the expectations of his family and girlfriend, who don't see the big picture. Keeping up with the Joneses?

Very sorry if this sounds judgmental OP - I've made a financial mess of things more than once myself, so it's easy for me to say with hindsight and, now, sitting in a position of comfort.

An alternative perspective to that - you do deep work, develop so much expertise that it becomes your passion without you realizing it. I think Cal Newport has a point.

https://www.amazon.com/Good-They-Cant-Ignore-You-ebook/dp/B0076DDBJ6

And beyond this, so many careers have overlap in useful skills for being successful: both a teacher and a film director need to be good storytellers, well-organized, develop empathy etc.

If you wanna learn street fighter, there are already now a lot of guides with stuff that is still the same in SFV. I myself have only started playing sf some months ago. Anyways, two good reads are The fighting game primer (free) and Gootecks Simplifying Street Fighter, both can help a lot understanding the basic principles.

You might want to check out Do What You Are. If you haven't wanted to be a pedicurist since the time you were little, you may want to choose a profession based on personality. There is some evidence that personality may be a better predictor of job satisfaction than interest or ability.

These:

How to Read the Solar System: A Guide to the Stars and Planets by Christ North and Paul Abel.


A Short History of Nearly Everything by Bill Bryson.


A Universe from Nothing: Why There is Something Rather than Nothing by Lawrence Krauss.


Cosmos by Carl Sagan.

Pale Blue Dot: A Vision of the Human Future in Space by Carl Sagan.


Foundations of Astrophysics by Barbara Ryden and Bradley Peterson.


Final Countdown: NASA and the End of the Space Shuttle Program by Pat Duggins.


An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth: What Going to Space Taught Me About Ingenuity, Determination, and Being Prepared for Anything by Chris Hadfield.


You Are Here: Around the World in 92 Minutes: Photographs from the International Space Station by Chris Hadfield.


Space Shuttle: The History of Developing the Space Transportation System by Dennis Jenkins.


Wings in Orbit: Scientific and Engineering Legacies of the Space Shuttle, 1971-2010 by Chapline, Hale, Lane, and Lula.


No Downlink: A Dramatic Narrative About the Challenger Accident and Our Time by Claus Jensen.


Voices from the Moon: Apollo Astronauts Describe Their Lunar Experiences by Andrew Chaikin.


A Man on the Moon: The Voyages of the Apollo Astronauts by Andrew Chaikin.


Breaking the Chains of Gravity: The Story of Spaceflight before NASA by Amy Teitel.


Moon Lander: How We Developed the Apollo Lunar Module by Thomas Kelly.


The Scientific Exploration of Venus by Fredric Taylor.


The Right Stuff by Tom Wolfe.


Into the Black: The Extraordinary Untold Story of the First Flight of the Space Shuttle Columbia and the Astronauts Who Flew Her by Rowland White and Richard Truly.


An Introduction to Modern Astrophysics by Bradley Carroll and Dale Ostlie.


Rockets, Missiles, and Men in Space by Willy Ley.


Ignition!: An Informal History of Liquid Rocket Propellants by John Clark.


A Brief History of Time by Stephen Hawking.


Russia in Space by Anatoly Zak.


Rain Of Iron And Ice: The Very Real Threat Of Comet And Asteroid Bombardment by John Lewis.


Mining the Sky: Untold Riches From The Asteroids, Comets, And Planets by John Lewis.


Asteroid Mining: Wealth for the New Space Economy by John Lewis.


Coming of Age in the Milky Way by Timothy Ferris.


The Whole Shebang: A State of the Universe Report by Timothy Ferris.


Death by Black Hole: And Other Cosmic Quandries by Neil deGrasse Tyson.


Origins: Fourteen Billion Years of Cosmic Evolution by Neil deGrasse Tyson.


Rocket Men: The Epic Story of the First Men on the Moon by Craig Nelson.


The Martian by Andy Weir.


Packing for Mars:The Curious Science of Life in the Void by Mary Roach.


The Overview Effect: Space Exploration and Human Evolution by Frank White.


Gravitation by Misner, Thorne, and Wheeler.


The Science of Interstellar by Kip Thorne.


Entering Space: An Astronaut’s Oddyssey by Joseph Allen.


International Reference Guide to Space Launch Systems by Hopkins, Hopkins, and Isakowitz.


The Fabric of the Cosmos: Space, Time, and the Texture of Reality by Brian Greene.


How the Universe Got Its Spots: Diary of a Finite Time in a Finite Space by Janna Levin.


This New Ocean: The Story of the First Space Age by William Burrows.


The Last Man on the Moon by Eugene Cernan.


Failure is Not an Option: Mission Control from Mercury to Apollo 13 and Beyond by Gene Kranz.


Apollo 13 by Jim Lovell and Jeffrey Kluger.

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• The Intelligent Investor - Benjamin Graham
  
  
• Security Analysis - Benjamin Graham
  
  
• The Interpretation of Financial Statements - Benjamin Graham
  
  
• Financial Shenanigans: How to Detect Accounting Gimmicks & Fraud in Financial Reports - Howard Schilit
  
  
• Applied Value Investing - Joseph Calandro
  
  
• Analysis for Financial Management - Robert Higgins
  
  
• Margin of Safety - Seth Klarman
  
  
• Common Stocks and Uncommon Profits and Other Writings - Philip Fisher
  
  
• One Up On Wall Street - Peter Lynch
  
  
• Beating The Street - Peter Lynch
  
  
• The Essays of Warren Buffett - Warren Buffett
  
  
• Snowball: Warren Buffett and The Business of Life - Alice Schroeder
  
  
• Buffett Beyond Value - Prem Jain
  
  
• Value Investing: From Graham to Buffett and Beyond - Bruce Greenwald
  
  
• You Can Be A Stock Market Genius - Joel Greenblatt
  
  
• The Little Book That Beats The Market - Joel Greenblatt
  
  
• The Big Secret for the Small Investor: A New Route to Long-Term Investment Success - Joel Greenblatt
  
  
• Reminiscences of a Stock Operator - Edwin Leferve
  
  
• Fooled By Randomness - Nassim Taleb
  
  
• The Black Swan - Nassim Taleb
  
  
• Poor Charlie's Almanack - Charlie Munger
  
  
• Rediscovered Benjamin Graham - Janet Lowe
  
  
• The Theory of Investment Value - John Burr Williams
  
  
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• The Vulture Investors - Hilary Rosenberg
  
  
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• Distress Investing - Martin J Whitman
  
  
• The Aggressive Conservative Investor - Martin J Whitman

> Come da titolo, se siete esperti di economia ditemi un po' dove posso trovare una trattazione divulgativa della materia o un qualche corso online.

Dunque: IEA e' abbastanza tecnico e te lo sconsiglio, ma Undercover Economist e' divertente, e puo' valer la pena di leggerlo anche solo per intrattenimento; sulla stessa riga c'e' anche Freakonomics che pero' a me e' piaciuto molto meno.

Se poi ti viene la voglia, io inizierei con un po' di microeconomia, ci sono ottimi testi universitari che pero' costano un botto; pero' in genere si trovano usati a poco. Quello di Krugmann e' molto 'easy/pop' e con poca matematica (l'ho solo sbirciato, pero'); io ne avevo uno di Perloff e non mi sembrava male (ma parlo di un bel po' di anni fa; probabilmente c'e' qualcosa di piu' aggiornato).


Per i corsi online: una mia conoscenza ha seguito un corso su Coursera di un tipo indiano (non mi ricordo), ma era orripilante: un mio amico lo seguiva, mi ha chiesto di dargli una mano, ho provato a guardare uno dei video e non ho mai visto spiegazioni cosi' vaghe e confuse. Evitalo come la peste..

Credo che qualcosa di migliore sia su Khan Academy; vale la pena di guardare. (EDIT: ho guardato ed e' un po' stringato, ti servira' un supplemento. Krugmann, Perloff o qualunque altra cosa sia disponibile usata a prezzo ragionevole; evita le traduzioni italiane, pero').

Dopo aver guardato un po' di microeconomia, potrai decidere su cosa buttarti.


Se ti interessa la finanza e ti piacciono i romanzi, leggi Liar's poker, che mi e' sembrato spettacolare. E se a questo punto ti prende l'idea di capire cosa sono mai questi misteriosi bond e derivati, c'e' un ottimo e chiarissimo (ma un po' pesante) libro di finanza di Ivo Welch disponibile online; richiede un po' di matematica ma e' chiarissimo.

Ah, visto che ora va di moda la 'behavioral economy', puoi anche leggere qualunque cosa di Dan Ariely (tipo Predictably Irrational), ed e' sempre divertentissimo (e ha fatto pure lui un corso su Coursera con cui mi sono diverito un sacco). Ma se ti interessano poi gli aspetti seri, leggi lo spettacolare Thinking fast and slow di Kahneman (premio nobel, a ragione).

Ishmael - If you ever wondered what it would be like to be a telepathic gorilla, this will probably give you the closest answer.

The 5 Elements of Effective Thinking - The INTP Toolbox.

The Willpower Instinct - Because we all know we could use a bit more of it around here...

Emotional Vampires - A survival guide to protect your Fe

How To Create A Mind - Since it's ultimately the only thing we really seem to care about, it's interesting to think how we could theoretically create a 'backup' for it eventually

The Talent Code - In case you haven't quite figured out how to go about mastering skills yet.

You're going to get a lot of good advice from this thread, and maybe some that is not so good. Either way it will mostly be fragmented pieces, left to you to put together in a coherent whole that suits your own circumstances.

So I'm going to commit a small breach of Reddiquette and recommend you buy--nay, invest in--a commercial product. For about ten dollars, get a copy of All Your Worth by Elizabeth Warren and her daughter Amelia.

(TL:DR on Elizabeth's link: Obama named her as the acting head of the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, set to launch in July. She has a reputation for honesty and integrity and doesn't afraid of Congress and Wall Street, where many members of both are currently nervously regarding her as Public Enemy Number One.)

Congratulations to you on wanting to make a wise start, and realizing the need at your age. I wish I had not been quite a bit older before understanding what you already understand.

Have you read Nassim Taleb's The Black Swan or his Fooled by Randomness?
If not, go and order a copy of both now.

Early learner's version of "Steal This Book."

Get this book for him.

Don't ask about girls. Obviously he wouldn't be drinking himself to sleep and talking about suicide if he had a happy healthy relationship with one.

Consider therapy for the depression.

Offer to help him with his resume (after reading the aforementioned book).

Figuring out what career to gear up for while failing college felt to me like fixing an airplane in mid-flight.


OPTION I: Land the plane and fix it.

Two majors in, I dropped out and worked for six years, then the light bulb came on, and I got a BSCS from the CoE here. So that's the option that worked for me.


OPTION II: Fix the plane - hey, lots of altitude left!

If you try this, you need a much sharper image of who you are, what brings out the best in you, what you would do if had no financial constraints but wanted to be productive, what standard of living you want, where you want to live, and so forth. Get a self-discovery-oriented career guide like What Color Is Your Parachute and start noticing the good and bad patterns in your life and what they imply about a career that you could build without dreading Mondays.


OPTION III: Whee, we're gliding!

Included for completeness and popularity.

Hey, welcome to the community! I would strongly suggest you get this book here: Simplifying Street Fighter by Gootecks
Yes it costs money but it is by far the most comprehensive and complete guide to SF basics out there (imo).

If you don't want to shelve out money you can find all the info found in that book online for free. But you will have to go through several sources to get it. If you go this route start here:
Fighting Game Primer
The dl-link is at the end of the post. This is the closest you will get to Gootecks book. But it is not as in-depth as Gooteck's book at some points.

After you got down most of the things taught in either of those books you want to look into:
footsies handbook
This is a lot more in-depth and advanced but essential to becoming good.

If you did as the Primer or Gooteck's book told you you'll still be playing Ryu by now. If you want to change up characters you should search for some character specific tutorials/data on youtube, shoryuken, eventhubs and on this subreddit. If you don't know whom you want to main there is an exquisite tier-list for beginners over here. Also there is more general and character specific info on this subreddits wiki.

Don't be afraid to ask questions. Either use the daily threads like this one for today, or post your own thread if it is a bigger/more in-depth question.

Hope this helps!

Anyone who is and was short must read this book - Trump: The Art of the Deal

Upcoming book

How I made China my new bitch - by president trump

Read this First - This is an infograph that summarizes every financial blog/book I've looked at.

Books I've read that have been very helpful

1. I will teach you to be rich - I've reread this multiple times. Covers almost all things finance that you'll need to know in your 20's + 30's. Totally worth the money!
   
   
2. Beginners Guide To Investing - Breaks down investing in a very straightforward way
   
3. Rich Dad Poor Dad - Very Cheesy, but hits some great thoughts on how rich ppl perceive money, are willing to talk about it, and how they grow money faster than the poor and middle class
   
4. Your Money or Your Life - Haven't finished (feels a little dated, but hits some really good points on how to think of money and why you should change your habits)
   
   Books I haven't read but ppl reference:
   
   
5. A random walk down wall street - Why investing in single stocks is foolish
   
6. Possum Living - How to live cheaply
   
7. Dave Ramsey or Suze Orman - Both have very popular philosophies and spending strategies that are referenced all the time.
   
   Sites to Reference:
   
   
8. Mr. Money Mustache - All Financial Independence websites reference this site.
   
9. Money Under 30 - All things Personal Finance for our age group
   
10. Investopedia - Helps with the basics
    
    Reddit: (Search Top Posts All Time)
    
    /r/financialindependence
    
    /r/Personalfinance
    
    /r/FinancialPlanning

I'm not the one you asked, but my library had Your Money or your life very FI book, highly recommend!

This one by Kerry Patterson?

Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, Second Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005K0AYH4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_tai_Z.LUBbZF51KCH

At 27 I did. Wish I knew sooner because my life has been improved dramatically by acknowledging who I am rather than who I think I should be (which was largely determined by others' expectations of me).

If you want to deep dive, I'm a huge evangelist concerning the personalityhacker podcast/website -> https://personalityhacker.com/

You can find some INFP-specific podcasts on the site which can validate a lot of things in your life.

There are also some neat books that I think are great introductory/overview material to this area of study that you can probably find at your local library like the ones below. I recommend them to people that I think find MBTI-related study interesting/want another lens to look at themselves with.

(My favorite broad introduction to types. Hardly technical but accurate, I believe)
https://www.amazon.com/What-Type-Discover-Who-Really/dp/014026941X/

(Career focused one)
https://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X

(One that talks about the theory in general but gives interesting suggestions on how to communicate with different types [note to self, look at what you need in conversations under your section to get your needs met conversationally])
https://www.amazon.com/Art-SpeedReading-People-Speak-Language/dp/0316845183/

(One that talks about personality types for children but can still be used to be insightful for yourself)
https://www.amazon.com/Nurture-Nature-Understand-Childs-Personality/dp/0316845132/

(Excellent book about just infps)
https://www.amazon.com/Comprehensive-INFP-Survival-Guide/dp/1945796154/

Warning: if you're an INFP and you start looking at information about other types, you will probably be constantly debating in your head as to which type you are. This is normal.

I think the best thing an INFP can do with such self knowledge is to a build a life to get their needs met without being righteously indignant (i.e. a jerk) about it when faced with resistance

> I see what you are getting at -

I'm unconvinced of arguments involving game theory and utilitarianism. Although, it's easy to latch on to them. Going down a path of "articulated objectivism" in a world dominated by new atheists touting Science as above morality and philosophizing, there isn't much else to fall back on. So I understand why one might want to base their arguments such.

My own break from this approach involved (1) reading "The Evolution of Cooperation", which is as Game Theory and Dawkins as it gets, with its thesis based almost entirely on computer simulation, then simultaneously reading (2) Greg Mankiw's piece on "When the Scientist is Also a Philosopher", which to me was largely an admission from a top Economist, then finally (3) reading Jonathan Haidt's "The Righteous Mind" that showed me the possibility of an entirely alternate perspective. Particularly impactful were his citing of Fehr & Gachter's Altruistic Punishment in Humans, his case about Kant and Bentham being autistic - implying they weren't socially capable of understanding how people actually functioned in social settings, and his takedown of the New Atheists including Dawkins.

> in part rhetorical :)

Yes, in part, the other part being sincerely open to being convinced otherwise :) .

> I think there is so much more that ails the legal system today

What do you believe ails the legal system?

To me, Dharma is at the least evolved for India, in comparison to Western canonical law. Dharma is still well embedded in our cultural consciousness, we grow up on stories involving Dharma. If you're thinking in terms of Schelling points, Dharma should be an obvious solution to many of India's societal woes. It is at the least far more intuitive for us Hindus. Western legalese on the other hand is mostly about being "technically correct" "as per the law". Maybe it works for the West, probably because it bakes in their Schelling points, but I don't see how it's good for India.

Of course I'm not suggesting overhauling legal vocabulary, but instead, dumping vocabulary altogether. Being technically correct is not the same as being correct. Subjective judgements should be acceptable. The Western legal system, for all its rhetoric about living "by the rule of law", never got around subjective judgement of judges.

axelrood's book is a classic - anyone who wants the same in more detail would enjoy it hugely.

going in, i thought i probably knew what the site was going to teach me, but one big new idea that really hit home was the importance of reliable communication and how that ties in to fake news.

The Evolution of Cooperation

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less changed my life. It's one of three books I recommend to everyone, I even keep spare copies around to hand out.

Yeah man that's the worst.

Practice a healthy dose of extreme ownership on your way up and you'll make your life better and those below you.

Richard Bolles for the What Color is Your Parachute.

I also agree with the Design Your Life book.

I would also recommend this book as well:

Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type

https://www.amazon.com/dp/031623673X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_ojj6BbPQ0ATAG


That book along with the Parachute book and some self inventory help me a lot on deciding what path I should take next.

Have him read this book.

https://www.amazon.com/Astronauts-Guide-Life-Earth-Determination/dp/0316253030/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1503248390&sr=8-1&keywords=an+astronauts+guide+to+life+on+earth

He will love it. It's fascinating.

But is there someone who said that? If you prefer a logic guy, the one you're defending, like you, misread "probably" as "always" to make his case.

This book, though, would tell you that there are more psychopaths working as CEOs than in any other profession, another placing an estimate of psychopathy in CEOs at four times the average (at 4%). Here's a study I haven't actually read echoing those findings.

While neither are exactly terms happily used by medical psychology, let's put down a bit of vague bullshit and say psychopaths are rarer, overclocked versions of a sociopaths. Logic would then dictate that in professions you'll find psychopaths involved in, you'll find even more sociopaths. By a reasonable, subjective definition of the unreasonable, totally subjective word, say, 20% prevalence of sociopathic behavior in business CEOs would sound like a very low estimate. With big companies in particular, I'd guess we're dealing with much higher numbers, which would lead to a logical formula of either highly successful CEO-ship implying sociopathic behavior, or vice versa.

The very concept of a working-as-intended corporation is often likened to psychopathy, one of the primary cases made by a documentary called The Corporation.

https://www.ncjrs.gov/App/publications/abstract.aspx?ID=181019

Also, for psychopathy: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0374291357/ref=as_li_ss_tl

> You cannot just generalize thousands of people due to the actions of a few.

...I'm not. I'm pointing out a statistic.

You might like something simple like the Balanced Money Formula. There's a book on it called "All Your Worth" by Elizabeth Warren.

It's a simple budget idea where you put what you spend into the categories: Wants (30%), Needs (50%), Savings (20%). Keep Need's spending below 50%, Wants at 30%, and Savings at 20% and you'll be ok.

Step 1 would be to do what you're doing and figure out where your money goes. Then you'll know where you need to change your spending.

Step 2 is to simplify you monthly expenses so you can make this work. I wouldn't spend the money on a financial advisor at this point--$120K isn't so much that you can do this on your own.

Step 3 retire those debts to free up monthly cashflow, then start working on savings. One idea for you would be to set aside a set amount each month to cover your travel expenses. That'll help you know how much you can spend and keep the charges off your credit card.

I think that once you start measuring where your money goes and putting in some basic budget controls, you'll be in good shape.

Best wishes.

First of all, like others have said here, you're not a bad parent; yet that you aspire to be a better person and parent is amazing and unfortunately leagues past many parent I know.
Financially, life is difficult for many of us, but I have been reading this book and it really helps. Check it out if you can All Your Worth

Also I feel that I should say, I've always been a slow learner. I was convinced that I was stupid for most of my childhood. Through my mother's undying thirst for finding inspiring people to mentor me, one of them being my godparent, I was able to find ways in which I enjoyed learning and have become a life long learner.
One thing I wish I had done was to go to 'not back to school camp' it's a place for smart kids who can't learn in the industrialized schools we're shuffled through these days. It may be for later, but look up the Teenage Liberation Handbook sometime... and good luck. You're doing great, and it will only get better.

Not sure if this will help but I just wanted to share my opinion. With codependency, we tend to lose our identity, I've definitely lost mine before in relationships and I wrote a blog post on my experience here so you're not alone. When we lose our identity we tend to forget/lose what's important to us to start people-pleasing others. (https://famous4love.com/identity/)...

But what's been helping me lately was this idea called essentialism. It's very similar to the idea of boundaries which my therapist recommended but it's more inwardly focused on helping you find what's the most important (essential) to you and how to stick to only that and say no to other things. Totally worth looking into since it seems like you need help finding a purpose or something that's vital for you to focus on. Here's the book I started reading. —https://www.amazon.com/Essentialism-Disciplined-Pursuit-Greg-McKeown/dp/0804137382

You've got this. If you have the time, I would strongly suggest picking up the book, Designing Your Life.

https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3K0H7JUCS8F28&keywords=designing+your+life&qid=1570294285&s=books&sprefix=designing%2Caps%2C217&sr=1-1

It really helped me to stay calm and focused when I went through a similar period.

Scathing, a one sentence insult and a biased opinion at that? And if anything, Trump is one of the furthest people in the race from an idiot, and he's done a phenomanal job guiding the Republican nomination along the path he wanted it to go down. Trump literally wrote the book on business negotiations and persuasions, and he's been putting his skills to use this entire time. Take for instance the concept of an anchor, using a strong metaphorical or visual image as the center point for your deal; called such because the idea of it is designed to stick in your mind more readily than the details. Trump's wall may have seemed laughably over the top to you when he first said it, but it's exactly the kind of visual anchor I'm talking about; it's not some complicated policy or other intangible piece of politics, it's something voters can see existing in their minds, and quickly became a central point of his policies. Not only that, but it's proven to be a fairly solid anchor, to the point that within a few months several other candidates began working literal and metaphorical walls into their policies as well.

But no, surely you are right and Trump has just haphazardly stumbled his way through the nomination, and gotten lucky while taking 3/5 of the republican vote in a tough 7 man race

[The vendor selling this product is totally screwed.] (https://www.amazon.com/Trump-Art-Deal-Donald-J-ebook/dp/B000SEGE6M?ie=UTF8&keywords=the%20art%20of%20the%20deal&qid=1464920453&ref_=sr_1_1&s=digital-text&sr=1-1) No way it has 1,200 reviews and a 4.5 star rating :)

Couples counseling is the right decision when you both want to put effort towards fixing your problems, but you don't know exactly how to do it. It has nothing to do with how long you've been in the relationship. It is a mature decision that the both of you should make together with open minds. It has healed so many wounds in my relationship and we even argue calmly now and hear each other's points and come to a solution. It's freakin amazing! In the meantime, I recommend this book to learn how to effectively communicate without making the other person feel attacked. It's a skill I've used in so many aspects of my life. LINK

PM me if you want to talk about it. I know what you're going through. It's really rough.

http://www.amazon.com/Simplifying-Street-Fighter-Players-Preparing-ebook/dp/B015KLJCJI

If you give up easily, programming is not for you. It's a very mentally-intensive field that requires a lot of thinking and discipline. That being said, you're very young still and have a lot of time to figure out what you want to do. Try different things to find out what you like, then try and make a job out of it.

If you're good at music, put some videos on YouTube. That's how Justin Bieber was discovered. Try programming again. It's a lot more fun if you have a project to work on, so try building a simple website or a simple game. Try job shadowing people (following someone around at their job to see what their day-to-day tasks are like).

Here's a website that lists off IT jobs. You can browse this site to get a feel for the types of jobs out there and the types of responsibilities they come with.

There's also a book called What Color is your Parachute? I've never read it, but it's helped a lot of people find out what they wanted to do with their lives.

• Buy or borrow What Color Is Your Parachute 2016 and read it. It's got a lot of good suggestions.
  
• My local library offers classes, and they also have a resume critique session. Check these out.
  
• Did you graduate college? If so, contact them about their job placement program.
  
• Check out your local community college. They might have classes or help with getting a job.
  
• Networking is crucial these days. Get on Linked In and network with your friends.
  
• How long ago were your interviews? Can you contact them and ask why you weren't chosen?
  
• Why were you fired from jobs?
  
• Does Meetup.com have any social groups available for networking? (My local meetup does.)
  
  Job hunting unfortunately is a job in itself. It's much different even from 10 years ago when you graduated. You probably need a functional resume, not a "job" resume that only lists the jobs you've had. I'm sure I'm not listing everything that can be done, but hopefully other people will chime in.
  

I want to share an observation. When people find out that I come from a STEM background, I often hear plenty of put downs, sometimes from people without degrees, towards humanities majors. Sure, Art History gets hit often, but I think Sociology gets hit the hardest for perceived employment difficulty. I don't like when people do this, but there is a weak argument there. The business school analog to sociology is organizational behavior. Perhaps there is an overlapping major/minor that you can bootstrap onto East Asian Studies to get to Japan, such as economics (money touches everything), or international relations. The most critical prerequisite to starting this program is live research; colloquially, if you think you're on the border of the excessive range, you may have just hit the threshold of enough.

Try talking to the school's career services, who can better connect you to alumni 5-10 years out (also try linkedin), but also talk to randomly related people, e.g. talk to someone that works at Honda or Toyota in Torrance, find a current or former Airman / Sailor / Marine that has been to Japan (not many Army bases near UCR), chat with another school's career services to get outside the marketing bubble (hell, call the Ivys), write to Anthony Bourdain, etc.

Important: if you haven't done so, read What Color is Your Parachute, cover to cover. ( https://amzn.com/160774662X )

This career development process can take over a year, but the fact that you're initializing it at 25 before spending on education reflects positively on you. The Force will be with you, always.

Advice (note: IANAD):

• St. John's Wort 3 X / Day (assuming you're not already on SSRIs or something).
  
  
• Get your T level checked (assuming you have some sort of insurance or access to a doctor). If it's low, start getting the shots.
  
  
• Lift.
  
  
• Get a job. Yeah, the economy sucks, but there's always something available. Mow lawns. Wash cars. Whatever. Preferably something physical and relatively mindless (so ideally you can listen to books on tape while you work).
  
  
• If your current surroundings/environment are a net negative in your life, move if possible. It's easier to "start fresh" if you're in a new location.
  
  
• Lie about being a virgin when the subject comes up IRL (to both men and women).
  
  
• Lose your virginity ASAP. This first sexual act will likely be something of an awkward debacle. Expect that. Just remember that you'll only improve with experience. Find a fat pig on a dating website or pay a whore if necessary. Your status as a virgin will continue to be a mental roadblock to your personal advancement until it is removed. So, remove it.
  
  Required reading list -
  
  https://www.amazon.com/How-Fail-Almost-Everything-Still/dp/1491518855
  
  https://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671027034/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1467441671&sr=1-1&keywords=how+to+win+friends+and+influence+people
  
  https://www.amazon.com/Trump-Art-Deal-Donald-J-ebook/dp/B000SEGE6M/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1467441700&sr=1-1#navbar
  
  Do it do it do it.
  
  
  

It's sometimes intentional. They're trying to encourage you to buy the more expensive product by intentionally making the cheaper version lower in quality. There's a chapter about this in the book The Undercover Economist.

I've heard a lot of good things about Tim Harford's The Undercover Economist and The Undercover Economist Strikes Back.

The new textbook by the CORE team is all the rage right now, it's available online for free. It's supposed to be less boring and more up-to-date than regular textbooks.

If you want something more analytical, there's The Applied Theory of Price by McCloskey, it's microeconomics without the pointless formalism that you'll find in newer textbooks.

Because he's capable of functioning perfectly well as a sociopath and is proof that the disease is not a perfect indicator of whether someone should be removed from society.

I only brought it up because of the way you stated your portion on why they should be killed:

> I qualified my statement in a way that is unrealistic anyway, namely that we could have perfect or near perfect knowledge of a person's sociopathy. In any case, I think the costs to society of are such that the financial costs are something we should bear. The danger of having manipulative violent killers that do not feel remorse in our society is worth spending the extra money to ensure that said people are not able to threaten anyone ever again.

The way it was worded seemed to me like you were making the claim that all sociopaths are "manipulative violent killers" and if we had perfect knowledge of a person's sociopathy, we could remove all sociopaths from society by killing them.

When really what you would need is perfect knowledge of a person's life, as their formative experiences are what determine whether a sociopath is violent or not.

Because the simple fact is that there are lots of sociopaths in society, and the vast majority of them do not do harm to others (and arguably contribute a lot in certain fields).

Global Capitalism: Its Fall and Rise in the Twentieth Century by Frieden is a wonderful and not too long read. It doesn't require tons of economic theory that you won't know from a few intermediate economics classes.

It basically provides a riveting history of international economics and trade over the past century, which is a critical thing to understand for anyone interested in economics. I highly recommend it. Other recommendations:

The Logic of Collective Action by Mancur Olson

The Evolution of Cooperation by Robert Axelrod

Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navey SEALs Lead and Win - Jocko Willink

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https://www.amazon.com/Extreme-Ownership-U-S-Navy-SEALs/dp/1250183863

Agreed - A Random Walk Down Wall Street is the best book out there.

Also, see The Automatic Millionaire. This is a convincing book as to why you need to start saving for retirement at a young age, and how every year you wait to start saving can result in tens of thousands lost at retirement. (Essentially - compound interest starts compounding hugely after 25 years).

Also, Fooled by Randomness is a classic as well about having a sophisticated approach to investing - e.g. how randomness fools individuals into thinking that they're actually controlling the market in investing...

• Try online dating. Go to as many sites as you can. It's a numbers game so take it seriously. Don't say you're a virgin, just ask them questions and remember details. They need to be open ended questions, not yes or no. There is someone in the San Diego area for you!
  
  
• I met my wife on Match. We've been together 13 years and we have a 15 month old son.
  
  
• She and I meet people from meetup.com for our various interests (hers, mine, and ours).
  
  
• Follow your passions of music, animation, art, and film to meet new people of both genders. Try to spend as little time at your dad's apartment as possible. You won't be happy.
  
  
• Think of yourself as a late bloomer. Own it because there's nothing wrong with that.
  
  
• Hit the gym. It will improve your confidence. It will do wonders emotionally, physically, and sexually.
  
  
• Career book one
  
  
• Career book two
  
  
• Those two books changed my life.
  
  
• Nothing will change except for the books you read and the people you meet.
  
  
• No car and no rent, you can save up quite a bit.
  
  
• Get yourself a nonugly car in cash after a few weeks. I make over six figures and I drive a 22 year old sedan. Most people complement me on being smart, not mock me for being cheap. California cost of living sucks, so don't add to it with a car payment.
  
  
• Get yourself a roommate after a year at your dad's place. Any girl you meet needs to know that you have a plan of moving out (July 1, 2015 sounds good). 27 is too old to be at home unless you quit Circle K and go to school full time.
  
  
• Good luck!
  
  

Jobs:

I've just been in a depressive state for the past few days and probably at least the next 3 weeks. Joooooooobs.

Been reading Ask A Manager and even bought her ebook on sale. Going to redo my resume from scratch. There's a career fair in 3 weeks, but it's going to suck ass.

I filtered the list of employers down to Full Time Entry Level IT, not even restricting it to my degree. I've applied for ~80% of these places already and got flat out nos or never heard back.

The only one that's almost possible has a unique downside to it: they likely aren't going to hire me since I'm dating one of their interns. And since it's the school year and he's my ride, I'd have to request to be on his lighter schedule (30hrs, 20-25 during exams) and make up the difference remote or on weekends. And if he doesn't get kept on, I'd have to go 100% remote or resign if his personal schedule doesn't allow for him to keep being my ride. But I could see them not only not wanting to put up with that, but also thinking having a couple on staff would be drama, despite that we'd be different subgroups of IT and have worked together before. If I talk to them at the career fair, I'll just be referring to him as my ride, but it's not that hard to jump to "well, he's my guaranteed ride because we live together because we've been together in a sexual emotional fashion for a year and a half."

Meanwhile, I don't even have a "dream job", "dream company", or even "thing I'm good enough at to get paid for it". I have Career Match and Do What You Are, but meh. They tell me shit like Manager, but not what I'd need to be managing so I know what to apply for to work up.



Skill: Web development, hopefully with database integration as well. So far, I haven't found a textbook I think really covers web dev, but I have Learning Web Design and this bitchin bookmark for whenever I'm actually in the mood to get started. I also have several ebooks on my Kindle to supplement it when I'm done with that one. I just really need something on my resume to get me hired... and supposedly I'm decent at web dev. I just need to get to a higher level than an intro course before anything would take me seriously, so I bought a web design book to maybe try making my own site sometime.



Kittens: Halloween costumes. They're probably both around 4lbs about now, though Iroh (sushi) is mostly fluff and Tyco (vampire) is mostly muscle. They have another appointment for the vet tomorrow for boosters, so then I'll know how chubby they're getting. Either way, they're bulkier and it's getting harder to pick them both up at the same time :P Especially when Tyco's trying to break free.


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Neopets**: I restocked the Cove item and there's no buyers right now :P The only thing I have planned for the downtime is to do Kiko Pop data.

If you're having trouble finding a person, two books may help you start the process: Do What You Are and What Color is Your Parachute. I know how frustrating it is to be "stuck" and then find a dream job. Unfortunately, I don't have much advice to share as I fell backwards into the profession by just taking every job opportunity that came my way that sounded remotely interesting. Best of luck to you!!!

Try this book https://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X

Okay, for sci-fi, you have to get The Culture series in. Put Player of Games face out.

I don't read a lot of space books, but Asteroid Hunter by Carrie Nugent is awesome. I mostly have recommendations for spaceflight and spaceflight history, and a lot of these come from listeners to my podcast, so all credit to them.

• Corona, America's first Satellite Program Amazon
  
• Digital Apollo MIT Books
  
• An Astronaut's Guide to Earth by Chris Hadfield (Amazon)
  
• Capture Dynamics and Chaotic Motions in Celestial Mechanics: With Applications to the Construction of Low Energy Transfers by Edward Belbruno (Amazon)
  
• Mission to Mars: My Vision for Space Exploration by Buzz Aldrin (Amazon)
  
• Red Mars trilogy by Kim Stanley Robinson (Part 1 on Amazon)
  
• Von Braun: Dreamer of Space, Engineer of War by Michael Neufeld (Amazon)
  
• Space Shuttle by Dennis R Jenkins (Amazon)
  
• The History Of Manned Space Flight by David Baker (Amazon)
  
• Saturn by Lawrie and Godwin (Amazon)
  
• Lost Moon: The Perilous Voyage of Apollo 13 by Lovell (Amazon)
  
• Failure Is Not an Option: Mission Control From Mercury to Apollo 13 and Beyond by Gene Kranz (Amazon)
  
• Space by James A Michener (Amazon)
  
• Encounter With Tiber by Buzz Aldrin and John Barnes (Amazon)
  
• Ascent to Orbit: A Scientific Autobiography by Arthur C Clark (Amazon)
  
• Fundamentals of Astrodynamics by Bate and White (Amazon)
  
• Space Cadet by Robert Heinlein (Amazon)

Read this book. I don't have good answers for you, but I'm reading this right now and I think it's exactly the kind of information you're looking for.

I liked the Undercover Economist by Tim Harford and the follow up. Simple and very clear.

https://www.amazon.com/Undercover-Economist-Tim-Harford/dp/0345494016

Psychopaths (sociopath is not used anymore, clinically) seem to show signs that their amygdala (a center of the brain important to emotional response and thus empathy) is damaged, possibly from birth, meaning that no matter what they do they will never care about other people truly as we wish they could.

LSD has been given to psychopaths and murderers since the 70s as part of psychological research and if I remember correctly it didn't work at all.

Source: Recently read The Wisdom of Psychopaths
and The Psychopath Test

EDIT: Also see this from a few weeks ago Sociopath seeking advice to achieve enlightenment.

Apparently Some guy named Kevin Dutton wrote a book that says CEO are the most psychopathic.
http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2012/11/ceos-psychopaths/
the book says some study found that there were more traits of psychopathy in business than criminals and all those traits are camouflaged as traits of a leader. the lack of evidence of said study makes me doubt it but that's where the source of this idea came from.
It might have some truth to it but not much if at all.:www.forbes.com/sites/jeffbercovici/2011/06/14/why-some-psychopaths-make-great-ceos

Hmm I look at it this way. Indeed morality is simply a product of the human mind, and this is exactly what makes it objective. And I don't mean like "I think this is right, therefore it is". It is bigger than that. Morality is real, natural and objective the same way water is wet and planets are things. There isn't anything wet individual H2O molecules. Yet through their interaction a property we call 'wet' is presented. The same goes for planets. They are really just big balls of elementary particles. But it doesn’t help anyone to think of it this way. There are still laws like Newton’s law of gravitation that describe how planets work. This is the idea behind reductionism. While things are really made out of ever smaller parts (until you hit quantum mechanics), it is still useful to describe reality at higher levels of generalization.

For morality the same works in two steps (ending the line of reduction down at the human individual). Imagine two strangers meeting each other. They both need medical attention due to a civil war. Now the other could provide the medical attention but also pose a threat. When these people interact one of two things can happen. Either they cooperate or they oppose each other (cooperate/defect in the Prisoners Dilemma as it is called in game theory and economics). Now when people oppose each other nothing really changes compared to when they didn't interact with each other. All participants are still selfishly trying to achieve their own goals regardless of anything or anyone else. But when they cooperate something new is created. A unit of several individuals that works together towards a common goal. This unit of people is similar to water being wet. But this is not morality yet. This is more like selfish cooperation.

The difference lies in the fact that humans can do one thing that water molecules can't. And that is reproduce, both sexually and intellectually (by changing other people’s minds they in effect let you copy a part of you, namely your thoughts, into them). This gives rise to a second level of effects due to evolutionary theory. We find that there is another more general way to look at human behaviour that can be described using scientific laws just like planets can. Not only do people sometimes cooperate, but whenever they do they also generate profit. In fact they generate more profit compared to when they had worked alone. The only additional route to this is in a perfectly competitive market, but as anyone who has taken econ 101 may remember there are at least 12 separate conditions that need to be fulfilled in order for this to work. Making cooperation the dominant mechanism by which people become rich.* Because cooperation=profit there is a force acting towards individuals, small groups of people and societies to cooperate more with each other. There is ample evidence for this (see for example 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. Morality is therefore (at least in my mind) the tendency for more cooperative societies* to grow and flourish while societies which exploit, oppress, oppose each other and their members are retarded, stagnant or collapse.

From this follows what I think of as objective morality. In societies where no cooperation at all takes place society is destroyed, civilization collapses, and humanity is reduced to a collection of wandering individuals constantly trying to survive and kill each other (basically an unending version of the Purge but more extreme). In society where everyone cooperates to rationally find the best solution to bring everyone happiness, individuals live longer and the amount of suffering, pain and death is minimized/eliminated. I would call the first Evil and the second Good but really I don't have to because humanity as a whole has already done this by. Words are defined by the majority of opinions after all (Luckily regardless of what name we give this phenomenon the effect remains real).

Incidentally these 12 conditions basically never occur so whenever someone says “the market will solve everything” I recommend to take a very very close look at what they are actually proposing.

**In the sense of the prisoners dilemma not the communistic/socialistic sense. The communists didn't in fact base their society on the community but on the communist party. And everyone else got kicked into the dirt.

Not to be too much of a downer, but the path to being a professor is very hard, and most people won't make it. Just being smart is not enough alone. I would highly recommend you read the book A PhD is not Enough as it contains a lot of very useful advice on how to be one of the few people who makes it. It mostly is useful for grad school and afterwards, but if you know that this is the path you want to take, it might be useful for undergrad too. I read it in my last year of undergrad, and it made me ultimately realize that a high level academic career was not for me.

Also make sure you learn some technical skills as well as math. Having good skills along with a strong background in math will set you up well if you decide against pursuing an academic career. There are lots of good recommendations in this thread on useful things to learn.

A Ph.D. is not Enough-Peter J. Feibelman

Getting What You Came For-Robert Peters

Yup! There's a brilliant opening passage in The Talent Code that describes this girl who practices more efficiently in just six minutes than most people do in one month, and it's using the same process that /u/Hyperhavoc5 describes. Great stuff.

Yes, I am most definitely down with that.

I'm also not sure how books would be discussed either. I usually have a hard time critiquing neuropsychology-type books since I am not really qualified to determine whether the results are based on sound methodology.

Perhaps if it was like a seminar, where we all pick a book to read, and start an open thread where people can post opinions and questions and we can all try to answer them or post relevant hard science (or other) related articles.

I'm not sure about the logistics, but maybe post an announcement for the book, then give people 2 weeks or whatever to read it, then start another thread for discussion? (Or, even better...write the current book-club selection in the side-bar)...and put a common title on all discussion threads so they are easily searchable.

Here are my suggestions for books (suggested mostly because I own them already):

How We Decide - Jonah Lehrer

The Talent Code - Daniel Coyle

Outliers - Malcolm Gladwell (not really neuropsych, but has some neuropsychy ideas)

Why Don't Students Like School - Daniel Willingham (you convinced me to buy this book a couple weeks ago, and I'd love to discuss it more. I might write a review over at the subreddit I moderate [/shameless plug]).

EDIT: Maybe you could cross-post it as a "course" at the University of Reddit for more exposure? "Introduction to Popular Psychology" or something...

Every Shot Counts

Lowest Score Wins

The Talent Code

Also Stan Utley's books as mentioned by others.

Read All Your Worth by Elizabeth Warren and her daughter. It's short and sweet.

As a first taste, a big part of their advice is to divide your income into 50% 20% 30%.

The 50% rule is: make sure things that you are REQUIRED to pay every month (rent, mortgage, required debt payments, utilities, enough food to live) do not take up more than 50% of your paycheck. That leaves the other 50%.

The 20% rule is to put 20% of your paycheck directly into savings (this includes paying down debt faster by paying more than minimum payments).

Then you're left with 30% of your income. Spend this however you want. If you're making 6 figures reaching these percentages should definitely be doable and you'll still have a big 30% of your income to spend without stress since you know everything else is handled.

I like 'All Your Worth' by Elizabeth Warren and her daughter. We've got friends who teach a course based on Dave Ramsey's 'Total Money Makeover', and they report that the 'All Your Worth' perspective is a helpful alternative.

If you're looking for a good book on the subject of simple budgeting, I just finished enjoying 'All Your Worth': http://www.amazon.com/All-Your-Worth-Ultimate-Lifetime/dp/0743269888

It does a really nice job of setting up a simple 50/30/20 formula (must-haves/wants/savings), and walk you through some simple rationale for it.

I'm not a fan of financial books, but this one is written specifically for the average person who's just trying to figure out how to strike a balance. Elizabeth Warren wrote it with her daughter (and for better or for worse, there's nothing political in it).

My favorites are:

• "The Money Book for the Young, Fabulous, and Broke" by Suze Orman link
  
• "All Your Worth" by Elizabeth Warren link
  
• "Personal Finance for Dummies" by Eric Tyson link
  
• "Personal Finance at your Fingertips" by Ken Little link

Sim, encontrei muito poucos.

Penso que basta alguém com a ambição de querer deixar uma marca no mundo ou outra motivação que passe por criar algo, para arranjar um bom co-founder. O problema é que ter ambição nos dias que correm... Há muitas distracções.

Neste ultimo projecto, estava eu a preparar um pitch para um grande investidor que tivemos a milagrosa sorte de ele ter um tempinho para falar connosco, estava um dos co-founders a curtir a vida num concerto e a ignorar as chamadas. Ou seja, nem perante um momento life-changing ele teve o minimo de responsabilidade. Felizmente isto caiu mal a todos os restantes membros (recentes) do grupo e então pude "despedi-lo" sem deixar um mau ambiente no projecto.

Sounds to me like you're depressed. Sometimes people who are don't even realize it. I'm in this state and I'm trying to get better. Recently I've been looking at self help books and they all the same thing: add something or subtract something. It's all about materialistic things. But I came across a couple of resources.

The first one is a TedX video, its only about 11 minutes long. Logan Laplante has a video about being happy and his unorthodox education.

There is also a book I recommend called Designing Your Life written by two Stanford Professors. They talk about designing your life and building your life step by step. Essentially they talk about instead of starting where you want to be, they have you start where you are.

It's been an eye opening couple of days for me, and I hope that these resources also help you.

Read Designing your Life to get a straightforward set of ideas for identifying what you like, and how to try some if them out. Excellent book.

It's not an all-or-nothing choice. You have lots of options as to what you do, where you want to end up, and how you get there. Follow your interests and they will continue to lead you either further into what you live, or into deciding to try something else.

At 24 you are still just starting out. I'm over 60 and still trying out new directions.

Zijn er misschien mensen in je netwerk die je kunnen helpen? Misschien een oud stagebegeleider die een woordje voor je kan doen?

En misschien dat dit boek je kunt helpen. Vooral hoofdstukken 6, 7 en 8 zijn bij jou van toepassing denk ik.

Fooled by Randomness

The Black Swan

Predictably Irrational

If I could magically bring back three people to aid us in our time of trouble it would be (in no particular order):

George Carlin

Abbie Hoffman

Sam Kinison

With George telling the story, Sam providing inspiration, and Abbie showing us the way, we'd roll these rich cocksuckers up like a flophouse blanket.

NO! I'm going to buy it from Amazon and choose 1 day shipping so I get it Friday, July 27th.

Ages ago there was a book called "Steal this Book". I want to say it was by Abbie Hoffman.

Found it, but I'm not sure it's what you're looking for.

> At least Trump is honest

The man who wrote a bestseller on being deceptive and manipulative?

THIS

If American made drives you be sure you actually buy made in American not just branded American.

Personally, I think the most American thing to do is buy the best deal you can negotiate regardless of where its made.

/u/FilipinoTCK

What kind of financial tips do you imagine we would have that /r/personalfinance would not?

Personal money management is pretty much a brightly lit subject. Not many mysteries.

For the basics, I recommend Get A Financial Life. Excellent information for people beginning personal financial planing, but written in an upbeat style for people who don't find the subject interesting.

If you want something "alternative" read Your Money Or Your Life. It was written by high finance professionals who dropped out of mainstream life. The book is a "philosophy of money", it makes you look at many unconscious assumptions about your money and the way you life your life that most people never think about. Even if you stay in the rat race you will feel affirmed, knowing where you are going and why.

Lastly, as far as what "/r/personalfinance will not tell you" types of thing go, I would say move to a cheaper place. Rent and mortgage are usually the biggest expense in a person's budget and is mostly intractable. If you can tolerate living in a less fancy or close place, do so, you will save the most money by doing this ( along with what others have mentioned about not having children if you are so inclined ).

Of the folks that I've offered social skills coaching to, one of the most common issues I see is unmanaged social anxiety. Just about everyone experiences some degree of anxiety in social situations, but people who struggle socially sometimes don't have any good skills for managing the anxiety, which causes them to spiral downwards in social situations - they feel anxious, which causes them to act strangely, which causes other people to react with confusion, which causes them to feel more anxious. The good news is that social anxiety is not something you're just stuck with - you can learn really good skills for managing it and making it impact you less. The /r/socialskills wiki has some great books on social anxiety, and professional counselors are also often a really good resource for helping with this.

In people that I just see in my day-to-day life (not coaching clients), I see a lot of folks that really struggle to handle conflict well - they'll either avoid conflict entirely through avoidance or letting other people walk over them, or explode into anger. It's a shame because conflict can be so destructive in relationships - and you can learn how to handle conflict in a non-destructive way. A good starting point is the book [Crucial Conversations])https://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-Second-ebook/dp/B005K0AYH4/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1526253778&sr=8-2&keywords=crucial+conversations) - many people notice significant improvements in their conflict skills just a few chapters in.

I hear you. I'm more in the, "I can find just about anything to be interesting, but not a lot to be professionally passionate about." The book So Good They Can't Ignore You really helped me adjust my attitude, expectations, and strategy for my career.

Simplifying Street fighter by Gootecks helped me a lot. His beginner series on youtube is also really good. This is focused on street fighter but the fundamentals carry over.

ok so first of all, please don't complain about Laura when you just admitted you are still learning the basics of the genre. I know losing in SF can be frustrating as hell but saying stuff like that in a post asking for basic gameplay strategies is likely to piss off many FGC vets and stop them from replying with advice.

Having said that I suggest Gootecks' book, Simplifying Street Fighter. He focuses on Ryu but explains many important basic mechanics, strategies and other concepts of the SF series.

I would also recommend adjusting your approach a little bit... Another reason the guides you commonly see are written the way they are is because in a real world match there are a million factors that can and should influence the decisions you make. People don't want to fall into a strict mindset of "if this happens, mix them up like this" because it is predictable. You should be reacting to your opponent and deciding what to do based on what you've learned about your opponent's play style, as well as the current situation, not following a strict plan (The popular ken flow chart makes fun of this concept).

I know it isn't easy but really the best way is to just practice, and watch pro matches. There's no magic trick to just easily explain what to do in every situation. So when guides say "this is a good poke" or "this is a good mixup" and they leave it to you to decide when and how exactly to use that tech, it is not because they don't want to be helpful to newbies, but rather because they recognize it would be impossible/impractical to give those details for every situation (or even a majority of them). Note that I am not great at this game by any means this is just my take on it. Hope this made sense and good luck.

Jumping gets you fucked until you've proven to the other player that you're enough to worry about on the ground.

Your default when trying to defend should be to try to defend.

It looked like you pressed buttons every time you got knocked down, once the other guy notices this he can just punish you all day for big damage.

You should check out the Amazon book by /u/gootecks

http://www.amazon.com/Simplifying-Street-Fighter-Players-Preparing-ebook/dp/B015KLJCJI/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1450358424&sr=8-1&keywords=gootecks

If you don't wanna invest the $5 into your game, he (and many others) still have great fundamental books online.

You should worry less about long fancy combos and more about anti-airing, not jumping, having a decent defense, and winning with your normal buttons... in a word: footsies.

If you plan on playing SFV what you're doing will cause you to lose games much faster and with less of a clue why.

Until you've got thousands of hours into the game the 'less is more' phrase is certainly applicable to not getting blown up by guys who have better offense than you and know more safe setups than you at a lower level. A lot of people at your current level don't know how to do anything but press buttons and when you block everything they're doing and just watch them, they will generally start to panic.

Edit: Be warned - Most guides will have you learn to play Ryu. Even if you don't plan on using him yourself you definitely want to understand him as he is probably the most played character in the game, and many of the other characters have been build around him.

I've seen some real lab monsters hitting awesome combos and fail their BnB's online. My brother in law is like that.

In his particular case it's because he tenses up and tries to mash the fireball out if that makes any sense. Like to input it way faster than actually needed (and hitting the button too soon at it) because of how much his mind is in stress mode. Specially against gimmicky characters, even before they actually try their gimmicks.

The good news is: for online matches you can do the input analysis, too! He knew he tensed all up, but it was not until I showed him his replays with input display on that he really understood it.

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So my suggestion to you is this: Go to the replay of that last match that made it so obvious to you that you came here asking for help. We need that very match. Enable input display for your character and PAUSE at the moment you dropped that move/combo that was like "the last drop" before you decided to come here. I bet one "simplifying street fighter"-ebook with you that whatever you do wrong, it clearly shows there. And through the entire match it is very likely to repeat in the same pattern (like always the button too soon, always doing hadouken without crouching-forward, etc). That will tell you what to remember and what to train first.

It's not intuitive to stay calm when rushed down, granted. But it is usually what helps get you out. Also I never said it is easy. :P

• Read The Money Game, by Adam Smith. At least read the first sentence, and internalize it.
  
  
• Read Where Are All The Customers Yachts?, by Fred Schweb
  
  
• Read Liar's Poker, by Michael Lewis
  
  
• Read When Genius Failed, by Roger Lowenstein
  
  
• Read Fooled By Randomness, by Nassim Nicholas Taleb
  
  Then:
  
  
• Continually educate/train yourself to acquire/maintain the skills and knowledge necessary to survive and thrive in the 21st century economy.
  
  
• Buy a house you can life in the rest of your life if you have to. And in general, never buy a house as an investment; always buy it with the thought that you might end up living there for much, much longer than planned.
  
  
• Insure yourself against disaster. Among other things, this means various types of insurance and readily accessible cash. People have mentioned 3 - 6 months. That's a good start. I have three years worth of staggered CDs, and I feel pretty comfortable. Consider that a target worth aiming for.
  
  
• Find a really, really good, stand-up person to marry. If you make the right choice he/she will be invaluable in hard times; if you make the wrong choice, he/she will be the hard times.
  
  
• If you plan on having kids, remember this: there will always be ways to get them through college without gutting your nest egg. Don't put them through college at the expense of risking having them need to take care of you in old age.
  
  
• Stay healthy. Exercise. Eat good foods. Get regular check ups.
  
  
• Be thrifty. Study thrift. Make it a game (although don't be a bore about it). Learning to be a good cook, for instance, is a great investment in more than one way.
  
  Finally, always remember the first line in The Money Game.
  
  Good luck!

Lots of great recommendations in this thread; I've added a few to my reading list. Here are my suggestions (copied from a previous thread):

• How to Win Friends and Influence People - Everyone with a mother should practice this.
  
• Tao Te Ching (S. Mitchell translation)
  
• Basic Economics: A Common Sense Guide to the Economy - I never cared about economics until after I was done with school, and didn't remember anything from university class. This helped explain a lot of common fallacies many people make.
  
• Fooled by Randomness: The Hidden Role of Chance in Life and in the Markets - As Taleb says in the beginning of the book, anyone from any profession could have written this book, but a financial background makes this much more interesting. Anyone interested in science and what we can learn from the world of past experience should read this. This led to the next book:
  
• How to Live: A Life of Montaigne - A biography of Montaigne, a great skeptic, always curious, interested in what it means to be human. I found I could relate a great deal with the man, as many others have in different ways. The dust-jacket description made it sound like a boring historical overview, but I think the book flowed pretty well and was always interesting.
  
• The Visual Display of Quantitative Information - Anyone that ever creates a slideshow, or attempts to represent data visually should read this book. More than once. I'd say it changed my life.
  
  And, the following two are a look into the lives of two great men that lived in the 20th century; both offer many points worth emulating.
  
  
• Genius: The Life and Science of Richard Feynman
  
• The Trials of J. Robert Oppenheimer (once available in full on PBS website, seems not to be the case now ...)

That album was a nod to Abbie Hoffman's 1970 book... Steal This Book

https://www.amazon.com/Steal-This-Book-Abbie-Hoffman/dp/156858217X

Here's the literary equivalent.

I'd recommend using this model heatsink (it's generic, but uses high quality materials and can help give extra voltage to your IB OC):
http://www.alibaba.com/product-gs/550489924/wind_turbine_100kw_for_factory_use.html

Order a 50kg tub of thermal paste from this supplier:
http://www.alibaba.com/product-gs/313595664/Halnziye_Thermal_conductive_Grease_thermal_paste.html

This will provide you with knowledge of bomb production to test heat dissipation:
http://www.amazon.com/Steal-This-Book-Abbie-Hoffman/dp/156858217X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1377765382&sr=8-1&keywords=steal+this+book

When it's all set up, start your OC testing with a small gun powder explosive and work your way up to pipe bombs, while gradually increasing voltage. Try to avoid increasing bomb yield too much at a time, as it could lead to pitting, which can lower the quality of heat dissipation, or even brick your whole system if it overheats.

https://www.amazon.com/Steal-This-Book-Abbie-Hoffman/dp/156858217X

Everyone needs to feel that their life is purposeful and they are doing meaningful things. If you want to start a new career, maybe part-time, I really enjoyed the book What Color is Your Parachute?. I found it helps to really figure out what a person enjoys doing. You seem to have a lot of skills. Your skills would be very beneficial to even non-profits or even showing other people how to become entrepreneurs.

I think that you should sit down and give serious consideration to what you want to do in the future. I have a BFA in painting, and I worked for other people in various, non-art jobs for about 10 years before getting back to art. I find that the patience and creative problem solving I have developed from my art practice have served me well in these roles. But I'm a bit more analytical than many of my art friends :-p

If you're 18-20 years old I know it might be tough to sit down and map out the future, but I suggest taking a weekend to do just that. Start by reading 'What Color is Your Parachute' and do the flower exercise.

Here are some other thoughts:

• Passion is important, but it doesn't pay the bills - much less create or maintain a standard of living you can be proud of. And it certainly won't fund any kind of retirement. I know so many creatives in their 50's and 60's who will never be able to move away uninspiring work that makes money instead of traveling and / or creating personal passion projects.
  
  
• Build / maintain relationships with friends and professors now. That way it isn't weird to ask people in leadership roles for advice or letters of recommendation later.
  
  
• Start showing work wherever you can so you can learn about the finer details of doing so long before your exit show. Cafes are legit. It all counts.
  
  
• Read business books or do online training with people like Cory Huff. You can't expect your school to teach you about business, so why not start looking into it now so you're ready when you graduate.
  
  
• I don't agree that an MFA is necessary for a career in the (non-collegiate) art world. Especially as the economy gets worse, and it's harder for people to justify that amount of debt.
  
  
• Talk to as many people as you can about your projects / career goals. All opportunities start as an idea in someone's head and you only see opportunities in the classifieds when someone hasn't figured out a way to ignore or solve a problem on their own. How can you be a problem solver? How can you create win-win scenarios?
  
  
• Remind your family that nowadays there is no pipeline to success for any major.

So I struggled with this also when I was in my 20s. My family all went to college and we have numerous professionals in my family so the momentum was to go and study accounting....Dad kinda forced us all into that major. But I was miserable. It wasn't exciting enough for me....until I got my first job as an accountant working for a manufacturing business.

So I HATED cost accounting in college....like it was one of my least favorite classes and I struggled to get a C in the class. However this job was real world cost accounting and I LOVED IT!! Like literally was excited as hell to go into work each day because I got to use my brain to figure shit out.

So this right here taught me that there is a HUGE difference between the educational experience and how that will translate into post educational satisfaction on the job. This is something that aptitude tests can't possibly hope to measure let alone direct anyone into a major that will be satisfying. Now sometimes sure....people take those tests and magically find their path but most people I know or have talked to have struggled to find meaningful work....even with these stupid tests.

OK so where does that leave us? Well I think we need a better approach. For me, I had to start allowing myself to "do what I want" meaning, I started asking myself and noticing what was attracting my attention when I wasn't focused on working or accomplishing something......I found that I was drawn to computers and had always been drawn to them.

So while I was working, still miserable and in a job I fucking HATED, I started to ask myself what I wanted to do with computers. This questioning took many forms but it basically boils down to, "Ok SW, you can do anything and computers are a wide branch of study....what do you really enjoy or what would you think you might enjoy doing with them?" And the more I probed around this question I remember that I had always wanted to know how to fix them, how they worked internally, what were all those parts and pieces inside and what did they do and could I learn all of that stuff? I dunno but it sounded interesting to me so I'll spend a little time with it and see how I feel.

But I didn't know where to start with any of that so I headed to the bookstore to see if they had anything. This was back in the late 90s and I didn't have access to the WWW except at work so the bookstore was the best bet. I found out about A+ Certification and the more I looked into that the more appealing it was......so I bought a book and committed to studying it.

Every night I would come home exhausted from work, eat, exercise then plop down for a few hours of reading. I was totally absorbed in the material and 2 hours would pass like it was 5 minutes!!! This happened over and over again and somedays I didn't want to study but I'd committed myself so I did and over time I learned a LOT!

Now my story goes on and on from there but I'll skip a lot of the details. What it led me to was first building my own computer....then building them for work, then I wanted to learn about Linux so I started playing around with that and then I wanted to learn about programming so I started playing around with that which led be back to University at 36 to pursue a Comp Sci degree and here I am, some 9 years after graduating.....unemployed and happier than I can remember being in my life! :)

What's the point in all of this? Well follow your bliss. That's what I did and while you may think, "Wait you're unemployed why would I follow your suggestion?" just know that my unemployment was a choice....a new path and I needed time to give birth to my next area of focus....which is starting to emerge. :)

I posted this video a few days ago and it's a beautiful way of saying what I've said.

I know from experience how difficult Calc 3 is and Linear Algebra came right after that and kicked my ass like no other class I've ever had in my life. Holy shit that was an ass reaming!! What kept me going? My desire for that silly piece of paper and my commitment to getting my degree. Degrees have value precisely because they are hard to obtain!! Most people get pissed off at having to take so many classes that don't relate to what they want to do and over time, even the most highly motivated students will struggle.....I was more motivated than most and it was an absolute BITCH!!

However just because something is difficult doesn't mean I quit and go looking for a different path. I used to think that.....that if something was difficult or if I was struggling, I was off course and needed to find something better where I didn't struggle. WRONG....sometimes we need to press onward, dig deeper, STAY THE COURSE because we're on the right path but paths can be tough as fuck.

I KNEW I was on the right path because I had given myself enough time to explore and try on different ideas and paths and all that so I was willing to commit to the degree. Once committed, giving up wasn't an option because once you start quitting in life, it will forever be an option. NOPE, I wouldn't do that and I knew I had to press on.

I can't tell you if you're in the right degree or not or whether another one will be a better path for you. Only you can decide that but hopefully all these words will help you figure it out.

I found a couple of books to be extremely helpful when choosing a path and they are:

What color is your parachute

And

Zen and the Art of Making a Living

I wish you all the best on your journey.

So three years ago I was pretty much in the exact position, except I was probably even older than you. After a lot of just being miserable, I decided it was time to make a change. I started reading a bunch career-related self-help guides (What Colour is Your Parachute, Strengthfinder, and What To Do When It's Your Turn are some that I would recommend) and trying to think more critically about what I was good at naturally, and what I really wanted to do with my time. Then I began thinking about what I wanted my life to look like, ideally. Not just like, how much money I wanted to make, but things like where I wanted to live, who I would want to work with, what kind of projects and problems interest me. Then (and this was one of the most crucial steps) I started browsing the job application sections of websites of companies where I thought I might want to work. After finding out about a unique career I had never heard of before (User Experience Design), I went to meetups, talked to people, did more research. Went back to school (had to go to Langara for a year, which was the best thing I've ever done), networked at every opportunity I could, managed to get an internship, internship turned into a job, went back to UBC (because I realized that the job I really wanted to do would really befit from my degree–in cultural anthropology), and now I'm about to grad with honours. I should add that none of this has been easy, even though I really really enjoy school, school is super hard for me and causes me a huuuuuuuuge amount of anxiety. But, having the opporunity to envision, and then experience what the goal of my studies were was incredibly influential. So don't give up. Be realistic, be humble (being an undergrad in your late twenties requires a good deal of humility at times), but be persistent in pursuing what you really want to do with your time. After all, you'll be working for the majority of the rest of your life in all likelihood. Best of luck, hope this helped.

Kindle Version

iBooks

Yes. You can get it here.

I'm someone that had to learn those social skills, primarily through making mistakes and receiving help from friends/mentors. I'd probably see the person in a more positive light since they realized that it's an area they could improve upon and took steps to change things.


Also, they should check out Crucial Conversations. It helped me a lot in the past.

As an aside, you might also enjoy a similar communication approach called Crucial Conversations, which is similarly focused on going beyond silence and violence in dialogue.

Their approach is specifically geared towards workplace trainings, which is why I mention it. Here's some more info if you're interested:

• Book
  
• Events
  
• Trainings
  
• Talk by the author
  
  I just finished the book and really enjoyed it as a compliment to NVC.

Hmmmmm for your specific situation, I recommend "the Secret Handshake"

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But for conflict resolution in general (where you are facilitating - not trying to save your own ass) I recommend Getting to Yes and Crucial Conversations

I've been in QA for about three years - started out in Support, kept getting stuck with the "weird" tickets, got better at troubleshooting and bug hunting, and eventually started doing testing with the dev team. Working at very small startups helped speed this process up tremendously. I'm now working at a ~500 person company (huuuuuge from my perspective, I'm used to a dozen coworkers, tops!) and learned Selenium/Capybara automated tests about a year ago.

I haven't found any quality-related books that have interested me, and most of the technical resources I've found have just been whatever pops up on Google/Stack Overflow. I am also subscribed to this subreddit, and /r/qualityassurance, but they're both pretty low-traffic, and I wish more articles were shared here. If there are any blog posts that have resonated with you, I'd love to take a look as well!

The best thing I've done for myself, technically, was re-writing our automated UI test suite in POM. This ended up saving me hours of work a few months later when we added a bunch of new features, and I just had to copy-paste a few things to test for them. This is a good overview:

https://www.guru99.com/page-object-model-pom-page-factory-in-selenium-ultimate-guide.html

Because of how much grief this saved me, I continue to evangelize for it!

I can, however, recommend some management/team/soft skills/business-y books! I'm not in love with my current company, so I end up reading a lot of these to keep myself sane and motivated. Here are some of the ones I've liked the best:

• First, Break All The Rules: What the World's Greatest Managers Do Differently
  
• The Manager's Path: A Guide for Tech Leaders Navigating Growth and Change
  
• Good Boss, Bad Boss: How to Be the Best... and Learn from the Worst
  
• Overcoming the Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Field Guide for Leaders, Managers, and Facilitators
  
• Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
  
• The Accidental Creative: How to Be Brilliant at a Moment's Notice
  
• Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High
  
• Crucial Accountability: Tools for Resolving Violated Expectations, Broken Commitments, and Bad Behavior - Kindle version on sale today for $2!
  
• Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships
  
  A lot of these are available in libraries too, and I've made a habit of checking them out there, and buying them if I really like them.
  
  I hope this helps!

http://www.amazon.com/Good-They-Cant-Ignore-You-ebook/dp/B0076DDBJ6

I just finished reading a book that I really wish I'd read five or six years ago: So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport. Basically, it points out flaws in the "follow your passion" ideology and offers an alternative route of developing marketable skills and selling them. You sound like you have some decent skills, so if you focus on honing the skills you enjoy to the point of being able to innovate them and push to the next opportunities, you can do well.

Dan Miller's 48 Days to the Work You Love is also handy for cross-transferable skills and career-hopping.

Hope these help!

I would suggest you check out this book. great for starting out.

https://youtu.be/st5CUkIHIM0?list=PLb7WxVCajLYH1vj6vHh-t79VPvtPIuapK

These are two great videos by MetalMusicMan to start you on the basics.

You also may want to check out Gootecks book, Simplifying Street Fighter: A New Player's Guide to Preparing for Street Fighter 5 http://www.amazon.com/Simplifying-Street-Fighter-Players-Preparing-ebook/dp/B015KLJCJI

f you are new to fighting games and this is something you are serious about it can get very frustrating sometimes but, keep with it and if you ever run into any problems never be afraid to ask someone.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Simplifying-Street-Fighter-Players-Preparing-ebook/dp/B015KLJCJI

Watch these video's and take notes.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZrmoaJYUVTau3RHXrqPM_kwa9WxXik20
Read this book.
http://www.amazon.com/Simplifying-Street-Fighter-Players-Preparing-ebook/dp/B015KLJCJI/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1453422358&sr=8-1&keywords=gootecks

Welcome to the community! A good place to start, although the tutorial takes place on an older version of the game, is the VesperArcade tutorials

This links to Chapter 5, where he'll get into just about where you are knowledge wise. They're pretty long but they cover everything you need to know in terms of what people will be doing in matches.

After that, as mentioned below Gootecks' book is a really great read for learning the basics of Street Fighter gameplay. Link to the book! There's a free trial for Kindle Unlimited so you'd be able to read it for free.

It's not a long book by any means, so you'll be able to finish it and study it thoroughly by the time the trial ends. Have fun!

You may find Do What You Are an interesting read

Hey! this is a super late reply but read this book... Sorry about the hyperlink I dont know how to make it small lol. The book is super comprehensive and talks specifically about MBTI and careers you will excel in and like based off of your type.

https://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X/ref=sr_1_1?gclid=CjwKCAjwkenqBRBgEiwA-bZVtv-9BQAzI2Y8AcpnGJ-0yD8b6IQFpowstNa5UT5kqlMLTIkUrkQo0hoC-A0QAvD_BwE&hvadid=241655491166&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9011804&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t1&hvqmt=e&hvrand=8323587275531773676&hvtargid=aud-649564993678%3Akwd-94258800&hydadcr=21874_10169699&keywords=do+what+you+are&qid=1566223940&s=gateway&sr=8-1

Your question is, "what do I want to be?" then?

That is a life long quest. Most people have more than one career in their life times.

If you're not sure where your interests lie, you could try doing some personality / aptitude testing. Your school counselling office probably offers it.

One book I found helpful when I was at a cross-roads in terms of career paths was Do What You Are -- it helps you figure out what your Myers Briggs personality type is and then has examples of people in the different types who have different careers, how their career plays to their strengths, etc. It's probably in your library or it's on Amazon (https://www.amazon.ca/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X ) (I have no affiliate links).

The other book some people like for this is What Color is Your Parachute? but I haven't tried it myself. It's commonly available and probably at your local library or used book store.

I found the mental exercises in Do What You Are extremely helpful in my own career.

https://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X

An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth

http://www.amazon.com/Astronauts-Guide-Life-Earth-Determination/dp/0316253014/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1395284503&sr=8-1&keywords=astronaut+guide

Since I don't see it here already I'll recommend Col. Chris Hadfield's book "An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth: What Going to Space Taught Me About Ingenuity, Determination, and Being Prepared for Anything". It's a fantastic read. It's also on Audible if that's more your thing.

Hadfield's is An Astronaut's Guide to Life On Earth. Great read! I usually give a copy out every Christmas to some random family member.

> just like our hearts, when we grew up and realized we'll never become an astronaut.

One of us made it. Great book, too.

Read the book An Astronauts Guide To Life On Earth, it chronicles Chris Hadfield's entire journey. Basically he made up his mind as a child that he was going to do everything in his power to become an astronaut, and he kept doing that until he was one.

Cool. I would recommend checking out Freakonomics*, The Undercover Economist*, and 30-Second Economics. These are some (relatively) fun books that give a little insight into economics. ^*The ^sequels ^are ^great ^too.

And back to the experiment thing: remember that the decisions that people make when confronted with a choice is also economics, just like studying how a single photon moves is still physics, even though both are part of something much bigger.

The Undercover Economist changed my view of how and why companies price products. And why "fair trade" products are way overpriced.

Every time I go into a store, I think of that book. So maybe you should not read it ... it is more of a curse.

thanks for sharing the link. even if it helps one soilder overcome PMO addiction, you have done a great deed. I learned about mindfulness from wisdom of a psychopath. It pretty much the same things as why be worried about things that MIGHT happen in the next 5 minutes,5 hours, or even 5 days. You are stuck in the present NOW. So be proud that you made it to the 4th day, not that you might relapse in the future, because for all you know, you could klast the whole war and than some.

Thanks for the link once again. BLUA

It isn't the same people, but it's the same attitude in different people: PUNISH, wrapped up in the blanket "Justice".

When really the approach that works is "Lock up fewer, Imprison lightly as a deterrent, Put tight safeguards on the warden and staff to prevent abuse, Add programs and research to drop recidivism". Look at prison pops and recidivism in countries that do that.

As to psychopaths, http://www.amazon.com/The-Wisdom-Psychopaths-Killers-Success/dp/0374291357 has some really interesting thing to talk about the different types. They may require institutional living for the rest of their lives or not.

> It has almost nothing to do with the brain, and almost everything to do with socialization

Not true. I can't speak to Ailenus1997's diagnosis, but there's a lot of research on sociopaths showing that their brains are different. Source: The Wisdom of Psychopaths

Understanding their dynamics is very important. studying other collective systems should teach us lessons about how they work. (this is something I have spent a lot of time on).

I highly recommend starting with the [Evolution of Cooperation](http://www.amazon.com/The-Evolution-Cooperation-Revised-Edition
/dp/0465005640) by Robert Axelrod.

The Complexity of Cooperation goes into how these dynamics can be modeled to create a better society.

There are plenty of resources and examples in society that prove that we can engineer a better society. This is our chance to do so.

I encourage anyone who want to discuss the specifics and methods to keep up the discussion as they wish. I am glad to go into some of the details as anyone wants to.

The Evolution of Cooperation

Oh, I like you! What you did falls into the Robert Axelrod The Evolution of Cooperation territory.

A Ph.D. is Not Enough

Academia is basically full. Unless you work your ass off for a decade, in which case you might have a chance. Networking is critical, and even that might only network you into a dead-end path. Even getting into academia isn't all that you might have expected. There are some amazingly smart physicists (i.e., clearly smarter than some Nobel prize winners) that nobody has ever heard of.

Not a direct answer to your question, but a must read for anyone looking towards getting a PHD in STEM:

https://smile.amazon.com/PhD-Not-Enough-Survival-Science/dp/0465022227/ref=smi_www_rco2_go_smi_g2923230482?_encoding=UTF8&%2AVersion%2A=1&%2Aentries%2A=0&ie=UTF8

There are some books that give good insights into navigating the grad school process, including useful advice about how to map out important milestones (e.g. how to publish, navigating conferences, and most importantly setting yourself up early to be successful on the job market.)

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lol

someone already did it, but they only want $12.88

why would someone pay so much money to someone who obviously doesn't believe they can make it, so they're trying to make this their side hustle?

Two suggested books for people thinking about or currently pursuing a (science) PhD:

Make Your Mark in Science: Creativity, Presenting, Publishing, and Patents, a Guide for Young Scientists
A PhD is Not Enough! A Guide to Survival in Science

The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle, I'm only half finished, and i really like it so far. He does a good job explaining how talent is nurtured and grown rather than won through a genetic lottery and backs up his findings with research. Most importantly its getting me motivated.

These are three that have my highest recommendation! I’ve read these books with other performing arts teachers in book study groups, and believe that they should be required reading for all teachers!

The Talent Code: Greatness Isn't Born. It's Grown. Here's How.

Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us.

You Win in the Locker Room First: The 7 C's to Build a Winning Team in Business, Sports, and Life.

That rule (50:30:20) originally came from Elizabeth Warren (Massachusetts senator)'s book [All Your Worth: The Ultimate Lifetime Money Plan] (https://www.amazon.co.uk/All-Your-Worth-Ultimate-Lifetime/dp/0743269888). It's a really good primer on financial planning too.

I follow her rule and mine split is:

30% - Needs (rent bills groceries transport, mandatory stuff)

17% - Wants (not including holidays)

7% - Wants Holidays

48% - Post Tax Savings

Im reminded of this book: Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less

I'm not in humanities/social sciences but here's my weekday routine.

• 4:50am alarm.
  
• 5:30am -- In my home office for some time for prayer, journaling.
  
• 6-7am -- An hour of grading each morning before going to work.
  
• 7-8am -- Get my kids up, fed, dressed, and off to school.
  
• 8:30am -- In the campus office.
  
  What happens during the day depends. I teach two classes 9-11am on MWF and a class 11:30-12:45 TR. I hold office hours 4x a week and I try not to plan anything during then. Some days I have committee meetings, and some of those are on my campus while others are at our second campus so there's a bus ride involved. I set aside 9:30-11am every TR for research and academic writing. I usually grade and prep courses for a couple of hours each day. The rest of it is sort of flex time depending on what the big needs are.
  
  But then the rest of the day is kind of fixed. Between 4-5pm I leave to go get my kids from after-school care. Then the rest of the evening is devoted to family -- making dinner, helping with homework, playing video games with the kids, maybe doing a quick outing to the mall or something.
  
  Basically I force myself to stop working at this point because family >>> career, also I have found that when I work in the evenings the quality of the work really sucks. I am a lot more productive the next day after just relaxing and being with my family and getting a decent night's sleep and then hitting it early in the morning. Although, I do like to read stuff in the evenings that might be sort of profession-related, for example I'm reading Essentialism by Greg McKeown right now and it is really helping me think clearly about my job and my career and daily work.
  
  On the weekends I prefer not to work at all. However today (Saturday) I need to find some time to do a little catching up on grading. Sundays I do not work at all because of religious observances, although I do my GTD weekly review every Sunday afternoon.
  
  For context, I am in my 20th year of being in the profession, got tenure at one school (small liberal arts college) before leaving and am up for tenure and promotion to full professor next year at my current institution (large regional teaching-focused university with a research component) so if people are thinking this is some kind of slacker schedule then just realize that it's working fine for me.

Here are all the books with amazon links, Alphabetical order :)

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• Blue Ocean Strategy: How to Create Uncontested Market Space and Make Competition Irrelevant by W. Chan Kim et al. Link: http://amzn.com/1591396190
  
• Delivering Happiness: A Path to Profits, Passion, and Purpose by Tony Hsieh et al. Link: http://amzn.com/160941280X
  
• Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown Link: http://amzn.com/0804137382
  
• Founders at Work: Stories of Startups' Early Days by Jessica Livingston Link: http://amzn.com/1590597141
  
• How Google Works by Eric Schmidt et al. Link: http://amzn.com/1455582344
  
• Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook: How to Tell Your Story in a Noisy Social World by Gary Vaynerchuk Link: http://amzn.com/006227306X
  
• Losing My Virginity: How I Survived, Had Fun, and Made a Fortune Doing Business My Way by Richard Branson Link: http://amzn.com/0307720748
  
• Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die by Chip Heath et al. Link: http://amzn.com/1400064287
  
• Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck Link: http://amzn.com/0345472322
  
• Never Eat Alone, Expanded and Updated: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time by Keith Ferrazzi et al. Link: http://amzn.com/0385346654
  
• Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable by Tim S. Grover et al. Link: http://amzn.com/1476714207
  
• Rework by Jason Fried et al. Link: http://amzn.com/0307463745
  
• Talent is Overrated: What Really Separates World-Class Performers from Everybody Else by Geoff Colvin Link: http://amzn.com/1591842948
  
• The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich by Timothy Ferriss Link: http://amzn.com/0307465357
  
• The Choose Yourself Guide To Wealth by James Altucher Link: http://amzn.com/150100994X
  
• The Difference Between God and Larry Ellison: *God Doesn't Think He's Larry Ellison by Mike Wilson Link: http://amzn.com/0060008768
  
• The Hard Thing About Hard Things: Building a Business When There Are No Easy Answers by Ben Horowitz Link: http://amzn.com/0062273205
  
• The Innovator's Dilemma: The Revolutionary Book That Will Change the Way You Do Business by Clayton M. Christensen Link: http://amzn.com/0062060244
  
• The Lean Startup: How Today's Entrepreneurs Use Continuous Innovation to Create Radically Successful Businesses by Eric Ries Link: http://amzn.com/0307887898
  
• The Millionaire Fastlane: Crack the Code to Wealth and Live Rich for a Lifetime by MJ DeMarco Link: http://amzn.com/B004BDOUAI
  
• The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph by Ryan Holiday Link: http://amzn.com/1591846358
  
• The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller et al. Link: http://amzn.com/1885167776
  
• The Startup Owner's Manual: The Step-By-Step Guide for Building a Great Company by Steve Blank et al. Link: http://amzn.com/0984999302
  
• The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference by Malcolm Gladwell Link: http://amzn.com/0316346624
  
• Traction: How Any Startup Can Achieve Explosive Customer Growth by Gabriel Weinberg et al. Link: http://amzn.com/1591848369
  
• Unlabel: Selling You Without Selling Out by Marc Ecko Link: http://amzn.com/1451685319
  
• Zero to One: Notes on Startups, or How to Build the Future by Peter Thiel et al. Link: http://amzn.com/0804139296

I am in a similar situation, feeling that my life is passing me by, without me accomplishing much. Every day folds into the next languidly. Even the weekends have begun to look the same as any other.
A friend recommended this book to me and asked me not to skimp on its exercises "Designing your Life " "https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321".
The book is a product of a popular namesake course at Stanford. Knowing this made me wish I was reading this book in my 20s rather than in my late 30s.
Anyways, as usual the book began well for me, but when it was time to put in a regular effort to analyze my habits and life, I reverted to the same lack-luster effort from my end.
But, I do believe that this could help you - if , unlike me, you take it seriously and apply yourself to its exercises and infer the results correctly.
Heck, writing about this has made me want to go back to it and give it another shot.

Feel the same way. Society wasn't built for us. I spend most of my day dreaming of a place where I can let loose and finally be valued for things I excel at. Fortunately I'm working on an escape hatch that will take another few years to get into. Then, perhaps, I'll have my tiny house of the beach and a job I can enjoy. Don't hang in there, make a plan and go for it. I don't know much about passive income, but definitely check out this book: https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321

I've been exactly where you are. ADHD was, and in many ways still is, a defining feature of my life. Here's what I wish I'd known when I was your age:

-If you're feeling overwhelmed, there's nothing wrong with slowing down for a while. Consider dropping any honors or AP classes and taking an easier course load. The very worst case scenario is that if you want to attend a four-year-college, you'll have to attend community college first. By the time you're an adult, not even the world's most colossal snobs will care where you spent your first two years of university.

-Become an organizational freak, and do it ASAP. Keep your room squeaky clean at all times. Be someone who has a conscious system for staying on track. One of the most beloved systems for this, which also helps people without ADHD, is laid out in Getting Things Done by David Allen

-Start thinking about what you want your life to be like as an adult. What kind of career do you want? How important is money to you now, and how important do you think it will be by the time you're closing in on 30? What kind of work can you do for an extended period of time without making yourself completely miserable? These things are important for everyone to think about, but I think people with ADHD are even more prone to ignoring these questions. One of the most well-received books for helping address these questions is Designing Your Life, which is based on a course at Princeton. (Disclaimer: I just started reading it, so I can't offer a full assessment. But it seems like a book that someone in your situation would greatly benefit from reading.)

-Get physically fit, whatever that means to you. If fitness means being able to run marathons or swim fast, learn to do that. If it means looking in the mirror and seeing a ripped physique, learn to lift weights properly. Fitness is one of the world's most reliable confidence boosters, and if you're someone who struggles with ADHD, anything that can make you feel better about yourself is something you'll want to consider doing.

-Read about successful people with ADHD. It turns out that a lot of people with ADHD tend to perform well in creative and entrepreneurial endeavors. Personally, I'm working on building my own business, and I wish I'd started doing that a long time ago.

-Medication is an option, but don't rely on it exclusively. A pill isn't going to fix your ADHD, but it might put you in a frame of mind that helps you manage it more easily. Personally I can't deal with the side effects of the ADHD meds I've tried, so I don't currently take them.

I feel everyone can benefit from reading Extreme Onership

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Do yourself a favor: breathe.

As many have said, we’ve been in similar situations in - and out - of the organization.

Frustration is a fantastic motivator. It’s what you choose to do with it that will matter most. Whatever the course you choose: it will work out. One is harder, Leadership is a hardship. The burden of command, even as a teenager, comes with strife. That’s what also makes it fulfilling. Because that strife gives you a stepping stone to create accomplishment.

Go read Extreme Ownership (Link: https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1250183863/). It’s also available in audiobook. It may seem like a hefty book - and it is - but it’s an easy read. And, it’s an impactful read. I think there’s quite a bit that, in your situation, you’ll appreciate and can use to help you endure. Discipline equals freedom. Dig-in, prioritize and execute, and get after it. Or don’t. Your choice.

Whatever your choice may be, realize that you’re responsible for you. You have to live with the choice you make - make a difference or quit. If you leave, who will lead your cadets?

I hear you, I've been in seen scenarios just like this play out. If gathered the fact that sometimes Management knows they have to deal with some pushback when someone is passed over for a promotion, but it usually works out though not always in the ideal manner (Someone quit, gets fired due to insubordination, or lateral transfer).

I'm sure you needed to vent and also....tired. If you can, once everything is determined, settled in, take time off. I think for me if I would have had a two week vacation (paid or unpaid) I would have been able to handle my situation better but though I know outcome would have been the same (constructive dismissal situation).

You seem to have a good head about yourself, doing the right thing because it's the right thing to do... keep the attitude as positive as you can. Hopefully it will be noticed not just by upper but anyone you work with. Though sometimes this road is the one that at times, is the hardest. Keeping a good attitude will also keep you in competition for the job.

I also recommend the audio book Extreme Ownership. It may help you to improve your skills in how to manage up and manage down.

I'll also suggest books on Stoicism and Philosophy. However, before you jump right into the ancient/classical wisdom I'd recommend a modern introduction to introduce and help digest the principles.

A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy by William Irvine.

Then - Move onto Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and the rest. A great way to embrace stoic ideas daily is The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday

Also, strong recommendations for:

• How to Win Friends and Influence People
  
• Extreme Ownership - Jocko Willink

If you read this, I highly recommend following it up with Fooled by Randomness. Part of the book debunks "The Millionaire Next Door" because the author of "Next Door" fails to take into account selection bias. He only interviews people who already succeeded and leaves out all the thousands/millions of people that did the same things, but failed.

It's not to say that "Millionaire Next Door" isn't a good read and doesn't have interesting advice. It's just that it's misleading as to your chances of actual success.

I guess I'm hoping for something that will help me see the world in a different light.

Read a couple really good books like this, both fiction and non-fiction, and you can really add some depth to your thoughts.

I'm reading Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance right now, and loving it, but something like The Elegant Universe or Fooled by Randomness can have the same effect.

Alternatively, a hilarious book would also be great. Haven't read a good book that make me literally LOL in a long while (I am America and So Can You was probably the last one), so if you think you've got one, I'd love to see it. =D

> the process of creating a resume is a time honored and accepted rite for the attainment of employment

This x 1000. Your whole post is excellent advice. One thing the OP might want to send out an intent for is some guidance on creating a great resume.

And I would also MASSIVELY recommend the following books, which most libraries either have on hand or can order in (for free). If you can only get one, I'd go with the first one.

So Good They Can't Ignore You, by Cal Newport
Sample/reviews/etc: https://www.amazon.com/Good-They-Cant-Ignore-You/dp/1455509124

What Color is Your Parachute, by Richard N. Bolles (don't worry if the library copy is a few years old, the publishers update it every year but it doesn't actually change that much)
Sample, etc.: https://www.amazon.com/What-Color-Your-Parachute-2016/dp/1501274643

Be What You Are, by Paul Tieger, Barbara Barron and Kelly Tieger
Sample, etc.: https://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X

Relevant: https://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?adgrpid=57584801193&gclid=Cj0KCQjwhdTqBRDNARIsABsOl9-RwqocChJ1s2qpZsPYge0gkefxM2enWA4nufK89EaSbz5sybyoOMEaAklxEALw_wcB&hvadid=274750187263&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=1022656&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t2&hvqmt=e&hvrand=16491175728915983124&hvtargid=kwd-317210483945&hydadcr=15153_10362778&keywords=do+what+you+are+book&qid=1565932119&s=gateway&sr=8-2

Really liked this book which breaks down suggested career paths based on personality

I'd go to your local library and check out some career-testing books. I was your age and tried doing it based on my gut intuition, and ended up going back to grad school for a $35k degree that I never used. I ended up in a boring writing job for 5 years, and really wish I would have done more research before wasting all that time and money. I found this book to be super helpful. Now I'm back in school for something that interests me AND is super practical!

I think the "Do What You Love" mantra has been oversold. Somebody has to mop the floors. You may need to find that "wind in your air" zeal outside of the 9 to 5. Most jobs are pretty mundane.

That said, if you haven't read Do What You Are, I would suggest it. The theory is sound. Instead of choosing a career based on demand, aptitude or interest, you choose a career based on your personality. There is some evidence that if you are floundering and undecided what you want to be when you grow up, you at least consider jobs that match your personality. Interest and aptitude change too much. Personality is more fixed.

I was a teacher for a few years and realized that that field was more of a calling and I wasn't cut out for it: long hours, low pay, thankless administrators, unappreciative parents, on and on.

This is a great book for finding work that would go well with your personality type. Most libraries would have it.

https://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X

You might find https://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X to be helpful.

Alan Watts: https://youtu.be/khOaAHK7efc

In Chris Hadfield's book An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth, he explains you're peeing for science roughly 25% of the time, and a urine collection can take around 40 minutes to complete.

>First you need to stretch that hot water bottle-esque bag to be sure the little septum between the condom and the bag is as open as it can be, so the force of your pee will overcome the little one-way valve and fill up the bag rather than squirting back out and all over you, all over the walls, all over—you get the picture. Once the bag is filled, you put it in a Ziploc bag just in case it leaks (at least once, it will) and shake it vigorously to make sure the chemical is mixed well with the urine.

>At this point, when your hands are covered with blobs of urine and drops are floating around the bathroom, too, it’s usually helpful to remind yourself that you are doing all this in the name of scientific inquiry. Take a minute to clean yourself up and while you’re at it, grab a disinfectant wipe—surely you’ve got a free hand!—and clean the ceilings and walls, too.

>All right, it’s time to fill the test tubes: depending on the experiment, sometimes you’ll only need to fill one, but typically it will be five. With a Sharpie, label each test tube with the time, date and your name. While you were shaking up the urine and chemical, bubbles formed in the sack, so now you need to spin it—gently!—like a centrifuge, so all the bubbles collect at the condom end. Then, through the little blue diaphragm, fill each test tube three-quarters full so there’s room for expansion after the sample freezes. Luckily, the tubes have Velcro on them so you can stick them to the wall. Once you’re done, seal up the big bag in the Ziploc, burping out any air, and clean yourself up again.

>Now it’s time to fire up the bar code reader and bar code the test tubes, then put them in a mesh bag and place it in a special -140 degree freezer, called a MELFI. It looks like something you’d see in a morgue, complete with sliding drawers that contain long, rectangular boxes. They’re so cold that you have to wear special white gloves to handle them, and you can only keep the freezer open for 60 seconds, so you don’t compromise any of the other biological samples already in there. That’s tricky, though, because as soon as you open a box, a bunch of previously filled mesh bags come floating out. Like a beekeeper, you’ve got to shove them back in the hive along with the new bag and close that drawer cleanly—if even a tiny corner of fabric gets caught, the thing will jam. This is actually something we practiced doing on the ground, where, of course, nothing was weightless and trying to escape. Here comes the fun part (seriously): as you slide the drawer back in, it flushes out ice crystals that envelop your upper body like the coolest cloud.

>Take off your gloves: you’re all done! And the whole procedure only took 40 minutes or so. Now you know how much time you’ll need to budget every single time you pee over the next four days, which is typically how long you have to give samples for any one experiment. Oh, and don’t forget to coordinate bathroom trips with crewmates who are also urinating for science—the MELFI can only be opened once every 45 minutes.

Astronauts Guide To Life on Earth

I don't read much non fiction but I demolished this book and loved every page.

Currently reading Lord of Flies, 1954 and Don Quixote, 1605.

I already have had interest on literature, philosophy and books in general since... since I can remember. :/ But it was Oom Pram's Buru Tetralogie that made me fall deeper in love with books and classic literature in general.

Then, when I have started living abroad to study, I have developed big interests on classic world literature (Heck I even just learned Latin to understand about the 1500 years span of human literatures and maybe to read them myself when I have the sufficient skills to do so. Afterall, one of my personal reasons to learn language is to read the literature on its original language, because nothing match the beauty and uniqueness of one language that may 'lost' in translation).

As a poor student with tight budget and little spare time, I tried to buy second-hand books and read it time to time, like during the commuting time to class, etc.

I know, my finished read-list is not that great. Since the last months I have just finished reading George Orwell's 1984 and Animal Farm,,also Chris Hadfield's An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth.

My to-read-list has been reached to dozens and dozens of great titles. I try to fulfill it little by little like a small child.

I don't quite know about classic literature club or anything like that. I do realize that my interests are mostly unmainstream and heavy for my age. Thus I mostly enjoy them myself and I am quite content and happy with it. But if you want someone to discuss or talk, I can offer you a chance to geek-ly talk about that. Just drop a PM on me if you're interested and maybe we can exchange our contacts and do some 'book exchange' within each other.

P. S. Oscar Wilde's Picture of Dorian Grey is also on my to-read-list. Honestly I'm quite surprised to know that there is someone who also read literature from that time.

Since you posted it in this sub, check out the book by Chris Hadfield

An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth: What Going to Space Taught Me About Ingenuity, Determination, and Being Prepared for Anything

His interviews are great and it should help you get some perspective of what kind of traits you need to work on.

I find it's always helpful to find role models to keep motivated.

Also, you should probably do some research about the careers of UK astronauts. I'm not sure if they are all military or engineers. That way you can find the path that fits you best and start cutting it up into smaller and more manageable steps.

So I assume that all of us who think he's awesome will buy the book. Right?

Here's a link to make it easier:

http://www.amazon.com/Astronauts-Guide-Life-Earth-Determination/dp/0316253014/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1383102020&sr=1-1&keywords=chris+hadfield

Hi-jacking the top comment because I looked for it.

For the lazy, here it is on amazon for $16.80. [GGG no referral link]

Downvotes... downvotes everywhere.

You're a little vicious in your critique, but I don't think you're wrong. I thought this was going to be the manga version of Primitive Technology; I loved watching them go into detail on how they were building up from 0.

But... then the village came up and I thought 'oh, maybe some of them got out of their shells early? Decided that technology was to blame for their predicament and decided to 'start anew' instead?' 'Oh... it's from his father. Who's an astronaut. Who puts his faith in his child who is turned into stone, and has no way of knowing whatsoever if it's possible to reverse the process.'

^(ensuing rant... ye have been warned...)

Like they couldn't have started trying to reverse the process themselves? The technological retrieval would have bean an awesome idea. You've just established the opportunity to completely reboot society to be more aware of the earth, the affects technology & society has on it, you've just completely stopped all carbon emissions, and allowed the animal kingdom to flourish (invasive species notwithstanding), and establish a society with all the benefits of the last 200k years.

Starting from 0 with some of the most intelligent minds on the planet who are literally trained constantly to face insane scenarios. Anyone who's read Chris Hadfield's book knows the amount of crazy situations they come up with D&D style just to play out how to survive. (eg: you're on the ISS, someone has just broken their leg and is losing blood... roll dice okay, a fire just broke out. You can't handle both. What do you do?)

They are problem solvers to the nth degree, who stare down the absolute worst case scenario, plan for it, and are always moving forward. No one in their right mind would rely on a child who may or may not be alive to 'rebuild society' when you have that much talent at your fingertips.


There really is so much I'm happy to accept (3700 year old trees; the complete absence of structures; the massively changed landscape... even if Japan does live near a fault) for the sake of watching these characters deal with a tough situation. I'll be curious to see where it goes (maybe someone in their team or folks who survived underground did try to make a mainland society). But... now it feels cheapened.

Can't tell ...

... but just in case:

An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth

Still trying to get through "An Astronauts Guide to Life on Earth" but I'm off early today, so I should have more than enough time!

About four chapters in, it's a great read and very funny at times.

I cited a source, https://www.amazon.com/Astronauts-Guide-Life-Earth-Determination/dp/0316253030/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1549030021&sr=8-1&keywords=an+astronauts+guide+to+life+on+earth. I can't find the pages because I was borrowing a friend's copy, and it's a general sentiment he expresses multiple times vs a single quote, but it's there.

Also, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_spaceflight-related_accidents_and_incidents#During_spaceflight.

Of the 18 known in flight deaths, 4 were Soviet, none since 1971.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_spaceflight-related_accidents_and_incidents#During_training_or_testing also seems to be dominated by Americans.

I will grant you that the US has a better record for on the ground preflight safety which did kill a lot of non flight crew Soviets and Chinese when rockets blew up during fueling etc.

An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth by Col. Chris Hadfield. Seriously. Read it. It has helped me immensely.

I think one problem people usually have is being too precious about it and end up feeling too intimidated to write as much as you want or at all. Especially with pen and paper it's easy to feel that you shouldn't ruin this beautiful physical objects with your crappy handwriting and unimportant stuffs. I think I heard Merlin on one of the All the Great Shows™ talked about this and solved this by scribbling on the first page of a notebook then it's ruined already you can feel easy. But since you're having a yearly theme of sweating the small stuff maybe this doesn't bother you at all.

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Oh and the yearly theme reminded of Chris Hadfield's book where there's literally a chapter on sweating the small stuff. Is that where it came from? If not it might be an interesting read for you

For anyone that wants to learn more about this, I recommend reading The Undercover Economist

Yes for Varian, no for Freakonomics. For pop economics that actually has economic content, try the Undercover Economist

O melhor é o Undercover Economist.

oh that guy i hate how that guy writes - http://timharford.com/articles/

but a couple of the stories in his videos was pretty good/interesting

funny how his recent piece implies how slow progress is -- http://timharford.com/2017/07/we-are-still-waiting-for-the-robot-revolution/

but it's just about nothing new

yea all the general stuff in econ or anything is too general

i wanna know where the good stuff is, maybe they're in journals

i wish someone summarised those stuff so all the info was consumed and society woud be more intellgient -- instead of doing nothing which leads to the problems said and unsaid in the main

seems like a pop book but worst -- https://www.amazon.com/Undercover-Economist-Tim-Harford/product-reviews/0345494016/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_viewopt_sr?&filterByStar=critical&pageNumber=1

hate outdated stuff also

It does sound like you could have psychopathic traits, although like others said it sounds harsh to say because of the negative association that word has. Not all psychopaths are serial killers of course, in fact there was an interesting book written not too long ago called "The Wisdom of Psychopaths" http://www.amazon.com/The-Wisdom-Psychopaths-Killers-Success/dp/0374291357

Since it sounds like this trait does bother you, you know it's not normal and want to fix it, then first realize that reflects well on you. Secondly, therapy would be a good place to start. Good luck on your journey of self discovery. I hope you can get the help you need.

Police are two to four times as likely to be abusing in the home environment in comparison to the national average.

According to Kevin Dutton, law enforcement is among one of the leading professions to appeal to sociopathic behavior.

Police work attracts more individuals generally inclined to violence and racism than most any other Government job.

The Evolution of Cooperation by Robert Axelrod might be something you would find interesting.

https://www.amazon.com/Evolution-Cooperation-Revised-Robert-Axelrod/dp/0465005640

yeah that guy

I can't recommend Axelrod's "The Evolution of Cooperation" enough. Hopefully it's close to what you're looking for. It touches on the biological, but much of the book builds on simulations of abstract games.

Definitely am aware of that -- recently finished reading "A PhD is Not Enough!"

https://www.amazon.com/PhD-Not-Enough-Survival-Science/dp/0465022227

I agree.. that is a blessing and a curse. If you talk to established R&D managers looking to hire, they hate "generalists", they want very specialized people. Even academics say things like this (e.g. http://www.amazon.com/PhD-Is-Not-Enough-Survival/dp/0465022227)

If you specialize in the wrong area that goes out of focus though, you are left in the middle of nowhere. (e.g. fuel cells come and go, conducting polymers--synthetic metals, etc.)

1. Treat it like a job. Do 9am-5pm at your desk, every week day, working productively. No facebook, no newspaper. No extra long lunches. Do not work late nights/weekends unless ABSOLUTELY necessary.
   
   
2. Keep yourself accountable for progress. Each week send an email to your supervisor, "this is what I did, this is what I plan to do". Before you send your email, check against last week to see how you did.
   
   
3. This is a good book. It's UK centric which seems like it will help you: https://www.amazon.com/How-get-PhD-handbook-supervisors/dp/0335242022
   
   
4. This is another good book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/PhD-Not-Enough-Survival-Science/dp/0465022227/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485777868&sr=8-1-spell&keywords=a+phd+isnot+enough
   

So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport of Study Hacks was a great read. I've been looking for more books that are similar.

A PhD Is Not Enough! is a good book for those in the sciences, as well as Letters to a Young Scientist by EO Wilson.

I've always heard the basic advice of "think of where you want to be, and try to figure out how others got there" (educational requrements et c.). However, for my personal journey, I'm just as lost as the next guy.

I highly recommend books A PhD is not enough, and PhD grind, they answer a lot of questions and I wish I've read it before starting my PhD.

Depending on your field, it might be the case that you would get a good position right after your defense, especially since you already have a lot of industry experience and willing to teach. Furthermore, a lot of universities practice 'equal opportunity' policies which forces them to not discriminate based on gender, age, or race. So this might be a good part that by your defense you would be in your early 40's.

It might be a good idea to find someone from your target field and talk to them about their path to their current position, how many postdocs they had to do and so on. Maybe you will find out that some of them don't even have a PhD degree, I don't know. A lot of these things depend on your field.

If I were you, though, I would consider other ways to scratch that teaching itch. Getting a PhD is a daunting and not that rewarding. But then again, it's a nice change of pace and might be your 3-5 years vacation.

After reading the other posters, I have a couple more thoughts:

• An engineering degree does come with a unique reward, that is, you become a registered Professional Engineer.
  
• When considering which program to go into, consider funding. Cosmology may interest you more than biology, but programs related to biology might actually have funding.
  
• CircinusSt's pessimism is real, but perhaps a little exaggerated. If you have perfect grades with internships, every door in the world will be open to you. For example, one of my classmates was awarded a 60k/year position in a research lab with only his B.S. (they offered to pay and assist with his PhD while he worked there). However, this student really did have perfect 4.0. He also spent time making connections with his professors, which led to the internships he needed.
  
• GPA cutoffs: 3.0 is a severe cutoff point for most all graduate programs, 3.3 is the advertised cutoff for most all competitive programs, 3.3 to 3.5 is ideal. A GPA above 3.5 is exceptional, you will be considered for any program.
  
• Perhaps trivial to say, but critically important: You need 3 letters of recommendation tailored to the type of job that you want to apply for.
  
• Be prepared to move. A lot.
  
• You need to read this book: A PhD Is Not Enough!: A Guide to Survival in Science.
  
  I'm sure I have more tips, just ask if you'd like.

Perhaps look into NGF/BDNF boosting substances like Lions Mane, Semax, or Noopept. These may help in the long term to strengthen and build new neural pathways. Besides that, to get the most out of practicing, I would look into how to efficiently practice. There's an awesome book called The Talent Code, which talks about how to get the most out of deliberate practice to learn a skill. Here's a video discussing some of the highlights. In the short term, I've found modafinil and caffeine to be useful for the speed needed in more technical guitar work. Oxiracetam and Aniracetam I find useful in mixing and producing in order to hear some of the more subtle details. I would imagine those could be useful if you're looking to train your ears.

The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle, deals with some elements of discipline in the context of developing high level skills

Yes, I see. Fair enough.

Try these:

/r/mentat (disclaimer: I'm a mod. And the only person who posts. :))

and

The Power of Habit

and

The Talent Code

Figuring out how to learn things and become skilled at them on my own.

A few books that really helped


https://www.amazon.com/Talent-Code-Greatness-Born-Grown/dp/055380684X/

https://www.amazon.com/Peak-Secrets-New-Science-Expertise/dp/0544947223/


https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Carol-S-Dweck/dp/0345472322/

Proper diet and cook all your own food. No joke. It is a huge amount of effort, but the more well you feel the better you will do at math.

If math is a muscle that requires a workout, wouldn't it follow that the muscle needs proper nutrition?

Also, I found this interesting. ABC news Nightline had a story about this on Sept. 30- "The Genius Code" Edit: added link

Pouncey,

Sorry to hear you are stressing.. I think we have all been there. Do you know what you are good at or do you have any strengths? You seem rather articulate and have some level of awareness. The world has a way to tell you what they think we suck at, so I find it important to hold onto the things I think are my strength and value them. You have to be good at something...

I think Enictobi's rules are a good start, you have to develop some boundaries of what you will allow to affect you and what you won't. Rules are one way people on the spectrum make sense and learn to manage the world around them.

When I first went down the path, I picked up on Dr. Phil's life strategies... I am not a big fan of Dr. Phil showmanship, but the rules were pretty good. http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/44 There are a lot of good books with other good suggestions on how to cope with stress, and such... you do need a strategy for dealing with it and commit to doing it.

It sounds like you need to find some places where you can go an relax, you might try the library... University libraries are sometimes better than public libraries since they often have rooms where you can go study (or sleep). You might also consider working out or something to relieve the stress.

You also sound like you are dealing with some financial issues, you might consider reading Elizabeth Warren's book on financial planning. http://www.amazon.com/All-Your-Worth-Ultimate-Lifetime/dp/0743269888 You can probably pick up most of the tips online, or read the book at the library.

I think unmanaged stress for people on the spectrum is the root cause of depression and other mental illnesses. I pray you find some respite in the tempest that is your life right now.

Good luck!

You may find All Your Worth authored by now Senator Elizabeth Warren a valuable read. If you can't grab a copy of the book, this blog post lays out a pretty good summary which explains 20% as a healthy savings rate and some suggestions for investing that. At your age, risk tolerance is high so you should be able to target a great deal of your savings to stocks and other securities. Good luck!

You can do it. This is based on a 50/30/20 plan. If you want to read a book about it, All Your Worth is a good one.

I made a budget for you based on $3000 income since you didn't make it clear if you can always hit 80 hrs per pay period. I can send you this in an Excel spreadsheet if you want. I didn't go nuts with changes since it has to be something you can REALLY make happen.

Currently you are spending:

• 80% on things you Must pay (rent, car loan, electric, food, etc.). ($2400)
  
• 10% on Debt repayment ($300)
  
• 7% on things you Want ($210)
  
  Your new plan:
  
  
• 74% Musts ($2220)
  
• 20% Debt repayment and savings ($600)
  
• 6% Wants ($180)
  
  The only changes I made to your current spending on Musts were lowering your grocery bill and adding renter's and car insurance (I assumed $10 and $100, respectively).
  
  ACTIONS
  
  

1. Get rid of TODAY:
   
   

• Sirius
  
• Xbox
  
• DirecTV
  
• Rhapsody
  
  

2. Drop your grocery budget to $400.
   
   
3. Get renter's insurance. It likely will be less than $120/yr, but I budgeted $10/mo.
   
   
4. Add whenever (to use with Roku—I assumed Xfinity is your internet bill.):
   
   

• Netflix $8
  
• HuluPlus $8
  
  

5. Consider for later:
   
   Sell your car (and insurance and gas AND its repairs and maintenance) and getting bus passes, if that’s an option in your area, then get a car again when you can afford it. Put the sale money toward your debt. This will get you closer to a VERY doable goal of:
   
   

• 62% Musts ($1860)
  
• 20% Debt repayment and savings ($600)
  
• 18% Wants ($540)
  
  Keep in mind that you can use money from the Wants category to pay debts.
  
  YOUR DEBT REPAYMENT AND SAVINGS PLAN
  
  I gave you $600 (20%) to pay your debts and save. You didn’t state the ABC Financial balance so I didn’t do anything with that.
  
  Month 1
  
  
• Credit: Capital One 50
  
• Credit: Chase 39
  
• Hospital bill 350
  
• ABC Financial 61
  
• School loan 100
  
• Savings 0
  
  Months 2-4 (You paid off the hospital bill last month!)
  
  
• Credit: Capital One 50
  
• Credit: Chase 289
  
• ABC Financial 61
  
• School loan 100
  
• Savings 100
  
  Months 6-10 (You paid off the Chase bill last month!)
  
  
• Credit: Capital One 339
  
• ABC Financial 61
  
• School loan 100
  
• Savings 100
  
  By month 11 you should have ZERO credit card debt AND $1000 saved! For months 11 and after:
  
  

1. Keep socking away $100/mo into your savings.
   
2. Use the remaining budgeted $500 to pay off ABC Financial and the school loan.
   
   You'll want to reassess your savings and debt repayment plan after year 2.
   
   

That gap has been closing more and more but I'm still struggling to keep in any extra income(read: juicy wads of booze and drug money) on the side with what little of a portfolio have. And then, much of my free time is also being drained by a new found need to get out of my goddamn apartment more than just going to work or down the street to the pub. Someone also recommended Elizabeth Warren's book which I was planning to check out along with my annual holiday re-reads of Irvine Welsh. I like to build up around an angsty disposition before I start my holiday shopping. Thanks for the link.

https://www.amazon.com/All-Your-Worth-Ultimate-Lifetime/dp/0743269888

I'm going to recommend a book to you that you will appreciate. I've mentioned it a couple of other times in /r/personalfinance, but only as an interesting diversion -- in your case, it's an absolute necessity: Mind Over Money by Klontz.

This is a book about the psychology of money, the mental scripts and disorders we pick up from our childhood experiences and parental role modeling. I can assure you that when you reach Chapter 6 you're going to be running around your crappy apartment shouting "who is this guy and how is he spying on my dad?" There's an extensive section near the end that focusses on what you need: processes and analytical tools to disentangle your mental money-related scripts and get a grip on that nasty bit of psychodynamic trauma you're carrying around.

After you've gotten your head straight, I can recommend Warren's All Your Worth as a good book of basic guidelines and advice for making safe but non-crippling financial choices as you go forward. (That's the same Elizabeth Warren who is now a U.S. Senator, but in her old job as a professor of credit finance.)

A couple useful resources:

Get Rich Slowly

All Your Worth: The Ultimate Lifetime Money Plan

Are your overspending problems at all linked to your mental issues? Are you each seeing a professional for your individual issues, and have you raised those concerns in sessions?

Between the home conflict and the money issues, you need to consider what is best for your child. In terms of money management advice, I strongly recommend the following book by Elizabeth Warren (regardless of your stance on her politics, she lays out a very insightful and easy to follow budget plan!): https://www.amazon.com/All-Your-Worth-Ultimate-Lifetime/dp/0743269888

I also suggest an automatic deduction to savings. This should be easy enough to set up through your bank, especially if you have direct deposit. Perhaps it would also be worthwhile considering setting up separate accounts? Just a thought.

I've always liked the advice courtesy of EW that you should only be spending 50% of income on Needs (food, shelter, utilities, anything with a contract), 30% on fun things, and 20% on savings. I've found it to be a sustainable long-term plan.

Unless you've missed stuff in the break-down it looks like you are on-track for only spending 50% on your needs (I'm including debt payments in this, plus gym memberships (contract); and you're not blowing the bank on fun stuff. I'd suggest putting a little of that extra money towards your wife's school loans and also making sure you have adequate emergency savings. I think Mint is a fun way to track all of this.

Essentialism by Greg McKeown is one of the best books I've read this year: http://www.amazon.com/Essentialism-The-Disciplined-Pursuit-Less/dp/0804137382

> saying no

If your boss would be receptive, try giving him/her a copy of this book: http://www.amazon.com/Essentialism-The-Disciplined-Pursuit-Less/dp/0804137382

I'd recommend reading it yourself. It's good stuff.

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less Hardcover by Greg McKeown
http://www.amazon.com/dp/0804137382/?tag=itemid-20

Highly recommended!

Two books that I heard about from Pat Flynns blog may help:
http://www.amazon.com/The-ONE-Thing-Surprisingly-Extraordinary/dp/1885167776
and
http://www.amazon.com/Essentialism-The-Disciplined-Pursuit-Less/dp/0804137382

If you really want to make the most of your free time, get good at doing nothing. Unscheduled time is hugely important for generating new ideas, reflecting on your life, observing what's around you, and enjoying what you have.

Then, get good at doing less. I recommend reading about essentialism so that you don't become a burned out, unfocused college graduate with 50 different and unrelated things on your resume.

You sound like a naturally talented, smart, engaged person, so life will probably be kind to you. It'll be up to you to find where your key areas of interest are and nurture the hell out of them.

Don’t laugh, but do yourself a favor and download the GOOP podcast with Dave Evans (sorry no link) about prototyping your life. It’s an interview about this exact issue—for all ages. Here’s a link to the book Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett & Dave Evans. The two have developed a system & class to help people as well as a book. But that podcast interview gives a great overview. As others have mentioned, you often don’t just “have passion”, passion comes after you’ve gotten really into something & become good at it. So right now, you’re looking to become brave and curious about stuff to try things out. Seriously though, podcast is like 45 minutes or so, will definitely help you out.

This is worth a look:

https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321

Just a couple of ideas:

1. Most federal jobs (like post carrier) pay the same amount everywhere. Both high cost of living and low cost of living areas. You could consider this type of job and move somewhere you would have a lower cost of living. (I dunno about state jobs)
   
   
2. Consider your values. Is the house more important than the working a "simple job" (or whatever you decide to do w/ extra $)
   
   
3. I think people often get into these kinds of "either/or" mindsets. I'm guilty of this as well. Think about how you could do BOTH. You could work part time as an IT guy. You could live in a low cost of living area. You could trade the car for a bike. Be creative. Only you (and those who know your full story) can help you brainstorm ideas. The book that helped me with this is: Design Your Life https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321 (if you're interested in reading it). I recommend it for these kinds of things.
   
   
4. Remember there's no right or wrong answers. Experiment carefully before making a drastic change. In "Design Your Life," they called this "prototyping."
   
   Hope that's helpful. Best of luck to you!

On this note, is freelance work at all a possibility for you? Or something different and more fulfilling?

Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life is my favorite career life crisis book. In my experience, periods of great crisis and life upheaval lead to beautiful things if you allow yourself to embrace the journey. It sucks, but there are great things out there for you. You just have to look a little harder for them right now. ❤️

I would also suggest looking at the book Designing Your Life (https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321). I’m in a similar situation to yours and they give you a lot of practical activities you can do to help narrow down on the things that you enjoy doing, and how to go about structuring your career on them. I’m not usually big on self help style books but it actually really helped and is quite popular. Apparently it is based on a popular college course...

Check out "Designing Your Life" by Bill Burnett & Dave Evans. On another note, guaranteed there are jobs that are high-paying and corporate that relate to your passion. You just have to change your perspective, make compromises, and be flexible. Example, don't be a struggling artist, be a well paid designer.

I've been reading Designing Your Life and highly recommend it. It talks about this problem.

https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250183863

Oh I typed all this for you my dude but these dastardly bullies caused you to delete it.

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Hope it benefits you or another ENTP stoner:

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What caught my eye was the Myers-Briggs test: I also (usually) test ENTP. Just wanted to say I think the Reddit subs seem to do it a serious disservice:

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A) It is a management tool. It is not meant to enable some rando's life as a lovable eccentric. You should be shoring up the weaknesses it shows, not jerking off to how creative you think you are (not that you can stop yourself amirite? Ha!), and

B) It is not a tarot card reading of your soul. I get profiled regularly, by professionals, using whatever method is in vogue at that moment and while I absolutely see the value in the tests, it is limited, it is contextual and it will vary over time.

​

It is not so much "revealing" your personality as a prediction of how your behavior will manifest in a given context. MB being particularly general. For example, all my ENTP result tells me is that RIGHT NOW, I likely have too many projects going on and/or am managing my time poorly.

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So based on your results, I would recommend you get out of your comfort zone and focus on active productivity exercises. Far from being something unsuited to you: they are likely just what you need. Anytime I dial this in tight, my life has a night and day improvement.

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7 Habits is the granddaddy of course.



Unchained Man has a great time management system. Actually he refers back to Covey's 7 habits and explains why and how he updated the principle for a digital era. The rest isn't "bad" but its pretty standard 4HWW/TRP/Digital nomad type stuff. You could literally read Chapters 8-11 and get a great deal of benefit.

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4HWW fuck I hate this book. And it's probably dangerous for lazy fucks. But Ferriss has nuggets of good advice on productivity and time management.

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More conceptual reading:

Do the Work;

The War of Art;

The Power of Habit;

Rework;

On Form - some tips, although heavily weighted to glorify salaryman life;

One Minute Manager;

Extreme Ownership has helped a lot of dudes here. Personally I despise wading through the military waffle for two or three pages of content but the message of owning every aspect of your life and not accepting low standards from yourself or others is good (Hint: that means after you quit weed, (after a reasonable interval) you can and should expect your lazy wife to too).

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Corporations have invested a great deal of time and money in training me but honestly most of the valuable things I implement are on that list.

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Atomic Habits is on my current reading list. Check out this post (and comments) with some concepts from it.

A book that does a great job of covering that concept and ownership in general is "Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win" by Jocko Willink. It's one of my top 3 favorite books and I highly recommend it, especially if you're a leader. He also has a podcast covering lessons in war and leadership. It's up there in quality with Joe Rogan and Tim Ferriss, easily.

Book link, if you're interested.

Edit: formatting

Read This Book.

blink is awesome if you want a popular book by Malcolm Gladwell.

If you want a more obscure and more technical book, buy Fooled by Randomness. The same author also wrote Black Swan but Fooled by Randomness is more technical and perhaps would be more to his liking.

http://www.amazon.com/Steal-This-Book-Abbie-Hoffman/dp/156858217X

start with this: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Steal-This-Book-Abbie-Hoffman/dp/156858217X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1333119431&sr=8-1

OP, I'm pretty sure it was a direct homage to this book: http://www.amazon.com/Steal-This-Book-Abbie-Hoffman/dp/156858217X

Hoffman was a revolutionary during the 60s and 70s. So yes, they were hoping that you would do just what you did. I did the same, and also was very glad, but that was like....1999 I think when I did it.

http://www.amazon.ca/Steal-This-Book-Abbie-Hoffman/dp/156858217X

http://www.amazon.com/Steal-This-Book-Abbie-Hoffman/dp/156858217X

http://www.amazon.com/Steal-This-Book-Abbie-Hoffman/dp/156858217X

My library listed this book as "on shelf". Needless to say it was not.

talking to people whose jobs sounded really enjoyable was a good start. matching up my skill set with different career tracks. (i took 0 marketing and communications classes in college, but it's something I'm decent at and have now worked in for 5ish years). Also, read this! https://www.amazon.com/What-Color-Your-Parachute-2016/dp/160774662X

https://www.amazon.com/What-Color-Your-Parachute-2016/dp/160774662X

This was a good resource when I was changing career fields.

Don't say "career change," say "pivot".

If you want to leave teaching 100% behind and get into an industry in which you have zero experience, you will certainly have to put in your time. But you do have a lot of working experience and that will count for more than you think.

On the other hand, you can think about what you actually like about your job, and find a new career that is strong on those aspects.

Here's a great resource for you, in case you have not heard of it before: What Color Is Your Parachute?

I’m sorry to hear you’re having such a difficult time landing a job. I’m no expert but a hiring consultant of many years with a masters in I/O Psychology recommended this book to me and it’s gold. It’s called “What Color is Your Parachute.” Buy it. Read it. Do everything it says.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/160774662X/ref=simh_9?pf_rd_p=28dd6f46-4b4d-440a-b8bb-3e8834cf0214&pf_rd_s=grid-unrec-4&pf_rd_t=Gateway&pf_rd_i=mobile&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=J60JT6G270Z97AMSN5JY&pf_rd_r=J60JT6G270Z97AMSN5JY&pf_rd_p=28dd6f46-4b4d-440a-b8bb-3e8834cf0214&pd_rd_i=160774662X

Good luck for your interview. I am sure you are well prepared but I read What Color is your parachute based on a college professor's recommendation and it gave me a great new perspective and not to mention the most important thing, confidence.

I think we should pitch in for OP

"The Art of the Deal"... He wrote a book long before he ran. I've been told it is pretty meh and not special for what it is and that the writing in mediocre, but he did write it.

you sound upset my friend

may i introduce you to a fine work by the president-elect of the united states of america; it is a great insight

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000SEGE6M/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

>taking away people's guns without due process

Huh? You think President Trump is anti-2a? Serious?? He made one statement during a consultation meeting because he was trying to get Congress off its ass... 99.9% of the other statements he has made have been in support of 2a, big time. You will find very few if any real Trump supporters that believe he is a threat to 2a.

>or threatening a murderous dictator who just got a nuclear weapon

Yes, the legitimate threat of military force was established through his words, his staff selection, his deployment of military assets. A very different approach to prior administrations that tried to buy and talk their way into peace (which clearly did not work). The results (so far, granted) speak for themselves.

As for source... He wrote a book. You're welcome to read the Art of the Deal... Here's a review

https://www.amazon.com/Trump-Art-Deal-Donald-J-ebook/dp/B000SEGE6M/ref=la_B001H6O8M2_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1525631627&sr=1-1

>If you want to know why Donald Trump does things it's probably addressed in this book. Without getting too political he's a negotiator and to get what you want when you negotiate you need to ask for a lot more than what you really want because you are going to lose a lot during negotiation. If you start off asking for what you want you'll get almost nothing. It also costs nothing to say something, it only costs to do things (in general.) Even if saying something is only successful one in fifty times, it's still a win for essentially nothing and that adds up.

A lot of personal finance is also country-specific. I could recommend a few Dutch books (I live in the Netherlands), but A. you probably couldn't read Dutch and B. our specific laws and investment opportunities etc are not applicable to you.

I would visit a public library and/or a few bookstores, and browse through the "finance" or "manage your household" section to know what kind of books there are in Danmark about this topic. Then read several.

I'm guessing you would want to cover topics such as budgeting/planning, saving and investing, debt (hopefully never necessary, but who knows), pension/retirement, income tax.

There are some books that are more or less universal, they are about how you handle money in general. I liked "Your Money or Your Life", because it makes you think about how to be careful with your money and how to spend it more on the things that really matter to you.

I also quite liked "The Bogleheads Guide to investing", but you should be aware of the fact that some opportunities that they suggest in that book aren't available to you (a 401k, a Roth IRA), and that American people get taxed on profits from their investments when they sell them, which leads to specific tactics that might be counterproductive if your country has a different tax system on your assets / profits from assets.

There are a lot of US books available about "Getting rich quickly" or "Becoming a millionaire". Some of them are good or inspiring, others were an attempt of the writer to "get rich quickly" and don't have any real merit for the readers.

That's also why I say to read several books: if there's one Danish author who is full of bullshit but somehow selling well, you don't want to have only his/her opinion on topics, you want to have several and then think for yourself who makes more sense to you...

Your Money or Your Life was a pretty good book that explained this well. The audiobook is narrated by the author and if given the chance, I'd hold her underwater until the bubbles stopped. She had the worst voice I've ever heard.

The Millionaire Fastlane was also a readyy good read. Highly recommended.

The Millionaire Next Door was a fantastic read and the book that got me started thinking about financial independence and the concept of FIRE. It's a bit dated (late 90s I think) but still some amazing information in there.

Check us out at /r/financialindependence and /r/leanfire. If you haven't, definitely visit /r/personalfinance and check out the sidebar and wiki - there's some AMAZING information and guides for all ages and walks of life.

I wish so hard that I found out about this stuff and had the resources available now when I was 18, and not when I turned 31. But oh well, such is life.

/u/typhuslol do feel free to PM me if you want to chat! I'm happy to share the lessons I've learned in the past few years of pursuing financial independence!

Definitely an interesting book, it puts spending habits into perspective. If you make $15 per hour after taxes, is that $5 latte worth 20 minutes of your time (life energy)?

https://www.amazon.com/Your-Money-Life-Transforming-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0052MD8VO/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1494865336&sr=8-1&keywords=your+money+or+your+life

Read the book Your Money or Your Life if you want to make this concept work for you!

You're going to feel like deleting your comment. https://www.amazon.com/Your-Money-Life-Transforming-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0052MD8VO

The book, "Your Money or Your Life", delves into this idea on a deeper level. Highly recommended for anyone looking to get control of their spending.

Lovely piece of advice. Also I'd never heard of this book but many people in this topic have (and over 1000 reviews, sheesh):

https://smile.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-Second-ebook/dp/B005K0AYH4

You might try giving Crucial Conversations a read. Good luck!

Maybe a bit lengthier of a response than you're looking for, but try reading Crucial Conversations. It's a great discussion on how to effectively handle these types of conversations.

http://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-Second-ebook/dp/B005K0AYH4/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Depends on how old you are.

• Middle school: I really enjoyed this, this, and this, but I don't think I can read those books now (29) without cringing a little bit. Especially, Getting Things Done because I already know how to make to do list, but I still flip through all 3 books occastionally.
  
  
• High school: I really enjoyed this, this, and this, but if you're a well adjusted human and responsible adult, then I don't think you'll find a lot of helpful advice from these 6 books so far because it'll be pretty basic information.
  
  
• College: I really enjoyed this, this, and started doing Malcolm Gladwell books. The checklist book helped me get more organized and So Good They Can't Ignore You was helpful starting my career path.
  
• Graduate School: I really enjoyed this, this, and this. I already stopped with most "self help" books and reading more about how to manage my money or books that looked interesting like Stiff.
  
  
• Currently: I'm working on this, this, and this. Now I'm reading mostly for fun, but all three of these books are way out of my league and I have no idea what their talking about, but they're areas of my interest. History and AI.

So Good They Can't Ignore You

I just bought this. Apparently his main thesis is: don't follow your passion for fulfillment, but get insanely good at something and then you'll (usually) get true satisfaction from being an expert. And, following your passion to determine what to become an expert in isn't the best route.

>Pick something that you wouldn’t mind investing years in mastering. If you already have some skills, then it might make sense (though is by no means necessary) to start there, as you already have a head start on mastery, but you should still expect years of deliberate improvement before deep passion can blossom for your work.

That's Cal Newport. READ HIS BOOK. It's gonna clear up a lot of misconceptions we young people have about picking a career.

There has been a push back on the "follow your passion" mindset when looking for meaningful work over the past couple years. It seems good in theory, but it's becoming more and more impractical as the job landscape shifts.

Personally, I much prefer the message coming out of "So Good They Can't Ignore You" by Cam Newport. It resonated more with me, and revolves around the idea that becoming skillful to become passionate about your work is more productive and obtainable then striving after work that you might consider your current passion.

https://www.amazon.com/Good-They-Cant-Ignore-You-ebook/dp/B0076DDBJ6

I'd put ~10/20 in the STEM qualification. In the first link, 10/20 are STEM, or 7/10 if you go by those who classify things as going well (as opposed to satisfied).

I'd highly recommend this book, So Good They Can't Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love or one of his talks, which is pretty much entirely about happiness with regards to work. The gist of it is that follow your passion is terrible advice, and that you should follow your skills (do what you're good at).

>but all of the examples that are listed in that link you provide are jobs with clearly established purposes

One of the studies cited, Jobs, Careers, and Callings: People’s Relations to Their Work talks a lot about how people classify their work. For commentary, this article goes over everything.

>Interestingly enough, you cannot necessarily predict someone’s orientation based on their job title or income. In fact, Wrzesniewski’s research has found that most professions are fairly evenly divided—with about a third of workers falling into each category.

As-in STEM jobs don't necessarily have a higher proportion of individuals who identify their jobs as careers or callings compared to non-STEM jobs.

Again, this is all with the caveat of using job satisfaction as opposed to overall happiness, and the inability to separate being good with STEM from being in a STEM field.

Relax bro, don't worry too much. Have you found a gf yet? If not, you should ;) Teenage love is a memory that you will treasure when you get older.

Regarding work, just make sure you're skilled and have something to offer to society. Things will tend to sort itself out when the time comes. I recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/Good-They-Cant-Ignore-You-ebook/dp/B0076DDBJ6. In regard of study, go for the hardest thing you can manage in uni. The idea is to constantly push yourself out of your comfort zone.

Also, Singapore is not the whole world. Keep your mind open and don't ignore the possibility of leaving Singapore one day. It is very common for people in larger countries to move around within cities in the same country and experience a different culture etc. In Singapore, this is not possible, so travel and broaden your mind as much as possible.

Finally, fuck the tuition and CCA. Don't do them if you don't want to. In place of tuition, form a study group with your friends. If you wanna do CCA, make sure it's something you enjoy, otherwise you're wasting your time.

So Good They Can't Ignore You: Why Skill Trumps Passion in the Quest for Work You Love by Cal Newport

You should focus on developing meaningful career assets. Understanding the theory or having exposure through data entry won't be enough. This book has helped me understand that building my own robot is the only sure-fire way to get hired onto one of those teams.

I started reading Cal Newport's So Good They Can't Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love. I would recommend as worth your time given your current life situation.

Fighting games are inherently competitive. I don't understand why someone would buy a fighting game for the single player. There are much more interesting single player games.

The execution in this game is silly easy. You should not be expecting results if you can only play for 30 minutes every few days. If you could play that little and not get destroyed it would denigrate the integrity of the game.

If you could spend 30 minutes playing every few days and add in 30 minutes to an hour each week of watching youtube videos or reading guides I think you would see improvement.

I would suggest reading Simplifying Streetfighter, by gooteks, if you can spare $5: https://www.amazon.com/Simplifying-Street-Fighter-Players-Preparing-ebook/dp/B015KLJCJI

It would give you a very effective crash course on fighting games. I would also take a look at Bafael's BnB guides: https://www.reddit.com/r/StreetFighter/comments/465d20/bafaels_bread_and_butter_combos_for_13_characters/

You can get better at this game by playing 30 minutes every few days, but it will take a long time. If you add in some extra curricular stuff your playtime will be much more productive (and will be more fun). Good luck.

Gootecks book is cool as a quick guide to get up and running in SF4 with Ryu. He also defines a number of important terms. It's free to read on amazon if you sign up for a 30 day trial: http://www.amazon.com/Simplifying-Street-Fighter-Players-Preparing-ebook/dp/B015KLJCJI

Sirlin's book is great for getting into the right mindset. DHood123 linked it.

It may have been gootecks's first book, which teaches you fundamentals through Ryu in SFIV.

You find it challenging because you don't possess the interpersonal skills to affect change in others.

You've tried before, people say no, you don't have a response and you get flustered and resentful.

https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B005K0AYH4/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

Buy it, learn how to talk to people, stop being a passive aggressive dick and do your kids a massive favour.

Uhmmm, are you sure?

You're here, you can write better then the average Redditor, and have the courage to share with us this piece of news.

Anyway, like someone else commented conscientiousness is just as important as IQ; moreover there are many different types of intelligence which combined for the IQ; find the one where you excel, combine it with your passion, add hard work and you can live a happy life doing something that you love. How smart is that?

Did you do the Self Authoring? Do it. As you do it think about the life of your dreams, which activities would you like to do, both as a career and as hobby, think as wildly and diverse as you can.

As you think about career makes sure you think about the work, and not about the benefits/results.

I wish you best of luck and don't hesitate to post again in this forum; your post and people's comment help other people who didn't have the guts to post but go through similar experiences.

Also, check out this book: https://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X

http://www.amazon.com/The-Wisdom-Psychopaths-Killers-Success/dp/0374291357

If you're interested in more on the subject, this is a fantastic book.

> Such power could be used against the interests of the system just as well

That's why I wrote that I believe that miners will choose mutual cooperation (and collectively punishing defectors) with only a 75 % probability. I'm not 100 % certain. I as a test subject am not a researcher. All I did was to share my anecdotal observations from memory. Someone who has studied game theory for many years should spend some time analyzing the miners' game and share their conclusions and opinions about probable current and future miner behavior regarding 0-conf tx's.

With that said, I'm not appealing to authority either. Nobel prize winning people (in economics[1]) such as Paul Krugman for example are fully capable to misunderstand how Bitcoin works. But a person who is not a Nobel prize winner (like I assume all of us Bitcoin enthusiasts) is also capable of misunderstanding how Bitcoin works. And as a very skilled programmer, so are you.

That's why universities spend a lot of time, money and effort funding such experiments even today. It's difficult to predict human behavior from theory alone.

My point was that many games tend to evolve a cooperative behavior where defectors are punished. And I think that Bitcoin mining is one such game and my guess is that I'm 75 % likely to be right about that. But again, I'm self-taught and by no means any kind of expert of game theory.[2] But neither are people who work on the Bitcoin Core project (such as yourself), and certainly not Peter Todd.

[1]:

Yes, I know that there is no actual Nobel prize of Economics, but you know what I mean.

[2]:

I've watched that Russel Crowe movie, read two books and participated as a test subject for 5 hours in total. And that's about it. Total amount of time spent and experience, probably just one month.
But enough to see when people who are claiming absolute "facts" are likely out of their element and probably wrong.

I really enjoyed Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin. It's narrated by the authors and they do a great job. All the advice is very practical and they give multiple real world examples for each point they are making.

For what it's worth, Jocko Willink also has a podcast on leadership which is excellent as well.

Try this, a book that takes an empirical look at our system, who's rich, and why, rather than anecdotes on individual people. Your sample size is disappointing, Taleb's is enlightening.

The fact that saving money and living frugally is necessary for becoming rich (it isn't, by the way, getting a nice fat government subsidy is by far the most profitable venture but it requires you to have money in the first place I guess) does not imply that it's sufficient and the cases where it hasn't been sufficient are too numerous to count.

you should all read a book called The Wisdom of Psychopaths

http://www.amazon.com/The-Wisdom-Psychopaths-Killers-Success/dp/0374291357

Rider:

• They're not readily accessible yet.
  
  Edit: downvotes don't make me wrong. You guys should check out an awesome book on economics, and realize that you're not about to beat the laws of economics with moral brigading.

Even choosing a field that's in demand and attending a good university isn't enough. There's a good book titled "A Ph.D. is not enough" that explains all of the other things that need to be done during school and afterwards to establish a career in post-grad scientific research. The book was recommended to me by a tenured professor of mine who I was consulting regarding possible Ph.D. career paths.

I’ll spoon feed you this time, as you seem clueless on how to make a deal. Here are a few sources that I found in about 30-seconds of searching.

1. http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/203168
   
   
2. http://www.forbes.com/sites/work-in-progress/2013/12/05/six-surprising-negotiation-tactics-that-get-you-the-best-deal/
   
   
3. http://www.moneycrashers.com/negotiation-techniques-to-score-a-great-deal/
   
   
4. http://www.wikihow.com/Negotiate
   
   
5. http://www.brodow.com/Articles/NegotiatingTips.html
   
   
6. http://www.comproj.com/summary.htm
   
   
7. http://www.cnn.com/2013/10/10/opinion/dickstein-how-to-negotiate/
   
   
8. http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/contract-negotiation-11-strategies-33340.html
   
   
9. https://hbr.org/2014/06/how-to-negotiate-with-someone-more-powerful-than-you
   
   
10. http://www.marketingdonut.co.uk/marketing/sales/sales-techniques-and-negotiations/five-tips-for-negotiating-better-deals
    
    
11. http://www.bizbuysell.com/buyer_resources/negotiating-your-way-to-a-great-deal/10/
    
    
12. https://hbr.org/2012/11/deal-making-20-a-guide-to-complex-negotiations
    
    
13. http://www.thegreatcourses.com/courses/negotiating-the-best-deal.html
    
    
14. http://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/articles/2014/07/11/12-negotiating-tips-every-homebuyer-should-know
    
    
15. http://www.amazon.com/Trump-Art-Deal-Donald-J-ebook/dp/B000SEGE6M/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Not exactly. There aren't a lot of Fortune 500 CEO's willing to under go MRIs or publicly release their psychological profile results, but have been several studies in several countries that indicate that corporate executives are more likely to be psychopaths than the general population.

That problem is mentioned in this abstract :
We know much less about corporate psychopathy and its implications, in large part because of the difficulty in obtaining the active cooperation of business organizations. This has left us with only a few small-sample studies, anecdotes, and speculation.

Source: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20422644


An arctile in the Journal of Public Affairs :
Since this prediction of dire consequences was made the
Global Financial Crisis has come about. Research by
Babiak and Hare in the USA, Board and Fritzon in
the UK and in Australia has shown that psychopaths
are indeed to be found at greater levels of incidence
at senior levels of organisations than they are at
junior levels (Boddy et al., 2010a). There is also
some evidence that they may tend to join some types
of organisations rather than others and that, for
example, large financial organisations may be
attractive to them because of the potential rewards
on offer in these organizations (Boddy, 2010a).

Whole article available @ http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/pa.352/abstract


The bibliography of this students paper has a bunch of decent looking references:
Yet, in spite of poor reviews, managers seemed to view the psychopathic population as having leadership potential. Most of those with high psychopathic traits were high-ranking executives. Indeed Boddy, Ladyshewsky, and Galvin (2010) found that significantly more senior level managers portray psychopathic traits compared to their lower level employees. Babiak et al. concluded that charismatic and manipulative traits have allowed the corporate psychopaths to “talk the walk” and that this charisma, manipulativeness, aggressive selfpromotion, and single minded determination (Babiak & Hare, 2006) may put these individuals at an advantage to climb the corporate ladder.

http://digitalcommons.wou.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1005&context=pure


CEO is listed as the most desired job of psychopaths in
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0374291357.

oh and, then in case they don't feel silly enough already...

Edit: They're books that disprove free-will, one in general the other in the market... meaning... there is no such thing as choice and so no such thing as fault... and if you still don't get it, that means a valid argument or stance on the kid morally is actually impossible... since he couldn't have done anything otherwise... lol